I live a life where there is no space for “SECOND CHANCE”, never got one, never wanted one & i am not big enough to give one. Live a life with ample amount of self-respect. Inconsistent people always keep returning with dirt in head & heart to walk over your sanity. Learn how to say a straightforward “NO”. The one who can break something beautiful can never fix it. Even if they do, nobody can trust them.
My attitude with life is something where i get over things/people pretty quick. It matters nothing unless it’s impacting my family or money. And yeah some childhood/university friends are included in my family. Good vibes are scored around people who thrive with you & the sexiest thing about them is their CONSISTENCY. Life is a simple fun thing, let it be.
The irony is that some men use money to attract women but hate gold diggers, and some women use their body to attract men but hate to be viewed as sex object.
(Not my words).
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I laugh when i hear cousins getting married with each other in certain religion/community. Actually i found this video about Royal inbreeding funny.)
Our power lies not in becoming someone else, but in unfolding – revealing to the world who we have been created to be.
You don’t need to be something else or something different, who you are is perfect. So, give yourself permission to unfold stripping down to the rawest and most authentic version of yourself, and seeing it as brilliant and valuable. As you do, you’ll begin to see yourself living freely and glowing with light allowing you to experience the greatness you were destined for.
When you feel like what you are experiencing is not enough- instead of allowing yourself to get frustrated, anxious, discourage, or disappointed, choose to channel in a spirit of thankfulness.
Find something to be thankful for and begin to express gratitude. Because, no matter what is going on in your world- there’s plenty to be grateful for. You have blood pumping through your veins. You have air flowing through your lungs. You have an actively working brain & body to achieve. You have a roof over your head and food on your table. You have creativity that cannot be taken away and an undeniable purpose.
NO MATTER WHAT IS GOING ON, BE THANKFUL. (Not my words).
Don’t break a bird’s wings and then tell it to fly. Don’t break a heart and then tell it to love. Don’t break a soul and then tell it to be happy. Don’t see the worst in a person and expect them to see the best in you. Don’t judge people and expect them to stand by your side. Don’t play with fire and expect to stay perfectly safe.
Life is about giving and taking. You cannot expect to give bad and receive good. You cannot expect to give good and receive bad. Does it happen? Yes, but don’t make that an excuse for you to keep doing what you know is wrong. Don’t blame life for what you do. That is so selfish and ignorant on your behalf. (Not my words)
Be proud of how you’ve been handling these past months, the silent battles you fought, the moments you had to humble yourself and pat yourself on the back. Celebrate your strength.
You are being presented with a choice: evolve or remain the same. If you choose to remain unchanged, you will be presented with the same challenges, the same routine, the same storms, the same situations, until you learn from them, until you love yourself enough to say “no more”, until you choose change.
If you choose to evolve, you will connect with the strength within you, you will explore what lies outside the comfort zone, you will awaken, you will become, you will be what you want. You have everything you need. Choose to evolve.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Shared it because i am a big fan of Key & Peele. And this girl’s name should be DEMI instead of EMILY).
No one knows what you need to do more than you do. Cry when you need to, It’s relieving. Laugh when you need to, It’s healing. Sit alone half an hour when you need to, It’s necessary. Surround yourself with random friends when you need to, It’s eye-opening. Especially listening to someone carefully is a dose of nectar to our eager mind & heart. Living by your needs is not easy, no one said it was. But a fact that you should always remember is this: “You are more worthy of being taken care of than anyone around you. And I don’t mean the superficial kind of care. I mean the care that your soul needs”.
Everyone around you is struggling somehow. Everyone around you is trying to reach a goal, a destination, or a dream. Just as you might not expose your worries to the world, no one else has to. Remember that you are a work in progress. You are not perfect & you are not expected to be PERFECT.
Do not allow the fear of falling to stop you from jumping. Do not allow the fear of responsibility to stop you from committing. Do not allow the fear of exposure to stop you from shining. (Not my words).
Don’t settle for nice, for pleasant, for familiar. Keep looking until you find something that really moves you, that resonates with your core. And I mean this for people, for interests, for hobbies, for your possessions, clothes, music, books, art and everything.
Curate every aspect of your life, as much as you can. It’s in the things that deeply inspire us that we find ourselves. Surround yourself with truth, and you’ll have built yourself a heaven. You can have your heaven on earth. (Not my words).
Some days will always be harder than others. Be patient with yourself; you have won many battles but the war will take time. You can be seventeen or seventy and still make mistakes. Try not to punish yourself too much over them. You will compare yourself to others, everyone does it, but try to remember someone compares themselves to you too.
Be kinder to the thoughts in your head; you are thinking them for a reason. There will always be that person who you gave your whole and it still wasn’t enough. But you will always be enough for yourself. And when all’s said and done, that’s the person who lives your life. That’s the person you have to impress.
Be a friend to yourself, not an enemy. (Not my words)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. See it for the fun. And YES that’s the reason i never buy anything from H&M or Zara).
No matter what is going on in your world, no matter what happens today- do everything with a joyful heart. During the highs and lows, choose a stance of celebration. Everyday, choose to find something to be thankful for, decide to find the gold, and resolve to look for the happy moments.
If you can’t find anything to be joyful about, remember this: you are alive with a beating heart and air flowing through your lungs. This means your work here is not finished, and you haven’t reached your story’s end. You have a purpose; you have a dream that needs you to bring it to life. That is something to be joyful about and celebrate. (Not my words) Fetch your purpose.
Religion is good, but organized religion is a scam.
GOD created humans to be independent, creative, unique and beautiful with own mind & heart, so that we can choose between what’s right & what’s wrong!! If your religion dictates how to pray, how to live, what to eat, when to eat, what to wear, what to think, then i am sorry to inform you that your God has already started cancelling you.
It’s so easy to walk by people and make judgments about who they are based on some small passing detail or flaw that you’ve observed. Maybe their attitude appears to be rude. Maybe they aren’t as outgoing as you are. Either way, without taking the time to actually get to know someone and hear what they’ve been through, you really have no right to judge anyone.
The things we observe superficially are just that; they are false impressions that don’t tell you anything about what others have actually experienced. Take the time to really get to know people, ask them what their story is, and be a good listener. That’s why there’s a saying; “NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY IT’S COVER”.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Big fan of SNL. Shared outta fun.)
If we want to see SUCCESS in our lives, we must intentionally work towards what we’re purposed to do. We cannot get distracted by anything outside of our purpose or compromise our creativity, vision, or convictions because we believe that we’ll obtain more success or get more recognition or praise through our change in direction.
It doesn’t work like that. Because, success is connected to purpose- not trends of popularity. One of the definitions of success is “the accomplishment of one’s goals”. We have to keep OUR GOALS in front of us, not someone else’s.
So, stay on track. believe in yourself and your purpose. trust that as you stay faithful to what you know you ought to be doing, you will experience astronomical success that will leave you with a sense of fulfillment and will impact the world around you. (Not my words) YOUR SUCCESS IS CONNECTED TO YOUR TO PURPOSE.
Most people believe in this “MEANT TO HAPPEN” bullshit, which is hilarious to my late 20 brain. I can’t connect with this mindset. GOD has given you this life, of course he has figured out your two-three times food in a day, air, water & clothes. God wants you to survive. But that’s not “MEANT TO HAPPEN”. Is that enough?
Ask yourself what kind of life you wanna live, then “MAKE IT HAPPEN”. I am a strong believer in this “MAKE IT HAPPEN” mindset. Go slow if you can, one step at a time. The longer it takes to build, the harder it is to break. Good thing comes to those who work towards it. At the end it’s all about your EFFORT & ATTITUDE.
Most people don’t want to be part of the process, they just want to be part of the outcome. But the process is where you figure out who’s worth being part of the outcome.
The small things in life don’t need to be worried and stressed about so much. The alarm can be fixed. The tire can be replaced. The coffee can be refilled. The parking ticket can be paid. The keys can be found. The to-dos can get to-done. You can get a good sleep. You can get some food, maybe a snickers or an ice cream to satisfy.
People don’t make you angry – you allow the anger to dwell within you. Circumstances don’t upset you – you allow yourself to get upset. You choose to worry, you choose to criticize, you choose to blame, and you choose to complain. No one else decides this for you. Your life is great. You just have to allow it to be.
Story goes back to my highschool days. I used to suck at history & geography. But my grades with maths, physics, chemistry & language papers were amazing. I was a 85-90% scoring student. I was a good chess player, i have played state level game 9 times to be exact. Most of my school friends were dead serious about football, that game never excited me. I was not crazy about sports in school, but i was fond of playing basketball or volleyball with my street pals. Because such weird interests, i made some friends outside my school. Most of them were my seniors, nobody cared because of my height & build. I think i look like a beefcake since forever. On top of that I hit puberty little earlier. In my class, i was the only 13 year old with some moustache & beard.
It was summer vacation after my grade-8. Few of my new streetsmart friends suggested to watch “THE MATRIX RELOADED”, of course it’s an amazing movie, but watching the same thing 4 times in 2 weeks smelled like a dumb idea. So we went to a DVD movie rental store to browse any other movie we can watch. Suddenly it started raining. One of my wise friends wanted to rent a X-rated movie. Let me clear, it wasn’t a porno. I agree some scenes were bit too much for our teenage eager brain. One of my friend’s neighbour girl knocked my door that evening and told me that she saw me renting/watching that movie. My “good student” image was really important to me & being an extrovert asshole i was, i cracked a deal within 20-30 minutes. Deal was; she will not say anything about that movie to anyone & we need condoms before locking doors. I lost my cherry that evening. She was 4 years elder to me & she started acting way too much romantic within a week, which was hella confusing. I had to cut everything bluntly because i wanted to focus on my studies, my friends, my chess, my piano lessons, my playstation, my basketball power forward position, my swimming classes & my 16 miles ride to a nearby river.
I am in my late 20s building strong morals & a big bank account, so that i can buy all happiness i desire for myself & my family. My approach to life in general is; “REMAIN TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT, YOU WILL SEE EVERY POSSIBLE SUCCESS COMING YOUR WAY”. That’s all i wanna see in my people. That day & today; whenever i say i like someone, my friends think i am talking about some latina’s fine ass. Never understood how to be romantic. Basically i never wanted someone so bad that i can imagine being in a relationship. I was into someone recently, let’s not name it a relationship. I came in touch with someone who walked the same journey as mine & she is living in my city since 2012, but i got to know her after 6-7 years. It’s amazing to see people who believe in same basic human values as yours. The sad part is; people & their predictable behaviour. Especially their inconsistency, that’s my biggest turn off moment. I have made some rules to lead a simple happy happening life & one rule says; Every liar is inconsistent & every inconsistent person is a liar. Whenever someone acts inconsistent, just cut that equation no matter it’s a friendship, relationship, fling or fuck-buddy. Once a person goes inconsistent, their next step is lying. That’s how every inconsistent person tries to justify their inconsistency.
Moral of the story is; Never offer half baked emotions/attention/affection, first you have to be sure about yourself whether you are ready!! I am a strong believer of KARMA. I believe if i can do something wrong with someone, some other person can do the same thing with me.
Now a days two words “TRAVELLER & ENTREPRENEUR” are heavily misused after another word called LOVE.
Stop snatching the beauty of these two words. Please do this world a favor; 1: Stop calling yourself an ENTREPRENEUR till your business makes a million dollars revenue. 2. Please stop using this word TRAVELLER in your blog or instagram bio till your passport has at least 10 stamps of different countries.
That’s it. Short to the point. Not much to say today. Get vaccinated. Stay home. Stay safe.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it to know little bit about our future & where we are heading with artificial intelligence. I know people who just can’t watch a 15 minutes video because it’s 15 minutes. I find them easy, lazy & legit dumb. Being a better human with time means, being educated, being qualified, being skilled, being humble, being happy & moreover being informed.)
1- Do something you’ve been procrastinating on. What’s on your to-do list that’s been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You’ll feel great about yourself.
2- Get active. Doing something is almost always better than not doing anything. Of course, doing something could lead to mistakes, but mistakes are a part of life. That’s how we learn. Without mistakes, we’d never get better. So don’t worry about those. Just do something. Get off your butt and get active physically, or active by taking steps to accomplish something.
3- Act positive. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action at right time. Action, actually is the key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. (Not my words)
(This not so old screenshot got nothing to do with the post above. It’s a small disclaimer to few of my part assholic university mates. Me & Demi, we got a ting going on since 17th century. We are bestfriends & yes we had a fight like we usually do. This dumb blonde bitch took almost an hour to reach me. Then we both had to walk a kilometre to reach car parking area. I have a backpain issue & i was little irritated because of that. Later we hugged it out after swimming, workout & some wine+pizza. Get a life & stop poking fun at what others do.)
Don’t compare your actual self to a hypothetical self. Don’t drown in a sea of ‘what if’s. Don’t clutter your mind by imagining other versions of you in parallel universes, where you made different decisions.
The internet age encourages choice and comparison, but don’t do this to yourself. ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’. You are you. The past is the past. The only way to make a better life is from inside the present. To focus on regret does nothing but turn that very present into another thing you will wish you did differently. Accept your own reality. Be human enough to make mistakes. Be human enough not to dread the future. Be human enough to be, well enough. Be honest while appreciating or asking forgiveness. Accepting where you are in life makes it so much easier to be happy for other people without feeling terrible about yourself. (Not my words)
That’s your answer to “HOW TO BE HAPPY!!”. Being happy is easy & simple. Life is fun, let it be.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I have said it before & saying it again. I am a big fan of SACHA BARON COHEN. If you haven’t seen Ali G indahouse, you will not get it.)
When you react to something someone says or does, you may have a problem with boundaries. If someone is able to cause havoc by doing or saying something, he/she is in control of you at that point and your boundaries are lost.
When you respond, you remain in control with options and choices. If you feel yourself reacting, step away and regain control of yourself so people can’t force you to do or say something you do not want to do or say; and something that violates your separateness.
When you have kept your boundaries, choose the best option. The difference between responding and reacting is choice. When you are reacting, they are in control. When you respond, you are in control.
Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. Someday that “I LOVE YOU” will fall short. They can love you in a way you have never been loved before and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons, you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is that love who’s out there somewhere worth of a stable relationship. (Borrowed paragraph from a previous post)
Relationships aren’t hard, It’s people who are inconsistent and lazy to put time and effort. We all want growth in every aspect of life while expecting to grow stronger together in a relationship. If your relationship isn’t helping you become a better version of yourself, then you are in a wrong relationship.
The most basic human tendency is to keep seeking a better tomorrow. Personal growth is the major priority, a journey to achieve joyful living. Life is fun, let it be.
You might think that you don’t matter in this world, but because of you someone has a favorite mug to drink their tea you bought them. Someone hears a song on the radio, and it reminds them of you. Someone has read a book you recommended to them and gotten lost in its pages. Someone remembered a joke you told them and smiled to themselves any random day.
Never think you don’t have an impact. Your fingerprints can’t be wiped away from the little marks of kindness that you’ve left behind. (Not my words)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I am a big fan of Sacha Baron Cohen. His level of wit & comic timing is unachievable for mere mortals. Big up for the MTV COMEDIC GENIUS AWARD.)
When i say “I AM SOLD TO MY DESIRES & MY DESIRES ARE MY PURPOSE”, few friends always misunderstand my words. But i can get you, DESIRE as a word is heavily miscalculated. Be calm, just sit down once for a while & have a heart to heart conversation with yourself about what kind of life you want. Then you can logically figure out what are your dreams, goals & desires. That’s a huge relaxation to our humanly problems.
Amazing things happen when you get honest with yourself and start doing what you love, what makes you happy. Your life literally slows down. You stop wishing for the weekend. You stop merely looking forward to special events. You begin to live in each moment and you start feeling like a human being. You just ride with what is life, a feeling of contentment and joy. You move fluidly, steadily, calm and grateful. A veil is lifted, and a whole new perspective is born. LIVE TO FETCH YOUR PURPOSE. LIFE IS FUN, LET IT BE.
Be with someone who inspires you to be your greatest self.
-Sylvester Me Nutt III.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Radicalism is the biggest threat still blooming under Britain’s nose & i have shared my view on this since my student days. My voice against it is not new.)
We all go through undesirable situations in life where we either take action to change or change the way we look at the situation, at the end what we don’t want is UNHAPPINESS. Very few people understand how to respect an EQUATION. I am talking about friends. Most people think we build walls to keep others out, it’s actually to protect what’s precious within.
I am an enthusiastic optimistic outrageous extrovert person who believes in doing own life is more important over anything or anyone. People think i am SELFISH, i think i am SELF-INVESTED. Only one person who matches my level of maturity, energy & nonsensical fun is my bestfriend DEMI. Way way back i broke up from our equation. I was going through a rough patch in my life & my bestie proposed me 7 times in a row within 2 months. Like everyone she too thought a relationship can bring more happiness to life, which is utter bullshit. Later it took us a long time to patch things because, i don’t believe in SECOND CHANCES. Clarifying once again, I AM NOT DATING DEMI. All i can say is, we are best friends since 395 years to be precise & i cherish this blonde bitch every single day.
Everyone has a friend during each stage of life. But only blessed ones have the same friend in all stages of life.(Not my words). Happy belated birthday dumb DEMI. Almost week+ delay in posting this, but you know i adore you & hate you equally. I swear someday you will be an amazing aunt/babysitter to my future kids.🤪
Whatever happening in Israel/Gaza/Palestine, it’s another British colonialism era blunder which was left to blast almost 100 years back. Let’s not go with the political side of it, i am highly unqualified to comment on that. In short, it’s a situation which could have been avoided & it should be avoided. When it’s a fight between a right wing/left wing/liberal or radical group against a sovereign state, the winner must be the sovereign state. That’s how we can move move stronger closer together towards a democratic human society. Whenever you are left to choose between ideas & ideology, choose ideas because there’s space to think & grow.
Israel is a sovereign democratic country & it must protect its territory and interest irrespective of who says what, international support or few foreign media dishing out. I know few people will question my opinion & few will straight point it towards Islamophobia. Sorry to say I DON’T EVEN UNDERSTAND TOO MUCH ABOUT MY OWN RELIGION, so i am not the right person to like or dislike any other’s religion or faith. Let’s say, I CAN’T CONNECT WITH THE IDEA OF DIFFERENT RELIGIONS HAVING DIFFERENT GODS. If there’s a GOD, there’s only one who’s looking forward to see some better HUMANS on this planet. If you believe your GOD is true, he doesn’t need you to protect him, he is way bigger stronger powerful compared to your love or any other person’s hate. Follow his words & work towards becoming a better Human with time instead of nurturing/supporting any radical ideology. Seeing people suffer hurts whether it’s Gaza or the Corona virus situation in India. Hope to see a better tomorrow & leave a better open friendly world for next generation.
The WORLD is increasingly designed to depress us. Happiness isn’t very good for the economy. If we were happy with what we had, why would we need more? How do you sell an anti-ageing moisturiser? You make someone worry about ageing. How do you get people to vote for a political party? You make them worry about immigration. How do you get them to buy insurance? By making them worry about everything related to life. How do you get them to have plastic surgery? By highlighting their physical flaws. How do you get them to watch a TV show? By making them worry about missing out. How do you get them to buy a new smartphone? By making them feel like they are being left behind in technology race & social media world or better faster apps/camera/software.
To be calm becomes a kind of revolutionary act. To be happy with your own non-upgraded existence. To be comfortable with our messy, human selves, would not be good for business. When you have little time, ask yourself what actually makes you HAPPY & once you find your answers, never settle for anything below that.
Typing this post to highlight modern day deliema among teens who flex their perfect 3-month long relationship before they catch their partner cheating on them with their bestfriend, which is hilarious & utter nonsense to my brain. Currently this world is filled with bit too much garbage to my eyes, let’s say bit too much social media delusional PDA. Single & slaying life, that’s my current status. And i am in no mood to change this for a while. But someday I definitely want to get married & pump 90-95 babies inside my future wife. Babies & puppies are angelic to my eyes. Hope to be a good father to few daughters as well as few boys. When my daughter wants to date someone, i will suggest to see at least two out of these three qualities in her future partner; 1. Millionaire. (We have designed a world where every happiness & comfort comes with a cost. I hate those who try to enter/entertain relationship without being financially stable). 2. Master’s in engineering or finance. (Educated people never go boring because they have more idea/opinion/view about the world we are living in). 3. Man enough to run 5km while rocking a 6-pack abs. (A fit person is well aware of personal hygiene, aesthetics & manners).
(All i want to share is; I suggest everyone to follow a journey towards fitness & financial stability. When you are SUCCESSFUL with life, you are more happy & in tune with yourself, which helps you to stay away from all kinds of negativity such as lying, cheating, inconsistency & any other deceptive behaviour.)
Found this video in YouTube recommendations today. Happy to share i too wanted to become a doctor after my high school, but somehow right now i am a senior data analyst. See this 5 minute long video to understand what a DATA ANALYST goes through & why you shouldn’t become one.
There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love, not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own.
Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop planning your future & finance, leave notes in library books, workout, learn something new everyday, dress up for yourself, fetch your goals, give back to others & society, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise. Life is fun, let it be.
I don’t know why nobody teaches this in business schools. When you have an entrepreneurial mindset, you must have to be good with your communication skills with almost every kinda people irrespective of their class, qualification, occupation or age. When you are on the right track towards your success & goals, never miss this tiny advice.
YOU HAVE TO BUILD GOOD RELATIONSHIPS WITH: 1. Accountants. 2. Lawyers & Tax Advisors. 3. Product development specialists. 4. Engineers & Architects. 5. Marketing Experts. 6. Graphic Designers & Web Developers. 7. Fitness/Mental Health Coaches.
Your contacts are worth more than real Money. The group of people you hangout with talks a lot about your personality.
Your competition is your procrastination, your ego, the unhealthy food you’re consuming, the knowledge you neglect, the negative behavior you’re nurturing & your lack of creativity. Compete against that.
1. The past can’t be changed. 2. Opinions don’t define your reality. 3. Everyone’s journey is different. 4. Judgements are not about you. 5. Overthinking will lead to sadness. 6. Happiness is found within. 7. Your thoughts affect your mood. 8. Smiles are contagious & Kindness is free. 9. It’s okay to let go and move on. 10. What goes around, comes around. 11. Things always get better with time.
Since my childhood i am that odd one out kinda person in my family. My family is a mixture of different values/culture/faith/religion. And i always feel bored when someone talks about religion or God. It’s my middle school days i remember, one of my friends named Mohsin said “he is a true muslim, because he is praying 5 times a day & he is fasting during EID”. The same way another christinan friend said “he follows everything from easter, saint patrick’s day, thanksgiving, christmas to sunday mass because he is a believer in ONE TRUE CHURCH catholic values/teachings”. All such things were just foolish to my middle school brain. My middle school & high school days were all about playing chess, basketball, some video games, playing piano, little bit of painting, if i had too much free time i was teaching trigonometry & physics to few of my dumb friends. I never understood religion & God.
Let’s come to the main part of the story. My religion is Hindu. And both of my parents are full time employees & they are also bit too much into social service. So during my childhood i got plenty of time to spend with my grandparents. Out of curiosity once i asked my grandpa; “All my friends say something about their God or religion. Is there a process to be a true or good hindu?” First he laughed at me for 2 minutes, then he replied; “You become a good human, that’s good hindu”. I again asked; “Which specific God to pray & what’s the prayer i have to chant?” He again laughed at me, then replied; “There are literally 33 million Gods in our religion, even i am confused. Right now finish your homework & studies, eat all vegetables without being a pain to your mama, don’t watch TV for long time, sleep before 9pm, wake up early in the morning, these are all your duties/work at this age, after few years your work will become your identity. And your work is your best worship to your God.” That’s all i was taught about religion. My grandpa died at the age of 97+. I still remember every single moment i spent around him.
Some friends question why i attend church service sometimes even though i am not a Christian!! The answer is; There was a church on my way to school. Father of that church used to give free teacakes to every kid after morning prayer. Sometimes i used to eat that teacake while going to school, and sometimes i used to give it to any homeless or disabled person near my street. These tiny memories are still alive in me. I work & i make little more money than i can consume even after my share of savings+investment, i try to give it back to the society from where i earned. That’s why sometimes it’s a visit to any orphanage, community shelter/home & sometimes also it’s a sunday service. It’s not like I don’t believe in God, it’s more like “I DON’T BELIEVE IN DIFFERENT RELIGIONS HAVE DIFFERENT GODS”. If there’s a GOD, there’s only one who lives inside your goodness.
The gist of the story is; Do something good everyday or just do your work/duty in time, rest assured your GOD loves you.
This post is my little respect to those who enjoy traveling.
Traveling messes you up, but in all the good ways. It leaves you craving more, an addiction that can never quite be met. Every place, every trip, every person is a new unexpected adventure; pulling you deeper into the love of wanderlust. Your heart begins to hurt when you’re standing still, and your mind begins to itch over the idea of new places you haven’t been. Fill your soul with adventure and traveling and you will live a fulfilled life.
Why once you’ve traveled for the first time all you want to do is leave again!! They call it the travel bug, but really it’s the urge to return to a place where you are surrounded by people who share common interests & speak the same language as you do. Not English or Spanish or German, but that language where others know what it’s like to leave, change, grow, experience, learn, then go back home again and feel more lost in your hometown then you did in the most foreign place you visited. Missing few of my stupid university mates while typing this post. Grateful for the days which always pop up as memories in my Google photos.
I am a big petrolhead, but i also prefer a silent calm environment with less noise & pollution. Cities are beautiful because of it’s people, so it’s always our responsibility to make it more sustainable. In case you are from Berlin, make sure you sign this petition. http://volksentscheid-berlin-autofrei.de
BAD NEWS IS: You cannot make people like, love, understand, validate, accept, respect, respond, appreciate you or be nice to you. You can’t control others.
GOOD NEWS IS: Who gives a shit, it doesn’t matter.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Shared it to show my genuine hate towards Instagram & every other app/service Facebook owns.)
Everyone warns you about red flags in a relationship but nobody talks about green flags, let’s do it.
So here’s some:
1. He/she listens when you have issues and supports you through them.
2. He/she stops doing things that makes you uncomfortable.
3. He/she compromises only when it’s necessary.
4. He/she never puts you down deliberately, especially not publically.
5. He/she supports your ambitions & aids your personal growth.
6. He/she uses a calm rational tone during arguments.
7. He/she is able to apologise when they’re in the wrong.
8. He/she will hold your words respectfully in heart before holding you strong in arms.
Why should a relationship mean settling down? Wait out for someone who won’t let life escape you, who’ll challenge you and drive you towards your dreams. Someone spontaneous you can get lost in the world with. A relationship with the right person is a release, not a restriction. -Beau Taplin/The Liberation.
Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Laugh when you can. Apologize when you should and let go of what you can. Take chances. Give everything and have no regrets. Life is too short to be unhappy. You have to take the good with the bad. Smile when you’re sad. Love what you got and always remember what you had. Always forgive but never forget. Learn from your mistakes but never regret. People change and things go wrong.
At the end always remember; life is fun & life goes on.
You are the books you read, the films you watch, the music you listen to, the people you meet, the kind of friends you have, the work you do, the dreams you have, the conversations you engage in, the way you respond & react.
You are what you take from these. You are the sound of the ocean, the breath of fresh air, the brightest light and the darkest corner.
You are a collective of every experience you have had in your life. You are every single day. So drown yourself in a sea of knowledge, experience and existence. Let the words run through your veins and let the colours fill your mind. Be a real you.
If you are clear about your goals and take several steps in the right direction everyday, eventually you will succeed. So decide what it is you want, write it down, review it constantly, and each day do something that moves you toward those goals.
1. Create a schedule/timeline/deadline for everything.
2. Break the task into manageable sections.
3. Do the most difficult task first, easy ones next.
4. Take Breaks, but always be consistent.
5. Give yourself an incentive to finish.
6. Realise you are not alone. We all have to do things we don’t enjoy sometimes.
7. Keep reminding yourself “You are the most expensive thing in this world”.
I may look little rude sometimes, but catch me around my friends “TAP is the biggest goofball”. I can say the same for summer. This is one of my favourite songs when my mood is light. Let’s hope & pray to see a happy healed healthy open world soon. Get vaccinated & stay safe.
You can’t let people scare you. You can’t go your whole life trying to please everyone else. You can’t go through life worried about what everyone else is going to think. Whether it’s your hair, clothes, what you have to say, how you feel, what you believe and what you have, you can’t let the judgment of others stop you from being you. Because if you do, you’re no longer you. You’re someone everyone else wants you to be. It’s just a waste of your precious time because you aren’t getting this life again.
DO WHAT YOUR HEART DESIRES & HEAD PERMITS. BE YOURSELF.
Be a walking contradiction. Be strong and soft. Be deep and lighthearted. Be beautiful and intelligent. Be confident and humble. Be someone with a quick wit and a cheap sense of humor. Be content climbing a mountain and enjoying the sweetness of doing nothing.
The world may try and classify you as one thing because that is far easier to understand than a person who has a little bit everything in them. And you may feel misunderstood for a while, but just remember your people can only find you if you’re brave enough to be yourself. There are parts of you that you have yet to discover. There is greater love that you have yet to find. There experiences that are are far beyond your imagination. And it’s all waiting for you. Life is waiting for you. So set aside your expectations and go explore it. Life is fun, let it be. (Not my words)
A shark in a fish tank will grow 8 inches, but in the ocean it will grow 8 ft or more. The shark will never out grow its environment, and the same is true about you. Many times we’re around small thinking people, so we don’t grow. Change your environment and watch your growth.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it to know something new about the world we live.)
Fall in love. Maybe it doesn’t have to be with someone. Fall in love with music, art, dancing in the dark, car rides at 1am, the glistening of the stars, the colors of the sun as it rises, the smell of flowers, the feeling of adrenaline that takes over your whole body and suffocates your lungs with joy, good friends who bring out your best, silence, noise, fall in love with the little things that make you feel most alive and find purpose.
When you plant seeds in the garden, you don’t dig them up every day to see if they have sprouted yet. You simply water them and clear away the weeds- you know that the seeds will grow in time.
Similarly, just do your daily practice and cultivate a kind heart. Abandon impatience and instead be content creating the causes for goodness; the results will come when they’re ready. (Not my words).
Most people think i hate liars because i write about predicative patterns of a person who’s lying. Actually i love liars. The best thing about a liar is; his/her estimation of hiding something to avoid lying about it. And the catch is; “when you lie about something, your voice says you are lying because there’s too much inconsistency. And when you hide about something, your behaviour speaks about it. Again the same reason because there’s too much inconsistency”.
A liar is predictable either ways. I love it because I just want to applaud that effort behind creating so much nonsensical garbage in head. People lose their value & that can never be restored. Once that mojo is lost, it’s just gonna give bitter taste afterwards. Karma has the cure for everyone, you will get served exactly what you offer.
No one gets to decide who you are except you. Period. No one gets to tell you how capable you are or who you can become. People will undoubtedly talk and give their opinions like they know something you don’t. And some people will not believe in you simply because they view the world from a lens of impossible.
But it’s you who gets to decide who to believe. You can believe the discouraging teacher or the pessimistic friend, or you can believe the little voice inside you that knows you are made for more, the voice inside you that believes in you & pushes you further.
I adore those who love to learn new things instead of being stuck in that zone of average betty mindset. The most beautiful thing about learning is that it stays with you & no one can take it away from you. Learning something & being educated is not just about few books or pre-programmed path of covering a syllabus/curriculum, it’s the ability to make your mind think critically. That’s the reason an educated person is respected. For better understanding, higher qualification or mastered skills are the real stature of any human being.
(There are bunch of dumbfucks/antivaxxers disowning the importance of vaccination. In USA, it’s basically Trump supporters & televagelists. In rest of the world, some French & German groups are spreading same propaganda. Stop refusing COVID vaccine. You getting vaccinated is important for me no matter where you live, because we all want to return back to a normal happy healthy open free safer world. In case you live in a village & your passport has no stamps whatsoever, then you can definitely say NO for the timebeing. Every unvaccinated person can be a birth ground for another mutated virus variant. So keep your social distance & mask handy till you receive your both shots of COVID-19 vaccine jab.)
I love my own company and i enjoy being alone, a lot, but I am very outgoing and social. My environment dictates how I behave. Very often I’m loud, sometimes I’m quiet. I read the energy and adjust. There are times when I want to turn up and then there are moments where I want to read a good book, watch a whole BuzzFeed unsolved season or some documentary on science/technology/engineering, sometimes i drive till everything in gauge cluster turns red, or i just spend time processing my thoughts, all alone. My personality confuses people & i like that.
My ultimate goal is to be at peace with myself, eliminate toxic feelings and elements and energies from my life, unlearn negative and harmful practices and thought patterns, stop checking for people that don’t check for me, create a space for myself that is nurturing for growth so that I may generate loving energy for myself and for others, nourish my spirit and balance my energies, I have big dreams and i deserve to live a life I love and let that love radiate. Life is fun, let it be.
(Paragraph borrowed from a previous post).
If you know me based on who I was a year ago, you don’t know me at all. My growth game is impeccably strong.
I have seen most people entering & exiting relationships with a bad taste in mouth about their previous partner, i experienced that bad taste just once in my life. A lesson which taught me: “CHEAP GETS CHEAPER WITH TIME”. When somebody offers you a lackluster behaviour, just recite the previous bold line i mentioned & never forget YOU ARE THE MOST EXPENSIVE THING IN THIS WORLD.
Life is all about being a better you with time, no matter you are alone or with someone in any kind of relationship/commitment. If someone isn’t helping you in this journey to be a better you, that’s not your person. Prioritise those who prioritise you.
Few friends still questioning “Whether i am dating Demi?” Answer is a huge NO. Yes I adore her character, elegance, intelligence & an open mindset to receive everything. That’s the only person with whom i can have a conversation about data analytics to Coco Chanel. Very few people can be that versatile. What sets both of us apart is “I really can’t remember what’s the last time i called her & she didn’t answer my call”. No doubt i have some University pals who are on a 24/7 alert mode to join my stupid weekend plans, but Demi does that no matter whether she is in my city or somewhere else. That’s one thing about her i will forever be grateful, we are best friends for a reason and that’s never changing.
We all have shit days every now and then. All of us. No matter how perfect we aspire to be, and no matter how many things we promised ourselves we would do, sometimes all the things we wanted to achieve just can’t happen in one day and that is perfectly okay. That’s called being realistic. So your day was shit, well pick yourself right back up. Chances are you achieved more than you think you did and you’re just being hard on yourself. Am I right? I think I am. Today was a bit of a fail. Oh well. Tomorrow is a new day. Get that chin up. Your mindset is your most under-valued asset. Keep that ass moving. The goal is to become a better version of ourself every single day coming. Tomorrow is always an upgrade of today.
Forgive yourself, for the bad decisions, for the times you lacked understanding, for the choices that hurt others and yourself. for being young and reckless.
These experiences are what matters most right now. These are vital lessons & your willingness to grow from them.
Life is choice, all day everyday. Who we talk to, where we sit, what we say, how we say it. And our lives become defined by our choices. It’s as simple and as complex as that. And as powerful.
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