1. Mess with your head. 2. Intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you. 3. Expect you to prioritize them but refuse to prioritize you. 4. Can’t and won’t apologise sincerely. 5. Act like the victim when confronted with their abusive behavior.
You are allowed to fail. You are allowed to start again from scratch. You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to try over and over again. You are allowed to struggle. No path is ever a perfectly straight line. Your path will twist and turn in directions you never expected. It will bring you unexpected highs and lows that make you stronger.
You don’t need to have it all figured out right now. Because you will get where you are meant to go in time.
TOUGH TIMES NEVER LAST, BUT TOUGH PEOPLE DO. (Not my words.)
You are responsible for your happiness. In fact, you create it. You attract it. You manifest it. You are the architect of your reality. You choose your thoughts, your perceptions, and your reaction to external forces.
You possess all of the tools needed to expand your awareness, to orchestrate the evolution of your consciousness, to choose happiness, to choose love. You are that powerful. Create the life you deserve. Vibrate love.
• Minding own business. • Regulating & controlling own emotions in a healthy way. • Having an open mind. • Upholding own boundaries. • Always seeking to evolve. • Practicing acceptance even when it’s hard. • Finding the courage to do something about the things you usually complain about. • Expressing self-compassion and compassion towards others. • Creating peace for yourself by protecting your energy.
Take chances, take a lot of them. Because honestly, no matter where you end up and with whom it always end up the way it should be. Your mistakes make you who you are. You learn and grow with each choice you make. Everything is worth it. Say how you feel, always. Be you, and be okay with it.
No matter what you do, no matter how many times you screw up and think to yourself “there’s no point to carry on”, no matter how many people tell you that you can’t do it, keep going. Keep going, that’s the only way to go. Don’t quit.
Don’t quit, because a month or a year from now you will be way more closer to your goals & desires than you are now. Yesterday you said tomorrow. Make today count. KEEP GOING.
Every single human being is capable of being toxic, has been, currently is, etc. But some people have the desire to be educated on it and do better while others will ignore any accountability and continue to act the same way.
To attract better, you have to become better. You can’t do the same things and expect change.
Transform your mindset. Upgrade your habits. Think positive.
Be hopeful and consistent with your evolution. It all starts with you and how you feel about yourself.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. There’s a reason I don’t believe in all vegetarian or vegan diet. It’s not just harmful for your own body, it also stunts the growth of next generation. Watch this video on “WHY VEGAN DIET IS JUST DUMB & IT NEVER WORKS!!”.)
Taking control of your thoughts is not always easy, it takes strength. But, just like anyone can become physically strong, anyone can become mentally strong through effort and practice. At first, taking control of your thoughts may feel difficult, but it’ll begin to feel natural with practice.
As your journey, you will find the practice of taking control of your thoughts and fixing your mind on goodness, abundance, and hope to be an integral part of experiencing the fulfillment of dreams.
Because, we live in our thoughts. And while we cannot always hand-pick our experiences and the circumstances we encounter, we can shape our circumstances to benefit us with our thoughts. so, get to it. Give your best. Work hard and let your purpose drive you to take control of your thoughts and move with joy. TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR THOUGHTS.
Stop comparing. Start living your unique journey. You need to ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your best life. You are not in competition with anyone else. Plan to outdo your past, not other people.
At some point you have to stop being so angry, you have to stop being so sad, you have to stop killing yourself, and start being gentle with yourself. At some point you have to just let it all go and be happy. You have to spread love instead of being afraid of it. You have to love yourself and everyone around you before its too late.
Don’t waste away being unhappy over trivial things. Don’t do it. Don’t do it to yourself and dont let other people do it to you. Life is too small to celebrate the goodness & too long to stay unhappy. BE A HAPPY HAPPENING VERSION OF YOURSELF.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.
You have to be willing to leave your comfort zone to grow not only as a human being but to push your own boundaries. I encourage anyone chasing dreams to be fearless; go into emotional areas that aren’t always comfortable or comprehensible.
Do something out of your comfort zone today. Sometimes the things that scare us help us grow.
What does your heart desire? Imagine it. Say it out loud.
Too often, we keep ourselves from experiencing the grandness that life has for us because we believe the narrative that certain experiences or success is unattainable for us. For others, we take on the belief system that it’s wrong to have desire or dream big daring dreams. But, in reality neither of those things are true.
Keep asking yourself “WHAT DO YOU WANT?”. Desire isn’t something selfish or prideful, rather, it’s something beautiful that we have been given by the almighty.
Understand this: You can sound confident and have anxiety. You can look healthy but feel like shit. You can look happy and be miserable inside. You can be good looking and feel ugly. So be kind. BE KIND because every person is fighting a battle you know nothing about.
I don’t believe in coincidences. I think that things happen the way that they are supposed to. When you really look at and evaluate every experience you’ve had, it’s a direct result of your actions and thoughts.
Don’t fight or wish away unexpected occurrences. In time, and in its own way, it will prove to better your life in some way. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.
You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. You’re always growing. Experiences don’t stop. That’s life. And the very experiences that seem so hard when you’re going through them are the ones you’ll look back on with gratitude for how far you’ve come.
Read insightful books that will help you discover who you truly are. Know your values and priorities, and get in touch with your current goals and dreams. What are you heading towards? What are you excited to create? When we know what’s important to us, we can align our choices to achieve what we most desire.
It’s empowering to take steps, even small steps, in the direction of our dreams. Every time we get into action with our goals and stay true to our course, we feel more confident, encouraged and enlivened. ACT ON YOUR PRIORITIES & DESIRES.
Write down what you need to get done today. Put an estimated duration time next to each task. Open your exercise book or create a document. Open up a timer, set yourself a deadline and start working. If you need a break, do a plank for the length of a song for 3 minutes. Once that 3 minutes is up, get back to work.
Before you go to bed, make sure everything that’s due tomorrow is done. Learn to get shit done. There’s nothing more sexier than putting work on yourself to develop DISCIPLINE.
I’m not perfect and I don’t have to be. When I first realized this I felt an intense relief. This realization allowed me to actually become a better person. It gave me the strength to embrace my flaws and learn from my mistakes. The pressure melted away. I wouldn’t have been able to start examining my mistakes if I felt like I had to be perfect.
Once I found out it was okay to be imperfect, everything changed for the better. Don’t criticize yourself for making mistakes. Just be conscious not to make the same mistake twice.
That “PERFECT TIME” will never come. Because time will never be just right, bending to your ideals.
There will always be some form of adversity that you will be challenged with, and, while the obstacle may feel like a sign that you shouldn’t start, know this: adversity comes with adventure, and, learning to overcome adversity is what sharpens you and prepares you for SUCCESS.
So, take the challenge and face it head on knowing that it’s yours to conquer. You are capable of great things. THE TIME IS NOW.
Don’t let anyone invalidate or minimize how you feel. If you feel something, you feel it and it’s real to you. Nothing anyone says has the power to invalidate that, ever. No one else lives in your body. No one else sees life through your eyes. No one else has lived through your experiences.
And so, no one else has the right to dictate or judge how you feel. Your feelings are important and you deserve to be heard. They are inherently valid and they matter. Don’t let anyone make you believe otherwise.
1. The past can’t be changed. 2. Opinions don’t define your reality. 3. Everyone’s journey is different. 4. Judgements are not about you. 5. Overthinking will lead to sadness. 6. Happiness is found within. 7. Your thoughts affect your mood. 8. Smiles are contagious. 9. Kindness is free. 10. It’s okay to let go and move on. 11. What goes around, comes around. 12. Things always get better with time.
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.
Yet, if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience.
No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. (Not my words.)
Many of us have gotten so used to playing to the expectations of society, of our families, of our friends, and of our minds, that we don’t even allow ourselves to consider who we really are or what we really need. We ignore the calls of our hearts, giving our lives, instead, to the demands of an outside world built on fitting in. We can stop this, right now.
We can choose to listen to ourselves, to heed our deepest callings, whatever they are. We can give ourselves the freedom to be whoever the hell we want to be in this world. Right now, if we choose to. And why wouldn’t we?
CHOOSE TO BE YOU & CHOOSE YOURSELF EVERY POSSIBLE MOMENT.
It’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you. Notice who sticks around and who doesn’t. And be grateful to those who leave you, because they have given you the room to grow in the space they abandoned. And appreciate the people who loved you when you didn’t feel lovable.
Bottom line is to be OK with giving the gift of your absence to those who do not appreciate and respect your presence. Meanwhile, never forget to love & behold those closer to your heart who showed up for you.
Instead of feeling like you’re behind, feel grateful for any setbacks you’ve had in your life and each lesson you have learned along the way. Be grateful for each relationship and what you were able to learn about yourself through falling in and out of love. Feel proud of how strong you have become from each time you were left to put the pieces of your broken heart back together. Be grateful that you learned that you will heal again no matter what you go through.
You should be proud that you learned how to recognize and move on from situations that are no longer good for you. You might feel like you are behind, but when you really think about it, everything you have been through has made you the person you are now. Your experience is your strength, and you shouldn’t wish to change that for anything.
In temple or church, it’s called donation. In school, it’s fee. In marriage, it’s called dowry. In divorce, alimony. In court, it’s fines. For kidnappers, it’s ransom.
When you owe someone MONEY, it’s debt. When you pay the government, it’s tax. When civil servant retirees, it’s pension. When employer pay to workers, it’s salary. When master pay to subordinates, it’s wages. When parents pay to children, it’s allowance. When you borrow from bank, it’s loan. When you offer after a good service, it’s tips. When illegally received in the name of service, it’s bribe. (Not my words.)
Focus on making progress, not perfection. Every good thing takes time. You can’t rush things. Growth is not linear, but a journey; one filled with challenges and opportunities to push to your destination. No one can do it for you, it’s your journey. And there will be days you’ll want to give up, but you can keep going. There are no shortcuts to get there, so you have to embrace the process.
Think progress, not perfection. Allow yourself to grow in the process. Make room for failure too. Just do your daily practice and cultivate a kind heart. Bet on hard work. Abandon impatience. The results will come down when they’re ready. Remember, consistent small steps are way better than just one big step with no further progress.
1. When you are alone, mind your thoughts. 2. When you are with friends, mind your tongue. 3. When you are angry, mind your temper. 4. When you are with a group, mind your behavior. 5. When you are in trouble, mind your emotions. 6. When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.
Forgive yourself for the bad decisions, for the times you lacked understanding, for the choices that hurt others and yourself. Forgive yourself for being young and reckless. These experiences are vital lessons. And what matters most right now is your willingness to grow from them.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
You have to be fearless about pursuing your dreams. You have to be willing to leave your comfort zone to grow not only as a human being but to push your own boundaries. I encourage anyone chasing dreams to be fearless; go into emotional areas that aren’t always comfortable or comprehensible.
Do something out of your comfort zone today. Sometimes the things that scare us help us grow.
Sometimes it’s better to just let things be. Let people go. Don’t fight for closure. Don’t ask for explanations. Don’t chase answers. Don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from. You got to keep fighting for you because no one got you like you got yourself.
When you wake up each morning, take a moment to think about the kind of life you want to have. Consciously choose to have a happy life. A life that is filled with love, laughter, good health and success. Then begin your day focused on the things you can do to make this your reality.
Be silly. Be fun. Be different. Be crazy. Be you, because life is too short to be anything but happy. Choose a happy life.
Some of the kindest souls I know have lived in a world that was not so kind to them. Some of the best human beings I know have been through so much at the hands of others. And they still love deeply. And they still care.
Sometimes, it’s the people who have been hurt the most who refuse to be hardened in this world, because they would never want to make another person feel the same way they have felt. If that isn’t something to be in awe of, I don’t know what is.
The older I get, the more comfortable I am with letting things go. Everything doesn’t warrant a reaction, response, or rebuttal. I am most peaceful when I preserve my energy for things that elevate ease in my life.
Our power lies not in becoming someone else, but in unfolding/revealing to the world who we have been created to be. You don’t need to be something else, something different or someone different. Who you are is perfect.
So, give yourself permission to unfold, stripping down to the rawest and most authentic version of yourself, and seeing it as brilliant and valuable.
As you do, you’ll begin to see yourself living freely and glowing with light, allowing you to experience the greatness you were destined for.
You can’t control how other people receive your energy. Anything you do or say gets filtered through the lens of whatever they are going through at the moment, which has nothing to do with you. Just keep doing your thing with as much love and integrity as possible.
Say no to bad dates, bad friends, and bad ideas. Stop going out when you’d rather stay in. Don’t do things that make you unhappy. But don’t be afraid to say yes to spontaneous nights out, new adventures, and facing your fears. Because it’s true what they say, life is short, and it’s passing you by right now while you read this.
So if there’s anything you want to change in your life don’t wait. This is your moment. If you’re waiting for a sign, this is it.
In order to bring the highest version of yourself to everything you do, you must be performing at your highest level. That means making sure you get enough sleep, eat well, exercise, meditate, and take care of your mind, body, and soul. Sometimes we think we have to show how hard we work by burning ourselves out, but I promise you it’s so much better to find the balance. Then you will feel happier, you will be more productive, and your work will be better.
Look at your life and find balance in all aspects and areas. Nothing will work unless you do. (Not my words.)
Some things we can let go of in the moment. We can shift our perspective or have curiosity rather than judgement. We can choose to be happy rather than needing to show we’re right. We can change how we’re breathing affecting how we’re feeling. We can walk it off. We can check in at the end of the day and let go. Notice where we missed an opportunity and choose not to carry it into tomorrow.
Some other things take time to process. Some things are buried deep where we stored them. Some things are not quite ready. Sometimes we’re comfortable in our pain because it’s what we know. And sometimes we think we’ve healed something only to revisit it later on a deeper level.
We always need to be gentle with ourselves and compassionate when it’s taken us longer than we wanted to let it go. Practice patience, trust the process.
Good health is something all the riches in the world can’t buy. Take good care of yourself and count your blessings. Be thankful you woke up today because not every day is guaranteed. I spent so long taking my god-given health for granted that I forgot how blessed I am to be alive today. Our body is our temple. Treat it like your sanctuary.
Do something good for your body today. Go for a run or a hike or a gym or take a yoga class. But most importantly, be grateful for the life you’re living today. The greatest wealth is health.
We can be our own worst enemy sometimes. We often think or expect the worst because it’s the easiest thing to believe when we don’t believe in ourselves. Instead of being your own worst enemy, be a little kinder to yourself. Give yourself the credit you deserve, and try to see the situation for how it is and not how you have created it in your mind. Give your mind a little rest.
Save that brain space for new ideas and new adventures, for the things you love and the people you love. Breathe in, breathe out. You’ve got this.
As for honoring emotions, I’ve always said “you need to allow yourself to feel what you feel”. Don’t push feelings away or tell yourself you’re not allowed to feel sad, happy etc. You are allowed to feel. Your emotions are valid. But you also need to learn how to deal with them. Try to figure out why you are feeling the way you are and then move forward from there.
When you’re happy, truly let yourself be happy. When you’re sad, let yourself be sad as well. But then know when it’s time to heal and move forward. And I know this can be hard and it’s something I’m still working on.
Value yourself. Express yourself. Honour your feelings. Work on becoming a legit version of who you are. Be a shameless authentic version of yourself.
Real life is so much more interesting than anything you will see on social media. So please, just put down your phone and pick up your head. Be present with the human beings you spend your time with, be present with yourself, be present with the world. Don’t forget to live because you think you’re living through your phone. Trust me when I say “real life is the feeling you get when you support your friends and see them doing the things that make their cells dance”.
Real life is 8am, wrapped within the limbs of someone who makes your stomach feel like it is buzzing with an electric kind of happiness. Real life is sitting with yourself, in all of your depth and your decay, and not distracting your mind from all that is seeking to be felt within you. Real life is gritty, it breaks you open, and it is meant to weather you in the most beautiful and meaningful ways, but you will miss all of that if you are looking down. Always choose to look up.
You are responsible for your happiness. In fact, you create it. You attract it. You manifest it. You are the architect of your reality. You choose your thoughts, your perceptions, and your reaction to external forces. You posses all of the tools needed to expand your awareness, to orchestrate the evolution of your consciousness, to choose happiness, to choose love.
You are that powerful. Create the life you deserve. Vibrate love.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Way back my bestfriend Demi suggested it. Shared it because it still sounds fun anyday. Listen to it.)
You know you sometimes think yourself into unhappiness and depression. But did you know, you could also think yourself into happiness? By positive thinking, you will be well, you will prosper, and your prayers will be answered. Become the master of your thoughts.
Stop thinking about how tough life is. Stop thinking about the future and the past. Think of your good deeds and love. And express these thoughts daily. You will become what you think.
All we have is now. I’ve learned that after so many mistakes, mishaps, failures & success. Please don’t regret for your past, that fixes nothing. I had so many regrets in my life because I wasn’t living in the moment. I wasn’t present in what I was doing.
Set aside all distractions, come out from behind your phone or computer, and enjoy the moment for exactly what is. Life is exactly like that. You have to get it all & appreciate it. Be here now.
If youve never tasted a bad apple, you will not appreciate a good apple. You have to experience life to understand life. You have to endure disappointment in life, all kind of disappointments, you have to fall flat on your face and feel the pain. Accept that a lot of your “friends” rather see you fall and fail. That’s why we say “Jealousy is bad incurable disease”. It’s hard to accept and it has a bitter taste, but thats life my friend.
At the end, don’t give up. Don’t give up because, success is inevitable. We have to fall before we find out who we really are and what we are capable of.
When obstacles arise, don’t be surprised. Don’t get stressed out or allow yourself to get lost in worry or anxiety. Instead, take a deep breath and invite wisdom into your situation with the confidence that you can and will find and create a solution.
Remember: For every problem, there is a solution. But, it’s going to require hope, creativity, and faith to find it.
The hope that there’s a way out, the creativity to find a way around the problem, the faith that you strong enough to conquer the problems that you face. You got this. You are strong enough to overcome every mountain you face. There’s magic in your bones. FOR EVERY PROBLEM, THERE IS A SOLUTION.
There is nothing wrong with slowness. All around you in nature, a billion different things move at a slow pace, just as they are supposed to. No flower is rushing to be somewhere else. No wave is pushing it’s way to the shore before its time. Even when the rain pours down quickly, it took time for that level of force to build up.
I hope you continue to crave change, healing, and transformation and I also hope you remember the soil beneath your feet. The sun shining above you. The wind blowing around you. This is change, too. This is meaningful, too.
Let this season be what this season needs to be. Let it shape you how it needs to shape you. Trust: you don’t have to spend every moment worried about your growth to know that you are still becoming who you were meant to be. There is no need to worry. You’re growing even when you’re not thinking about it. (Not my words.)
Please stop overthinking life like you have to have an answer to every feeling or situation. That’s not how life works. We figure it all out by just living. By messing up, by missing an opportunity, by seeking advice and not taking it. We learn what’s important and what isn’t.
Sometimes we have no damn clue what to do, and that’s okay. Always trust your gut and know that everything works out the way it’s meant to. It always does. Relax; we were never in control anyway.
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