When you react to something someone says or does, you may have a problem with boundaries. If someone is able to cause havoc by doing or saying something, he/she is in control of you at that point and your boundaries are lost.
When you respond, you remain in control with options and choices. If you feel yourself reacting, step away and regain control of yourself so people can’t force you to do or say something you do not want to do or say; and something that violates your separateness.
When you have kept your boundaries, choose the best option. The difference between responding and reacting is choice. When you are reacting, they are in control. When you respond, you are in control.
RESPOND, DON’T REACT.