People never understand “what you want to do” is always connected to “what you need to do”.
Suppose i want to be an engineer, i need to study engineering.
Suppose i want to a writer/musician/athlete, i need to learn & practice writing/music/sports.
Suppose i want to get fit, i need to workout.
What you want to do doesn’t make any sense till you aren’t following what you need to do first.
This is the major reason most people stay unhappy & blame others for their failures.
This one tiny mindset change can drastically evolve your life in a year.
NEEDS FIRST, WANTS NEXT.
(This movie trailer got nothing to do with the post above. My first real full-time job was software developer before i switched to data analytics field. I know where we are heading with time, our world isn’t going bad as this trailer shows. But the way technology is advancing, who knows what’s coming after hundred years!! Anyways, there are no boundaries for imagination.)
Two major discomforting traits of most people; EXCESSIVE PRIDE & INSECURITY. Let’s talk about both little bit. Purpose is to identify & get rid of these ASAP, i am talking this to both reader & writer.
Excessive pride. Pride isn’t necessarily a terrible thing. It can bring you confidence and self-assurance which are two great qualities that can help you lead a happy life. However pride can also cause destruction through overconfidence and resistance to learning. If your pride is extreme, it can ruin your personal and professional relationships. It’s not uncommon for people to let their pride prevent them from acknowledging their mistakes and to learn from them whether it’s a project at the office or an argument with a friend. It’s essential to keep your pride in check and get rid of any excess that is no longer serving you.
Insecurity. Insecurity has no benefits, it often arises from judgment or criticism of yourself and other people. It causes chronic unhappiness and becomes a burden on your life. As long as you are the most honest and authentic version of yourself, no one has the right to judge you for it and that goes for you too. There is nothing wrong with living your life the way you want to live. If self-doubt is something you picked up along the way and it’s something you can drop whenever you choose. Your friends and family love you for you. When you doubt their respect to faction or acceptance, you are doing a disservice not only to yourself but to your loved ones as well.