It’s time to get clear about who you are. It’s time to get clear about what you want. It’s time to get clear about what you need. It’s time to get clear about what you value. It’s time to get clear about what you desire. It’s time to get clear about what you cherish. It’s time to get clear about what you deserve.
What does your heart desire? Imagine it. Say it out loud.
Too often, we keep ourselves from experiencing the grandness that life has for us because we believe the narrative that certain experiences or success is unattainable for us. For others, we take on the belief system that it’s wrong to have desire or dream big daring dreams. But, in reality neither of those things are true.
Keep asking yourself “WHAT DO YOU WANT?”. Desire isn’t something selfish or prideful, rather, it’s something beautiful that we have been given by the almighty.
LIVE WITH PURPOSE- The first step to some major main character energy is to live with purpose. As the main character of your life, one of the worst possible things you can do is to let it pass you by. The goals, desires, and accomplishments you hope to see happen are up to you to work towards.
SET BOUNDARIES- While you’re learning to be main character in your life, you need to develop confidence and comfortability in setting boundaries with other people. You know what you want, and what’s important to you, and you need to be okay with removing things and relationships that don’t allow you to maintain those.
People pray for CAKE. Sometimes GOD gives cake. And sometimes GOD gives them butter, eggs, oil, icing, a pan & an oven. Then they get frustrated and leave the kitchen.
Let that sink. Sometimes you have everything right in front of you. But HOW BAD do you want it? Everything in life is about your goals & desires. If you are not marching towards it, then who else will do that!?! Time to fix yourself.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Sometimes it feels like the more people talk about it, the less it makes sense. At least UK is back to pre pandemic levels of growth.)
If you want to become significantly better at anything, you have to fall in love with the process of doing it. You have to fall in love with building the identity of someone who does the work, rather than merely dreaming about the results that you want.
In other words; Fall in love with boredom. Fall in love with repetition and practice. Fall in love with the process of what you and let the results take care of themselves.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. We live in a world of such woke dumbfucks. One word for this mindset; DISGUSTING. Ask a scientist whether we are ready for a world of fully renewable energy, the answer is NO. Yes science has made progress, but you can still go more miles with a tank of gas compared to a fully charged electric vehicle. We need more research & more time. Such dumbfucks are just slowing down the process while causing immense financial damage.)
Tomorrow is not promised. Not a single second or minute is promised. So, live for today. Keep the promises you make to yourself. Take action on the things you desire and want. Remind those that matter to you that they are loved and you are grateful for them. Never leave someone you care about on negative terms. Give more than you take. Make the calls you’ve been telling yourself you’ll do ‘tomorrow’. Let the small shit go. Never go to bed angry or upset. We will all die one day, so learn to live each day with the promise to yourself that it’ll be better than yesterday.
This is your life. You’re allowed to change your mind. To change your heart. You’re allowed to be a different person. To wake up one day and not want to do the things you’ve been doing all your life. You’re allowed to love who you want. To move on from the people who are not good to you. To let go of anyone without any kind of explanation. Without any kind of regret. You’re allowed to make mistakes. To learn from them. Or not to learn from them and experience everything all over again. You’re allowed to forget your past if you want to. Or to stay in it but you must also understand that this is not how you will grow. You’re allowed to change careers. To dress differently. To chase different dreams. To change locations, even if, at first, you’re terrified to do so. You’re allowed to dislike yourself but also allowed to change those same parts you don’t see eye to eye with. To work on them until you’re completely comfortable with who you are.
This is your life. Make it count. Make your own validation. Your own path. Your own way of life. You are enough. And you are not broken. You’re a lot stronger than you want to believe. Now breathe. (Not my words.)
My primary GOAL in life is to feel vibrant and alive, inside and out. Mentally, emotionally, spiritually & physically. I’ve been unhappy enough to know that I only want joy & peace to surround me and flow through me.
Have a goal. Wake up earlier. Smile. Start running early morning. Make a new recipe. Buy a weighted blanket. Travel. Cuddle your puppy or horse. Say “I love you & I care for you” to someone. Laugh to dad jokes. Discover the universe. Sing your favourite song. Have your own blog/business/investments. Sleep well. Go to the specific place you desire. Be in peace with yourself. Take a picture on the top of a mountain. No matter the kind of goal, have one GOAL. And fight for it, keep fighting till you get it done.
Wake up everyday with motivation, and fall asleep with a smile. Live your life to the fullest, every second. Do exactly what you want, and accomplish it. You are the master of your life. You decide. You create. So go. Never doubt of your capacities, and go.
1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self abuse and regret.
Your life will pass one way or another. The events that will unfold are the events that will unfold. You will meet amazing people who you are meant to. You will find the opportunities you need. You will desire what you want. The choice is not what you experience, but how. How is everything. How is golden. How closes doors and it opens them. How creates something out of nothing.
It is not the years we live, but HOW we live them. It is not who we cross paths with, but how we love them & appreciate them. It is not what we are given or not, but how we take what’s in front of us and turn it into all we ever needed it to be. It is how we experience life, day in and day out, in the quietest moments and biggest ways. The HOW is the way.
1. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present. 2. What others think of you is none of your business. 3. Time heals almost everything, give it time. 4. Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 5. Stop thinking too much, it’s alright not to know the answers. Answers will come to you when you least expect it. 6. No one is in charge of your happiness, except you. 7. Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world. 8. Understand the difference between WANT & NEED. Follow what you feel.
It’s so easy to get caught up in wanting success, wealth, and fame. If that’s the kind of recognition you seek in life, it won’t last because it’s not authentic. We are here to be of service, to be of value, and to help others in our own unique ways. Success doesn’t define who we are. But it’s a reminder of what we can achieve.
Think about what matters to you and make sure you are doing things for the right reasons and not to please your ego. Make sure your intentions are healthy for you.
Strive not to be a SUCCESS, but rather to be of VALUE. (Not my words).
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Do i believe 80% crash coming? Answer is: NO. Not for me. But the markets which are gonna crash soon or sooner are commodities, real estate & mortgage/banking. If your investments are in Automobile, pharma & retail sector, you can just chill because these industries have already seen enough downfall recently, now the only way is up.)
People never understand “what you want to do” is always connected to “what you need to do”.
Suppose i want to be an engineer, i need to study engineering. Suppose i want to a writer/musician/athlete, i need to learn & practice writing/music/sports. Suppose i want to get fit, i need to workout.
What you want to do doesn’t make any sense till you aren’t following what you need to do first. This is the major reason most people stay unhappy & blame others for their failures. This one tiny mindset change can drastically evolve your life in a year.
NEEDS FIRST, WANTS NEXT.
(This movie trailer got nothing to do with the post above. My first real full-time job was software developer before i switched to data analytics field. I know where we are heading with time, our world isn’t going bad as this trailer shows. But the way technology is advancing, who knows what’s coming after hundred years!! Anyways, there are no boundaries for imagination.)
I feel blessed that I’ve pretty much always known what I wanted to do with my life. But I know plenty of people who are still figuring out what that means to them. As long as you stay consistent and keep following your dreams even if they feel underdeveloped, you will find that place within yourself.
Are you doing what you’ve always wanted to do? If you’re not, there’s no time like the present. Sometimes a thought of “Toxic positivity” may make you think “Let’s stay stuck to my current reality”. But ask yourself whether that’s helping you evolve! Don’t go with what others tell you. Always accept suggestions, but take your own decisions. One step at a time. Start this moment. Follow what you feel. If things were easy to find, they wouldn’t be worth finding. (Not my words)
Your life is your own. I want you to read that sentence until it sinks all the way down inside your gut and meets every last impulse that tells you to put your intuition on pause, to place yourself second, to squeeze and bend and break into the molds of what everyone else wants you to be.
Your life is your own. I want it to pass through your head so many times it slowly clears out the debris of your fear. I want you to meditate on it until you realize that you are not too strange, you just have the courage to be your true self, you are not too different, you just have the courage to follow your own heart, you are not unworthy, you are just honest about the very natural human experience of feeling unworthiness.
Every person alive wishes to embody these very same forms of freedom. They are not judging you, they are expressing the parts of themselves they’ve judged into silence.
Your life is your own, and it always will be. You must find the courage to claim it, or it will pass by you untouched, a glimmering, lost potential of all that could have been. (Not my words).
Few ways you can express how you feel towards someone;
1. I love you. 2. I need you. 3. I want you. 4. I want to be with you. 5. I don’t want to be without you. 6. I can’t live without you. 7. I miss you.
NEED, needs can be met somewhere else & being needy means being weak as well. LOVE, this word is highly misused by people & especially someone like me needs a year to trust after a year of healing. WANT is my favourite & number-3 is my pick out of all these 7. WANT is that animalistic desire inside. Which means i know i have few suitors/options, but who cares because it’s you and just you that i WANT for myself. In case you love someone, remind them constantly & consistently that YOU WANT THEM.
Last time someone said “I WANT YOU” to me was on my birthday. I haven’t replied that till now. Never rushed towards anyone. Never allowed anyone to rush towards me either. The simple reason is; “If someone is investing their time & energy on me, that person deserves a whole TAP”. I am that kind of a person who hides nothing. My only secrets are my bank account/credit card pin or my email/social media account passwords. And right now, i am still in that phase of healing i mentioned above.
Whenever i say “LIONESS” in my posts, it’s my appreciation to that person who understands where i am coming from & why. Appreciated for picking/dropping me at airport. Appreciated for taking me out to my favourite brunch. Appreciated for buying me a pair of white vans kicks after watching squid games. Appreciated for helping me with carwash. Appreciated for typing my thesis. Very few people come with a clean heart & no stupid outlandish expectations. So LIONESS, Like your favourite alphabet is T, my favourite word is “APPRECIATION”. Rest all are a LEO-LEO thing i guess.😜 Every relationship of your life is a major investment of time & energy. Take your sweet time, that says all about who’s who.
Neglect is abusive. Ignoring a person and not caring about who they are, what they want, what they need, is like telling them, they are not important, over and over again. Some narcissistic toxic people use NEGLECT to make you feel insignificant and unworthy.
When I say I want to travel, I don’t mean I want to stay at resorts and go on tours with tour guides or buy key chains from souvenir shops. I don’t want to be a tourist. When I say I want to travel, I mean I want to explore another country and become part of it for 2-3 weeks. I want to discover small coffee/baguette shops in France, churrerias in Spain, Pasta/Pizza in Italy and much more beyond. I want to walk on beaches in Australia and browse the old book stores of London & Manchester. I want to hike the great wall of china and go cliff diving in Hawaii. I want to meet people who are not like me, but people who I can like all the same. I want to take pictures of things and places and people I meet, not stupid selfies for Instagram. I want my mind to be in constant awe of life on earth. I want to see things with new eyes & an open mind. I want to look at a map and be able to remember how I was transformed by the places I’ve been to, the things I’ve seen, and the people I’ve met. I want to come home and realize that I have not come home whole, but have left a piece of my heart in each place I have been. This, I think, is what is at the heart of adventure and this is why I plan on making my life one. Basically i will retire in my 30s while i am still a PhD research scholar/student & all these are my retirement plans.
Everyone is entering relationship, getting engaged or married or pregnant, then entering depression or their 5-month validity of joy. Meanwhile me & my bestfriend just wanna look fleek, stay single and travel, while building an automotive blog, selling atheleisure clothing & whey protein supplements online. Travel because you don’t remember years, you remember memories/moments.
What brings you happiness? Is it more money, a fancy car, it’s easy to think that things like a better job, a bigger home or someone special can make you happier!?!
A lot of people believe that if they fulfill their desires, they would be satisfied having goals and working toward them as great. Which is completely true. Being a human we must cater to our desires & goals for our happiness. We live in a world which runs on material growth. But when your happiness depends solely on achievement, you’ll end up doing more harm than good instead of just focusing on getting your wants. It’s much easier to find happiness by ridding yourself of the things that aren’t serving you. Start this year by getting rid of people & things you don’t want. Before that understand what you need & what you want. It’s tough, but a lighter head and heart is just a start.
If you waste your little time everyday worrying for things which didn’t go as you want, you might end up wasting years out of your 70-80 year life at the end for nothing in return. Focus to see the brighter side of why/how you reached here & appreciate your journey.
Worrying is not a solution to any problem. Tap OUT..😘
Defo I am single & Happy as hell. In no mood to be tied down in a relationship, my goals towards a secure tomorrow is my priority.
I take years to allow someone close to me. Earning Tap is a tough task. I would suggest you to stop trying, because I know you will give up & I don’t give a shit. Whoever approaches me with LOVE, they know the reason behind my denial.
I can share my status looking at this pic: Best friend is someone named “GRANNY”. I am definitely planning to hook up with her in 2070. Sorry DEMI.😂
Some relationships look good in Instagram, some work in bed, some work under just certain circumstances with tons of mindfuckery. You definitely know what I am talking about, all those glittery bullshit I mean. I want none. I am just happy to be me. And I want nothing except TRUTH. I will buy the same when I approach LOVE, vice versa.
This is to the one i wanna be with & name LOVE: Trust me I am a real nasty person when my mind loses shit, most of the time it’s work or past memories. I might end up snatching your pizza slice or last bite of cheesecake, more over that I don’t know what harm I can cause you. For me cheating means, Sunday cheat meals. That’s it.
Right now your money/qualifications/lifestyle/savings may not be good enough as you want, still it’s OK. Everything has it’s own time. But if you don’t have a plan towards getting what you don’t have or what you want, you aren’t exploring your WORTH.
Without DESIRES and DEMANDS from self for a better tomorrow, we are nothing. You are born HUMAN for a reason, BE YOU.