Constantly analyze yourself. Figure out why certain things upset you. Question your own motives. Understand your behavior. This creates a pathway for change. Acknowledging why you do the things you do is the first step in shifting out of toxic patterns.
Tomorrow is not promised. Not a single second or minute is promised. So, live for today. Keep the promises you make to yourself. Take action on the things you desire and want. Remind those that matter to you that they are loved and you are grateful for them. Never leave someone you care about on negative terms. Give more than you take. Make the calls you’ve been telling yourself you’ll do ‘tomorrow’. Let the small shit go. Never go to bed angry or upset. We will all die one day, so learn to live each day with the promise to yourself that it’ll be better than yesterday.
It’s not healthy to keep ANGER inside for too long. If you’re too upset to speak calmly, you can write a note and put it where the other person will see it.
Here are 3 sentences that may help. First: “My dear, I am suffering, I am angry, and I want you to know it.” The second is: “I am doing my best.” This means you are practicing mindful breathing and walking, and you are refraining from doing or saying anything out of anger. The third is: “Please help me.”
Memorize those 3 sentences on top. Or write them on a small piece of paper, the size of a credit card, and put it in your wallet. Then when you’re angry, you can take it out, and will know exactly what to do. (Not my words.)
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. The small things in life don’t need to be worried and stressed about so much. The alarm can be fixed. The tire can be replaced. The coffee can be refilled. The parking ticket can be paid. The keys can be found. The to-dos can get to-done. You can get sleep. You can get some food. Maybe a Snickers to satisfy.
Your life is great. You just have to allow it to be. People don’t make you angry, you allow the anger to dwell within you. Circumstances don’t upset you, you allow yourself to get upset. You choose to worry, you choose to criticize, you choose to blame, and you choose to complain. No one else decides this for you.
Anger and resentment are two of the most toxic emotions we can feel. There are always times when people infuriate us or hurt our feelings but we don’t confront it. Instead we just let these negative feelings grow wild within us. Before we know it, they have taken over us like vines crawling over every cell and organ in our body. We should never let someone else’s problems bring us down in the first place.
(This video has something to do with the post. Amidst war, we are going through something bigger. Watch it with an open mind. Big fan of Trevor Noah & Sadhguru.)
When someone does something that upsets you, don’t hold a grudge; confront them and then do your best to put it behind you.
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger. -BUDDHA.
I used to run and hide from my feelings especially when I felt something that was upsetting, painful, or uncomfortable. But over time I’ve learned to accept all of my feelings. I know that in order for me to work through them, I must first honor and embrace all emotions. They are a part of me. Therefore they are meaningful and valid.
Pick a feeling that you’re afraid or ashamed of. Feeling fear, anger, or sadness is okay as long as you don’t let it define you. Embrace your emotions and remind yourself how valuable they are. Don’t invalidate your feelings. Honor them.
“Great things comes to those who wait”. That’s true, but you have to work for it & earn it. My observation says; lazy minds always daydream about achieving great things effortlessly. You are defined by the choices you make. Your life is yours to live and nobody else can save you or live it for you. And unless you were born rich or marry rich, there’s probably not going to be a lot of handouts coming your way. Nobody knows exactly what you think or want except you and nobody will be as upset as you if you don’t achieve your goals. So don’t depend on someone else to build your dreams for you.
Be the creator of your own happiness and take responsibility for your past and present to create the future you want.
How many times you thought “I am not good enough or I don’t have enough to be happy”? Actually these two are the most common lie we tell ourselves & we need to stop.
I’m not good enough. No matter how positive or confident you are, this thought has undoubtedly crossed your mind at one point or another. This thought can invade any aspect of your life and it can lead you to believe that, you’re not good enough physically mentally or emotionally breaking down your self-worth. Believing that you’re not good enough or smart enough to do something often makes you not even want to try, because you don’t see the point in the inevitable failure. It will stop you from putting in the effort needed to reach your goals.
I don’t have enough yet to be happy. Every situation has a silver lining or a lesson that can be learned from it. Know some people are too busy worrying about the problem to ever see it. Being upset over something you don’t have or didn’t get, it’s only a waste of time and stops you from seeing what you do have. The happiest people aren’t necessarily the extremely fortunate of rich ones. It’s those who see the positivity and potential in what they already have and make the most of every opportunity that comes their way.
(This video of Donald Dump got nothing to do with the post above. Just wanted to share a tiny video of the most miserable human being on this planet who breathes lies.)