Stay true to yourself. Do your own thing and don’t worry about what people say. It might not make sense to them but that’s ok. Don’t expect everyone to understand you. They don’t have to. It’s between you and the Almighty. So keep going.
Self development is a continuous journey of trial and error. The process will test your strengths, reveal your weaknesses, and empower you to put yourself first (finally). Keep going, no matter what. Dive deep into answering the questions that you refuse to, no matter how much the answer hurts. You deserve respect and understanding in the process of self-discovery.
I hope this reminder serves you well to help you know that we are all in this together, on a journey of self-discovery and growth. Be honest, be open, and be less critical of yourself.
Forgive yourself for the bad decisions, for the times you lacked understanding, for the choices that hurt others and yourself. Forgive yourself for being young and reckless. These experiences are vital lessons. And what matters most right now is your willingness to grow from them.
The older I got, the more I realize the value of privacy, of cultivating your circle and only letting certain people in. You can be open, honest, and real while still understanding not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your life.
It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand.
Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods.
Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Every single time someone tells me about crypto investment/trading, i know either it’s a dumbfuck or a scammer. There’s no other 3rd category for such fools. Every crypto investor talks about future of finance, web3, blockchain technology. The fun part is; 99.9% of these dumb donkeys don’t even know how to write 2 codes in C/C++. Now that’s the perfect recipe for a disaster. 97% NFT market down, 78% crypto currencies market down & i perfectly saw this coming.)
Communication is vital to every relationship. There are people out there whose personalities just don’t mix with yours. Don’t waste your time trying to figure out why. Just go where you are wanted and understood, and everything else will fall into place.
If there’s someone in your life you are having trouble communicating with, try to work it out. Be sure the tone in your voice comes from a place of love and respect to connect with them. Only surround yourself with people who you can communicate with.
When I was fighting depression, I remember hearing this expression and not understanding it at first. When I decided to implement it in my life, a whole new world opened up for me. Change the negative, self-loathing thoughts to positive, self-affirming ones.
When you’re positive about yourself and everything around you; you begin to see the world in a different light. Your life today is what you make of it. Be mindful of the tone of your thoughts.
Make choices that make people wonder if you’ve lost your mind. Disappoint people if needed. Fly off the handle. Learn to be alone. Learn to be with others too. Smile when you’re sad, just to confuse those who are trying to bring you down. Live a good life. Be kind when you can and understanding when you can’t. Be irreplaceable, undefeatable, incorrigible. Do all of the small things with grace, laughter and an unshakeable belief in what’s to come. Don’t you worry. Be a fearless authentic version of yourself. Life is fun, let it be.
When people act shady, allow them. When people betray your trust, allow them. But never, ever sink to their level. Their choices are a direct reflection of who they are, not who you are. No matter how angry, hurt, or disappointed you may be, do not allow them to make you bitter. Be better. React with love. Sometimes that means retaliating with understanding and compassion; other times it means retaliating with acceptance and sheer silence. Whatever it is, make sure it benefits you as a human being instead of lowering you into a position which you would rather not be in.
Normal people dont go around destroying other human beings. Only those who are hurt, lost, and confused cause pain. Don’t be one of them. Just take the lessons and move on gracefully.
Just always be the better person. And make your intentions pure. What and who you are is what you’ll attract, what you’ll maintain. Pain is inevitable and it will always exist, but if you focus on understanding what you are feeling and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.
To me, cool means living for more than the next moment. Cool doesn’t mean having the latest Dior, knowing people, being on the list, and sitting at Lucien. Cool means you are your authentic self. Cool means you walk the walk. Cool means being a good fucking person. Cool means when you are alone, you can stand to be with yourself. Cool means listening when others speak. Cool means holding doors open and smiling. Cool is compassion, understanding, love, and boundaries. Cool is being good.
I hope you have the courage to do things differently, to be the kind of person who takes the risk, to be the kind of person who leads with their heart and shows up in their life with a ruthless dedication to learning, and growing and enjoying the hell out of their moments here. I hope you have the courage to never let comfort or apprehension convince you that you are better off staying still. I hope you have the courage to trust the part of yourself that knows there’s more out there for you, the part of yourself that is easy to quiet when you’re trying to live by the rules and the expectations of a world that has bred so much dissatisfaction and sadness. I hope you have the courage to trust the part of yourself that seeks freedom from those trends, from those boundaries, and I hope you have the courage to go after whatever it is that genuinely makes you want to get up in the morning. I hope you have the courage to find the things in life that ignite you and deepen your understanding of the world and those within it.
I hope you have the courage to fight for a future that inspires you, even if it doesn’t look the way you thought it would. I hope you have the courage to change. I hope you have the courage to trust in the person you’re becoming.
If you start living for the smallest reasons, that’s when you know you’re really living, the smell of rain after a thunderstorm, the shades of pavements when it’s autumn, the harvest season and the unspoken competition to pick the freshest tomatoes, the mediocre midnights and the color of the sunsets, the smell of bakeries early in the morning, the frosty breeze of the fast-approaching winter, the warmth of oven when baking christmas cookies, the thickness of paper when flipping through magazine pages, the smell of new books and new clothes and new things.
When you start looking at things, really really looking, you’ll start living. Because then you’ll understand how it is to really be a HUMAN in this world full of people.
LEARN TO BE A HUMAN. APPRECIATE & LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOURSELF.
Make choices that make people wonder if you’ve lost your mind. Don’t worry if you disappoint few people. Fly off the handle. Learn to be alone, but learn to be with others too. Smile when you’re sad, just to confuse those who are trying to bring you down. Be kind when you can. Be understanding when you can’t. Be irreplaceable, undefeatable, incorrigible.
Do all of the small things with grace, laughter and an unshakeable belief in what’s to come. Live a good life. You’re unique, electric, never-ceasing. You’ll be fine. LIFE IS FUN, LET IT BE.
Your AMBITION should be to get as much life out of living as you possibly can, as much enjoyment, as much interest, as as much experience, as much understanding. And not to simply be what is generally called a “SUCCESS”.
OPINION is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge is EMPATHY, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.
Be strong, be kind, be free. Do things that make you proud of yourself. Surround yourself with people who bring out your best qualities. And distance yourself from the people who do the opposite. Hangout with people who are ready to exchange knowledge with enough understanding about what they are saying & why. For example; Don’t just follow someone’s words because they said “Investing in stock market/real estate/crypto will make you money/rich”. 95% of these people don’t even know how to multiply 12*13 without a calculator. Do you really think such dumbfucks can advice anyone on finance? Forget finance, if someone is saying something without knowing enough about it, that person is a complete fake nut. Stay away from such morons. Fun story: Most people who invest in bitcoin think it’s more like a virtual currency, but hardly few know it was designed as a medium of transaction. It’s more like Western Union Money Transfer.
Be true, true to yourself and true to your morals. Stand up for yourself. Don’t let people take advantage of your kindness and soft heart. Don’t take shit from anyone, and don’t put yourself down. Believe in yourself and believe in your journey. Be good to yourself. Be unapologetically you. Embrace your imperfections. Accept the fact that when you grow, sometimes you lose people and that’s okay. Celebrate your every success and learn from failure. Learn to accept that, first you have to learn a lot about anything & everything before jumping in. And most importantly, never ever let anything stand in the way of the person you are becoming. BE A TRUE YOU. (Not my words).
Just always be the better person. And make your intentions pure. What and who you are is what will be remembered. Pain is inevitable and it will always exist, but if you focus on understanding what you are and what you are feeling, and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.
The expectations we have often do not correspond with reality, we are disappointed every time this happens. We become disappointed when we expect to be treated as we treat others. When you start to realize that everyone is living at a different stage, thinking differently and making their choices, then you can only accept the fact that people do not share the same mind and heart. When you want to be happy you have to let go of that and start with yourself, be the person you can be proud of, be an example, show respect and understanding. Others may not change, but know that it is not up to you and be proud of how you are. You’ve got so much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. Be a better you first. Life is fun, let it be.
Stop worrying about other people understanding you. Get in touch with yourself instead. Focus on what makes you happy, what makes your soul feel at peace. You are your biggest commitment. So start loving your flaws, your awkwardness, your weirdness, your intensity, your vulnerability, & your everything.
Life becomes so much more fulfilling when you are just simply yourself. The world keeps spinning whether people understand you or not. So why not make this next trip around the sun only about you!!
I hope you fall in love with being alive. I hope you read books and understand that life is so much more than expecting an apologetic text from that person you won’t remember in a couple of years. I hope you feel pursued. I hope you have the best of friends. And I even hope you get in trouble together. I hope you make fun memories and take too many pictures and scream at the top of your lungs on roller coasters. I hope you swim in the depths of the oceans. And I hope you feel the dirt underneath your fingernails when you climb mountains. I hope you know the joys of genuine laughter. I hope you know the difference between wisdom and test scores. I hope you understand that you can be anything you want to be. I hope you also understand you have to work hard to get it. I hope you stay consistent with your approach towards life. I hope you do more than sit around and complain about the things that could change. Because I hope you are the CHANGE.
I hope you journal and write every thought down. I hope you learn how to skate. I hope you eat your fruits and vegetables. I hope you treat your body well. I hope you respect your reputation. I hope you build your IDENTITY. But I also hope you have fun. In fact, I hope you have unapologetic shameless kinda fun without hurting others. Because I hope you fall in LOVE with being alive. (Not my words).
Don’t worry about what people think of you or about the way they try to make you feel. If people want to see you as a good person, they will. If they want to see you as a bad person, absolutely nothing you do will stop them. Ironically, the more you try to show them your good intentions, the more reason you give them to knock you down, because they know they’ve got a part of you that will care about what they do.
Keep your head up high and be confident in what you do. Be confident in your intentions and keep your eyes ahead instead of wasting your time on those who want to drag you back by not caring or by caring the wrong way. Because you can’t change people’s views, you have to believe that true change for yourself comes from within you, not from anyone else. At the end, it’s all about your understanding of own intentions & their importance in your life’s timeline. TIME is non-refundable, use it with right intention. You must believe, and you must have faith that time itself is much more able to prove your point than you are. (Not my words).
Being genuine doesn’t mean you have to be strict & rude about your opinions on life. You can be genuine yet a fun loving person.
1. Value and respect the fact that you are a totally unique individual, with your own destiny to fulfill.
2. Believe in who you are, what you think and believe, your gifts and talents, and what you have to offer to those around you.
3. Refuse to give into negative feelings of anxiety, self doubt or insecurity. In fact, “fake it till you make it” is the most stupid line which can damage your authenticity forever. So ignore how you feel just reacting to the moment, and act the way you should be and you want to be.
4. Choose to switch off the old tapes that keep on playing in your head, and try to visualize your goals and then push on and seek to reach them.
5. Don’t pay any attention to what others think about you. The most important judgment should be yours, and yours alone. If you live in constant fear of what others think about you, it will only hold you back from realizing your potential. Also, you’re not a clone of others as each of us is different. Don’t be afraid to be unique or to stand out against the crowd.
6. Accept that you have good points, and areas for growth. We’re all a mix of different qualities, and flaws, and traits. We all make mistakes, it’s what you do with them matters. So embrace the fact you’re human and won’t always get it right.
7. Also, develop a tough skin and don’t take insults personally. Look back and laugh, don’t cover or criticise yourself. It won’t help if you’re sensitive or worried all the time. It’s better to forgive yourself, and then move on again.
8. Develop your ability to think creatively. Try out those new ideas, and choose to live outside the box.
9. Seek to enjoy this moment, and to live life in the present. Be grateful for the small things, and savour all you have.
10. Understand happiness, anger, sad, arrogance & upset, all are temporary human emotions. You have to go through everything. The earlier you accept it the better.
Be the best person you can be. Be kind even when you’re tired. Be understanding even when you’re angry. Do more than you’re asked and please don’t ask for anything in return, that may look stupid & ruin the purpose. Don’t silently expect anything either. Listen when someone talks and really listen, stop just thinking of how you’ll reply. Tell people you love them and appreciate them. Go out of your way to do things for people you adore. Be the greatest person you can possibly be and remain the same even when you mess up, make up for it in the next moment or minute or day.
One thing you should never do is; Never spend your time trying to prove to anybody that you’re great. Your actions will speak for themselves and we only have limited time on earth, don’t waste it. If someone doesn’t see your light, don’t worry. Like moths, good people are attracted to flame and to light of goodness, and they come naturally.
When somebody talks about my EGO or arrogance without meeting me in person, I can come to only one conclusion that “this person has a poor sense of understanding people”. I am not some celebrity or politician who can be mean for no reason. The best quality about me is “I love being random”. If you are one of my close buddies, one thing you know about my mindset is “I love money but I hate the fame associated to it”. Goal of my life is to make money & stay random. Only thing you can judge about me over internet is my race or my opinions, beyond that rest is your presumptions which is nothing but pure bullshit.
Very few understand your behaviour begins with your ability to accept, accept new information, accepting people & accepting yourself for what you are. We live in a world where people counter others with baseless crap lacking enough juice to back their words. It’s nothing but result of a lazy unenthusiastic mindset. If you are reading this please don’t mind being appreciative to others no matter what goes right or wrong. Being nice costs nothing. And a smile or goodwill you earn in return is priceless. Life is fun, let it be.
Till the time there is a 1 in front of your age number, it’s all about learning, understanding your worth & what/whom you deserve. When it swaps to 2something, it’s about building a secure tomorrow. When it’s 3something, hopefully you are habituated to certain kind of a comfortable lifestyle & you are ready to decide whether/how long you need to work to be what you want to be.
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