Every day, make a tiny agreement with yourself and follow through with it. You’ll start to see yourself as a person who honours their word, even when no one’s watching. And that’s what creates true self-confidence.
• Consistently connect with people who fill you up. • Practice being vulnerable. • Stop fighting to be right. • Apologize less often for things that aren’t your fault. • Become less people pleasing. • Allow things to be good enough instead of perfect. • Practice what you know to true or helpful. • Educate yourself at least 20 minutes a day (read or watch a informative video). • Create more joyful moments. • Follow your intuition. • Inform others when something isn’t working for you. (Not my words.)
True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake. It is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from. And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do. It often means looking at your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing.
It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.
Keep the honest moments close to your heart. Especially the ones that are the most human. When you laugh until your ribs ache with your friends, when you feel stars exploding inside of you from falling in love, when life breaks you open and those tears of transformation pour like a river from your soul. Life is really quite simple. We get to experience this planet for a brief while. We get to learn how to love ourselves and one another for the strange, messy, and magical creatures we are. What a gift it is to have a human life.
If you look a little closer, there is always something to be grateful for. True GRATITUDE isn’t ignoring the darkness. It’s participating with your whole heart in whatever moment life brings. It’s leaning into the unfolding process and having the courage to not need all of the answers. (Not my words.)
Constantly analyze yourself. Figure out why certain things upset you. Question your own motives. Understand your behavior. This creates a pathway for change.
Acknowledging why you do the things you do is the first step in shifting out of toxic patterns.
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF FIRST. BE REAL & BE A HAPPENING AUTHENTIC VERSION OF YOURSELF.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. West blames Russia on invading a democratic European nation. Russia sites own reasons that may or may not seem reasonable to most people. I am not in support of both. This war displaced some 7 million people, we all must know the latest changes in map after the referendum.)
In life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you. They are the rare and amazing people who remind you why it’s worth it.
You need to let your anger out. Not by punching people or using bad language. Use your anger to get your dreams to come true. Don’t hold back because then one day you’re going to explode, burst. So run five miles. Write a song. Ride your bike as hard as you can. Dance as you won’t have legs the next day. Be free. Feel free. Be you.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Big fan of late night shows. John Oliver talks a lot of sense. Watch this video for fun & little bit knowledge about our world where AI is progressing faster than we thought.)
The ATTITUDE of “that’s just how I am, take it or leave it” is still a sign of immaturity. As an adult, it’s your responsibility to figure out which of your traits are toxic and are negatively impactful towards other people and the ones you love, and to eventually learn how to fix them. At some point, we all gotta start making ourselves better individuals.
If you truly believe you don’t have to change anything about yourself, even at the very least the worst in you, and that people will just have to deal with it, then sorry, you’re still a child & your attitude is a childish nonsense.