Every day, make a tiny agreement with yourself and follow through with it. You’ll start to see yourself as a person who honours their word, even when no one’s watching. And that’s what creates true self-confidence.
• Consistently connect with people who fill you up. • Practice being vulnerable. • Stop fighting to be right. • Apologize less often for things that aren’t your fault. • Become less people pleasing. • Allow things to be good enough instead of perfect. • Practice what you know to true or helpful. • Educate yourself at least 20 minutes a day (read or watch a informative video). • Create more joyful moments. • Follow your intuition. • Inform others when something isn’t working for you. (Not my words.)
True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake. It is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from. And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do. It often means looking at your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing.
It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.
Keep the honest moments close to your heart. Especially the ones that are the most human. When you laugh until your ribs ache with your friends, when you feel stars exploding inside of you from falling in love, when life breaks you open and those tears of transformation pour like a river from your soul. Life is really quite simple. We get to experience this planet for a brief while. We get to learn how to love ourselves and one another for the strange, messy, and magical creatures we are. What a gift it is to have a human life.
If you look a little closer, there is always something to be grateful for. True GRATITUDE isn’t ignoring the darkness. It’s participating with your whole heart in whatever moment life brings. It’s leaning into the unfolding process and having the courage to not need all of the answers. (Not my words.)
Constantly analyze yourself. Figure out why certain things upset you. Question your own motives. Understand your behavior. This creates a pathway for change.
Acknowledging why you do the things you do is the first step in shifting out of toxic patterns.
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF FIRST. BE REAL & BE A HAPPENING AUTHENTIC VERSION OF YOURSELF.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. West blames Russia on invading a democratic European nation. Russia sites own reasons that may or may not seem reasonable to most people. I am not in support of both. This war displaced some 7 million people, we all must know the latest changes in map after the referendum.)
In life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you. They are the rare and amazing people who remind you why it’s worth it.
You need to let your anger out. Not by punching people or using bad language. Use your anger to get your dreams to come true. Don’t hold back because then one day you’re going to explode, burst. So run five miles. Write a song. Ride your bike as hard as you can. Dance as you won’t have legs the next day. Be free. Feel free. Be you.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Big fan of late night shows. John Oliver talks a lot of sense. Watch this video for fun & little bit knowledge about our world where AI is progressing faster than we thought.)
The ATTITUDE of “that’s just how I am, take it or leave it” is still a sign of immaturity. As an adult, it’s your responsibility to figure out which of your traits are toxic and are negatively impactful towards other people and the ones you love, and to eventually learn how to fix them. At some point, we all gotta start making ourselves better individuals.
If you truly believe you don’t have to change anything about yourself, even at the very least the worst in you, and that people will just have to deal with it, then sorry, you’re still a child & your attitude is a childish nonsense.
Every day, make a tiny agreement with yourself and follow through with it. You’ll start to see yourself as a person who honours their word, even when no one’s watching. And that’s what creates true self-confidence.
THE FIRST FACE, YOU SHOW TO THE WORLD. THE SECOND FACE, YOU SHOW TO YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS & FAMILY. THE THIRD FACE, YOU NEVER SHOW TO ANYONE. IT’S THE TRUEST REFLECTION OF WHO YOU ARE.
STRUGGLE IS “TO BE THE SIMILAR VERSION OF YOURSELF WITH ALL 3 FACES”.
A shark in a fish tank will grow 8 inches, but in the ocean it will grow 8 ft or more. The shark will never out grow its environment, and the same is true about you. Many times we’re around small thinking people, so we don’t grow. Change your environment and watch your growth.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Shared it because i found it funny. I also own a bit of crypto because a client paid me in Bitcoin, way back during my freelancing days. But this current crypto & NFT hype is legit bullshit on roll.)
You never really know the true impact you have on those around you. You never know how much someone needed that smile you gave them. You never know how much your kindness turned someone’s entire life around. You never know how much someone needed that long hug or deep talk.
So don’t wait to be KIND. Don’t wait for someone else to be kind first. Don’t wait for better circumstances or for someone to change. JUST BE KIND, because you never know how much someone needs it. (Not my words.)
A shark in a fish tank will grow 8 inches, but in the ocean it will grow 8 ft or more. The shark will never out grow its environment, and the same is true about you. Many times we’re around small thinking people, so we don’t grow. Change your environment and watch your growth.
You deserve happiness. And I mean real happiness; true happiness. The kind of happiness that makes your heart fill with warmth.
And you deserve to feel what it feels like to be okay. To feel like the world isn’t against you. To feel like you aren’t constantly treading water just to keep from drowning. More than anything, you deserve to be okay.
And I know it’s hard to hear this, especially when you are so sad or not sorted emotionally. Especially when you are so far away from loving yourself. But I still want you to know. Because one day, you are going to feel okay again. One day you are going to feel happy again. It’s just a matter of time.
TOMORROW IS AN UPGRADE OF TODAY. NEVER STOP BELIEVING IN YOURSELF.
There are plenty of moments in our lives when we struggle with making decisions, whether they’re small or large. Our heart can be telling us one thing, our head another, and our friends something entirely different. It’s important to weigh all options, then do what your heart truly believes is right. Don’t just do what your friends are telling you to do, you must make your own decisions based on your intuition.
Next time you have to make a decision, weigh all the options, especially those of the heart, while measuring the logical side in head.
Only do what your heart tells you to. -PRINCESS DIANA.
Having patience in life can be so hard, whether it’s with people in your life or if you want something in life badly but you’ve been waiting for it so long. Sometimes people have to wait years or even longer before they get what they’ve been working toward.
Trust that things will come to you when they are meant to and know that when you have truly been patient the rewards will be better than you could have imagined.
Be patient with those around you, your dreams, and above all yourself.
The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it. -Arnold H. Glasgow.
GOD is not in a hurry, you are. That’s why you are tired. That’s why you are anxious, and stressed, and disappointed. You just need to remain true & consistent with the way you are in your walk of life. Trust that what’s meant to be yours, will be yours.
Consider becoming the type of energy that no matter where you go, or where you are, you always add value to the spaces and lives of those around you.
ALWAYS VIBE A TRUE YOU.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I deleted my Facebook account in 2011 & I have my own reasons to hate Facebook. See this tiny 3 minutes video, this guy makes whole lot sense.)
We assume success is about being famous, rich and owning expensive things. But if you’ve pulled yourself out of a dark place, that’s a great success in itself. Don’t forget that you’re winning each day you don’t give up and you make it through to the next.
Did you know that you’re achieving great things every day? It probably doesn’t seem like it if you’re always looking ahead to the next thing. Nevertheless, many of the things you’ve achieved today are things you dreamed about in the past. You just don’t notice them in the moment they happen. Or they pass you by too quickly.
Although we shouldn’t get so comfortable with our achievements that we become complacent and stop moving forwards, we should make time to celebrate them. Otherwise you’ll look back on your life and think you didn’t do anything significant. But if this were true, your life would always have remained the same. Celebrate your achievements, even though they are little.
Be strong, be kind, be free. Do things that make you proud of yourself. Surround yourself with people who bring out your best qualities. And distance yourself from the people who do the opposite. Hangout with people who are ready to exchange knowledge with enough understanding about what they are saying & why. For example; Don’t just follow someone’s words because they said “Investing in stock market/real estate/crypto will make you money/rich”. 95% of these people don’t even know how to multiply 12*13 without a calculator. Do you really think such dumbfucks can advice anyone on finance? Forget finance, if someone is saying something without knowing enough about it, that person is a complete fake nut. Stay away from such morons. Fun story: Most people who invest in bitcoin think it’s more like a virtual currency, but hardly few know it was designed as a medium of transaction. It’s more like Western Union Money Transfer.
Be true, true to yourself and true to your morals. Stand up for yourself. Don’t let people take advantage of your kindness and soft heart. Don’t take shit from anyone, and don’t put yourself down. Believe in yourself and believe in your journey. Be good to yourself. Be unapologetically you. Embrace your imperfections. Accept the fact that when you grow, sometimes you lose people and that’s okay. Celebrate your every success and learn from failure. Learn to accept that, first you have to learn a lot about anything & everything before jumping in. And most importantly, never ever let anything stand in the way of the person you are becoming. BE A TRUE YOU. (Not my words).
You are just another random person for this world. & there is definitely that one person who sees the world in you. Never underestimate/undermine those who adore you for your worth.
(Sending loads of vibe to people who invest their little time in looking after how/where I am. Hey Louis Vuitton, stay safe.)
I have lost it hundred times before getting it, but the excitement of having it kept on pushing me further. I am talking about the little things I achieved in my 20something life. Proud to say “I earn/buy my desires & I am missing nothing”.
Not the situation, it’s how you react or respond to it. Reactions are always instantaneous & negative. Response is always thoughtful time consuming & positive.
Life is somewhat like EMAIL. For important positive things/friends & admirers, there is an INBOX. For everything that’s negative or abusive, there is a SPAM folder. Now it’s completely upto you whether you want to open that spam folder or let it delete itself within 30days automatically.
Realization of difference between the person you became & the person you could have become is known as HELL. You don’t need to die to get KARMA. Everything will be served right here this lifetime.
If you waste your little time everyday worrying for things which didn’t go as you want, you might end up wasting years out of your 70-80 year life at the end for nothing in return. Focus to see the brighter side of why/how you reached here & appreciate your journey.
Worrying is not a solution to any problem. Tap OUT..😘
At a certain phase of life we get habituated to one person’s goodness for a long long time, that’s LOVE. Now whom you wanna get habituated to, that CHOICE makes a huge difference.
Serious MONEY can only be made with you doing what you love to do. If there is no joy behind your work, that work will not make you grow happier or richer.
Stop taking things personally. We all are collateral damage to somebody else’s bad decision. You can apply it to all scenarios of life related to love, job, money or family. Take a chill. Don’t be too sensitive. No-one is mean to you. You are incredibly amazing as a true you.
Whenever you are about to do anything deceptive towards someone, just think about it once “THE SAME CAN HAPPEN WITH YOU”. You don’t need regrets or course corrections towards own actions when your intentions are TRUE.
You don’t need to believe in Zodiac signs or Horoscope till your life gets involved with another person, name it a RELATIONSHIP/LOVE or even with BUSINESS/WORK SITUATIONS. You can be the strongest ever individual till someone becomes capable enough to explore/exploit you physically/emotionally & fucks your sanity. Zodiac sign pairs matter for a reason.
Just an example; Barack Obama is a Leo & Michelle Obama is Capricorn. That’s a POWER COUPLE, you know who’s the lion & who’s his queen in this relationship. Now towards current US president Donald Trump who’s a Gemini & Melania Trump who’s a Taurus, I will let you decide who’s the DICK & who’s PUSSY in this equation!!?😜
Never had a CRUSH in my life. I am a blunt asshole in that department. No-one falls at one go. Attractions needs to be addressed like how it is. If I like someone’s ass, melons, attitude or smile, I just say it & take a chill about that.
I asked for a tagline suggestion to my bestie bitch while discussing SEO related stuffs regarding a clothing brand. The answer i got is amazing yet unusable.
In short; not just bestfriends, Demi is the broccoli of my meal. Everyone knows one edible thing I hate is BROCCOLI, but I am eating 2 minutes microwaved broccoli in my each meal since ages.
😜YES I like to talk/flex little bit about my sneakers, hoodies and watches. What you don’t know is; most of the clothes & shoes I wear are a gift. Not the same for my watches. Way back my dad taught me the value of owning a timepiece & why you need to wear it with respect even though you can check the time in your phone. WE MEN CELEBRATE EVERY LITTLE SUCCESS BY GIFTING A WRISTWATCH TO SELF.
Valentine’s Day is around the corner. Whether you wanna woo your boo, asking someone new out on a date or you are in a mood to get laid; take these tiny tips from your bro. A few lines of man-to-man talk.
1. Remove all deodorants from your closet today. Get a cologne/perfume, a good one looking at your budget (The best one I can suggest as it’s my all season good to go: DAVIDOFF COOL WATER). Before you meet her, a mild spray near back of your neck & earlobes. Don’t ask why!! Your girl deserves a well groomed person who values styling & smelling nice.
2. 4 days left for your date night, I mean 14th February night. Right after you wake up every single day from now, grind a big piece of ginger, add some warm water to it & drink it without thinking taste. Ginger is a natural thermogenic antioxidant & it helps to correct the amount of blood flow to overall body parts including your downstairs department. Now you know why.
3. Clean your bush & make sure to apply some extra virgin olive oil to stay away from unnecessary body odours. Get some nice boxer shorts as well.
4. Understand the importance of keeping it classy yet low-key while dressing up for special occasions. Wear a sleek wristwatch, dial not bigger than 42mm. Just for one day, ditch your sports shoes or Balenciaga Triple-S kinda moonwalkers.
This is a screenshot from my Instagram stories. I usually do this social service every year to some stupid friends.
Last tip: Own who you are for real. When you are talking to your partner or future-partner, make sure you lie/hide nothing. Be blunt about what you want from yourself & from the other side as well. A truthful person is hard to resist & people take no time to get intimidated. Tap OUT..💪👍
People fear talking about mistakes. I have done crimes. Whatever comes to my head/heart always reaches my mouth instantaneously. Not afraid or not running away from my past anymore. It took time to heal & find my true-self. In LOVE with the way I vibe.🤗
(This one is real. The pain/dishonesty/lies will get balanced like your love/efforts/Truth. Universe knows how to maintain it’s equilibrium in every aspect.)
If you stop being legit, I will show you how to burn candle from both ends. My confidence in self-respect is my standard. You are allowed to bark against me, who gives a shit!!😂
Doesn’t matter who says what, I never went to a girl and said “Aww you look so beautiful & blah blah blah”. I am confident because I am just casual with everyone, no matter how you look or present yourself. Never chased anyone, I can’t do that. Definitely bad, but I am true.
Girls came my way with their salty approach. I am the one who sidelined all, & I will keep on doing that. You know the worst part; even after reading this, not a single person will stop approaching me for more. I have a good equation with everyone. No-one is less or more special. Even if I wanna woo you, I am not afraid of getting over you. The only thing that hurts me “when my BANK ACCOUNT STOPS GROWING”.
This is a world filled with negative ass mindset people. Everyone wants to take something away from someone with pure deceitful ways of cheating & lying.
You can surprise anyone with little act of generosity, your truthful behaviour I mean. Everyone wants it, but no-one expects it. Be a true you. People value such more over rest.
It took me plenty of courage & strong will-power to become a human from a disastrous monster on the run. I know, I am True to myself & everyone else. I dreamed a life without lies, all who fit there are onboard already.
I have the audacity to say & do whatever I feel right for me while being TRUE to everyone I am connecting. Never felt the need to lie or deceive someone, never did that.
If I need/want you in my life, I know I am not strong enough to hurt you. If you feel hurt because of me, most probably I have stopped caring whatever you are & I don’t give a shit what you think of me. My TRUTH always stays intact & unchanged in all circumstances. Don’t count it like my ego, it’s my way of prioritizing myself & those who wanna see me smile.
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