Self-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do.
“Choose your words carefully”. Just like your body language, the words you speak and think have a huge impact on your mindset. Establishing a vocabulary that utilizes positive words is an essential habit for healthy mind. Even positive self-talk can help you regulate your emotions and improve your overall psychological state. And it doesn’t end there, the words you use with other people affect how they respond to you creating a feedback loop whether that loop is positive or negative.
It’s up to you before you begin to craft your personal dictionary. You need to know what’s already in it. How do you label things or describe them in conversation? When you talk about your emotions, is the language full of intensity understanding or complexity? When you’re feeling uneasy about a presentation, you might say that you’re terrified but perhaps you’re just a little nervous. If you’re having issues with your partner you could say you’re extremely furious but in reality, you may just be a bit annoyed. When you tag your emotions with intensity, your brain recognizes that in response accordingly. If you are mindful and aware, you can tone down your vocabulary and use language with less emotional power. This way you will be able to stay more positive.