Most people suffer from a disease called “not setting goals”. With the news at your fingertips and the notifications of social media constantly pinging, it’s easy to get distracted. Many people see their big picture become cloudier further away over time. For some it’s because they’ve never really imagined it to begin with. For others long-term dreams become neglected for the day-to-day distractions. Either way, if you’re not setting goals and working toward them, you’ll start to feel like life is passing, passing you by.
If you want to increase your mental wellness, you need to establish your priorities in life. Then create goals that align with your values and work toward them every day. If you can stay focused on what really matters to you, you’ll notice that your mind will be happier and healthier. Set your goals.
Bottling up your feelings is never a good idea. While you should always respond rather than react in any given situation, you still need to take the time to process difficult emotions, like anger or sadness. Bottling up your emotions might feel easy now, but it damages your mental health and overall well-being in the long run.
If you notice that something continues to bother you, don’t let it slide, speak up. Holding grudges will always hurt you the most and as the tension and turmoil increases, so does the pressure. Eventually those bottled up emotions explode creating conflict that would have been easier to handle in small doses.
Sometimes my friends ask “How/why am i good for my business?” Answer: Not because i am super motivated or fully dedicated, but because i am excited, self aware, funny, i always keep on reminding myself that my desires are my purpose, which makes the business look good & grow, employees/workers work with a delightful smile. Reason behind all is my believe in material growth.
One thing you can never point out in me is “MY CONSISTENCY”. Let me answer “the HOW”. I learnt it from my WORKOUT. Following fitness as a lifestyle choice is the biggest DISCIPLINE. Do you know why a person who’s going to gym is going to gym every single day without missing it!? There is something called DOPAMINE which hits you right after every workout creating wonders in head, heart & mood. When your workout gives you results, you never want to lose the streak of getting better stronger sassier. During this corona situation the only thing i missed is going to gym. Yes i was doing some 2-300 push-ups & squats in my house, but that never helped my hunger to lift weights. As i mentioned “DOPAMINE”; when your efforts show results, it’s a bliss to do what you do. Condition: you have to be CONSISTENT towards your desires & goals whether it’s fitness, studies or business. Whoever said it, said it right “CONSISTENCY IS THE KEY”.
STEREOTYPES: I wanted to talk about this topic since forever. You really don’t have to fit into any stereotype. Media teaches us a lot about the culture we live in books, movies, TV shows. They form a societal lens for us to look through and we see what they create stereotypes. We’re conditioned to believe specific things about specific people based on how they look or what they believe and we often internalize these stereotypes. We think that we need to confirm by having specific interests, wearing certain clothes or being good at a particular job.
The result is that things like race, religion, gender or sexual orientation become a tool for society to trap people inside boxes with definitive labels. But the truth is that, most people aren’t clean-cut stereotypes. We’re diverse and complex individuals with varied interests skills and strengths. So we need to embrace our authentic selves instead of trying to squeeze into a box that doesn’t fit.
Most people think their love for their religion or nationalism is unique. About religion I will talk some other day. But let me share today why i find current trend of nationalism stupid yet funny!!
You are born at a specific part of the world. Of course you have to stay loyal to your motherland. But how? You are loyal to your nation by paying your taxes in time, behaving well to your fellow citizens, be nice & welcoming to everyone no matter whether they are born in your country or coming from some other part of the world in search of a better tomorrow. That’s how real nationalism should be. Most modern countries were created after few people migrated & named it their home. We survive today not because of nationalism, but because of “we as humans were in search of right opportunities and right society/surrounding to build that opportunity”.
Let’s talk about current trends of nationalism, i should say TOXIC NATIONALISM. When i see “AMERICA FIRST”, “CHINA FIRST”, “INDIA FIRST” & later that’s followed by “GOD BLESS AMERICA” or any other country’s name in that bold italic place, I laugh at it without a second thought. Because everyone talks something against the other one to prioritise their own nation. Which later spreads hate & violance for nothing. This doesn’t reflect your love for your country. Just imagine JESUS is back to this world again. What he should do with this same ideology? He must embrace his middle eastern livelihood, then go back to his motherland Bethlehem & bless Palestine first to become the richest most powerful country in this world. Thank God, your beloved God is not alive to see such nonsense. Humans are mediocre in so many ways, this is the best worst one. In case you get the joke, i appreciate your time.
Toxic people are not new to life. World is filled with narcissists & liars that we can’t sideline. But that situation becomes often if you don’t set limits & establish boundaries. I would rather say, you must do both for every equation in your life. Let me explain why/how;
Set limits: Complainers and negative people are bad news. They wallow in their problems and they want others to join in so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as insensitive or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral. You can avoid this by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Just think of it this way; if the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all day inhaling the second-hand smoke? Probably not, you will distance yourself and you should do the same with every person who’s toxic.
Establish boundaries: This is the area where most people tend to sell themselves short, they feel that because they work or live with someone they have no way to control the chaos. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Once you’ve found your way to rise above a person, you’ll begin to find their behavior more predictable and easier to understand. This will equip you to think rationally about when and where you have to put up with them and when you don’t. If you let things happen naturally, you are bound to find yourself constantly broiled in difficult conversations. But if you set boundaries and decide when and where you’ll engage a person, you can control much of the chaos.
The usual rate of success in any field of life is somewhere around 3% to 5%. What about rest 95-97% who are left out in the race? The answer lies in “LACK OF SKILL-SET CAUSING LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE”.
Developing the right set of skills is a major pillar of success. Confident people never neglect their skills & people with right skill-set are confident about what they do. So much of low self-confidence comes from not having the skills or training needed for great success. Those with confidence see clearly what they need to do to improve their chances of success. They are willing to commit the time and energy in improving their skills, advancing their training or getting more education in order to be more confident in their abilities. First master your SKILLS before marching on your journey to SUCCESS.
There is nothing like “SETTLE DOWN” for something. And never settle for mediocre. Self-assured people have a vision of what they want and they go for it. Let’s say CONFIDENT PEOPLE for better understanding. They don’t hold back & allow their fears to keep them from trying. They push themselves to go above and beyond. They set the bar high for themselves and demand excellence. They know they are as deserving of the best in both work and life.
Confidence is SEXY & you are the most expensive person in your life. People often forget to look at mirror & say “YOU DESERVE THE BEST”.
This video on Donald Dump got nothing to do with today’s post. Sad to see couple of dumbfucks still believing in voter fraud garbage what this orange piece of shit pukes. While claiming to be world’s oldest strongest democracy, America has shown last week that there is a new breed of homegrown terrorists blooming. I don’t believe in religion, race or nationalism. Hope people will rise above all to cherish humanity one day.
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