It’s not healthy to keep ANGER inside for too long. If you’re too upset to speak calmly, you can write a note and put it where the other person will see it.
Here are 3 sentences that may help. First: “My dear, I am suffering, I am angry, and I want you to know it.” The second is: “I am doing my best.” This means you are practicing mindful breathing and walking, and you are refraining from doing or saying anything out of anger. The third is: “Please help me.”
Memorize those 3 sentences on top. Or write them on a small piece of paper, the size of a credit card, and put it in your wallet. Then when you’re angry, you can take it out, and will know exactly what to do. (Not my words.)
1. The past is in the past, focus on the future. 2. Opinions do not define reality. 3. Everyone’s journey is different. 4. Time is the essence of healing. 5. Judgement is a confession of character. 6. Overthinking will lead to paralysis/sadness. 7. Happiness is an inside job, found within. 8. Positive thoughts, create positive actions. 9. Smiles are contagious. 10. Sprinkle kindness, it’s free. 11. You only fail if you quit/do not try. 12. What goes around, comes around. Karma it is. 13. The quicker you choose to move forward, the quicker the suffering ends.
1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self abuse and regret.
Sometimes when things are really trying and painful all we can think is, why on earth do I have to go through this, why do I deserve this? But there’s a better way to approach a trying moment in life. Instead of resisting it, try surrendering to it and considering that there’s a reason it has been given to you and not somebody else. If you are dealing with it, it is part of your journey.
The next time you go through a trying time, find the ways in which you can grow and learn instead of dwelling on your suffering. I know it’s an experience that I need to have if God’s putting me through it. (Not my words.)
Nothing is more important than empathy for another human being’s suffering. Not a career. Not wealth. Not intelligence. Certainly not status. We have to feel for one another if we’re going to survive with dignity.