Love your fucking life. Take pictures of everything. Tell people you love them. Talk to random strangers. Do things that you’re scared to do. Fuck it, because so many of us die and no one remembers a thing we did. Take your life and make it the best story in the world.
It’s your time to cherish yourself. Don’t waste that shit.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. One of my favourite songs, so I had to share it. RIP to Takeoff who was shot dead in Houston before 2 days.)
You are exactly where you are meant to be right now. Do not compare your journey to anyone else’s; yours is a wildly different journey up an entirely different mountain. If you were meant to be higher up your mountain, you would be. There might be more you need to learn from this spot before you can keep climbing. There might be something you need to see here before you continue forward.
Maybe you are simply meant to rest before the journey ahead. Regardless of where you are on your path, know that the rest of your story will unfold when it is time. Until then, enjoy your beautifully unique climb.
If we believe there is no magic in life, then we’ll never experience it. If we believe the miraculous is not real, then we’ll never accept it when we see it. If we believe that we’re limited in what we can do, accomplish, and become, then we’ll always live within the confines of our imagination.
However, the opposite is also true. If we believe in magic, we’ll experience it around every corner. If we believe in the miraculous, then we’ll train ourselves to see and be thankful for the little miracles that unfold each day. If we believe that we are limitless, then we’ll see anything we imagine is possible.
The beliefs that we hold onto influence our lives significantly, determining how our story unfolds.
Love your fucking life. Take pictures of everything you find beautiful. Tell people you love them. Talk to random strangers. Do things that you’re scared to do. Fuck it, because so many of us die and no one remembers a thing we did.
Take your life and make it the best story in the world. Remain consistent with your way of living. Remain consistent with your desires & demands. Remain consistent with your goals & dreams. Don’t waste these precious things called “LIFE”.
No matter what is going on in your world, no matter what happens today, do everything with a joyful heart. During the highs and lows, choose a stance of celebration. Every day, choose to find something to be thankful for. Decide to find the gold, and resolve to look for the happy moments.
If you can’t find anything to be joyful about, remember this: you are alive with a beating heart and air flowing through your lungs. This means your work here is not finished, and you haven’t reached your story’s end. You have a purpose; you have a dream that needs you to bring it to life. That is something to be joyful about and celebrate. DO EVERYTHING WITH A JOYFUL HEART.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Apparantly PROFESSIONAL MODEL BLOWER is a real thing, even though this video is hella funny. 2 minutes of pure fun. Don’t miss it.)
Everyone has a story to tell, a lesson to teach, and wisdom to share. Life is a beautiful masterpiece bound together by your experiences. Open up and share your story; become an inspiration to others.
You can make a difference because you matter. You were created with purpose. Live your life with good intention, go out there and make a difference by being the difference.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Big fan of Key & Peele, also a big fan of Neil deGrasse Tyson. Watch it for fun & you will definitely gain some knowledge about parallel universe.)
You can’t skip chapters, that’s not how life works. You have to read every line, meet every character. You won’t enjoy all of it. Hell, some chapters will make you cry for weeks. You will read things you don’t want to read. You will have moments when you don’t want the pages to end. But you have to keep going. Stories keep the world revolving. Live yours, don’t miss out. BE YOU.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. It’s a Punjabi song & i have to talk about it. There’s Tory Lanez, i knew there’s something about girls & heart break. This guy needs to leave that feelings train. Now the good part; Diljit Dosanjh, the best Punjabi singer of all time i guess & his presence/MC is out of this world.)🔥
Everyone wants to know how i tolerate my bestfriend DEMI since past 700 years of our friendship because her attitude is bit aggressive?
Let me answer & YES, it’s a long answer: We were attending Lory’s birthday party near Cardiff bay. Party was over & some Justin Bieber song started playing. DEMI walked towards me & said; “Rudey, my pussy is drying up because of this shit song. Let’s leave & let’s drive to Tenby. We will talk about everything after reaching the beach.”
We both laughed & i still remember those exact words. And Yes, DEMI still calls me RUDEY because of my rude/angry/grumpy face. We went through a bad fight before 5 months of that birthday party & i stopped talking to Demi. I decided i must allow her some time to think & respond logically instead of continuing that fight. Only few friends know Tenby is my favourite coastal town in Britain & i prefer afternoon swimming when i think about relaxing. DEMI made the right choice with place & timing. We went swimming & she broke the ice while chilling at beach. We had a long open vivid conversation about everything which went loose. We were able to come back stronger. Years gone & our equation keeps getting better with time. No matter how much i deny, she is the sassiest angel i ever came across. Bestfriends for some good reasons, and i can’t appreciate more.
(DON’T ASK ABOUT THE PICTURE. OLD ONE & STOLEN FROM MY SNAPCHAT.)
27-Feb is the date we had a bad fight & we both stopped communication for 5 months. We both still talk about the stupid reason behind it & what we missed in those 5 months. We laugh at each other’s silent treatment. We tease each other about why that was just unnecessary.
We humans always take goodness for granted & our ego stops us from accepting our flaws. We miss opportunities. We disrespect good people. Sometimes we hurt others without even knowing. We make blunders easily.
But there are very few who accept & cross that path to acknowledge own mess. Who says it’s easy!! Very few are ready to talk about what’s wrong in them & why they are ready to change for better instead of farting from mouth “THAT’S HOW I AM”. I admire those who strive to be a better human. It’s easy to go vulnerable towards such people who come with clean intentions. Every equation can be easy, soothing, happening & loving. JUST CHOOSE THOSE WHO CHOOSE YOU.
Everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.
I used to run and hide from my feelings especially when I felt something that was upsetting, painful, or uncomfortable. But over time I’ve learned to accept all of my feelings. I know that in order for me to work through them, I must first honor and embrace all emotions. They are a part of me. Therefore they are meaningful and valid.
Pick a feeling that you’re afraid or ashamed of. Feeling fear, anger, or sadness is okay as long as you don’t let it define you. Embrace your emotions and remind yourself how valuable they are. Don’t invalidate your feelings. Honor them.
You will never get the truth out of a Narcissist. The closest you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, but never the villain.
You can’t skip chapters, that’s not how life works. You have to read every line, meet every character. You won’t enjoy all of it. Hell, some chapters will make you cry for weeks. You will read things you don’t want to read, you will have moments when you don’t want the pages to end. But you have to keep going.
Stories keep the world revolving. Live your story, don’t miss out.
Now this paragraph is for my close friends. The question is; “Was i angry on Frank?” Answer is: No, i laughed at his tiny mind in November-2019. I was applying for PhD research scholar positions in Berlin. New city for me, Frank took me & few friends to an EXOTIC CAR MEET-UP, that too in a Dacia Duster. Not judging the car, any Dacia or VW is a good daily driver. But, I was laughing at the idea of going to an EXOTIC CAR MEET-UP in a DACIA DUSTER.😂
(No matter how much i praise a Tesla, i am a petrolhead by heart. I am a sucker for all AMG & BMW M-series cars, manual rear wheel drive please.)
Your body sheds your tired skin every twenty seven days. You were not made to hold your past within you. You were not made to carry it all on your back. You physically let go of every bad thing that has ever touched you, of every pair of foreign hands that unbuttoned your shirt but never your demons; you let go of every regret, of every insecurity. You are always gifted a clean slate.
Remember that your tongue is the strongest muscle in your body. You were made to speak, so speak loudly and communicate honestly about how you feel. Speak about what hurts you, about what has broken you. Speak about your story, share it with the world.
Letting go does not mean you stop caring. It means you stop trying to force others to.
1. You commit to and practice observing yourself. 2. You notice a story you’re telling yourself. 3. You set a boundary you may not have set before. 4. You honour a commitment to yourself. 5. You take ownership and accountability when there’s something to own. 6. You can see another perspective outside of your own. 7. You see the pain of others in their reactivity without over personalizing. 8. You move away from changing others and move towards integrating the change you’d like to see for yourself.
GROWTH is often uncomfortable, messy, and full of feelings you weren’t EXPECTING. But it’s necessary.
A high school teacher once said; “Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”. I took those words bit too seriously i guess. Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes: Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway: Whatever struggle you are facing in your life, make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love. When you are filled with anger or hate, the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care. Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
Life can be fulfilling at both 16 and also 60. 25 and 35. Joy is timeless. Learning how to make the most of where you are does not have an age cut-off or a deadline. You will always be able to sit and wonder about things that could have gone differently. But you can also trust: you have not missed out on what was meant for you.
I know it’s hard to trust when so much is unknown, so instead of trying to make sense of it all at once, take it all color by color, tree by tree, scent by scent, take it one by one. You don’t have to take it all in at once. Take in the newness of it all one moment at a time without worrying about the moments to come. Let that be enough. Breathe deep and let this moment be enough. Let this be a place where you find peace.
Remember the ground beneath your feet, you belong here. No one has taken your place. You are not too far from grace. Your story might be unfolding differently than expected but that doesn’t mean it won’t be beautiful. Where you are meant to be, you will be in time, no matter your age or stage of life. Life is fun. Let it be. Let it flourish at it’s own pace.
Each of us leads unique lives with experiences that nobody else will ever completely understand. Your story holds so many valuable lessons that can help inspire, teach, and motivate someone else. Should you choose to share it!?! In life, I have heard so many different stories. Just by listening, I learned so many different things. I’m so thankful I found the courage to share my story as well and talk about what I’ve been through. Not only has it helped me, but it has helped give perspective and strength to so many other people, my people to be precise. I encourage you to do the same.
Share your story with someone who is worth your time. You never know how one sentence of your life story could inspire someone to rewrite their own. No matter what you have been through in life, good or bad, don’t take it for granted. There are lessons in every moment of our lives.
Since my childhood i am that odd one out kinda person in my family. My family is a mixture of different values/culture/faith/religion. And i always feel bored when someone talks about religion or God. It’s my middle school days i remember, one of my friends named Mohsin said “he is a true muslim, because he is praying 5 times a day & he is fasting during EID”. The same way another christinan friend said “he follows everything from easter, saint patrick’s day, thanksgiving, christmas to sunday mass because he is a believer in ONE TRUE CHURCH catholic values/teachings”. All such things were just foolish to my middle school brain. My middle school & high school days were all about playing chess, basketball, some video games, playing piano, little bit of painting, if i had too much free time i was teaching trigonometry & physics to few of my dumb friends. I never understood religion & God.
Let’s come to the main part of the story. My religion is Hindu. And both of my parents are full time employees & they are also bit too much into social service. So during my childhood i got plenty of time to spend with my grandparents. Out of curiosity once i asked my grandpa; “All my friends say something about their God or religion. Is there a process to be a true or good hindu?” First he laughed at me for 2 minutes, then he replied; “You become a good human, that’s good hindu”. I again asked; “Which specific God to pray & what’s the prayer i have to chant?” He again laughed at me, then replied; “There are literally 33 million Gods in our religion, even i am confused. Right now finish your homework & studies, eat all vegetables without being a pain to your mama, don’t watch TV for long time, sleep before 9pm, wake up early in the morning, these are all your duties/work at this age, after few years your work will become your identity. And your work is your best worship to your God.” That’s all i was taught about religion. My grandpa died at the age of 97+. I still remember every single moment i spent around him.
Some friends question why i attend church service sometimes even though i am not a Christian!! The answer is; There was a church on my way to school. Father of that church used to give free teacakes to every kid after morning prayer. Sometimes i used to eat that teacake while going to school, and sometimes i used to give it to any homeless or disabled person near my street. These tiny memories are still alive in me. I work & i make little more money than i can consume even after my share of savings+investment, i try to give it back to the society from where i earned. That’s why sometimes it’s a visit to any orphanage, community shelter/home & sometimes also it’s a sunday service. It’s not like I don’t believe in God, it’s more like “I DON’T BELIEVE IN DIFFERENT RELIGIONS HAVE DIFFERENT GODS”. If there’s a GOD, there’s only one.
The gist of the story is; Do something good everyday or just do your work/duty in time, rest assured your GOD loves you.
Never judge someone till you walk in their shoes. Never prioritise people above you because everything/everyone is an option in this materialistic world. After you are sure about previous two lines; Never become too selfish with own ways because there are always two sides of every story.
If you want to know about my past before approaching, I have answer for you.
I don’t have any sort of LOVE story to serve your query. There are bunch of not-so-meaningful encounters or sex stories you can say. Yes I was wowed & about to fall for someone, escaped that thing at the right time. It’s good when mask falls off, you are left with only TRUTH.
Don’t read/follow someone’s success story if you want to build a stronger stable business. Make sure you watch a story of failure everyday & eliminate that in you one by one. You will fail & that’s gonna push you towards a better tomorrow.
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