Your health. Your mental health. Your well-being. Your boundaries. Your bliss. Your happiness. Your self love. Your self worth. Your self respect. Your purpose. Your goals. Your much needed rest. Your piece of peace.
1. Take 15 minutes a day to self-reflect. 2. Do at least 1 tough thing every day, it could be a 45 minutes workout or 5km run or procrastination from certain things. 3. Give up one bad habit that’s bugging you. 4. Develop positive self-talk. 5. Identify challenges and set goals. 6. Identify your strengths and weaknesses. 7. Journal daily: record what you have gratitude for. 8. Write down 10 ideas every day & read 20 pages everyday: this will build your mind muscle. 9. Take care of your physical health & eat right. 10. Create a healthy environment for you to thrive.
Self development is a continuous journey of trial and error. The process will test your strengths, reveal your weaknesses, and empower you to put yourself first (finally). Keep going, no matter what. Dive deep into answering the questions that you refuse to, no matter how much the answer hurts. You deserve respect and understanding in the process of self-discovery.
I hope this reminder serves you well to help you know that we are all in this together, on a journey of self-discovery and growth. Be honest, be open, and be less critical of yourself.
Never devalue yourself. Never forget how beautiful you really are. People in certain situations can sometimes make us feel we aren’t good enough by society’s standards. But it’s natural to feel that way. You just need to know how to find your way out of that negative place.
Remind yourself that you are beautiful exactly the way you are.
Long ago, a man went to see a circus show. Before the show began, he saw that a lot of elephants were held by only a small rope tied to their leg. The man suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that such huge creatures were being held by such a thin yet small rope.
There were no chains and no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could break away the ropes at any time from their bonds but for some reason they weren’t even trying. The man saw the elephant’s trainer standing next to elephants. He was curious to know why the elephants weren’t trying to escape from here.
To this, the trainer told him that they were like this since the time they were very young. At that time, it was enough to hold them. As they grew up, they were conditioned to believe they could not break away. They believed the rope could still hold them. On hearing this, the man was completely shocked. He was looking at the elephants in a pity and he went away from there.
Moral of the story:
High chances you are your biggest hurdle on your path to success & a joyful life.
We all survive with a “FALSE HUMAN BELIEF” doubting our own strength which lowers our self-esteem, self-respect, capacity & capabilities. Keep working on yourself & you will experience a better version of yourself with time.
Self love is your strength. Self acceptance is your peace. Don’t be stressed about all the things that you can’t control or change. Learn how to let go. Learn to leave behind those feelings that no longer serve your heart any good. Your life is precious, make it count by living it for yourself first. Make yourself a priority.
You don’t need someone else to remind you that you have value, the beating in your heart is already a reminder of that. Be at peace with yourself. Be gentle with your heart. You are already special. BE YOU.
When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options, help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation. Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do. Because sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you. It’s not pride, it’s self-respect.
Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life. Know your value and what you have to offer and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Be with someone who inspires you to be your greatest self.
-Sylvester Me Nutt III.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Radicalism is the biggest threat still blooming under Britain’s nose & i have shared my view on this since my student days. My voice against it is not new.)
When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options, help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation. Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do. Because sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you. It’s not pride – it’s self-respect.
Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life. Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Grandpa once said “If you are confident about your views or values, never expect others to certify it”. I was still in my teen days when he said it. He died at the age of 97 before 3 years. I am somehow understanding his words how & why. I talk a lot about building confidence to develop a stronger self-esteem, which can later help in growing self-respect further. Let me explain all in few words;
1- Confident people don’t force their views on others. They don’t force their beliefs on anyone else whether those beliefs are political or religious. They have a clear understanding that these beliefs in choices are personal for everyone. They may stand up for themselves when others oppose, but will never challenge what other people think nor feel the need to tell them that they are wrong.
2- Never compromise your values. Having defined core values is foundational principles to any pursuit in life. Confident people live in alignment with their values and will never compromise themselves what they hold dear. They use these values as they make decisions in both life and work. Even if it means giving up something desirable in the short term. When it comes to confidence one thing is certain, truly confident people always have the upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish. Because they inspire others and they make things happen. Embracing the behaviors of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success which in turn will lead to more confidence. (Not my words)
I have a bad habit to block random people from my life. The way I see it is; if I can be happy for a day without entertaining someone, I can be happy my whole life without that person. That’s another reason how I scare people away. This tiny paragraph is for flings & acquaintances.
Now let’s talk about the people who are in my life. I feel cherished & valued because my people understand how much I value self-respect. I don’t have anything like EGO in me. You can’t offend me. Being a human I too have flaws & I admit them time after time whenever I mess up something. Mama once said; “Do amazing new mistakes, that’s how you can understand where you can go wrong. But never repeat that same mistake again, that’s when you grow to be a bigger better you.” That’s the goal of life now. Goal is to become a bigger better TAP without entertaining unnecessary people or drama.
If you are active & feeling “How fast/busy life is!!”, I swear there is no better feeling than that. Learn to be happy with it. But if you are pretending being busy because you are just lazy, you too know you are nothing but just another boring person. Being optimistic is good, but that matters nothing without being real.
Problem in most people is, they are ok being OK towards everything wrong with own life. How can you value someone when he/she isn’t valuing him/herself!?!
Never try to do anything that’s outside of who you are. A forced smile is a sign of what feels wrong in your heart, so recognize it when it happens. Living a LIE will reduce you to one. – Ashly Lorenzana.
There is a reason I always say liars are the insects of a healthy society. Every cheater, thief, murderer, rapist, narcissist, fraudster have one thing in common; “Their string of lies”. Whenever you encounter a liar, make sure you cut that equation clean out of your life. Those who are reading this, remember to gift yourself some ample dose of self-respect every morning. Live a life where there is no second chances, so that you will never entertain a liar or never commit that same mistake.
I live a life where there is no space for “SECOND CHANCES”, never got one, never wanted one & can’t give one.
Live a life with ample amount of self-respect. Negative people always keep returning with dirt in head & heart to walk over your sanity. Learn how to say straightforward “NO”. The one who can break something beautiful can never fix it. Even if they do, nobody can trust them. My attitude with life is something where i get over things/people pretty quick. It matters nothing if it’s not impacting my family or money. And yeah some friends are included in my family. Good vibes are scored around truthful people & the sexiest thing about them is their HONESTY.
I work as a data analytics professional & I also run a tiny health supplement business where i sell some athleisure clothing as well under my brand name in few e-commerce sites, because of my business I come in touch with different types of people from different regions/backgrounds. To be honest most people are not good with their ego & self-respect, people fail to understand the difference between both because of their insecurities. Sometimes it goes even more weird because there is MONEY involved. This is the story of other side where I feel other side is cringey or clingy just to get a bargain in a bulk order.
Story of my side is “The businessman part of me is nasty”, please don’t expect a gentle/sweet response if you are talking to me in between 11am-3pm. I just talk logic & numbers in that timeframe. A strong competitive mindset that I can’t leave aside which portrays my image as an angry stubborn rude TAP. The worst part is, I do this with a healthy happy funny mood. I still don’t know how/why my voice sounds so deep/grumpy during that specific time. Learning to be more calm & composed with time. I wish everyday not to hurt anyone with my words, but this happens once in a while. I still make things right before hitting bed. I can’t fall asleep with a thought of hurting someone.
Lesson for me today: There is no place for ARROGANCE & IGNORANCE in business. RESPECT THAT RESPECT YOU GET FROM OTHERS.
I don’t know how true this is. Yes, I am a LEO. In my case, I don’t have anything like EGO. My self-respect is my only possession. You have to respect me as I respect myself. If that gets hammered, I don’t know who you are!!
It took me plenty of courage & strong will-power to become a human from a disastrous monster on the run. I know, I am True to myself & everyone else. I dreamed a life without lies, all who fit there are onboard already.
Indecisiveness causes insecurities. Insecurities cause self-doubt. You start expecting the worst, allowing yourself to take every wrong step & sabotage own growth in life.
Find a motive to live. Set a goal. Take decisions: stay stuck to it. If you can’t find reasons behind your actions/words/moves, don’t do it because they are bullshit. Be True to yourself first, everyone will acknowledge with time. Investment in self growth gratifies self-respect and self-esteem. Be a TRUE you.
It’s always more important what you give, not what you ask for. We all have spares in our lives, extra clothes, extra shoes, extra money, extra food, extra unused time, extra dullness surrounding own mental health. I mean we always have enough to give away whether it’s a material things or positive/negative emotions. We often have enough LOVE to share with other people.
As hard it may sound, most of our giving is not an act of generosity. What we give are mere excesses/extras. But we glorify it by calling it GENEROSITY. What makes it even more questionable is what we expect in return? It’s natural for us to expect equal reciprocation when we give. Balance is the name of life.
We need to give without expecting any return, when it’s LOVE. Expecting what we give as return means, taking back we gave. People start thinking so much about self respect & inflated ego. In the mix they forget what they really are. Stop measuring what you give & start forgiving before starting to forget. When you give, take nothing except the satisfaction of making someone HAPPY.
Focus on building your SELF-ESTEEM, which will strengthen your SELF-RESPECT.
We humans don’t understand the difference between self-respect & EGO, which results in hurting self. EGO & PRIDE will get crushed by you or someone else someday, they are flighty in nature & help with nothing. Focus on being a TRUE you.
OK. Five things that even my closest friends still don’t know about me.
1. I am a primitive cooking expert.
2. Even looking at you from a 100 meter distance, I can understand what kind of a person you are & where you are heading with that attitude towards life. The more silent you are, the more information you are radiating. A person walking on center or extreme of a sidewalk also screams about his/her personality.
3. I only share that much information about myself which is pre-decided & true.
4. You can’t influence me anything. I respect all and follow my TRUTH.
5. I don’t have a pride or ego alive in me. But in case you wanna know me more, self-respect needs to be reciprocated equally.
Everytime somebody talks about my EGO, I laugh at that person for a while before walking away. I am connected to some amazing set of friends since past 14-15 years to be precise & never switched anyone of them. We all are amazingly simple & beautiful on our own. I am the most emotionally detached in our group & my mates never make me feel less because of that. I am driven by logic out of choice & this will never change. We don’t have time to entertain EGO, it’s as simple as “be right or stay shut”. Nobody is perfect and we make sure to make sense in arguments in case any misunderstandings pop up. Life is fun because we are open, available, consistent & TRUTHFUL. That’s where we understand each other’s boundaries and make sure we offend less & laugh more while preserving everyone’s SELF-RESPECT.
One tiny thing to take notice, the only person who can hurt me is my mum. And because I ran away from my home in my teen days, even she is afraid to say something that I might not prefer to listen. She might have noticed my EGO because of my wrong actions. You can say, I am simply complicated. Whatever right or wrong I have ever done, I am always grateful to my parents till I breathe. I am not sharing the same house with them, but I am proud to say I am proud child of a intellectual loving couple. That’s all.