Grandpa once said “If you are confident about your views or values, never expect others to certify it”. I was still in my teen days when he said it. He died at the age of 97 before 3 years. I am somehow understanding his words how & why. I talk a lot about building confidence to develop a stronger self-esteem, which can later help in growing self-respect further. Let me explain all in few words;
1- Confident people don’t force their views on others. They don’t force their beliefs on anyone else whether those beliefs are political or religious. They have a clear understanding that these beliefs in choices are personal for everyone. They may stand up for themselves when others oppose, but will never challenge what other people think nor feel the need to tell them that they are wrong.
2- Never compromise your values. Having defined core values is foundational principles to any pursuit in life. Confident people live in alignment with their values and will never compromise themselves what they hold dear. They use these values as they make decisions in both life and work. Even if it means giving up something desirable in the short term. When it comes to confidence one thing is certain, truly confident people always have the upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish. Because they inspire others and they make things happen. Embracing the behaviors of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success which in turn will lead to more confidence. (Not my words)
I don’t know how true this is. Yes, I am a LEO. In my case, I don’t have anything like EGO. My self-respect is my only possession. You have to respect me as I respect myself. If that gets hammered, I don’t know who you are!!
Don’t be afraid. Don’t forget what you are. I used to look upto you when things go up or down. You ruled my world. You was the only reason behind my happiness for a while. We all have a rough patch in our lives which dragged our self-esteem down to zero. Hiding & escaping isn’t a solution. Face it like what you used to be. How can you just give up? Lessons are learnt. Digest it, try to see life for what it is. Don’t be surprised when things get better. Any negativity can’t push you down for long. Open your eyes and allow yourself to see a better you. Experience some good days being a legit self. That 07-Feb is the best day of my life, actually 08-Feb for you. Vibe right. You are my sunshine, doesn’t matter where/what you are.
Focus on building your SELF-ESTEEM, which will strengthen your SELF-RESPECT.
We humans don’t understand the difference between self-respect & EGO, which results in hurting self. EGO & PRIDE will get crushed by you or someone else someday, they are flighty in nature & help with nothing. Focus on being a TRUE you.
Toxic people are nothing but people with negative mindset. Because they can’t value/love themselves, they try to damage someone else’s integrity. There is a cure, they need to feed their self respect instead of their ego. It’s easy & everyone deserves happiness.