You have to commit to getting up early. You have to take care of your responsibilities. You have to do your duties on time. You have to be honest with yourself. You have to revaluate your priorites. Nobody is going to do it for you.
These are your goals. You gotta get your dreams. Everything you want starts and ends with you. Be you.
Hurting people back will not heal your pain. Learn to react to people constructively, even if that means being alone in silence, to study your emotions. In your response is your destiny. If you do not take conscious control of your reaction, you will give away your power.
Do not engage with someone with lower behavior. You will be dealing with someone who projects, who has ego problems, who is self centered, who lacks empathy, who is emotionally immature, who has unhealed wounds of their own, who has a need to feel superior, who needs to control others, and who ends up hurting just about everyone who crosses their path. Stay away from such people & such behaviour.
Move forward by healing your own hurts. Improve yourself. And forget about inviting other’s toxicity into your space. You are your own responsibility. Make sure you make yourself a better version of yourself with time.
You are responsible for your happiness. In fact, you create it. You attract it. You manifest it. You are the architect of your reality. You choose your thoughts, your perceptions, and your reaction to external forces.
You possess all of the tools needed to expand your awareness, to orchestrate the evolution of your consciousness, to choose happiness, to choose love. You are that powerful. Create the life you deserve. Vibrate love.
1. LOST MONEY can be found, but LOST TIME is lost forever. 2. LEARNING TO LEARN AND CHANGING YOURSELF IS A SUPERPOWER. 3. You are not your job, it’s more about your SKILLS, HABITS, LIFESTYLE CHOICES & DISCIPLINE. 4. Your happiness is your RESPONSIBILITY. 5. When it comes to POSITIVE ENERGY, LOVE & RESPECT; you get multiple times of what you give. 6. Any VICTIM MENTALITY INDIVIDUAL won’t stop working on you until they make you one VICTIM MENTALITY INDIVIDUAL, stay away from WOKE. 7. Your BEST TEACHER is your last mistake. 8. CONSISTENCY beats talent, and you have all resources within you be a SUCCESSFUL INDIVIDUAL.
1. If taking care of yourself means letting someone down, then let someone down. 2. Never let rejection lead to self-rejection. 3. What happened yesterday may not be your responsibility, but how you behave today is upto you. 4. Obsessing over the things that society said you’re supposed to do will kill your happiness. Everyone is different and your path to happiness will be different too. 5. My low maintenance relationships are my strongest. 6. If you want to enjoy your life, don’t subscribe to other people’s definition of ‘fun‘. Your fun belongs to you, make sure you define it. 7. Stop expecting honesty from people who lie to themselves. People who are inconsistent aren’t going anywhere in their life, stop planning a journey with them. 8. If you learn to read books, you can be smart. If you learn to read yourself, you can be anything.
The ATTITUDE of “that’s just how I am, take it or leave it” is still a sign of immaturity. As an adult, it’s your responsibility to figure out which of your traits are toxic and are negatively impactful towards other people and the ones you love, and to eventually learn how to fix them. At some point, we all gotta start making ourselves better individuals.
If you truly believe you don’t have to change anything about yourself, even at the very least the worst in you, and that people will just have to deal with it, then sorry, you’re still a child & your attitude is a childish nonsense.
PART OF BEING A MAN IS LEARNING TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR SUCCESSES AND FOR YOUR FAILURES. YOU CAN’T GO BLAMING OTHERS OR BEING JEALOUS. SEEING SOMEBODY ELSE’S SUCCESS AS YOUR FAILURE IS A CANCEROUS WAY TO LIVE.
We don’t change the world by trying to change everyone. We change the world by taking responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings, intentions and actions. Change is contagious and it begins with each one of us, taking PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY.
Your attitude is what determines your day. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. The small things in life don’t need to be worried and stressed about so much. The alarm can be fixed. The tire can be replaced. The coffee can be refilled. The parking ticket can be paid. The keys can be found. The to-dos can get to-done. You can get enough sleep. You can get some food. Maybe a snickers or ice cream to satisfy your sweet tooth. Your life is great. You just have to allow it to be.
People don’t make you angry, you allow the anger to dwell within you. Circumstances don’t upset you, you allow yourself to get upset. You choose to worry, you choose to criticize, you choose to blame, and you choose to complain. No one else decides this for you. Choose the bright side & remember your HAPPINESS is your responsibility. (Previously posted it way back, not my words).
You can’t heal on someone else’s agenda, by someone else’s standards, in someone else’s timeline, with someone else’s rulebook, for someone else’s benefit, under someone else’s expectations, or by someone else’s urging. Your healing is for you, by you, within you, about you, and through you. Until you make healing for you instead of for others, healing will be out of reach.
Healing yourself will ask more of you, more rest, more self love, more letting go, more time for learning, more space for transformation, more honesty about how you feel, more time developing good habits, more courage to try new practices, more time cultivating your inner peace, more faith in yourself and the process. HEALING DOESN’T MEAN THE DAMAGE NEVER EXISTED. IT MEANS THE DAMAGE NO LONGER CONTROLS OUR LIVES.
The attitude of “that’s just how I am, take it or leave it” is still a sign of immaturity. As an adult, it’s your responsibility to figure out which of your traits are toxic and are negatively impactful towards other people and the ones you love, and to eventually learn how to fix them.
At some point, we all gotta start making ourselves better individuals. If you truly believe you don’t have to change anything about yourself, even at the very least the worst in you, and that people will just have to deal with it. Then sorry, you’re still a child.
People need to learn that their actions do affect other people. So be careful what you say and do, it’s not always just about you. MATURITY DOESN’T MEAN AGE. IT MEANS SENSITIVITY, MANNERS AND HOW YOU REACT.
No one knows what you need to do more than you do. Cry when you need to. It’s relieving. Laugh when you need to. It’s healing. Sit alone when you need to. It’s necessary. Surround yourself with strangers when you need to. It’s eye-opening. Living by your needs is not easy. No one said it was.
But a fact that you should always remember is this: “you are more worthy of being taken care of than anyone around you”. And I don’t mean the superficial kind of care. I mean the care that your soul needs. Everyone around you is struggling somehow. Everyone around you is trying to reach a goal, a destination, or a dream. Just as you might not expose your worries to the world, no one else has to.
Remember that you are a work in progress. You are not perfect. You are not expected to be perfect. Do not allow the fear of falling to stop you from jumping. Do not allow the fear of responsibility to stop you from committing. Do not allow the fear of exposure to stop you from shining. FOLLOW WHAT YOU FEEL & FEED YOUR SOUL.
Everything you do is based on the choices you make. It’s not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument or your age that is to blame. You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make, period.
No one knows what you need to do more than you do. Cry when you need to, It’s relieving. Laugh when you need to, It’s healing. Sit alone half an hour when you need to, It’s necessary. Surround yourself with random friends when you need to, It’s eye-opening. Especially listening to someone carefully is a dose of nectar to our eager mind & heart. Living by your needs is not easy, no one said it was. But a fact that you should always remember is this: “You are more worthy of being taken care of than anyone around you. And I don’t mean the superficial kind of care. I mean the care that your soul needs”.
Everyone around you is struggling somehow. Everyone around you is trying to reach a goal, a destination, or a dream. Just as you might not expose your worries to the world, no one else has to. Remember that you are a work in progress. You are not perfect & you are not expected to be PERFECT.
Do not allow the fear of falling to stop you from jumping. Do not allow the fear of responsibility to stop you from committing. Do not allow the fear of exposure to stop you from shining. (Not my words).
This post is my little respect to those who enjoy traveling.
Traveling messes you up, but in all the good ways. It leaves you craving more, an addiction that can never quite be met. Every place, every trip, every person is a new unexpected adventure; pulling you deeper into the love of wanderlust. Your heart begins to hurt when you’re standing still, and your mind begins to itch over the idea of new places you haven’t been. Fill your soul with adventure and traveling and you will live a fulfilled life.
Why once you’ve traveled for the first time all you want to do is leave again!! They call it the travel bug, but really it’s the urge to return to a place where you are surrounded by people who share common interests & speak the same language as you do. Not English or Spanish or German, but that language where others know what it’s like to leave, change, grow, experience, learn, then go back home again and feel more lost in your hometown then you did in the most foreign place you visited. Missing few of my stupid university mates while typing this post. Grateful for the days which always pop up as memories in my Google photos.
I am a big petrolhead, but i also prefer a silent calm environment with less noise & pollution. Cities are beautiful because of it’s people, so it’s always our responsibility to make it more sustainable. In case you are from Berlin, make sure you sign this petition. http://volksentscheid-berlin-autofrei.de
I am yet to reach 30s & i can say one thing from my observation & experience; “People who aren’t successful/happy with their life, always find reasons to justify their lie/cheat/nonsense/inconsistency every single time with the easiest predictable way”.
Now why i focus on these two words “SUCCESS” & “HAPPINESS” in most of my posts? My answer is; A successful person is more focused on his success rather than rest garbage of life. I am saying it for a relationship as well. Even research studies show successful people hardly cheat in a relationship because they have better things to achieve in life.
So what goes wrong here; when you aren’t happy with yourself or when you aren’t successful in your career/finance/your own goals/dreams, even you don’t know what HAPPINESS means to you. You swing every possible way without next thought in search of that happiness to every wrong place. Nobody can bring happiness to your life. We humans are engineered to like predictable things, i mean a predictable tomorrow with what’s gonna happen, what lifestyle we gonna enjoy, what house we gonna live, what will be our next vacation, what will be our next vehicle, all such things. In modern world most dream big, but sadly it’s daydreaming. Big dreams bring sadness when you see them fading away. It’s your responsibility to sort out your own life first.
Find your peace within yourself. Find your happiness within yourself. Find what “SUCCESS” means to you within yourself. A stable YOU is the priority, rest can join later.
Consistency is harder when no one is clapping for you. You must clap for yourself during those times, you should always be your biggest fan.
You can be the whole package and still end up at the wrong address. When this happens, the receiver will mishandle you because 1. They don’t know what to do with you. 2. They weren’t meant to have you in the first place.
Be the best version of yourself just for yourself. Be consistent, truthful, happy & be you, all just for yourself. You are your responsibility.
In this world filled with liars, cheaters & deceptive people, we all encounter trust issues. One easy noticable trait of every untrustworthy person is; they struggle to empathize people. Those who lack empathy are much better at being able to deceive or hurt someone and the ability to empathize with others is something most untrustworthy people lack. An empathetic person would be hesitant to hurt someone else since they can imagine the pain their actions could cause. It acts as a barrier to hurtful behavior. If someone is capable or even comfortable with backstabbing or betraying others, they usually lack empathy. They likely won’t take responsibility for their damaging actions and don’t even know that they lack the ability to empathize.
Untrustworthy people are self-serving, they care only for themselves and can’t see past their own perspectives. Some people are even able to use empathy selectively and only when they stand to gain from it, which can make this trait even harder to spot observing how someone acts toward others, especially those they can’t benefit from will reveal their true nature. A lack of empathy is a red flag when it comes to gauging someone’s trustworthiness.
Most people fail to walk their TRUTH, fail to be true to self and others at the same time. Being honest never comes easy, but it’s easier than any kind of lie/deceit or hiding something. This is what sets a truthful person apart from random crowd. TRUTHFUL OR A HONEST PERSON, i am talking about.
They own up to their mistakes. Honest people have all kinds of amazing traits, but obviously no one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, but what sets honest people apart is their willingness to take responsibility and apologize when they mess up. You’ve probably encountered someone who’s bad at saying sorry. Instead of owning up to their mistakes they’ll make excuses or apologize that you experience negative feelings, not that they did something wrong. Honest people are different. Those with integrity seek the truth, even if the truth exposes them for doing something wrong. They will swallow their pride and their ego for the sake of an authentic and sincere apology. Telling the truth doesn’t come naturally. Defense mechanisms, like blame projection and deceit are much easier alternatives in the moment, but avoiding responsibility only creates more trouble.
Hopefully this will help you identify if you are someone honest or someone in your life is truly honest. It might also make you realize that perhaps you’re not as honest as you thought. Nevertheless we should all pursue truth, even when it seems daunting and difficult. The world needs more honesty. If you lie about who you are or about someone else, what actually happened or how you feel, you’ll only dig yourself deeper into a problem of your own creation. The choice is yours. Be honest or lie, what you choose will impact your life immensely.
(Most of the time you see people spreading this message as a quote from bible. Some also say it’s against God’s grace. This reference is found in Bible, Quran & Jewish teachings as well. The fun part is, they all are wrong about it’s origin. It’s a motto/phrase originated from ancient greece way before any major religion was born. This quote emphasizes on importance of self-initiative efforts.)
Focus on your work, because your work is your responsibility & identity. Tap OUT..🤗
I know few who start crying while talking about a past incident which broke them apart. Hurting such people makes me feel like I murdered an innocent soul, no matter that happens unknowingly. I am rude out of my emotional unavailability & I have no issues asking forgiveness whenever I fuck up.
There is no such problem between two people which can’t be resolved with a heart to heart conversation. OWN YOURSELF. It’s our responsibility to be stay in sync with own emotions & responsibilities.
Start from “You know nothing”. Then learn to know yourself. Once you know yourself, it’s your responsibility to create YOURSELF. There is nothing called destiny or wisdom, it’s all about how you find & create you.
Doesn’t matter what’s your state of mind right now, learn to face your truth & responsibilities. We need to move forward in life always, don’t lapse it.
One tiny tip; do something for your financial stability. That’s gonna lift you higher on a longer run. Progress is the only pattern of life. Don’t smash your growth by holding yourself back in any negativity.