Happiness doesn’t start with a relationship.
Happiness doesn’t start with a vacation.
Happiness doesn’t start with a job.
Happiness doesn’t start with money.
It’s how you deal with stress in each little moment that determines how well you achieve happiness in the end.
If you want life to be happier, you need to change your present response.
Happiness starts with you.
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10 THINGS YOU REALIZE WHEN YOU GET MATURE;
1. Gossiping is boring, useless and time-wasting.
2. You don’t find the phone call from you mom annoying because you care about her.
3. Talk less, listen more and let other people shine.
4. It’s okay if you don’t know everything.
5. Speak up for yourself, or people never know.
6. It’s good to be serious sometimes.
7. Stop to find any excuses and deal with the problem.
8. Time is precious.
Say NO to people who waste your time.
9. Love yourself more.
Don’t hurt yourself for someone else.
10. Cherish friends who are always there when you need them.
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If you can’t manage $1,000,
you can’t manage $10,000.
If you’re not happy on your own,
you won’t be happy in a relationship.
If you don’t feel good now,
you won’t feel good when you have everything you’re working toward.
Money doesn’t make you good with money.
Love doesn’t make you love yourself.
Success doesn’t make you happier unless you are already happy.
You are your own foundation.
If your foundation is not solid, nothing else can stand on it.
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6 places to stay silent at all cost;
1. Be silent if you don’t know the full story.
2. Be silent in the heat of anger.
3. Be silent if your words can offend a person.
4. Be silent if your words can destroy a friendship.
5. Be silent if you can’t talk without yelling.
6. Be silent if your silence can save bonds.
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Surround yourself with people that push you to do better.
No drama or mess.
Just higher goals.
And higher vibrations.
Good times.
And positive energy.
No jealousy.
No hate.
Simply bringing out the absolute best in each other.
Focus on the goodness of a person’s character & company.
Vibe & thrive.
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If you can’t manage $1,000,
you can’t manage $10,000.
If you’re not happy on your own,
you won’t be happy in a relationship.
If you don’t feel good now,
you won’t feel good when you have everything you’re working toward.
Money doesn’t make you good with money.
Love doesn’t make you love yourself.
Success doesn’t make you happier unless you are already happy.
You are your own foundation.
If your foundation isn’t solid, nothing else can stand on it.
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Be an adult.
Mend relationships that you find valuable.
Don’t let pride destroy good things.
But,
Also be an adult.
Don’t let people play you.
Did you know gratitude –
–Shields you from negativity.
-Makes you at least 25% happier.
-Rewires your brain.
–Eliminates stress.
–Heals.
-Improves sleep.
-Boosts self-esteem and performance.
-Enhances the law of attraction.
-Improves relationships.
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Be an adult.
Mend relationships that you find valuable.
Don’t let pride destroy good things.
But also be an adult.
Don’t let people play you.
People dont abandon people they love.
People abandon people they were using.
Social media has created jealous behavior over illusions.
Sadly some are envious of things, relationships & lifestyles that don’t even exist.
7 FACTS WILL MAKE YOU INFINITELY HAPPIER;
1. Wake up every morning & say, “this is going to be the best day of my life”, and it will be.
2. The moment you realize you are responsible for every aspect of your life is when you are completely free.
3. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy.
You just have to understand yourself.
4. To love & respect yourself, simply be yourself.
5. Life is in constant flux.
Savor the moments we enjoy and know that those we don’t will pass.
6. The self is always changing.
What matters is how we create the self we wish to be every moment.
7. We only have so much time.
It’s okay and crucial to cut off things that are unnecessary.
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Stop trying to rebuild bonds you didn’t break.
Fuck those people.
(Lines stolen from my bestfriend Demi’s wall.)
Instead of feeling like you’re behind, feel grateful for any setbacks you’ve had in your life and each lesson you have learned along the way.
Be grateful for each relationship and what you were able to learn about yourself through falling in and out of love.
Feel proud of how strong you have become from each time you were left to put the pieces of your broken heart back together.
Be grateful that you learned that you will heal again no matter what you go through.
You should be proud that you learned how to recognize and move on from situations that are no longer good for you.
You might feel like you are behind, but when you really think about it, everything you have been through has made you the person you are now.
Your experience is your strength, and you shouldn’t wish to change that for anything.
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Never RE-FRIEND A PERSON that has tried to destroy your character, your money or your relationships.
A SNAKE only SHEDS ITS SKIN to become a BIGGER SNAKE.
(Not my words.)
COMMUNICATION is vital to every relationship.
There are people out there whose personalities just don’t mix with yours.
Don’t waste your time trying to figure out why.
Just go where you are wanted and understood, and everything else will fall into place.
If there’s someone in your life you are having trouble communicating with, try to work it out.
Be sure the tone in your voice comes from a place of love and respect to connect with them.
Communicate, understand each other, fix issues, stay together & vibe.
That’s MATURITY.
Only surround yourself with people who you can communicate with.
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If only people understood how important it is to be consistent.
Everything that has value in life is a product of consistency.
Success, health, fitness, wealth, friendships, relationships, and all other aspirations are all about consistency.
How to get rid of your adult problems;
– Wake up early.
– Work out regularly.
– Eat good, real food.
– Live below your means.
– Hangout with true friends who share similar goals & vision.
– Focus on building more than one source of income.
– Do what you love for work.
– Don’t get into meaningless relationships.
– Never hit the snooze button.
– Create a routine.
– Write down your plans & journal your life’s journey with it’s success.
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If only people understood how important it is to be consistent.
Everything that has value in life is a product of consistency.
Success, health, fitness, wealth, friendships, relationships, and all other aspirations are all about consistency.
How to be the main character of your LIFE;
LIVE WITH PURPOSE-
The first step to some major main character energy is to live with purpose.
As the main character of your life, one of the worst possible things you can do is to let it pass you by.
The goals, desires, and accomplishments you hope to see happen are up to you to work towards.
SET BOUNDARIES-
While you’re learning to be main character in your life, you need to develop confidence and comfortability in setting boundaries with other people.
You know what you want, and what’s important to you, and you need to be okay with removing things and relationships that don’t allow you to maintain those.
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Communication is vital to every relationship.
There are people out there whose personalities just don’t mix with yours.
Don’t waste your time trying to figure out why.
Just go where you are wanted and understood, and everything else will fall into place.
If there’s someone in your life you are having trouble communicating with, try to work it out.
Be sure the tone in your voice comes from a place of love and respect to connect with them.
Only surround yourself with people who you can communicate with.
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NINE SENTENCES I WISH I’D READ SOONER;
• These hard times, this pain, these lessons – one day they’ll be your strength, your awareness, your blessings.
• Stop expecting honesty from people who lie to themselves.
• You’ll never look good trying to make someone look bad.
• Save your explanations for those that are determined to understand you.
• Give your silence to those that are determined to misunderstand you.
• Your life is too short to be unhappy 5 days a week in exchange for 2 days of freedom.
• Don’t be upset from people you don’t respect.
• Life is not tiring. Wanting life to be a certain way but not having the confidence to make it that way, is tiring.
• Your consistent approach to anything you desire dictates your success in career, business & relationships.
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If you feel like you’re torn between who the world is telling you to be and who your heart is telling you to be, go with your heart.
Always go with your heart.
The world may be telling you to go one way with your relationships, your career, your friendships, your home.
The world may be telling you to act a certain way,
be less emotional,
be more emotional,
be louder,
be softer,
to be something else.
Don’t listen.
Quiet down the outside world however you can meditate, take a trip, shut off your phone, open your journal and listen to what your heart is telling you deep inside.
Listen to how it feels about your career, your relationships.
Listen to how it feels about your life.
At the end of the day, you will never go wrong when you follow your heart because, that’s the AUTHENTIC version of you. (Not my words.)
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BRUTAL LIFE LESSONS;
1. No one will ever be able to make you feel loved unless you love yourself.
2. We will all eventually become old and unattractive in the eyes of society.
3. You can’t always get what/who you want.
4. Love, dating, and relationship can’t be figured out logically.
They require empathy, vulnerability, truth, consistency and honesty.
5. You can’t change others.
6. The person who cares less has the most power in a relationship.
7. When in love, everyone becomes an idiot.
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Certain things i wish i knew sooner:
1. If taking care of yourself means letting someone down, then let someone down.
2. Never let rejection lead to self-rejection.
3. What happened yesterday may not be your responsibility, but how you behave today is upto you.
4. Obsessing over the things that society said you’re supposed to do will kill your happiness.
Everyone is different and your path to happiness will be different too.
5. My low maintenance relationships are my strongest.
6. If you want to enjoy your life, don’t subscribe to other people’s definition of ‘fun‘.
Your fun belongs to you, make sure you define it.
7. Stop expecting honesty from people who lie to themselves.
People who are inconsistent aren’t going anywhere in their life, stop planning a journey with them.
8. If you learn to read books, you can be smart.
If you learn to read yourself, you can be anything.
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If only people understood how important it is to be consistent.
Everything that has value in life is a product of consistency.
Success, health, fitness, wealth, friendships, relationships, and all other aspirations are all about consistency.
4 KEY STEPS TO MANIFESTING:
GRATITUDE:
Be grateful for what you have right now. Manifestation happens when you’re vibrating on a high frequency, so so if you’re living day to day being ungrateful, you are emitting a low frequency.
GET CLEAR:
Become explicitly clear on them by writing them down, looking at them every single day, saying them out loud, writing them in a journal, and/or affirming them through powerful affirmations.
VISUALISE:
Close your eyes and visualise yourself having the things you desire, visualise yourself as if you already have them, visualise this beautiful life you’re trying to manifest.
TAKE ACTION:
Your dream job, dream relationship, or even that million pounds, aren’t just going to arrive on your doorstep.
Instead, the Universe will send you powerful signs and powerful opportunities.
Don’t ignore them – take action.
Say yes. Get moving.
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6 Ways to fill your LIFE with PROSPERITY:
1. Make a personal commitment to add more value than you are paid for in your work/business relationships.
2. Live out of your imagination rather than out of your memory by constantly envisioning yourself having all you want.
3. Get in the habit of blessing your money and silently hoping that it helps the person you give it to.
4. Spend one hour this week journaling about your beliefs around money so that you heighten your awareness as to any blocks and resistance to having more.
5. In your journal make a collage of images showing others living the life you want.
6. Become the most giving person you know.
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As you mature, the more you realize these 12 things:
1: No one has it all together.
2: Trusting your gut the first time is usually the best option.
3: The world is more gray than black and white.
4: You can’t control other people.
5: Holding grudges is not the best use of your time.
6: Being honest could save you a lot of time.
7: Childhood, although short, was very impactful.
8: Life is too short to stay in unhealthy relationships.
9: People tell you exactly who they are and it’s your job to listen.
10: Winning an argument is not as important as finding a solution.
11: Having a support system improves your mood and quality of life.
12: Everything and everyone is not worth your energy.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I have heard enough of LOVE ABOVE MONEY or similar bullshits very often. Most people prefer not talking about MONEY as if it’s a taboo. On the other hand, i love it when someone says “I LOVE MONEY & I LOVE MAKING MONEY. ALL MY DEMANDS ARE FROM MYSELF”. First learn about it, then implement it. Investment is a sexy thing.)
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How to be the main character of your life:
1. LIVE WITH PURPOSE:
The first step to some major main character energy is to live with purpose.
As the main character of your life, one of the worst possible things you can do is to let it pass you by.
The goals, desires, and accomplishments you hope to see happen are up to you to work towards.
2. SET BOUNDARIES:
While you’re learning to be main character in your life, you need to develop confidence and comfortability in setting boundaries with other people.
You know what you want, and what’s important to you and you need to be okay with removing things and relationships that don’t allow you to maintain those.
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KNOWING THESE 7 FACTS WILL MAKE YOU INFINITELY HAPPIER:
1. Wake up every morning, say, ‘this is going to be the best day of my life’, and it will be.
2. The moment you realize you are responsible for every aspect of your life is when you are completely free.
3. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy.
You just have to understand yourself.
4. To love yourself, simply be yourself.
5. Life is in constant flux.
Savor the moments we enjoy and know that those we don’t will pass.
6. The self is always changing.
What matters is how we create the self we wish to be every moment.
7. We only have so much time.
It’s okay and crucial to cut off things that are unnecessary.
Tap OUT..💪
You made a plan and it failed?
Who cares, try again.
Got in a relationship and failed?
Who cares, try again.
Lost money trying something new?
Who cares, try again.
Fell off your gym routine?
Who cares, try again.
Gained back the weight you lost?
Who cares, try again.
BECAUSE THE BEST, IS STILL YET TO COME.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it for some easy peasy fun. Superwog is funny for good reasons.)
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“MONEY DOESN’T BUY HAPPINESS” IS SOMETHING ONLY A RICH PERSON WOULD SAY.
An EXTRA million won’t do anything good for a rich person, but FOR PEOPLE in poverty, money is the greatest ANTI-DEPRESSANT in the world.
12 Habits you don’t realize are killing you slowly:
1. You skip breakfast/meals all the time.
2. You spend money you don’t have.
3. You are entertaining an unhappy relationship/friendship/marriage.
4. You text while you walk.
5. You skip your exercise/workout routine.
6. You snack when you’re not hungry.
7. You overwork yourself.
8. You bite your nails.
9. Your posture goes unchecked.
10. You have a severe lack of sleep.
11. You skip out on the vitamin D.
12. You load up on the caffeine.
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If only people understood how important it is to be consistent.
Everything that has value in life is a product of consistency.
Success, health, fitness, wealth, friendships, relationships, and all other aspiration: are all about CONSISTENCY.
I know people who graduated college at 21, and didn’t get a salary job until they were 27.
I know people who graduated at 25 and already had a salary job.
I know people who have children and are single.
I know people who are married and had to wait 8-10 years to be parents.
I know people who are in a relationship and love someone else.
I know people who love each other and aren’t together.
There are people waiting to love and be loved.
My point is, everything in life happens according to our time, our clock.
You may look at your friends and some may seem to be ahead or behind you, but they’re not, they’re living according to the pace of their clock, so be patient.
You’re not falling behind, it’s just not your time.
(Not my words.)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I shared it just because i like this one. Very few will understand where this song is heading.)
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There’s nothing more unattractive than when I see someone acting really nice to someone who has power and treating someone else badly because in their eyes they are lower on the social ladder.
The best way to find out who someone really is, is to notice if they treat all people with equality.
If they don’t, it’s worth reevaluating your relationship.
Treat all people the same, with love, respect, and kindness, regardless of their financial or social position in life.
You are no better or worse than anyone else because of what you have or don’t have.
If you want to see the true measure of a man, watch how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.
-J. K. ROWLING.
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Throw away the idea that you need to pause your life until you are fully healed; this is a different way of being attached to perfection.
Progress happens when you make better decisions in the midst of living.
You can simultaneously heal your past while being open to the present.
You deserve to be in spaces and relationships that make you happy; that feed your soul and help you grow.
You are worthy of connections that are loving, nourishing and genuine.
Before you settle for anything less than, remind yourself that the places you visit and people you journey with through life should make you feel safe, loved and enough.
-Alex elle.
Everyone wants to know how i tolerate my bestfriend DEMI since past 700 years of our friendship because her attitude is bit aggressive?
Let me answer & YES, it’s a long answer:
We were attending Lory’s birthday party near Cardiff bay. Party was over & some Justin Bieber song started playing. DEMI walked towards me & said; “Rudey, my pussy is drying up because of this shit song. Let’s leave & let’s drive to Tenby. We will talk about everything after reaching the beach.”
We both laughed & i still remember those exact words. And Yes, DEMI still calls me RUDEY because of my rude/angry/grumpy face.
We went through a bad fight before 5 months of that birthday party & i stopped talking to Demi. I decided i must allow her some time to think & respond logically instead of continuing that fight.
Only few friends know Tenby is my favourite coastal town in Britain & i prefer afternoon swimming when i think about relaxing.
DEMI made the right choice with place & timing.
We went swimming & she broke the ice while chilling at beach. We had a long open vivid conversation about everything which went loose.
We were able to come back stronger.
Years gone & our equation keeps getting better with time.
No matter how much i deny, she is the sassiest angel i ever came across. Bestfriends for some good reasons, and i can’t appreciate more.
27-Feb is the date we had a bad fight & we both stopped communication for 5 months. We both still talk about the stupid reason behind it & what we missed in those 5 months. We laugh at each other’s silent treatment. We tease each other about why that was just unnecessary.
We humans always take goodness for granted & our ego stops us from accepting our flaws.
We miss opportunities.
We disrespect good people.
Sometimes we hurt others without even knowing.
We make blunders easily.
But there are very few who accept & cross that path to acknowledge own mess.
Who says it’s easy!!
Very few are ready to talk about what’s wrong in them & why they are ready to change for better instead of farting from mouth “THAT’S HOW I AM”.
I admire those who strive to be a better human.
It’s easy to go vulnerable towards such people who come with clean intentions.
Every equation can be easy, soothing, happening & loving.
JUST CHOOSE THOSE WHO CHOOSE YOU.
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I think the most important thing in life is self-love.
Because if you don’t have self-love and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?
Be you. Own yourself.
My body is my home.
And a home requires love, patience and care.
So this is a note to myself and anyone else who may need it,
You’re enough.
You’re alive.
You’re needed.
You’re valuable.
And I’m proud of you.
Even when times are hard you wake up, you breathe, you feel, you’re alive.
You’re constantly changing, evolving, growing.
Always moving forward.
Even though it might not always feel like it.
I’m proud of you for being you and for committing to yourself.
You’re in this relationship for life.
It’s time to embrace yourself.
Be you.
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You can always start again.
Clean out your social media.
Create a new account for your new taste in music.
Study or work in a new city.
Start socialising with new people.
Choose a new signature scent and style and purge the outdated parts of yourself.
If you don’t like where you’re at & you don’t know what to do about it, simply try starting again.
THE BEST IS YET TO COME.
You can’t fully love anybody until you love yourself.
As great as it feels being in a relationship, at the end of the day, if you’re not happy with yourself, having a boyfriend or girlfriend won’t change that.
You’re only going to be with your significant other while you’re awake.
It’s your consciousness that falls asleep on your pillow every night, not theirs.
Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you.
Any happiness you get, you’ve got to make yourself.
Be a healthier happier successful version of yourself first.
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There’s nothing more unattractive than when I see someone acting really nice to someone who has power and treating someone else badly because in their eyes they are lower on the social ladder.
The best way to find out who someone really is, is to notice if they treat all people with equality.
If they don’t, it’s worth reevaluating your relationship.
Treat all people the same, with love, respect, and kindness, regardless of their financial or social position in life.
You are no better or worse than anyone else because of what you have or don’t have.
If you want to see the true measure of a man, watch how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.
-J. K. ROWLING.
Tap OUT..✌️
Don’t waste time with people who don’t appreciate and value you for everything you have to offer.
I see people keep chasing someone thinking they can change them or friends who don’t have their best interests at heart, but it doesn’t work that way.
One of the keys to lasting relationships and friendships is MUTUAL RESPECT.
Don’t squander your time chasing anyone who has told you they don’t want you around.
Evaluate all your relationships and weed out the negative ones.
Go where you are wanted and stray from where you aren’t.
Surround yourself with positive people and environments.
(Not my words.)
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Nobody is perfect.
Equally important is knowing how to forgive yourself.
Do not obsess over your past mistakes.
The more you obsess and hold on to it, the more energy and power you give it.
So let it go, learn from it, and move on.
Forgive yourself for a mistake you made or something you’ve done that you now regret.
Allow yourself to let it go.
Leave all your inconsistent behaviour behind.
Learn to be in sync with life.
It can be your career, hobbies, relationship or your health, learn to be CONSISTENT if you want success in any field of your life.
Live with no regrets.
Life is fun, let it be.
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You can forgive someone and yet not want anything to do with them.
People need to understand that forgiveness is for past reconciliation and not for future consideration.
Relationships between family, friends, significant others, and colleagues are complicated and full of learning experiences.
Nobody comes into this world knowing everything.
We all go through different experiences, make mistakes, have successes, and then make more mistakes that we can learn from.
The ability to trust and listen to the people in your life is the foundation all healthy relationships are built on.
While talking to friends, make sure you are really listening to what they have to say and aren’t distracted by something else.
You owe that to them and you would want the same in return.
Trust is a bond between two people that is found only when they are able to listen and understand where the other person is coming from.
That to me is the only key to friendships and relationships.
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LOVE is not enough.
LOVE is not enough for a long-term committed healthy relationship to fully work.
We have been told our whole life that “LOVE IS ALL YOU NEED”, which is pure bullshit.
You need VALUES, VISION, LIFESTYLE, RESPECT, CONSISTENCY and MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING.
And all these accumulate to immense amount of TRUST, which is the basic foundation of a COMMITMENT.
“A relationship without TRUST is like a car without gas. You can sit in the car as much & as longer as you want, but it’s going nowhere”. (Not my words.)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch the whole video to know more about where we are heading in future. If you don’t have time to watch entire video, watch it from 19:50 to next 1-minute. If you are living in a developed nation, controlling our population is not the right way to go. If we don’t have more children, our civilization is going to crumble. We always need enough people to work & pay taxes for our survival, or else by 2050 this same tiktok generation of dumbfucks will be on streets protesting about government’s inability to provide a healthy social security & pension system.)
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Mama says:
Entering/Entertaining a relationship is a holy thing.
Honouring/Respecting that commitment is divine.
Starting a family with a beautiful person is godly.
When you allow people to your life, first become a happy peaceful beautiful soul & ask the same from other side.
(Here BEAUTIFUL PERSON means someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT.)
A best friend is someone you can count on wholeheartedly.
Someone who you can trust to tell your deepest and darkest secrets to, and not have a worry in the world that a rumor will spread throughout the town.
A best friend is someone who supports your every decision even if they may not always agree with it.
A best friend is someone who is honest enough to tell you the truth, but loyal enough to remain by your side.
A best friend is chosen family.
Someone who can get on your nerves,
but at the end of the day you know who really has your back and your best interest at heart.
A best friend is knowing that out of all the human beings in the world, you two choose each other.
Next few lines are for my university mates who always question my equation & my snapchat stories with my bestfriend DEMI, just because i am one happy happening sweet gentle naughty TAP. OK little bit grumpy as well sometimes.
So, did DEMI ask me to make 2 babies with her for the 958th time when she was little drunk?
Answer is; Yes.
Did i push her in winter wonderland ice bar right after that question?
Answer is; Yes ofcourse. If i get a chance, i will do that again & again every single day.
DEMI, SORRY MY BESTIE BITCH. YOU KNOW I HATE YOU FR.😘😜😂
Tap OUT..🤪
I’ve reached a point in my life where people’s words or actions mean close to nothing.
If I don’t see a consistent behaviour, it ain’t true.
The end.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Rude Buddha, one of my favourite sketches from SNL. This video is 8 years old, there’s Karen, Nirvana spelled wrong as Nivrana & 11ish in it.)
I’ve seen busy people make time.
I’ve seen bad communicators communicate well.
I’ve seen bad texters respond quickly and write paragraphs.
I’ve seen people who “aren’t ready for a relationship” get ready in few conversations.
I’ve seen a girl proposing me in front of 24 friends to marry her ASAP on my birthday, who used to say “I DON’T NEED A MAN TO BE HAPPY” since 7 years.
(Hello Lioness😜).
A healthy adult relationship is one where both people in the relationship give and both receive.
There is a safe, equal and open exchange of ideas, communication, feelings, and thoughts and all perspectives are considered and valued.
There is also the freedom to respectfully challenge, heal, confront, and strengthen one another.
At the end what matters is a TRUTHFUL CONSISTENT person who gets you, no matter what’s coming.
If someone wants you, you won’t have to ask for effort.
Tap OUT..♌
How rare the trust is these days, how small the case looks like a strong bond based on openness and honesty, how small the chance seems to be a bit of loyalty and commitment?!?
Even smaller is the chance of a combination of the above, smaller and almost rare.
We all want it, in fact we all call it.
We claim to be loyal, to be open, to be honest,
but if we are all, how does distrust arise?
The disappointment?
The abuse of trust and the use of someone else?
Whether it’s love, friendship or family.
We all want the same thing.
We all want respect, trust, honesty, communication, openness and loyalty consistently.
Be aware of your choices, your actions and consequences before you harm a relationship, a relationship that is self-reliant today.
If you want them to be true to you, then stay true to yourself first. (Not my words).
Tap OUT..💪
Find someone who loves you well.
Someone who never belittles you even in the heat of an argument.
Someone who is gentle with you, but does not treat you like you are fragile.
Someone who knows what you are capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you.
Not someone who is intimidated by your strength.
Someone who doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed.
It is not love’s job to punish you.
And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short.
No one is perfect do not hold them to this standard.
Find someone who is patient, consistent, forgiving, and apologetic.
Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often.
Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic.
Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket.
Common courtesy is important.
Compassion is important.
Kindness is important.
Now that i mentioned something about relationships twice in a day, my university friends will again start questioning whether i am seeing someone! Let me answer even before that question pops up. Most of my posts are scheduled a month advance. Typing these two paragraphs today right before the post goes live.
I entertained something inconsistent for a while. Whatever happened, I am not strong enough to blame or hate anyone. Let’s say, that was my fault. I am in the process of becoming single. In Snapchat, if you see my hands resting on some girl’s fine 🍑, high chances it’s either my bestie DEMI or my neighbour girl. Yes, i have a ting towards athletic girls.♌ But I don’t have a TYPE whom i want to date. First i have to be ready, next the connection must vibe positivity & remain consistent, that’s all. The most beautiful part about a girl where my heart goes little weak; when i feel she is grabbing my arms little stronger looking into my eyes with a wide big bright smile, while crossing baby/kid’s clothing section in shopping malls. Everyone knows i adore kids, they are angelic to me. 2023 goal is to become the best A+ dad world has ever seen, and i will settle to be a good B+ boyfriend/husband i guess.😂
Tap OUT..✌️
Mama once said;
“When someone has options in LOVE, he/she has no LOVE, no STANDARDS & no SELF-RESPECT. It’s just cheap character at play”.
I second this one.
If your relationship to the present moment is not right, nothing can ever be right in the future.
Because when the future comes, it’s the present moment.
– Eckhart Tolle.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. During Syria & Yemen crisis, EU absorbed almost half million refugees/migrants. Current data shows almost 160,000 of those have just gone missing/out of records. Nobody knows whether they are dead, turned into angels or terrorists. I guess it’s right time to take a strong stance against illegal migration at every part of the world. Corona virus cases are going high once again & winter is around, no one is ready for more bullshit.)
You deserve someone who can’t WAIT to talk to you
& spend time with you
& get to know you
& fall in love with you.
Stop settling for halfhearted, lukewarm, hesitant, inconsistent & indecisive.
It’s soooooooooo much better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you FEEL ALONE.
Some people love you.
Some people love to be around you.
Some love what you can do for them.
Understand the difference.
Learn the difference between connection and attachment.
One brings consistency, the other is fakefuckery.
One gives you power, the other sucks the life out of you.
A high school teacher once said;
“Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”.
I took those words bit too seriously i guess.
Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes:
Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway:
Whatever struggle you are facing in your life,
make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love.
When you are filled with anger or hate,
the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care.
Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
Tap OUT..🖖
When two givers indulge in a connection, it’s like magic.
It’s alchemy.
I water you,
you water me,
we never drain each other,
we just vibe & grow.
🦁
Be with someone who is invested in you.
I don’t mean someone who thinks you’re cute or funny.
I mean someone who wants to know every insignificant detail about you.
Someone who wants to read every word you write.
Someone who wants to hear every note of your favorite song,
and watch every scene of your favorite movie.
Someone who wants to find every scar upon your body,
and learn where each one came from.
Someone who communicates with both head & heart.
Someone who knows why you prefer black coffee & sourdough pizza.
Someone who wants to know your favorite brand of toothpaste & shower gel,
and which quotes resonate deep inside your bones when you hear them.
There is a difference between attraction, interest & the word i mentioned INVEST.
Find the person who wants to learn every aspect of who you are, and hold onto them.
Every relationship/equation/friendship in your life are an immense investment of consistent time & energy, never offer discounts on that.
Tap OUT..✌️
If only people understood how important it is to be consistent.
Everything that has value in life is a product of consistency.
Success,
health,
fitness,
wealth,
friendships,
relationships,
and all other aspirations are all about CONSISTENCY.
Few ways you can express how you feel towards someone;
1. I love you.
2. I need you.
3. I want you.
4. I want to be with you.
5. I don’t want to be without you.
6. I can’t live without you.
7. I miss you.
NEED, needs can be met somewhere else & being needy means being weak as well.
LOVE, this word is highly misused by people & especially someone like me needs a year to trust after a year of healing.
WANT is my favourite & number-3 is my pick out of all these 7.
WANT is that animalistic desire inside.
Which means i know i have few suitors/options, but who cares because it’s you and just you that i WANT for myself.
In case you love someone, remind them constantly & consistently that YOU WANT THEM.
Last time someone said “I WANT YOU” to me was on my birthday.
I haven’t replied that till now.
Never rushed towards anyone.
Never allowed anyone to rush towards me either.
The simple reason is;
“If someone is investing their time & energy on me, that person deserves a whole TAP”.
I am that kind of a person who hides nothing.
My only secrets are my bank account/credit card pin or my email/social media account passwords.
And right now, i am still in that phase of healing i mentioned above.
Whenever i say “LIONESS” in my posts, it’s my appreciation to that person who understands where i am coming from & why.
Appreciated for picking/dropping me at airport.
Appreciated for taking me out to my favourite brunch.
Appreciated for buying me a pair of white vans kicks after watching squid games.
Appreciated for helping me with carwash.
Appreciated for typing my thesis.
Very few people come with a clean heart & no stupid outlandish expectations.
So LIONESS, Like your favourite alphabet is T, my favourite word is “APPRECIATION”.
Rest all are a LEO-LEO thing i guess.😜
Every relationship of your life is a major investment of time & energy.
Take your sweet time, that says all about who’s who.
Tap OUT..🤗
Get honest with people about who you are,
what you want,
and how you expect to be treated.
Standards only scare off the people not meant for you.
Some people have a problem,
they can’t digest respect & good vibes.
Stay away from those,
such people don’t deserve your LOVE or ATTENTION.
My bestfriend DEMI asked me yesterday “whether i will stop hanging out with her after i get a girlfriend/partner/wife or someone significant?”. I am answering this with few lines, so that she can bookmark & read it as many times she wants. I hide nothing from no one.
Here’s my answer:
My blood’s origin goes back to an eastern state of India called ODISHA. Since childhood i was taught few things which are embedded in my mind now:
1. Study, learn, get qualified & make lots of money with that knowledge. Because society is either judgemental or materialistic which respects power of MONEY & KNOWLEDGE.
2. Live for love, respect, family, and LOVE+RESPECT towards family. That’s why we have huge families.
3. MONEY you made mustn’t be used to flex in front of others. Use it to keep your family happy.
4. Invest in gold & land, this is the big kicker. That’s the reason most Indian men crave to buy more than one property & Indian women are obsessed with 24 carat pure gold jewelleries.😂 That’s all.
So one day when i enter a stable relationship, the sole purpose is to start my own family someday soon or sooner. I know whom & what to prioritise. But remember one thing dumb bitch, i feel like i know you since my past life. You are not just my bestfriend, i consider you family. You will always have 24/7 access to my house, my lap, a piggyback ride to beach & access to me no matter it’s pouring/sunny/snowing. Don’t get emotional DEMI, we are not discussing anything about this post during facetime.
Tap OUT..✌️
Mama once said;
“We don’t just entertain friends/relationships outta fun, we build them over time, we respect them & we keep them. That’s why never accept or serve discounted garbage”.
I was in my teen days.
I was still getting pocket money from parents.
I wasn’t able to understand those heavy/right words.
I thought my mum was talking about not buying discounted clothes/stuffs or wasting money with friends during weekend trips.
Most of my friends know i hate discounted clothes now too.
In fact, i don’t have a single piece of clothing from any fast fashion brands.
Coming closer to my 30, now i am understanding that she told me not to hangout with people who have discounted/cheap personality/approach/attitude/mindset, It took me almost 14 years to figure out the real meaning behind those wise words.
Being a MAN means progression of understanding, knowledge, acceptance & virtue while developing better habits.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it to understand how your shopping habits are shaping a climate & humanitarian disaster. There’s a reason I never buy clothes from H&M, Zara, TK Maxx or any store/brand with 50% discount board. I buy clothes which cost at least a hundred quid or more, and i wear them for ages. They stay with me because, I know I have spent enough money to buy them. And i fully remember how much I paid, I have a photographic memory. Fun part is, I still have t-shirts, jackets, hoodies & sneakers from my 8th grade & engineering college days which fit perfectly even today. FYI, I am a sneakerhead & my love for watches is something divine.)
Tap OUT..✌️
MONEY. Beggar, daily wage workers, salaried employees, businessman, stock market investors, everyone makes money & everyone wants money.
Beggar wants money right right now.
Daily wage workers want money at the end of their workday, let’s say daily payments.
Employees work because they want monthly salary.
Businessman invests money & waits for few months to recover his investment with some profit on top.
Share market investor invests & waits for years to see where his investment heading next.
Now, let’s talk about the fun part in it.
There are only two winners in this money game.
1. The businessman who’s is building wealth while working for himself.
2. The stock market investor is building generational wealth. Here i am referring those who invest in hedge funds & multi-bagger stocks.
In other two cases of employees & begger, the person who wants money earliest is the poorest one.
Actually in all 4 scenarios, the person who waits the longest for MONEY is also the RICHEST, he is the one who has the highest amount of PATIENCE.
Never run behind EASY/QUICK MONEY, the outcome will be devastating.
Urge towards EASY/QUICK MONEY is the reflection of cheap mindset, lack of knowledge & major character flaws in a person’s PERSONALITY.
Learn about how MONEY works in our current world & have PATIENCE in learning.
Same i can say for education, relationships & weightloss journey/fitness as well, your PATIENCE is the only determining factor.
God has a perfect timing for everything; never early, never late.
It takes a little patience and faith.
But it’s worth the wait, always.
(This video got something to do with the post above. If you have patience, watch it. And the title of this video is: WHY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE ARE AGGRESSIVELY PATIENT!.)
Tap OUT..✌️
If someone is disrespecting or mistreating you,
there is something wrong with them, not you.
Good people don’t intend to hurt others.
Good people & good intentions go hand in hand.
Healthy relationships feel boring to people who are used to relationships filled with toxicity, inconsistency & drama.
They are not sure what to do with LOVE that is calm, kind, drama free, non toxic & doesn’t require them to constantly make painful sacrifices.
A healthy relationship is fun, consistent & always smooth sailing even during bad times, PERIOD.
(This paragraph got nothing to do with the post above. I promised to pay for one friend’s weekend trip & vacation. But 11 CMU cunts responded over facetime & iMessage within 15 minutes of my post. All i can say is, you assholes make me feel like superman or some kinda happy excited kid with so much care & attention. Ton of respect & love. I am grateful & delighted. Because it’s a celebration, entire vacation is on me. Click here DEMI, talking about this post, I HATE YOU.)😂 Pasted wrong link here, now corrected.
There are people who notice you only when you shine,
or when you fall into the darkness.
Not the average you.
Not the mediocre you.
But the great you, or the not-so-great you.
The people who are worthiest of your care are not those who only notice you at your best and worst but those who are with you at all times.
They don’t need an excuse to love you.
They don’t need an excuse to talk to you,
or to ask you how you’re doing!!
They don’t need an excuse to share their happiness with you.
They don’t need an explanation.
They give you one without you asking for it.
They assume the good in you before the bad.
So keep eyes open just so you don’t miss those people.
Such equations take long long time & trust to develop.
Once you find them, never let them go because those are not just friends but family members.
They’re life companions.
They are the people who will tell you when you are wrong simply because they’ve allowed themselves to tie their well-being to yours. (Not my words).
Vibe with people who are good for you.
Tap OUT..😍
People who say/think “there’s lots of fish in the sea” always forget “there’s also lot of trash in the sea”.
Man-made trash to be precise.😂
(This music video got nothing to do with the post above. Only one person knows why i shared it. Hands up ♌.)
TRUST is a bond between two people that is found only when they are able to listen and understand where the other person is coming from.
That to me is the key to friendships and relationships.
Relationships between family, friends, significant others, and colleagues are complicated and full of learning experiences.
Nobody comes into this world knowing everything.
We all go through different experiences, make mistakes, have successes, and then make more mistakes that we can learn from.
We all take our own sweet time to trust, evaluate, make a move, prepare and proceed.
When talking to friends or anyone who’s a part of your life, make sure you are really listening to what they have to say and aren’t distracted by something else.
Most people just listen to respond, reply, retaliate or react, which is complete nonsense.
Listen to understand, COMMUNICATION is the first step to TRUST.
You owe that to them and you would want the same in return.
The ability to trust and listen to the people in your life is the foundation all healthy relationships are built on.
(Not my words).
Tap OUT..✌️
Someone told me this about relationships which touched my heart;
“When it’s sent by God, it comes with confirmation.
But when it isn’t sent by God, it will come with inconsistency, hesitation, frustration, and confusion”.
I felt that for real.
Sometimes it’s better to just let things be,
let people go,
don’t fight for closure,
don’t ask for explanations,
don’t chase answers,
and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from.
And also sometimes it’s the little things.
It’s the shoulder/forehead kisses and cooked breakfasts and the “drive safe” texts or a long mail/letter on your birthday/anniversary/celebration milestones.
It’s those things that for some reason make you feel more loved than you ever have before.
It’s easy to plan elaborate nights out, meetings or small weekend trips, when someone can make you feel so happy just by doing the smallest things.
That’s when you know you’ve got something special in someone special.
It’s never about finding the right one.
A RIGHT PERSON IS RIGHT BECAUSE OF HIS/HER OWN WAYS WITH/WITHOUT YOU.
Tap OUT..✌️
Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself,
what you’re wearing,
who you’re around,
what you’re doing.
Recreate and repeat.
– Warsan Shire.
You’re going to realize it one day that “HAPPINESS” was never about your job, or your degree, or being in a relationship.
Happiness was never about following in the footsteps of all of those who came before you.
It was never about being like the others.
One day, you’re going to see it that HAPPINESS was always about the discovery, the hope, the listening to your heart and following it wherever it chose to go.
Happiness was always about being kinder to yourself.
It was always about embracing the person you were becoming while being consistent about your approach towards yourself & others.
One day, you will understand that happiness was always about learning how to live with yourself, that happiness was never in the hands of other people.
It was always about you. It was always inside you.
Inner peace is the new success.
Health is the new wealth.
Kindness is the new cool.
Happiness is the new rich. (Not my words).
Tap OUT..🤗
My next relationship will be my last.
So I’m not looking,
I’m not worried,
And I’m not rushing.
I want this love to find me,
learn me,
want me,
need me,
spoil me with attention,
and love me in slow motion.
I am busy building something big & we have forever to go.
When I say I want to travel, I don’t mean I want to stay at resorts and go on tours with tour guides or buy key chains from souvenir shops.
I don’t want to be a tourist.
When I say I want to travel, I mean I want to explore another country and become part of it for 2-3 weeks.
I want to discover small coffee/baguette shops in France, churrerias in Spain, Pasta/Pizza in Italy and much more beyond.
I want to walk on beaches in Australia and browse the old book stores of London & Manchester.
I want to hike the great wall of china and go cliff diving in Hawaii.
I want to meet people who are not like me, but people who I can like all the same.
I want to take pictures of things and places and people I meet, not stupid selfies for Instagram.
I want my mind to be in constant awe of life on earth.
I want to see things with new eyes & an open mind.
I want to look at a map and be able to remember how I was transformed by the places I’ve been to, the things I’ve seen, and the people I’ve met.
I want to come home and realize that I have not come home whole, but have left a piece of my heart in each place I have been.
This, I think, is what is at the heart of adventure and this is why I plan on making my life one.
Basically i will retire in my 30s while i am still a PhD research scholar/student & all these are my retirement plans.
Everyone is entering relationship, getting engaged or married or pregnant, then entering depression or their 5-month validity of joy.
Meanwhile me & my bestfriend just wanna look fleek, stay single and travel, while building an automotive blog, selling atheleisure clothing & whey protein supplements online.
Travel because you don’t remember years, you remember memories/moments.
Tap OUT..✌️
Staying in a relationship just because you love somebody is not worth it.
Love is not all you need.
Respect is what you need.
Reassurance is what you need.
Communication is what you need.
Heart to heart conversation is what you need.
Happiness is what you need.
Knowing everyday you’re their favorite person is what you need.
Learn to love yourself first, let other one match it.
When someone not so familiar asks me “Ever been in LOVE!?!”.
My answer is: Yeah 3 times.
1. When i woke up at 5.45am today morning just wearing a trunk & i saw my 5 pack abs.
2. When i was getting ready for university, because now i am a PhD research scholar.
3. When i received my bank balance text after buying groceries at Lidl.
I fall in love with myself 3 times everyday.
Two exceptions i must mention;
1. When a kid accidentally says my name TAP after i touch his/her nose while saying TAP TAP TAP.
2. When a cute caucasian girl or a latina mami in a beach with a fine 🍑 approaches me, can’t beat that one.
Special mention; also when my bestie bitch makes coffee for me when i am working from home at her house. This one is dedicated for you Demi.
Done.
Tap OUT..😜
The universe will keep handing you the same lessons, same failures, the same relationships, the same type of love and the same type of pain until you realise that the common denominator is you.
Until you are finally tired of your own patterns.
Until you finally love yourself enough to raise your standards and believe you are worthy of holding them.
You see the thing is, until you learn to love yourself more, you will continue to accept the love that mirrors how you truly feel about yourself.
The answer to everything you desire is within you.
Desires must help you become a better you.
Now relax.
You’ll end up where you’re supposed to be.
Choose consistent truthful people to vibe & shine.
Be picky.
You glow differently when you have good people with good intentions in your life. (Not my words).
Tap OUT..✌️
Just always be the better person.
And make your intentions pure.
What and who you are is what will be remembered.
Pain is inevitable and it will always exist, but if you focus on understanding what you are and what you are feeling, and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.
The expectations we have often do not correspond with reality, we are disappointed every time this happens.
We become disappointed when we expect to be treated as we treat others.
When you start to realize that everyone is living at a different stage, thinking differently and making their choices, then you can only accept the fact that people do not share the same mind and heart.
When you want to be happy you have to let go of that and start with yourself, be the person you can be proud of, be an example, show respect and understanding.
Others may not change, but know that it is not up to you and be proud of how you are.
You’ve got so much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate.
Be a better you first. Life is fun, let it be.
Tap OUT..👍
Now a days most young people think RELATIONSHIPS are tough.
Let me tell you; “It’s two right individuals & their consistent effort to get everything going, Relationships are that easy”.
Question is;
Are you the RIGHT INDIVIDUAL first?
Don’t fall in LOVE too fast.
You think you know their dreams,
but you just know their plans.
Plans come from the head,
but dreams come from the heart.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I KNOW WHY MOST PEOPLE IN TECH COMMUNITY LIKE BUYING AGRICULTURAL FARMLAND.)
One day you will meet someone who chooses you & continues to choose you every moment every single day.
And that’s when you will be thankful that everything happened the way it did.
You are worth more than mixed signals & bad communication.
(This song got nothing to do with the post above. It’s from Shang-Chi & my workout track since yesterday. I had to share it.)
There is someone out there in the world that doesn’t have to be forced to fit into your puzzle called LIFE.
Do not take the risk of settling for someone if you’re uncertain of your feelings just because you want some kind of companionship.
There is someone out there who is meant for you.
Leave the door open for them to come in.
Until then: Focus on you.
Focus on pursuing your goals and give yourself the opportunity to make your dreams come true without being distracted by detours.
Surround yourself with family, loyal loved ones and successful people, that way you’ll learn how to succeed from them.
Learn to better yourself everyday by taking what they teach you and teaching what they taught you.
Be patient and keep yourself busy.
Allow love to catch up to you, but on its own time.
PATIENCE IS FUCKING GOLDEN. (Not my words).
Tap OUT..👍
Rejection doesn’t hurt, expectation does.
Lying doesn’t kill, denial does.
Forgetting doesn’t heal, forgiveness does.
Efforts doesn’t matter, consistency does.
Date her who walks you till your car.
Date her who dares to steal your hoodie in front of your face.
Date her who wants to meet your parents, and is respectful towards them.
Date her who respects your siblings and family members.
Date her who’s kind to animals, its a reflection of how she’ll treat usual people.
Date her who makes you smile.
Date her who looks confident with or without makeup.
Date her who will listen to your complain or accomplishments.
Date her who doesn’t force you to do things you don’t want to.
Date her who will come hang out and cuddle just cause she can.
Date her who loves you through the good and the bad.
Date her who has seen you angry, happy, sad, and still feels for you.
Date her who has a hunger for SUCCESS & hunger for more beyond that.
Date her who actually utilises her time to the fullest, so that she can value your TIME.
Now you know you aren’t entertaining someone boring/sluggish.
Life can easily remain exciting happy happening even in a relationship if you are dealing with a stronger individual, stronger in finance & faith.
Tap OUT..✌️
Be with someone who motivates you to do better in life.
Because relationships are more than just falling in love.
It’s about inspiring each other to become better versions of yourselves day in and day out.
Sometimes in life, you find a special friend.
Someone who changes your life just by being a part of it.
Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop.
Someone who makes you believe that there really is goodness in the world.
Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it.
This is forever friendship.
When you’re down and the world seems dark and empty,
your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full.
Your forever friend gets you through the hard times,
the sad times and the confused times.
If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows.
If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on.
Your forever friend holds your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay.
And if you find such a friend,
you feel happy and complete because you need not worry.
You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.
We say BEST FRIENDS. Not my words.
(This paragraph got nothing to do with the post above. DEMI, WE ARE BEST FRIENDS SINCE PAST 530 YEARS & THAT’S NOT CHANGING TILL 2070. Because you are you, you let me be me, still we find plenty of time to spoil each other, own each other and spam each other. I love it when my people grow stronger financially. CONGRATULATIONS TO YOUR NEXT CHAPTER.)
Tap OUT..🤗
According to science, latest studies in neurobiology and psychology have come up with a theory called “3 LOVE” and according to that theory you are likely to fall in love three times in your lifetime.
And only the third one is the love of your life.
Let me explain;
First: PUPPY LOVE.
It’s the first love that happens when you’re young.
It’s the idealistic.
Love that feels like a fairy tale, but it often ends over something silly and leaves you questioning whether it was love at all.
Second: HARD LOVE.
This is the love where you love strongly and get hurt even stronger.
It’s full of toxic cycles and drama betrayal and abuse.
The Break-up is hard, but it builds you as a person.
You focus on yourself.
Now you know what you want and what you don’t want.
Third: THE TRUE LOVE.
This comes blindly and creeps you.
There is no warning.
There’s no planning.
You’ll find yourself caring about this person without even trying.
They don’t look like your typical crush.
But you get lost in them.
You fall in love with the little things, it isn’t always easy but you want to build a life together.
This is how, you know, when you’ve met the love of your life.
Those are not my words of course.
Now the question is; “Do i believe in it?”
My way of entertaining people is easy.
I can’t trust anyone 100% except myself.
People who stay consistent with their approach are just adorable to me.
I already have 18-19 such amazing friends in my life.
And i bet, “AS IF NOW LIFE IS FUN EVEN WITHOUT THAT LOVE”.
But I can’t stop flexing my love for babies & puppies, i want at least 95 babies with my future wife. The more the better.
Someday i would love to enter a relationship, get married with someone truthful, consistent & driven.
Tap OUT..😋
Stay single and build yourself.
God will send someone who actually deserves you & respects your VIBE.
In a world that seeks connection,
we oddly avoid eye contact,
we time our text responses in order to protect ourselves from seeming too eager or too interested,
and
we hold our feelings back because we don’t want to seem overly emotional or unreasonable.
We silence our instincts,
and
at the end of the day instead of feeling good about ourselves,
we feel alone,
we feel misunderstood.
Remember,
it is okay to be emotional,
to seek help,
to confidently tell someone you enjoy being around that you are infatuated with them.
There is nothing wrong with vulnerability,
with being human,
for that is what creates depth within our relationships,
and
that is what ultimately unifies us.
If your feelings & emotions bring joy, show them.
Living a happy life means, do what you wish to do right now.
Tap OUT..🤗
Suddenly social media has created so many experts who brag about their success stories.
Most of these only talk about their success.
Half of these dumbfucks have little to nothing success in their field, rest half are just scammers.
Genuine people who made it big will never sell their recipe to success.
Because it’s personal.
My journey with my relationships, friendships, religion, finance & career, all are personal to me.
I may give tips to my son one day, but why will i tell some random person to follow my steps & make it happen, if i already made it so far walking on my own!!?
Nobody helped me become what i wanted to be.
The journey wasn’t smooth sailing.
And i also know nobody will put similar effort to be where i am.
Ask Elon Musk how he got into Tesla without founding it & how it’s the world’s highest valued automobile manufacturing company in stock market while making only 0.13% of cars in this world!!?
Will he ever tell you in a while how that happened?
It’s consistent rigorous efforts of time & discipline, that’s paying off right now.
Stop selling success stories.
Now we live in a world where people first need to know what they shouldn’t do.
I want more people to talk about setbacks.
Failures & struggles are fun too.
I don’t know why people avoid that part!
If you can’t enjoy the struggle, you don’t deserve the SUCCESS.
Tap OUT..✌️
Date the one who cares with her whole head & heart.
Date her if you can see yourself going for a drive while blasting throwbacks and screaming crazy every word of that track without being judged.
Date her if you can see yourself at 4 in morning talking about life, goals and all of your passions.
Date her if you can have fun with her but still crawl back into her arms when you really want/need to.
Date her if she is humble but makes you feel confident and hypes you up.
Date her if she can make you feel spoiled without any gifts or anything materialistic.
Date her if she opens the door for you before leaving for work and never lets you leave without kissing you goodbye.
Don’t date because she calls you baby/boo or if she says she cares about you but just asks for money & timeouts.
Don’t date her if she talks badly about you to her friends or doesn’t defend you if they talk trash about you.
Don’t date her because things may get better someday. You are living in present, efforts are needed right now.
If the person who’s reading this post is TAP;
Don’t date her if she believes in ketchup, orange juice, vegan diet & naturally aspirated V12.
SORRY DEMI.🤪
In this journey of life, we always come accross new people.
Some become friends, some turn out to be romantic equations.
And yes people put efforts to get things going.
They put efforts, but they put efforts for a while.
And that’s the fuck up.
Humans don’t understand this one tiny thing;
“You have to keep working on it forever to have a relationship/equation forever which yields happiness forever”.
Your life isn’t an AEROPLANE
and
RELATIONSHIPS don’t run on AUTOPILOT.
(Said by DADDY TAP i guess).😜
Tap OUT..✌️
I have outgrown many things.
I have outgrown relatives who gladly offer criticism but not support.
I have outgrown my need to meet my family’s unrealistic expectations of me.
I have outgrown people who wear masks and secretly rejoice at my misfortunes. (Not the corona situation face mask).
I have outgrown shrinking myself for those who are intimidated by my intelligence and outspoken nature.
I have outgrown friends who cannot celebrate my accomplishments.
I have outgrown people who conveniently disappear whenever life gets a little dark.
I have outgrown those who take pleasure in gossiping and spreading negativity.
I have outgrown dull, meaningless conversations that feel forced. I hate smalltalk.
I have outgrown those who don’t take a stand against ignorance and injustice.
I have outgrown trying to please everyone.
I have outgrown society constantly telling me I’m not beautiful, smart or worthy enough.
I have outgrown my tendency to fill my mind with self doubt and insecurity.
I have outgrown trying to find reasons not to love myself.
I have outgrown anything and anyone that does not enrich the essence of my soul.
I have outgrown many things.
And I’ve never felt freer.
(Not my words).
The goal is to become an upgraded version of my real self & a better HUMAN BEING every next day of this life. And i am connected to everyone who’s a part of that journey. If we have a steady flow of communication, you are celebrated in my books.
There’s no WONDER without some WONDERFUL people in life.
SOMETIMES LIFE SEEMS UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE YOUR OLD LIFE DOESN’T FIT ON YOU ANYMORE.
YOU’VE OUTGROWN THE OLD YOU.
Tap OUT..👍
CHOOSE RIGHT COMPANY.
Let’s vibe.
Text me a paragraph.
Call me & start talking without saying “HELLO”.
Disconnect the call without saying “BYE” because you gonna ring me again in couple of hours either ways.
Tell me after language classes why you got so angry at your sibling this morning.
Tell me why you have a scar shaped like an island on the left side of your shoulder.
Explain the story behind that tattoo while swimming.
Let’s talk about why we both love Levi’s more than any other denim brand.
Sing a rap song with wrong lyrics.
Send me your experience about the time you spent at your gran’s house last summer.
Call me when I’m half asleep and tell me why you believe in God or Ghost.
Tell me about the last time you saw yourself cry in mirror.
Tell me why you hate green vegetables when we are drenched in rain at farmer’s market.
You are allowed to go on for hours about things that may not seem important.
But I promise that I’ll be hanging on to every word you say.
Tell me everything that makes you comfortable or uncomfortable.
There’s nothing more sexy than an open wild conversation.
Such people bring joy to our little world without feeling obligated.
You are celebrated in my books.
(Some brownie points to Laura, Chrissi & my bestie DEMI. Daddy TAP sends some good vibes via left balcony.)😜😘
While choosing people, I always make sure to stay away from those who SMALL TALK.
And nobody wants someone who just talks about breakfast & weather.
Tap OUT..😙
Here is a fact nobody wants you to know:
you don’t need anybody, you just don’t.
I have seen people wreck themselves on the bedposts of lovers who don’t remember to call them.
I’ve seen them come home with bruises, tell me it was in the name of feeling wanted, tell themselves this is the best they could have gotten.
I’ve seen people ruin their brains on sharp teeth and harsh words, lovers who sink in their claws and toy with emotions.
I’ve seem them lie in bed and refuse to start crying,
tell me it was in the hopes of exchanging last names,
tell themselves they want this forever and not that they just can’t escape.
Just stop, you got yourself here.
You’re not going to crumble, you’re not.
You’ve been carrying your own body weight since you were old enough to walk.
Yours are the shoulders that have held up this world.
You already have the strength within you.
You’ve already made it this far, you can make it through.
Don’t assign that power to anyone else. That spark rightfully belongs to you. Own yourself.
(Not my words.)
Tap OUT..✌️
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