Privacy & secrecy are two different things. People don’t get it, i don’t say it & that’s the only reason I fuck with my closed group of 17 friends.
Value your privacy & stay away from those who disrespect it. Maintain your secrecy unless someone is worthy enough to protect it.
Very few people are time tested. Even fewer come to my house like it’s their own house, open my fridge & eat my alpro chocolate hazelnut ice cream or sugarfree cheesecake without asking. There’s nothing but love & respect for all who joined me in my happiest/darkest/toughest/delighted hours.
Wishing you all a happy new year. I wish you fill your life with enough good Karma & moments worth living on repeat. Do what lights up your head. Move where your heart feels home. Fetch your goals. Once again: HAPPY NEW YEAR 2023.
I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
Easy to spot a Red car when you are always thinking of a Red car. Easy to spot opportunity when you are always thinking of opportunity. Easy to find reasons to be mad when you are always thinking of reasons to be mad.
You become what you constantly think about. Watch yourself.
1. Missing people is not a reason to reconnect with them. It’s okay to remember people without rekindling. 2. You can’t talk to everyone about everything. It’s okay to have certain people for certain topics. 3. When someone is envious of you, it’s not your job to make them feel better about who you are. 4. Assumptions are not rooted in fact. If you want to know something, it’s always best to ask. 5. Authenticity equals freedom. There’s nothing that someone can hold over you when you’re okay with who you are.
When it is time for something new, you will feel it. You will feel a desire to let go, to shed layers, to move, to re-create. You will know because there will be subtle shifts all around you. You will release the old because you are really clearing the path for what’s ahead. Trust this process. Know that life does not take from us anything unless there is something else awaiting its replacement. Understand & value the importance of subtle shifts.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I found it fun to watch, so it’s a fun to share. I didn’t know there’s a foster banana liquor. Now my travel diaries include one more place in 2022. I like trying such recipies even know i am not a big fan of alcohol.)
Whatever gifts you’ve been blessed with, use them to make the world a better place. Nobody else has what you have so apply your thoughts and ideas to help change the world. You never know how you can impact this world unless you believe in yourself and try to make a difference.
Take the causes you feel strongest about and do something to help or benefit them. You are here for a reason. Use your gifts.
Stop overthinking and replaying episodes from your past you are not happy about. Realize that everything happens for a reason. It served its purpose. It made you better. Only through experience we can truly feel and understand the contrast of what is good and what is not, what we want and what we don’t want.
Experiences teaches us most valuable lessons. It helps us grow, love ourselves and have empathy towards others. Be grateful for your experiences, but move forward. Embrace the new & remain consistent in your walk of life. (Not my words.)
Most people are just INCONSISTENT, pretend to do lot many things without being serious about anything. TRUSTING SOMEONE IS THE TOUGHEST PART.
And there are two reasons why we don’t TRUST people. First: We don’t know them. Second: We know them.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I heard about mincemeat oat cookies for the first time from this Scottish chef. I am a baker by heart, especially pizza & cheesecake are two of my biggest weaknesses.)
People never understand “what you want to do” is always connected to “what you need to do”.
Suppose i want to be an engineer, i need to study engineering. Suppose i want to a writer/musician/athlete, i need to learn & practice writing/music/sports. Suppose i want to get fit, i need to workout.
What you want to do doesn’t make any sense till you aren’t following what you need to do first. This is the major reason most people stay unhappy & blame others for their failures. This one tiny mindset change can drastically evolve your life in a year.
NEEDS FIRST, WANTS NEXT.
(This movie trailer got nothing to do with the post above. My first real full-time job was software developer before i switched to data analytics field. I know where we are heading with time, our world isn’t going bad as this trailer shows. But the way technology is advancing, who knows what’s coming after hundred years!! Anyways, there are no boundaries for imagination.)
Pay more attention to what stirs your heart. Pay attention to the music that makes you want to cry, or dance, or jump right out of your skin. Pay attention to what makes you happy truly happy, the kind of happy that drips from your bones, the kind of happy that gives you hope, and makes you believe that you have a reason to be here. Pay attention to the things that make you laugh, the things that make you smile. Really focus on figuring out what compels you. Really focus on discovering the aspects of the world that interest you and challenge you and make you want to learn and grow.
You have to pay attention, To the things that make you believe in being alive. To the people that support you and build you up and make you feel like you’re understood in a world that can sometimes feel like a haunted and hurtful place. You have to pay attention to the life you want to create for yourself. Because you are in charge of your own happiness. You are in charge of who you become. So, if something makes your soul feel like it is finally home, pay attention to it. Whether it is a job, or an idea, or a goal, or a person, or a place, just follow what makes you feel alive. Just make your life your own.
There is a reason why i hate this word “SORRY” and there is also a reason i appreciate those who disagree with me sensibly over serious matters. Let me answer why!!
First, stop apologizing for no reason. Saying sorry constantly without giving it a second thought doesn’t earn much respect & it doesn’t make any sense as well. There is a time and a place for apologies. Sometimes you make mistakes that affect others, you must apologize there. But stop tossing around that word everywhere for nothing. Next, stand up for what you believe. Have you ever come across someone who simply nods their head repeatedly!?! It just seems to agree with everything you say. You can tell that they’re not giving much thought to what you’re saying. It gets meaningless after a while as they just say yes to everything. Those who politely disagree and stand up for themselves get greater respect. It’s important to have a mind of your own.
Don’t be afraid to stand up for what you believe and at the same time make sure you do it in a sensible respectful manner without being SORRY for your words.
People fear talking about mistakes. I have done crimes. Whatever comes to my head/heart always reaches my mouth instantaneously. Not afraid or not running away from my past anymore. It took time to heal & find my true-self. In LOVE with the way I vibe.🤗
Doesn’t matter you are talking good or bad about me, you are talking about me & I am loving it. I am a man of disciplines. Even when I play, I have a standard. There is a reason behind your fear or hate towards me; you know I am truthfully right with my ways, always.
Money is the reason behind progress of our society. It teaches you to see profit in what you do. The hunger for profit drives competition. And that competition brings the best talent available/possible.
Fuck you if you have the audacity to judge me behind my back. I may have 100, I reveal 10. Because it’s my call what to show. If you have dealt with me during my high school/engineering/university days, please don’t hate me for my past behaviour. You know what I was going through.
I never have/had a backup plan in my life. Never took impulsive decisions. Still I am asking for a FORGIVENESS for my part of mess & a tiny invitation for a coffee with full monty, let’s mend the shits went wrong. I think twice before my actions, that’s why I have no reasons to rethink after my actions. Doesn’t matter you treated me good or bad, I am welcoming you open arms with an offer of friendship. We can’t change the past. Why don’t you ring my number instead of calling everyone & saying you are SORRY for what you did with me! I am still using the same number since 2009. My phone will be general after 5pm weekdays. Don’t be afraid. Let’s catch up.
(Targeted towards my mate C*****. Stop stalking & start talking please.)
I never hide shit about me. Yes my heart behaves like a huge sensible 76 kilo kid. But my head is the JUGGERNAUT which keeps me driving towards a better tomorrow everyday.
That’s the reason my words go tough/cut-throat sometimes; TRUTH first, LOGIC next & then I reach to catch up with your or my emotions. It should be like that, emotional investments must be concrete & tested thoroughly.
If you are doing anything right or wrong without a reason, you are mentally screwed. Find the reason behind your actions. Be True & talk to your closest ally about everything that you are going through. If you can’t, visit a doctor/psychiatrist quickly for some mental guidance.
COMMUNICATION ➡️ CONNECTION ➡️ RELATIONSHIP ➡️ COMMITMENT ➡️ ENGAGEMENT ➡️ MARRIAGE. (Not Full stop).
OK, recently few of my friends got engaged & got married. Yesterday one got divorced after just one year of marriage. I am saying this to everything who’s planning something like this anywhere close towards taking it to next step.
The first line you saw with arrow emojis pointing one by one. Anytime you feel something is lacking, just take one step back & start from there. LOVE is in you, loving someone is definitely tough/tricky & beautiful. Going towards unknown territories is fun & can be hazardous. Still don’t stop walking. You always have better days coming, stay motivated.
Only COMMUNICATION is the key for everything. When that will fail, nothing else will workout. Not just LOVE but also LIFE. When you enter a relationship, you give the key to your heart & resort of happiness to someone else. No matter how hard you try to avoid or stay busy with something else, they occupy that best biggest space of your mind. That part of mind brings fulfillment, rest will either bring money or temporary happiness with unnecessary traumatic stress.
Stay true to yourself. Express love or gratitude whenever it’s needed, not like a duty but like a PLEASURE which is just meant for you. There is nothing called a perfect relationship. Don’t be a emotional wreck, Emotions can be manipulative, truth will always be true. To begin with all, start from a clean compassionate heart which can lead you to true happiness & a fulfilling togetherness.