Porn isn’t real sex. Cocaine isn’t real energy. Alcohol isn’t real courage. Gambling isn’t real investing. Caffeine isn’t real adrenaline. Video games aren’t real life. Social media isn’t really social. Business books aren’t real business.
WORK TOWARDS BECOMING A REAL YOU.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. The best heist movie trailer I bet, big fan of SNL skits. Watch it for fun.)
Social media has made PERFECT look achievable, so now REAL has become undesirable. Expecting perfection from life, friends, your partner, your career and from yourself is the enemy of happiness. Instead of perfection, search for balance, contentment, fulfilment, and progress.
The older I got, the more I realize the value of privacy, of cultivating your circle and only letting certain people in. You can be open, honest, and real while still understanding not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your life.
It’s funny because when you were a child, you believe you can be anything you want to be, go wherever you want to go. There’s no limit to what you can dream. You expect the unexpected, you believe in magic, you believe in fairy tales, and you strongly believe in possibilities. Then you get older. That innocence is shattered. And somewhere along the way the reality of life gets in the way. You’re hit by the realization that you can’t be all you wanted to be. You might have to settle for a bit little bit less.
BE REAL. BE YOU. BE THE MOST AUTHENTIC VERSION OF YOURSELF. BECOME WHAT YOUR HEART PUSHES YOU TO BE. IN THIS WORLD OF INSTANT GRATIFICATION & UNREAL EXPECTATIONS, YOU BEING A REAL YOU IS THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE TO YOURSELF & THE SOCIETY.
The real glow up isn’t proving the people from your past wrong. It is finally feeling so content and hopeful about your future that you stop thinking about them entirely. When you want to change your life in order for it to look different, and only that, you are still orbiting around the opinions of people who didn’t love you, and didn’t have any intention to.
A real glow up is authentic. It is lifting off all the cover-up bullshit and addressing the real problems. It is healing. It is changing, for good. It is, for the first time, prioritizing your heart over someone else’s eyes. The real glow up is realizing that you have nobody to prove wrong but yourself. (Not my words.)
You deserve happiness. And I mean real happiness; true happiness. The kind of happiness that makes your heart fill with warmth.
And you deserve to feel what it feels like to be okay. To feel like the world isn’t against you. To feel like you aren’t constantly treading water just to keep from drowning. More than anything, you deserve to be okay.
And I know it’s hard to hear this, especially when you are so sad or not sorted emotionally. Especially when you are so far away from loving yourself. But I still want you to know. Because one day, you are going to feel okay again. One day you are going to feel happy again. It’s just a matter of time.
TOMORROW IS AN UPGRADE OF TODAY. NEVER STOP BELIEVING IN YOURSELF.
Fears stop you from all things possible. Don’t let fear get in the way of anything, especially your dreams. Did you know that FEAR is actually an acronym that stands for False Evidence Appearing Real? In other words, your fears are not real because they’re not actually happening they’re based on things that haven’t happened yet and therefore don’t exist.
Replace a fear with a wish or a dream for your life and choose to focus on that instead.
Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. -LES BROWN.
If you want to align with REAL FRIENDS, REAL LOVERS, REAL COMMUNITY, share your truth PROUDLY, UNASHAMEDLY & CONSISTENTLY. Shout it. Sing it. Write it. Dance it. Paint the most AUTHENTIC you all over the canvas of your life. Whoever’s left applauding your art are YOUR PEOPLE. Whoever fades away was never yours to begin with.
(This movie trailer got nothing to do with the post above. I am not a fan of online dating or any form of fast-track romance. My big reason is, i trust no one except my family & myself. And Yes, there’s a group of 17 friends whom i consider family. Trust & respect are earned with consistency & communication.)
Mama said; “You never need to be religious. Religious people believe bit too much in god, angel, heaven, hell & demons. And that’s low-key toxic in 2021. But you must believe in KARMA, you will get what you give. Karma is real. The nature of our world is based on EQUILIBRIUM. Good intentions & kind acts will always be rewarded, even GOD’s existence depends on that goodness. Karma & Kindness go hand in hand. This tiny bit of knowledge is SPIRITUAL, not religious. Become little spiritual with time“.
My takeaway from this is; YOU AREN’T ALLOWED TO DISRESPECT PEOPLE. YOU CANNOT TREAT PEOPLE LIKE GARBAGE AND WORSHIP GOD AT THE SAME TIME. THAT’S BOTH DOUBLE STANDARDS & FAKEFUCKERY. Be truthful & real. If you have little time to make someone smile, do it. Buy a loaf of bread for a homeless person or crack a dick joke to a sad friend, both will help you score some good Karma for your trip to heaven when you leave this planet. If you think heaven is hoax, join hands with such people who will help you experience heaven on earth. Kindness is the easiest step towards your spiritual journey.
The most attractive thing about you should have less to do with your face and body, and more to do with your heart and how you treat other people. I am talking about kindness & empathy.
Let’s face it, we see an appearance first and have our first impression based on an appearance. Our appearance is where we can hide behind. But an appearance does not say anything about a character. Nowadays it seems that we judge each other on our appearance, who we are and what we stand for does not seem to matter. No effort is made to get to know the person behind an appearance.
It is our own mental attitude which makes the world what it is for us. Our thoughts make things beautiful, our thoughts make things ugly. Not our eyes. The whole world is in our minds. Learn to see things in proper light. Learn to see souls instead of bodies by using your mind instead of your eyes. LEARN TO SEE WHAT’S REAL.
Once in a while one friend or another asks me this question: “Tap, what you do when you are stressed!!?”.
OK. This one has two solutions for me; 1. Figure out who/what caused stress & kill that reason behind it silently. 2. Lift weights, do some 200 push-ups, look at my imperfect 5-pack abs in mirror, talk to my PhD research associates to figure out who is running ahead of me, login to my amazon seller portal to see how many boxes of whey protein we sold today, then have a pint of my favourite low calorie sugarfree ice cream in sea salt caramel flavour while watching Tom and Jerry.
Two easy ways actually. Most of the time i prefer the 2nd one because murder is still illegal. In case i get the opportunity to kill someone without getting punished, i would love to kill my bestie bitch by leaving her inside a huge bucket in any snowy swedish village during 2070 winter. If you are one of my close friends, you already know i am a simple stupid sober sassy person who is unaware of all emotional melodramas. Nobody is big enough to hurt me or give me stress. The worst things a human can do is; LIE. Every liar falls in line with every negative prediction. And i bet, after a while they seem fun & funny because of their repetitive pattern of lying. Fuck fake goodness. Tappie loves real people with clean intentions & bad will always work if it’s real.
Yes motherfucker, I look rude & I do have a beef going on with you. But what about those rose red cheeks you have!! You look like a child & child molester at the same time.
Either ways I appreciate you for being a friend to Tap since I know “Being friend” means something in real world. Happy birthday mate. Enjoy a blissful amazing year ahead till I wish you again. Gift yourself a relationship where your girl knows where to drop panties, so that your misunderstandings with friends will stop dragging.
Do you know why people try to control someone or behave controling?
Because, they can’t control their own shit and they are not in the right vibration to control their own emotions. That’s why they try to control you. They don’t like your happiness & appreciation you receive. They always try to stop you frequently with different approach. In short, you are dealing a wishy washy real dickhead.
Guard yourself first. Help them understand life has more to offer. When you know you are not going towards a right direction, it’s better to take help or consult friends/family/whom you believe. Life is about sharing goodness & happiness. People who plan dorky things need to find themselves at right place before they vibe right.
In a relationship if someone is not moving up with time; just move forward with your life towards your goals & success, with or without them. You need a better you tomorrow. If deserving & you both are meant to be together, the other person will step up to catch up.
People may hurt, scold, betray, abuse & break your heart. Stay strong, don’t behave like a pussy. Everything happens for a reason. Your other side is earning their karma by misusing you. At the end someone beautiful is coming to clean all & adore you for what you are. Your Truth & goodness will be rewarded at any cost. Stay positive, vibe right.
Apparently my friends were suggesting to go on a banging spree last time when I told them about breaking up with a person who felt flat on standing on her ground to be a human. I just exited that part because that wasn’t serving me. If a relationship isn’t making you happy; you don’t need to break up from that person, you just need to come out from the bullshit they are trying to sell you. The day they will understand their own value, that person will figure out what’s best for them & you figure out what’s best for you.
In the name of break up, don’t go for stupid rebound sex bullshit. Some even end up in friends with benefits situations which attract more complications. That lowers your standard as a human even further. I make sure there is some standard in a person even when it’s a one night stand. That girl wasn’t even worth it. That was my reason for break up.
Life is like a concert. Don’t go ahead & argue/fight with/for somebody towards any reason good or bad, it’s like you are stopping your own fun by wasting time on someone else who is all about negative vibe.
Since the day you are born till today, all your actions are already written by your almighty. Call it destiny or call it your lifepath.
The only thing you can do is; understand your heart/head’s call & put it under logic to understand the truth, just follow it. You know where to move. Don’t prefer to live under regrets. You deserve happiness & love in your life. Smile..
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