When people act shady, allow them. When people betray your trust, allow them. But never, ever sink to their level. Their choices are a direct reflection of who they are, not who you are. No matter how angry, hurt, or disappointed you may be, do not allow them to make you bitter. Be better. React with love. Sometimes that means retaliating with understanding and compassion; other times it means retaliating with acceptance and sheer silence. Whatever it is, make sure it benefits you as a human being instead of lowering you into a position which you would rather not be in.
Normal people dont go around destroying other human beings. Only those who are hurt, lost, and confused cause pain. Don’t be one of them. Just take the lessons and move on gracefully.
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of ATTITUDE on life. Attitude, to me is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a school, a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you, we are in charge of our ATTITUDE.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. The small things in life don’t need to be worried and stressed about so much. The alarm can be fixed. The tire can be replaced. The coffee can be refilled. The parking ticket can be paid. The keys can be found. The to-dos can get to-done. You can get sleep. You can get some food. Maybe a snickers to satisfy.
Your life is great. You just have to allow it to be. People don’t make you angry. You allow the anger to dwell within you. Circumstances don’t upset you. You allow yourself to get upset. You choose to worry. You choose to criticize. You choose to blame. And you choose to complain. No one else decides this for you. Your ATTITUDE is what determines your day.
Be disciplined about what you respond and react to. Most people are inconsistent, that’s their comfort zone. Not everyone or everything deserves your time, energy and attention. Stay in your light. Vibe with your tribe.
When you react to something someone says or does, you may have a problem with boundaries. If someone is able to cause havoc by doing or saying something, he/she is in control of you at that point and your boundaries are lost.
When you respond, you remain in control with options and choices. If you feel yourself reacting, step away and regain control of yourself so people can’t force you to do or say something you do not want to do or say; and something that violates your separateness.
When you have kept your boundaries, choose the best option. The difference between responding and reacting is choice. When you are reacting, they are in control. When you respond, you are in control.
You are the books you read, the films you watch, the music you listen to, the people you meet, the kind of friends you have, the work you do, the dreams you have, the conversations you engage in, the way you respond & react.
You are what you take from these. You are the sound of the ocean, the breath of fresh air, the brightest light and the darkest corner.
You are a collective of every experience you have had in your life. You are every single day. So drown yourself in a sea of knowledge, experience and existence. Let the words run through your veins and let the colours fill your mind. Be a real you.