There are so many popular figures who want people to think they are strong and tough because they use substances and party all night long. To me, strong is when you can sit through your problems and feel your emotions, when you don’t have to hide them. There have been nights where I’ve had to sit on my hands because I want to act out, because I physically can’t sit still in the pain or I’m trying to distract myself from living in the moment.
Stop running and start dealing with life and your problems. It could be as simple as not checking your phone when you’re uncomfortable or alone. Listen to what’s going on in your mind and respect the thoughts coming to you. If you’re spending your entire life chasing the next party, what are you running away from?
The real glow up isn’t proving the people from your past wrong. It is finally feeling so content and hopeful about your future that you stop thinking about them entirely. When you want to change your life in order for it to look different, and only that, you are still orbiting around the opinions of people who didn’t love you, and didn’t have any intention to.
A real glow up is authentic. It is lifting off all the cover-up bullshit and addressing the real problems. It is healing. It is changing, for good. It is, for the first time, prioritizing your heart over someone else’s eyes. The real glow up is realizing that you have nobody to prove wrong but yourself. (Not my words.)
I think sometimes people believe that worrying has some kind of productive purpose. Worry sucks all of your energy and joy out of whatever it is you’re doing. It’s human nature to worry, but when we do it constantly, we run into more problems. It may give you something to do, but you don’t get anywhere.
The next time you are worrying about something, try to remember that you aren’t always in control. Instead, do practical things like make a budget or create a schedule. Be proactive and let go of the stress. After all, it won’t change a thing. Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.
True friends aren’t the ones who make your problems disappear. They are the ones who won’t disappear when you’re facing problems.
(These next few lines got nothing to do with the post above. It’s for my best friend, she might be reading this when i am back to my city. Once i was on a work trip to a new place & my bestie DEMI decided to join. We planned to chill at nearby beach after my client meet was over. Suddenly it started raining. I asked her; “it’s not a good weather, do you still wanna go to the beach?”. She replied; “I didn’t fly here to check good weather. I came for good vibes. You & me teasing tickling fighting hugging each other, fuck weather”. No matter she is sitting on my lap or i am in a different continent, that good vibe never fell short. There’s nothing more beautiful than a time-tested truthful consistent person.)
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