The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, no matter what you try, will simply not like you. But the world is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. The ones who love you: they are YOUR PEOPLE.
Don’t waste your finite time and heart trying to convince the people who aren’t your people that you have value. They will miss it completely. They won’t buy what you are selling. Don’t try to convince them to walk your path with you because you will only waste your time and your emotional good health. You are not for them and they are not for you. You are not their cup of tea and they are not yours.
Politely wave them along and you move away as well. Seek to share your path with those who recognize and appreciate your gifts, who you are.
Be who you are. You are not everyone’s cup of tea and that is OK.
Distinguished kindness from always having to do things for people, trying to make everyone happy won’t get you very far. Being a pushover is highly undesirable. If your goal is to be respected, being too nice to everyone all the time isn’t a durable path. Some people might even think you’re not genuine. If you don’t want to do something, say so. If you’ve got a dissenting opinion and knowing your heart that you’re right, say so. Being assertive in a polite courteous and respectful way will earn respect from others even when you disagree with them. Speak up when mistreated. Don’t just take it when someone is mistreating or taking advantage of you. Be professional and diplomatic, but don’t be silent speaking up for yourself. Not always easy to do, but a start is not a bad idea at any point of life.
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