It’s so important to acknowledge your weaknesses and imperfections. It may seem hard at first, but once you begin to recognize and come to peace with your weaknesses, you actually have an honest place to start improving. We shouldn’t strive for perfection because it doesn’t exist. When we accept others for who they are and love ourselves unconditionally (flaws and all), we have an opportunity to be open, to be courageous, and to learn.
There’s a chinese proverb which goes like; “Gold can’t be 100% pure, and people can’t be fully perfect”.
Look at your weaknesses and think about how you can improve in a healthy way.
COMMUNICATION is vital to every relationship. There are people out there whose personalities just don’t mix with yours. Don’t waste your time trying to figure out why. Just go where you are wanted and understood, and everything else will fall into place.
If there’s someone in your life you are having trouble communicating with, try to work it out. Be sure the tone in your voice comes from a place of love and respect to connect with them.
Communicate, understand each other, fix issues, stay together & vibe. That’s MATURITY.
Only surround yourself with people who you can communicate with.
1. Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from. 2. If you wanna fly, you must give up everything that weighs you down. 3. Make someone smile everyday. But don’t forget that you are someone too. 4. Be kind to yourself & others. Give strangers compliments and do random acts of kindness for others and treat yourself like someone you love. 5. Be yourself, you are the only person who’s like you and that is an advantage. You are so unique & you are enough. Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison destroys personality.
What interests me the most, is a persons mind. Their stories. Their thoughts. The memories. The secrets that lay dormant in their head, waiting to be told. I find it so interesting. Cause I have been through a lot. And I am just fascinated by other’s struggles. Everyone has their own struggle. I love learning from someone’s life. How they came to be the person they are today, why they act or talk the way they do. These all dictate a person’s character, values & personality. It’s just very interesting. Be an authentic version of yourself fearlessly.
We all do mistakes. Almost all mistakes can be fixed. Admission of mistake is a learning. Denying a mistake shows sign of POOR CHARACTER. And CHARACTER FLAWS can never be fixed.
The biggest communication problem is; most people do not listen to understand. They listen to reply or retaliate. And that’s a major turn off in a person’s personality.
A pub that claims to be the oldest in the UK is closing shop. The Ye Olde Fighting Cocks in St. Albans, England, says its doors have been open since approx 793 AD. pic.twitter.com/vw9L6evnmd
(This tweet got nothing to do with the post above. The repercussions of this COVID pandemic will be felt in coming years even after we are back to normalcy.)
There is so much power in our words, more than we realise. They can do so much good and so much damage. They can create peace or cause people to break out in violence. When we’re hurting the most it’s easy to lash out at other people, but then we become the source of the problem we are personally suffering from. Don’t take your pain out on others or you will just be perpetuating the cycle.
If you’re hurting, do your best to seek outlets that are healthy. Find a friend to talk to, express yourself artistically, write in your journal, or seek professional help.
Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world. -BUDDHA.
Each one of us is born with a unique and remarkable gift that’s not only meant to change our lives but the greater world around us. I know this to be true because I’ve witnessed it throughout my life. Whatever your strengths are, they may be something that someone else wishes they had. So use your gifts wisely and you will be amazed how much you can inspire others.
You’ll be amazed at what you attract after you start believing in what you deserve. Inspire someone today just by being yourself. The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud. (Not my words.)
We all want to be liked and loved, but when we focus on this instead of making sure we love ourselves first, we get lost in other people’s opinions and we stop living honestly. If someone calls you a name, don’t let it bother you, don’t react. Feeding into their drama will only negatively affect your character.
What makes you special and unique? Think about one of your eccentricities and embrace it every day. When we are consumed by what other people think of us, we allow them to dictate how we live our lives, and then without realizing it, we lose touch with who we are. Respect your individuality. BE YOU.
A lot of people are skeptical about giving a homeless person money. One thing you can do is buy a homeless person a meal or a bottle of water so at least you know they will get something nutritious to eat or drink. Last week i saw a homeless man and remembered that I had a protein bar & a pack of biscuits in my backpack. I went up to him and said, “I don’t want to offend you, but if you’re hungry, I’d love to give this to you.” He reacted like he had won the lottery. I couldn’t believe how something so simple could make him so happy.
Go out of your way to help a homeless person, or someone else in need, today. We lead a busy life without giving enough space to humility & humbleness in our hearts.
Humility is not thinking less of yourself. It’s thinking of yourself less. -C. S. LEWIS.
Just like snowflakes, there is no one else on this planet like you. Don’t waste your time trying to be like other people. Be the best you and own it. You’re best at being yourself, not anyone else. If we all looked, talked, and walked the same, no one would be unique. Individuality wouldn’t exist. Being different is what makes us special and world so exciting.
Assess your character. Be certain that you’re not modeling yourself after someone, but just being who you are meant to be. Go ahead, be weird because “normal” is boring. Always be a first grade version of yourself instead of a second grade version of someone else.
This post/story is about basic human decency. Yesterday i came across a horrible person, who misbehaved a small restaurant owner while paying for some eggy bread, pork pie & tea. He was short of some cash even though he came with entire family in a BMW X5. His argument started escalating over Apple pay, that too in a small & new cash only eatery. Later he went to ATM, withdrew some cash & paid for his food. According to his words; if you aren’t accepting Apple pay, you should go back to country side & he was some corporate employee for BAE systems. The words he used against that restaurant owner made me question his upbringing & it also made me realise what an highly educated asshole looks like. We live in a materialistic world where we literally judge someone looking at their clothes/house/car/phone/financial status, the last comes EDUCATION, QUALIFICATION, PERSONALITY & BEHAVIOUR, that too only if we enjoy a healthy interaction. So, Why these so-called few corporate employees belittle street food truck or small restaurant owners in their head!!
Because i mentioned these words “Materialistic world” & “Corporate Employee”, let’s talk about the money part first. Any engineer/banker/software developer/analyst with 3-5 years of job experience makes easy 95-130k salary per annum, no matter it’s Dollars/Euros/Pounds. Social security+Insurance+Tax, combined all are around 38-42% of entire income in most developed countries. Now monthly in hand salary comes close to 5200-6700 Dollars/Euros/Pounds.
Let’s talk about the small scale business owner who runs a food truck or a street food restaurant, here an easy quick meal costs 7-10 Dollars/Euros/Pounds. It can be a Full English breakfast/Tacos/Pastrami Sandwich/Doner kebab or a salad with tea/coffee/any kind of drink. They receive 80-90 such orders during lunch hour, mostly regular customers during a rush hour. And casually another 80-90 orders at evening because that’s the preferable time to cater tourists/students/kids/young people/couples. Total around 170 orders of 7-10 bucks food product, gross 1500 bucks everyday. Sunday everything is closed. So it comes to 1500×26=39000 worth of sales in a month, not the profit amount. If you deduct the raw ingredients+gas+rent+electricity+3-4 employees salary from that 39000, that small scale business owner is still left with easy 9000-12000 Dollars/Euros/Pounds in his hands every month.
Tried to show you an easy estimation in both scenarios. I am saying it from my experience. I know a half Indian brit who lives in Berlin, he started a ghost kichen sourdough pizzeria in Alexanderplatz in the middle of pandemic. Now it’s a small yet busy full blown cafe. His cafe is open only 4 hours every evening, but he makes way more than my salary. Even in terms of money, a small scale business owner enjoys a better financial stability compared to any employee. The good part is, EVERY BUSINESS OWNER IS HIS OWN BOSS. They work their ass off for their family, so that family can enjoy a life worth calling LIFE. I have studied 4 years bachelor’s in engineering, then MBA, now i am a PhD research scholar (still a student), i also have 4+ years of job experience as a data/research analyst & software developer. I bet that person who started a small mediocre petty drama must have studied something like i did. And most of the time people who work at multinational companies imagine they enjoy the best lifestyle compared to rest, which can be true. But does that allow anyone to be a jackass on streets? We can’t cure certain issues by cursing & shouting. Education is not just there for earning a qualification. If education isn’t making you humble, grateful & a better human, then you are simply a waste of time & energy for society.
(Forgot to schedule this post on Sunday. When i mentioned yesterday above, i am talking about an incident from Saturday. The restaurant owner i mentioned is one of my friends from A-level days.)
Some people think; ADVENTURE is dangerous, DISCIPLINE is brutal, TRUTH is lethal, LOVE is hard, & LIFE isn’t moving.
These are all low-key narcissistic inconsistent personality traits which brings severe unhappiness to life. And all you gotta do is; stay away from those who think like this.
ADVENTURE brings joy. DISCIPLINE teaches you to be consistent. TRUTH is core of basic human values. LOVE is beautiful. & LIFE is fun.
You have to carry this attitude forward in life. Remain consistent with the way you are. That helps you to be in sync with life. Hangout with those who reflect & second your thoughts. A happy person is not a person who’s always in a good situation, but rather a person who always has a good attitude in every situation. VIBE WITH YOUR TRIBE.
Mama once said; “We don’t just entertain friends/relationships outta fun, we build them over time, we respect them & we keep them. That’s why never accept or serve discounted garbage”.
I was in my teen days. I was still getting pocket money from parents. I wasn’t able to understand those heavy/right words. I thought my mum was talking about not buying discounted clothes/stuffs or wasting money with friends during weekend trips. Most of my friends know i hate discounted clothes now too. In fact, i don’t have a single piece of clothing from any fast fashion brands.
Coming closer to my 30, now i am understanding that she told me not to hangout with people who have discounted/cheap personality/approach/attitude/mindset, It took me almost 14 years to figure out the real meaning behind those wise words. Being a MAN means progression of understanding, knowledge, acceptance & virtue while developing better habits.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it to understand how your shopping habits are shaping a climate & humanitarian disaster. There’s a reason I never buy clothes from H&M, Zara, TK Maxx or any store/brand with 50% discount board. I buy clothes which cost at least a hundred quid or more, and i wear them for ages. They stay with me because, I know I have spent enough money to buy them. And i fully remember how much I paid, I have a photographic memory. Fun part is, I still have t-shirts, jackets, hoodies & sneakers from my 8th grade & engineering college days which fit perfectly even today. FYI, I am a sneakerhead & my love for watches is something divine.)
A person’s personality & character must sparkle positivity & good vibes. Nobody cares shit about beauty of your face or body after a while, they are just accessories.
And, Accessories are a welcome, but not a must.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. My love for horses can’t be described in words. This situation in Kazakhstan is scary. I am that kinda stupid boy whose emotions are locked to babies & puppies. While watching this 1.40 minute video, all i wanted was to somehow adopt all those horses & bring them to my backyard.)
Some periods of our growth are so confusing that we don’t even recognize that growth is happening. We may feel hostile or angry or weepy and hysterical, or we may feel depressed. It would never occur to us, unless we stumbled on a book, or a person who explained to us, explained us that we were in fact in the process of change, of actually becoming larger spiritually than we were before.
Whenever we grow, we tend to feel it, we tend to feel it as a young seed must feel the weight and inertia of the earth as it seeks to break out of its shell on its way to becoming a plant. Often the feeling is anything but pleasant. But what is most unpleasant is the not knowing what is happening. Those long periods when something inside ourselves seems to be waiting, holding its breath, unsure about what the next step should be, eventually become the periods we wait for, waiting for those periods that we realize that we are being prepared for the next phase of our life, and that in all probability a new level of the PERSONALITY is about to be revealed. KEEP WORKING & STAY READY TO RECEIVE.
(This paragraph got nothing to do with the post above. Now the question everyone asking in university group; “Is there a secret instagram account of TAP?”. ANSWER IS YES, only 5 people know about it. I use it more like a travel timeline diary. My real instagram has around 16k followers, I don’t even know 99% of those people. Way back some asshole stole & published my workout images in an Amsterdam based male erotic model magazine, one of my ex-bitch informed me about it when she was planning to hire a stripper for her sister’s bachelorette party. Fun part is, that’s the time period i didn’t even leave my country for one whole year & I was/am really happy with my DATA ANALYST JOB. Since then, i am not uploading my face to instagram. But i am quite active in snapchat, i have streaks with all 122 contacts. I know & i have met every single one of them. I trust all of them, nobody will screenshot or steal my pictures there.)
Be the best person you can be. Be kind even when you’re tired. Be understanding even when you’re angry. Do more than you’re asked and please don’t ask for anything in return, that may look stupid & ruin the purpose. Don’t silently expect anything either. Listen when someone talks and really listen, stop just thinking of how you’ll reply. Tell people you love them and appreciate them. Go out of your way to do things for people you adore. Be the greatest person you can possibly be and remain the same even when you mess up, make up for it in the next moment or minute or day.
One thing you should never do is; Never spend your time trying to prove to anybody that you’re great. Your actions will speak for themselves and we only have limited time on earth, don’t waste it. If someone doesn’t see your light, don’t worry. Like moths, good people are attracted to flame and to light of goodness, and they come naturally.
Be with someone who inspires you to be your greatest self.
-Sylvester Me Nutt III.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Radicalism is the biggest threat still blooming under Britain’s nose & i have shared my view on this since my student days. My voice against it is not new.)
This post today about what “your text/email style” talks about your personality. Though it may seem immaculately random, there’s an immense correlation between how we speak in real life and how we write texts/emails so much so that they can reveal a lot about who we are. For example; narcissists tend to use first person language like me, I ,my, mine a lot, extroverts like to use casual tones intend to talk about fun activities/gathering/interests/visions.
How you say something can be just as important as what you say, no typos means that you’re mindful perfectionist or even obsessive, while bad grammar could expose lower levels of IQ and no academic intelligence, long texts/email can show that you have a lot of energy and you are very thorough & patient, but sometimes it can also communicate that you’re overwhelmed with attention or needy in some cases. A person’s personality is like a mine, you have to keep mining good habits to reflect a STRONG PERSONALITY.
True confidence is very different from egotistical swagger. When people believe in themselves and their abilities, there are things they simply don’t do. Don’t get me wrong, learning to be confident is important but there are certain behaviors that sets highly confident people apart from everyone else. Two major things confident people never do:
1: They don’t over focus on appearance. When someone is self-confident, they have a healthy relationship with their appearance. They stay Fit and well groomed, and they eat healthy food because they know their bodies deserve to be taken care properly. Confident people strive to put their best foot forward and then accept themselves as they are.
2. They don’t try to change their personality. Whether someone is an introvert or an extrovert, they can still be confident. Confident people understand that self-assurance comes from feeling good about who they are and what they can achieve by being completely authentic. They don’t try to be someone they’re not, because they understand that self-acceptance is a vital element of self-confidence.
Two things in life are really really important, “MEAN WHAT YOU SAY & SAY WHAT YOU MEAN”. Apart from these two, yes there is a fun humour element to life which completely depends on your personality. If you connect to what i am talking about, of course you know most people fuck it at the end somehow.
We all try to hide truth, feelings, certain incidents & tales of own faux pas. Back to those first two important things in life, very few understand it & follow it. Speaking your TRUTH is the most beautiful thing you can do with yourself. Or else there are already enough lame ducks around, never throw words at someone without packing some meaning to it.
TRUST & MORAL are two of the most expensive things in this world, always in demand but supply is too limited. Anyday you want to judge a person’s CHARACTER, these two should be only parameters.
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