Social media has made PERFECT look achievable, so now REAL has become undesirable. Expecting perfection from life, friends, your partner, your career and from yourself is the enemy of happiness. Instead of perfection, search for balance, contentment, fulfilment, and progress.
Buy the black car, People will say you should’ve got blue. Start a business, People will say you should’ve got a job. Get married, People will say you picked the wrong partner. Learn a trade, People will say you should’ve done something else.
Everyone has an opinion about everything. You’ll go crazy trying to please everyone. Don’t even try. Listen, smile, agree. And then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway.
A high school teacher once said; “Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”. I took those words bit too seriously i guess. Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes: Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway: Whatever struggle you are facing in your life, make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love. When you are filled with anger or hate, the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care. Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
Get honest with people about who you are, what you want, and how you expect to be treated. Standards only scare off the people not meant for you.
Some people have a problem, they can’t digest respect & good vibes. Stay away from those, such people don’t deserve your LOVE or ATTENTION.
My bestfriend DEMI asked me yesterday “whether i will stop hanging out with her after i get a girlfriend/partner/wife or someone significant?”. I am answering this with few lines, so that she can bookmark & read it as many times she wants. I hide nothing from no one.
Here’s my answer: My blood’s origin goes back to an eastern state of India called ODISHA. Since childhood i was taught few things which are embedded in my mind now:
1. Study, learn, get qualified & make lots of money with that knowledge. Because society is either judgemental or materialistic which respects power of MONEY & KNOWLEDGE. 2. Live for love, respect, family, and LOVE+RESPECT towards family. That’s why we have huge families. 3. MONEY you made mustn’t be used to flex in front of others. Use it to keep your family happy. 4. Invest in gold & land, this is the big kicker. That’s the reason most Indian men crave to buy more than one property & Indian women are obsessed with 24 carat pure gold jewelleries.😂 That’s all.
So one day when i enter a stable relationship, the sole purpose is to start my own family someday soon or sooner. I know whom & what to prioritise. But remember one thing dumb bitch, i feel like i know you since my past life. You are not just my bestfriend, i consider you family. You will always have 24/7 access to my house, my lap, a piggyback ride to beach & access to me no matter it’s pouring/sunny/snowing. Don’t get emotional DEMI, we are not discussing anything about this post during facetime.
There are people who notice you only when you shine, or when you fall into the darkness. Not the average you. Not the mediocre you. But the great you, or the not-so-great you. The people who are worthiest of your care are not those who only notice you at your best and worst but those who are with you at all times. They don’t need an excuse to love you. They don’t need an excuse to talk to you, or to ask you how you’re doing!! They don’t need an excuse to share their happiness with you. They don’t need an explanation. They give you one without you asking for it. They assume the good in you before the bad.
So keep eyes open just so you don’t miss those people. Such equations take long long time & trust to develop. Once you find them, never let them go because those are not just friends but family members. They’re life companions. They are the people who will tell you when you are wrong simply because they’ve allowed themselves to tie their well-being to yours. (Not my words). Vibe with people who are good for you.
Typing this post to highlight modern day deliema among teens who flex their perfect 3-month long relationship before they catch their partner cheating on them with their bestfriend, which is hilarious & utter nonsense to my brain. Currently this world is filled with bit too much garbage to my eyes, let’s say bit too much social media delusional PDA. Single & slaying life, that’s my current status. And i am in no mood to change this for a while. But someday I definitely want to get married & pump 90-95 babies inside my future wife. Babies & puppies are angelic to my eyes. Hope to be a good father to few daughters as well as few boys. When my daughter wants to date someone, i will suggest to see at least two out of these three qualities in her future partner; 1. Millionaire. (We have designed a world where every happiness & comfort comes with a cost. I hate those who try to enter/entertain relationship without being financially stable). 2. Master’s in engineering or finance. (Educated people never go boring because they have more idea/opinion/view about the world we are living in). 3. Man enough to run 5km while rocking a 6-pack abs. (A fit person is well aware of personal hygiene, aesthetics & manners).
(All i want to share is; I suggest everyone to follow a journey towards fitness & financial stability. When you are SUCCESSFUL with life, you are more happy & in tune with yourself, which helps you to stay away from all kinds of negativity such as lying, cheating, inconsistency & any other deceptive behaviour.)
Found this video in YouTube recommendations today. Happy to share i too wanted to become a doctor after my high school, but somehow right now i am a senior data analyst. See this 5 minute long video to understand what a DATA ANALYST goes through & why you shouldn’t become one.
Everybody wants to be unique. But instead of working on it & putting real efforts to be something different, everybody starts pretending being superior compared to others which makes everybody the same piece of nothing.
I love it when a person just tells me “she/he wants nothing but piece of mind, little respect & a sustainable living with the right balance of earning+savings+expenses”. The same I expect from my partner one day; A truthful consistent independent person, that’s all.
(I adore you polish bum. HAPPY BIRTHDAY & you are celebrated in my books, always. Missing all your four cheeks.😈😘)
People really get confused when they see these two words together “POWER COUPLE”.
It simply means, you see TRUTH, TRUST & CONFIDENCE in your partner’s eyes. Each time you are face to face, you scream at your partner without opening mouth “You are going nowhere this lifetime. Your address is my arms. I own you.” There is no longer a day where communication will struggle. There is no chance for misunderstandings. Each words spoken are TRUTH or a PROMISE. That’s when you are sure about your forever next.
While typing this I can add one thing; I don’t know where i stand in terms of a romantic relationship or LOVE kinda bullshit. I was/am never ready to enter a relationship. Did that mistake just once, failed. Not ready to allow anyone close without a huge time tested solid foundation.
Now I assure, I see TRUTH in someone. Request is; please never lose it. My heart is healed & I am back on track towards usual flamboyance. Thanks for succesfully keeping my both heads active. Yes, I am trying to make you weak. And shhhhhhhhh, I know how to make twins.😂😘
Whenever you think a relationship isn’t working; talk about it to your partner. If it still looks impossible to make it, get a closure. Heal your heart, remove all negativity that your other person left inside you. People heal with their own sweet time, it may take 3-4 months to some & some people need years. Remove all those memories whatever you had. Then think about allowing another person to come close. That’s how you enter or leave relationships.
Falling in LOVE with someone is easy. Saying those 3 bullshit words are even more easy. Keeping those promises you made takes a lifetime to fulfill.
After you know WHO DO YOU LOVE, then make sure to find out WHY DO YOU LOVE as well. It’s needed for a long-term. You need a reason to be with someone. There is something you liked unique in your partner, or else why are you with him/her!!
Being in love with a bed-bug is hard no-matter how good is that money/boots/smile or sex. If a person isn’t driven, you can’t be with them on the longer run. A person without a goal is indecisive and they will only bring instability to your life.
Doesn’t matter which side you are in, try to be a better you with a motive. Motive/goal can be anything, being a better student/employee/business person whatever it is. First find your reason to strive/live, other side will celebrate you in LOVE.
We all want a partner to share our happiness & get excited with their side’s unseen life. Doesn’t matter which side you are in, you need to be the best version of you to attract an amazing soul who can complete you like a fool who can’t get enough of laughter & smile both in your whole life. We all break, we want to share that too. But getting over own broken heart, broken bank or broken life is your responsibility.
In a relationship if your partner isn’t discussing/hasn’t discussed about how to afford a life together practically looking at your standards, trust me you have sold your genitalia for really cheap price to a bogus twat. Life is all about upgrades, you can’t fool yourself and you know affording life is mandatory.
Time not to move on, but to move forward.
If we want a kite to soar high, we need to loosen our grip on the strings that’s in our hands. How high that kite flies depends on how much freedom you can give! The more we let it loose, the higher it can soar.
“Just like caring someone, we need to let the other person explore, live a life away from us for a while, do things without us and make own decisions. This will help them discover their own identity and their own power. This will also allow them to fulfill their own KARMA, doesn’t matter good or bad. More importantly we need to encourage & support our partner in pursuing a life independent of us. They need to have their own friends, hobbies, activities & properties or belongings.”
Let’s not expect the other person to stick by our side in every aspect of our life all the time. This is the same freedom we seek for ourselves. Remember KARMA is individual. No-one else can help us fulfill it. It’s nothing but nurturing an idea, we need to let our idea go into places even if it’s scary. Let our ideas branch out into things we didn’t initially intend to explore whether it’s entering a new market for our product or partnering with someone that might add to the greatness of our idea. We need to give our ideas a chance to reach it’s full potential.
IF YOU LOVE IT, SET IT FREE. IF IT’S OURS, IT WILL ALWAYS RETURN BACK HOME.
A kite flies as far and high as you let it go.
Yeah. That one person whom i dared to express my love without a next thought. Because, i felt that sense of security in her words. That warmth which was so selfless, it was screaming that’s mine. I think, that’s a one time feeling. When you get it, you don’t compare it to rest. Love is not about getting the best, it’s about someone’s effort of filling the vacuum in you.
Yes, some diggers came & escaped. People will always be selfish, they will always find a way to see their gain & harm you while leaving. Yeah, DIGGERS.
I am away from home since a long period of time, I don’t connect to so many things like any other person & the best part is; i am not the right person anyway for anyone. That’s the reason i laugh at trolls & who try to show me my spot. Because the truth/lie/bad side of me you want to show is just 50, i know the 100.
This post has nothing to do here. I just wanted to convey something those who care for me; you make my day, you make me feel alive, i owe you lots of love & time. Relationship is not the big key. It’s not about finding someone. It’s that one hit or miss, then you have to work on it to make sure it’s beautiful as it used to be. Life is beautiful. Make more out of it.
Friends; No, You are the family i see. In a usual day, i use at least a hundred curse words involving you & your sister/mum. 😂😂. I am not gonna ask a SORRY for that anyday. But i am really SORRY for you, you & all of you deserve a much better human instead of this stupid TAP as a friend in your next life. This one is going to be all about me. I love it, when i hear the talking point is “TAP”. I wasn’t like this before few years. You motherfuckers ruined me. I mean, since the day “TAPAN” became “TAP”; i am the one who has gone spoilt. Just talking my heart out.