It’s so easy to walk by people and make judgments about who they are based on some small passing detail or flaw that you’ve observed. Maybe their attitude appears to be rude. Maybe they aren’t as outgoing as you are. Either way, without taking the time to actually get to know someone and hear what they’ve been through, you really have no right to judge anyone. The things we observe superficially are just that; they are false impressions that don’t tell you anything about what others have actually experienced.
Take the time to really get to know people. Ask them what their story is, and be a good listener. Sometimes the nicest people you come across are busy building life while being little carefree soaking the sunshine, and the judgmental ones go to church on sundays. Never judge a book by its cover.
Distinguished kindness from always having to do things for people, trying to make everyone happy won’t get you very far. Being a pushover is highly undesirable. If your goal is to be respected, being too nice to everyone all the time isn’t a durable path. Some people might even think you’re not genuine. If you don’t want to do something, say so. If you’ve got a dissenting opinion and knowing your heart that you’re right, say so. Being assertive in a polite courteous and respectful way will earn respect from others even when you disagree with them. Speak up when mistreated. Don’t just take it when someone is mistreating or taking advantage of you. Be professional and diplomatic, but don’t be silent speaking up for yourself. Not always easy to do, but a start is not a bad idea at any point of life.
I workout, follow a healthy diet, wear nice clothes/sneakers/watches/perfume & take care of few things related to my personal hygiene. Because I care about THE WAY I LOOK, not because what other people think how I look.