This post today about what “your text/email style” talks about your personality. Though it may seem immaculately random, there’s an immense correlation between how we speak in real life and how we write texts/emails so much so that they can reveal a lot about who we are. For example; narcissists tend to use first person language like me, I ,my, mine a lot, extroverts like to use casual tones intend to talk about fun activities/gathering/interests/visions.
How you say something can be just as important as what you say, no typos means that you’re mindful perfectionist or even obsessive, while bad grammar could expose lower levels of IQ and no academic intelligence, long texts/email can show that you have a lot of energy and you are very thorough & patient, but sometimes it can also communicate that you’re overwhelmed with attention or needy in some cases. A person’s personality is like a mine, you have to keep mining good habits to reflect a STRONG PERSONALITY.
Never expect affection or approval from a narcissist. They always focus on your faults. Narcissist boost their own self-worth by demanding special treatment garnering obedient followers and establishing the highest expectations from others and they enjoy inflating their egos by making other people feel bad about themselves. That’s why they focus on what you do wrong in life.
A narcissist will keep a laundry list of your mistakes faults to use when it’s convenient for them at the same time. They’ll overlook your successes and anything that you do right? Keep that in mind. In the next time you’re trying to gain approval or affection from a narcissist, no matter how hard you try nothing will ever guarantee their support.
You will never win an argument with a narcissist. People with narcissistic tendencies are unable or utterly uninterested in resolving a conflict at hand. They simply cannot have a healthy mature conversation. If you’ve ever found yourself arguing with a narcissist, you know that you are always left wondering why you even engage with them in the first place!!
The trouble is when you have a narcissist in life, even a small request for comment can turn into a full-blown argument that goes around and around in circles. And the worst part is that, you feel guilty by the end of it even if nothing is your fault. Well here it’s not you, it’s them. Narcissists are highly skilled in manipulation techniques that are meant to confuse and disorient you. You’re not communicating with a logical mind and that’s why you always feel insane after disagreements. So do what you can to avoid getting into these arguments in the first place, that’s the only way to win.
Toxic people are not new to life. World is filled with narcissists & liars that we can’t sideline. But that situation becomes often if you don’t set limits & establish boundaries. I would rather say, you must do both for every equation in your life. Let me explain why/how;
Set limits: Complainers and negative people are bad news. They wallow in their problems and they want others to join in so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as insensitive or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral. You can avoid this by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Just think of it this way; if the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all day inhaling the second-hand smoke? Probably not, you will distance yourself and you should do the same with every person who’s toxic.
Establish boundaries: This is the area where most people tend to sell themselves short, they feel that because they work or live with someone they have no way to control the chaos. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Once you’ve found your way to rise above a person, you’ll begin to find their behavior more predictable and easier to understand. This will equip you to think rationally about when and where you have to put up with them and when you don’t. If you let things happen naturally, you are bound to find yourself constantly broiled in difficult conversations. But if you set boundaries and decide when and where you’ll engage a person, you can control much of the chaos.
Truthful people lift souls, that’s the reason you feel desired around them. On the other hand, every LIAR is a low-key narcissist who works only towards getting some instantaneous petty favor.
Once you spot/catch a liar, next step is a complete disconnection from that piece of shit. I talk about liars a lot, because i have worked my way out from everything/everyone that wasn’t serving my good. You too should do the same. Keep reminding yourself “We live life to vibe & grow”.
Never try to do anything that’s outside of who you are. A forced smile is a sign of what feels wrong in your heart, so recognize it when it happens. Living a LIE will reduce you to one. – Ashly Lorenzana.
There is a reason I always say liars are the insects of a healthy society. Every cheater, thief, murderer, rapist, narcissist, fraudster have one thing in common; “Their string of lies”. Whenever you encounter a liar, make sure you cut that equation clean out of your life. Those who are reading this, remember to gift yourself some ample dose of self-respect every morning. Live a life where there is no second chances, so that you will never entertain a liar or never commit that same mistake.