Tag: narcissist

Tru2Day979

You will never get the truth out of a Narcissist.
The closest you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, but never the villain.

– Shannon L. Alder.

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This post today about what “your text/email style” talks about your personality. Though it may seem immaculately random, there’s an immense correlation between how we speak in real life and how we write texts/emails so much so that they can reveal a lot about who we are. For example; narcissists tend to use first person language like me, I ,my, mine a lot, extroverts like to use casual tones intend to talk about fun activities/gathering/interests/visions.

How you say something can be just as important as what you say, no typos means that you’re mindful perfectionist or even obsessive, while bad grammar could expose lower levels of IQ and no academic intelligence, long texts/email can show that you have a lot of energy and you are very thorough & patient, but sometimes it can also communicate that you’re overwhelmed with attention or needy in some cases. A person’s personality is like a mine, you have to keep mining good habits to reflect a STRONG PERSONALITY.

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Never expect affection or approval from a narcissist. They always focus on your faults. Narcissist boost their own self-worth by demanding special treatment garnering obedient followers and establishing the highest expectations from others and they enjoy inflating their egos by making other people feel bad about themselves. That’s why they focus on what you do wrong in life.

A narcissist will keep a laundry list of your mistakes faults to use when it’s convenient for them at the same time. They’ll overlook your successes and anything that you do right? Keep that in mind. In the next time you’re trying to gain approval or affection from a narcissist, no matter how hard you try nothing will ever guarantee their support.

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You will never win an argument with a narcissist. People with narcissistic tendencies are unable or utterly uninterested in resolving a conflict at hand. They simply cannot have a healthy mature conversation. If you’ve ever found yourself arguing with a narcissist, you know that you are always left wondering why you even engage with them in the first place!!

The trouble is when you have a narcissist in life, even a small request for comment can turn into a full-blown argument that goes around and around in circles. And the worst part is that, you feel guilty by the end of it even if nothing is your fault. Well here it’s not you, it’s them. Narcissists are highly skilled in manipulation techniques that are meant to confuse and disorient you. You’re not communicating with a logical mind and that’s why you always feel insane after disagreements. So do what you can to avoid getting into these arguments in the first place, that’s the only way to win.

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Toxic people are not new to life. World is filled with narcissists & liars that we can’t sideline. But that situation becomes often if you don’t set limits & establish boundaries. I would rather say, you must do both for every equation in your life. Let me explain why/how;

Set limits: Complainers and negative people are bad news. They wallow in their problems and they want others to join in so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as insensitive or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral. You can avoid this by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Just think of it this way; if the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all day inhaling the second-hand smoke? Probably not, you will distance yourself and you should do the same with every person who’s toxic.

Establish boundaries: This is the area where most people tend to sell themselves short, they feel that because they work or live with someone they have no way to control the chaos. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Once you’ve found your way to rise above a person, you’ll begin to find their behavior more predictable and easier to understand. This will equip you to think rationally about when and where you have to put up with them and when you don’t. If you let things happen naturally, you are bound to find yourself constantly broiled in difficult conversations. But if you set boundaries and decide when and where you’ll engage a person, you can control much of the chaos.

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Tru2Day629

Grifters will always grift & grift always requires victimhood.

(That’s my easy observation about a liar/cheater/narcissist/bully/Donald Dump.)

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Truthful people lift souls, that’s the reason you feel desired around them. On the other hand, every LIAR is a low-key narcissist who works only towards getting some instantaneous petty favor.

Once you spot/catch a liar, next step is a complete disconnection from that piece of shit. I talk about liars a lot, because i have worked my way out from everything/everyone that wasn’t serving my good. You too should do the same. Keep reminding yourself “We live life to vibe & grow”.

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Never try to do anything that’s outside of who you are. A forced smile is a sign of what feels wrong in your heart, so recognize it when it happens. Living a LIE will reduce you to one.
– Ashly Lorenzana.

There is a reason I always say liars are the insects of a healthy society. Every cheater, thief, murderer, rapist, narcissist, fraudster have one thing in common; “Their string of lies”. Whenever you encounter a liar, make sure you cut that equation clean out of your life. Those who are reading this, remember to gift yourself some ample dose of self-respect every morning. Live a life where there is no second chances, so that you will never entertain a liar or never commit that same mistake.

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Another GREAT FIND!!

I have a strong interest towards making people aware of understanding narcissistic personality, doesn’t matter it’s coming from self or your partner.

13 Signs of a Narcissistic women..

1: Talking about self in exaggerated terms.

2: She will try to dominate a conversation with something silly & out of the topic rant.

3: Her most conversations are based around accomplishments, looks, materialism. They will hide from talking anything passionate about life, like earning respect, money or looking for exciting adventures & activities.

4: They want each positive feedback to hit them. She can’t stand not being center of attention even though they have a charming life, loving family. They always look forward for some third party validation & intimacy even while holding on to a relationship.

5: Spot her actions against her words, they lack reliability. The lack of dependence can be emotional as well. They will be there for you one minute & gone the next. There will be a pattern of inconsistency you can spot in very few days.

6: They are not suitable for sharing anything private, because they are never sincere to anybody.

7: Instant gratification, irritation & anger: They all are badly self obsessed. The only way to keep them at your side is only when you say YES to all their stupidity & ill thoughts. The moment you point your conversation to something real, they will move backwards. Even a NO is something they can’t digest.

8: Sometimes it’s embarrassing to handle them both in conversation & in public places. You never know when they can behave insane.

9: They enjoy breaking rules. Appointments, classes, promises & their own words. You name them, they are already there. They will use other’s feelings without consideration & sensitivity.

10: Manipulation: they always try to hold on to near & dear ones to cover up self perceived inadequacies & flaws. They can manipulate you to think the way they think to behave. They will try to pamper you to take towards some foolish extent that they can’t think beyond. Some will seem unbelievably magical to be utter bullshit.

11: They keep themselves indulged in superiority or inferiority complexes. They always try to feel secure from inside, which is actually a pretend to be something in everybody’s eyes which has too little potential to be different.

12: They will always try to tell the other side to be right on time & right on spot, but punctuality is not their one of the special features to be honest. They pretend to be the perfectionists. For them the rules don’t imply on them, but for everybody around surrounding them. They are actually just some emotionally hollow ruthless people.

13: They can never take a criticism. They go raged with that. You can spot them uttering a similar phrase of word or tone when they get into their zone of denial or hiding, insults.

Spot & Outsmart a NARCISSIST..

Sometimes you think or feel, the other side would change so that things could go well. & Guess what it would be nice if that happened. But there comes a point when we realize, this person has a past track record so long that any hope or change at this moment would be part of denial what’s really happening. That’s the first trait to recognise a NARCISSIST.

The truth is if we want change to happen, it has to start with us. I am not putting the blame on anyone. The only person you can change is yourself. Insanity does the same expecting change. They will never put that cold silent treatment aside. Realize that it’s in your power to being torment to pattern & understand being happy with or without them.

Recognise the pattern & these specific two things;

1. When you are trying to begging, pleading, crying or apologizing, you know what your motive is. But you have to know that narcissist’s motive too. Your motive is to end that toxic dynamic for peace & stop making them treat as if somebody doesn’t exist. But you are doing everything that a narcissist wants you to do. Their motive is to feed on your drama. There are numbers of reasons they didn’t like what you had to say that you called them out for something, maybe they are bored and things have been too quiet and they need some kind of irritation around. Their only motive is to feed off of your emotion when we make efforts to make peace with them. They are not gonna think like “they want peace, so let’s have peace after all everybody wants that”. But narcissists are allergic to peace, happiness & healthy love. So they run away from that, also they don’t think the other people think. When someone is apologizing to you, “you feel wow now they know i feel bad of something, now I am sorted from this”. But a narcissist never thinks like that, when someone apologizes they think “oh see I am right, look there his/her admission of guilt”. Whatever you say to them will be used against you even an apology. This is their power trip, you are allowing yourself to feel tortured. Their thoughts at this point are “I must be really important, look how much he/she is suffering just because I am not giving them attention, wow it’s been 17 hours & they are just getting worse, they need me like the air they breathe, they are nothing without me, that’s how amazing I am”. This is what they think usually.

If you feel crying will touch their heart, it won’t.
If you think pleading is going to get through, it won’t.
If you think showing yourself to be tortured by what they are doing will somehow touch their empathy, it won’t. You are not dealing with a person that has empathy, that’s why the silent treatment goes so long. It’s a hard pill of truth to swallow when you realize what’s inside them. But you have to realise that.

2. Now the second part of stopping the silent treatment forever. That has to do with us. All of us allow ourselves to feel tortured allowing ourselves to be in anguish begging pleading trying to make peace because we had a wrong thought. We thought we needed this person to show me their approval to love me to know I am likeable & I am a good person. Maybe we aren’t thinking the same actually, but that’s what our actions are showing. We are raised in a environment where we are taught “your value only comes after external validation”. You know nothing else over that, that’s your subconscious programming. We all are carrying it out even without realizing it. Everyone wants their significant other to value & see their worth, to love & cherish them. Everyone should want that. But we don’t need that in order to know we are valuable beautiful & amazing people. It’s too late to know even before you realize the person you are with is treating your emotions as if you are dead. Their view of you is actually your view of you. So basically you are super codependent. You depended on that person’s validation, approval, forgiveness & expressions of love to know you are lovable. Your subconscious programming is pushing you towards only stupidity that this narcissistic mindset wants to feed him/her.

Let’s talk about things to get rid of all negativity that we just discussed. Four words “self love, self worth, self confidence, self value”. If you don’t know where to start, let me help you. Begin feeding your self love. Then when the silent treatment comes, do these few things.

A- Observe, don’t absorb. Next time notice that silent treatment, see how it goes again. That narcissist wants your emotions, your pain & drama. Don’t give them that. Just see it, smile or laugh inside. It’s basically a pattern of their usual life.

B- Respond, don’t react. You don’t have to beg someone to converse with you. You don’t have to plead or force them to. They are allowed to have that toxic behaviour if they choose. But you are allowed to stay healthy & engage yourself in what makes you proud of yourself or empowered. Just reply “Looks like you don’t wanna talk right now, that’s fine, you are allowed to be quiet if you want.” Cut off the supply of emotions.

C- Don’t ask yourself what the narcissist/that toxic person needs. “What they need, what they want, why are they doing or behaving this way, what can I do to stop it.” No. No. No. You are gonna ask only one question “what do I need to stay calm & happy”. Don’t go towards that codependent thinking again. Don’t think you can only be ok if they stop being toxic, that’s a lie. Ask yourself what do you need right now to feel good. Go to gym and sweat it out, eat some nice food, watch a movie, workout at home, read a book, take a bath, practice meditation, go out for a walk, walk your dog, talk to your friends or family on phone. Stop allowing that person to make you happy.

This silent treatment is going to be over in a while. I promise. Don’t wait for that silent treatment to take over you again. Learn to be happy with or without them. A narcissistic mindset is just a result of certain situations they went through. Yes they need help but they need to accept it to get better. A narcissist always knows when, how & where to hide. Actually they are the weakest mindset & with lowest ever self esteem which kicks them to behave so. Don’t fight with them, you work on your self healing. A narcissist changes when the surroundings stop valuing that in them. Start should be you.