You can always start again. Clean out your social media. Create a new account for your new taste in music. Study or work in a new city. Start socialising with new people. Choose a new signature scent and style and purge the outdated parts of yourself. If you don’t like where you’re at & you don’t know what to do about it, simply try starting again.
People never understand “what you want to do” is always connected to “what you need to do”.
Suppose i want to be an engineer, i need to study engineering. Suppose i want to a writer/musician/athlete, i need to learn & practice writing/music/sports. Suppose i want to get fit, i need to workout.
What you want to do doesn’t make any sense till you aren’t following what you need to do first. This is the major reason most people stay unhappy & blame others for their failures. This one tiny mindset change can drastically evolve your life in a year.
NEEDS FIRST, WANTS NEXT.
(This movie trailer got nothing to do with the post above. My first real full-time job was software developer before i switched to data analytics field. I know where we are heading with time, our world isn’t going bad as this trailer shows. But the way technology is advancing, who knows what’s coming after hundred years!! Anyways, there are no boundaries for imagination.)
It’s the little things in life. It’s the people who don’t just text you, but take the time out of their day to put you in their schedule; no matter how busy they are. It’s the friends that are authentic and don’t fake what they feel. The people who are straight with you and accept you for who you are; down to the raw scars and burns. It’s the pure feeling of happiness while driving your AMG when you’re listening to music with people you love and there is absolutely no where else in the entire world you would rather be. It’s the feeling like we’ll live forever, like we’re young forever. It’s the love that soothes our heart which makes life feel happy to die for. It’s the love that breaks our hearts but knowing the feeling of pain and feeling the pain, but getting through the pain; only to be grateful for the feel of life, the feel of living.
Moments and little things, acts that make every breathe so incredibly amazing. That’s what I live for; these moments that make us feel infinite. Life is fun. Let it be.
Pay more attention to what stirs your heart. Pay attention to the music that makes you want to cry, or dance, or jump right out of your skin. Pay attention to what makes you happy truly happy, the kind of happy that drips from your bones, the kind of happy that gives you hope, and makes you believe that you have a reason to be here. Pay attention to the things that make you laugh, the things that make you smile. Really focus on figuring out what compels you. Really focus on discovering the aspects of the world that interest you and challenge you and make you want to learn and grow.
You have to pay attention, To the things that make you believe in being alive. To the people that support you and build you up and make you feel like you’re understood in a world that can sometimes feel like a haunted and hurtful place. You have to pay attention to the life you want to create for yourself. Because you are in charge of your own happiness. You are in charge of who you become. So, if something makes your soul feel like it is finally home, pay attention to it. Whether it is a job, or an idea, or a goal, or a person, or a place, just follow what makes you feel alive. Just make your life your own.
Life changes. You lose love. You lose friends. You lose pieces of yourself that you never imagined would be gone. And then, without you even realizing it, these pieces come back. Love blooms inside you with lots of respect. Better friends come along. And a stronger, wiser you is staring back in the mirror. No matter how bad it gets, better days are always waiting, hoping you’ll make it there to accept the smiles and joy that they’re offering.
Someone once told me to always live for the little things in life. Live for 5am sunrises and 5pm sunsets where you’ll see colours in the sky that don’t usually belong. Live for road trips and bike rides with music in your ears and the wind in your hair. Live for days when you’re surrounded by your favourite people who make you realise that the world is not a cold, harsh place. Live for the little things because they will make you realise that this is what life is about, this is what it means to be alive. LIFE IS ALL ABOUT A CONSISTENT FLOW OF POSITIVE VIBE WHICH STARTS WITH YOU. (Not my words.)
Don’t settle for nice, for pleasant, for familiar. Keep looking until you find something that really moves you, that resonates with your core. And I mean this for people, for interests, for hobbies, for your possessions, clothes, music, books, art and everything.
Curate every aspect of your life, as much as you can. It’s in the things that deeply inspire us that we find ourselves. Surround yourself with truth, and you’ll have built yourself a heaven. You can have your heaven on earth. (Not my words).
You are the books you read, the films you watch, the music you listen to, the people you meet, the kind of friends you have, the work you do, the dreams you have, the conversations you engage in, the way you respond & react.
You are what you take from these. You are the sound of the ocean, the breath of fresh air, the brightest light and the darkest corner.
You are a collective of every experience you have had in your life. You are every single day. So drown yourself in a sea of knowledge, experience and existence. Let the words run through your veins and let the colours fill your mind. Be a real you.
Let me shine light on this issue of “SMARTPHONE ADDICTION”. Just ask yourself “how many of you are starting and ending the day on your phone!!”. Most people are inseparable from their phones. Sometimes this type of connection can be more harmful than helpful, especially at the beginning and end of your day. It’s easy to form the habit of picking up your phone when you wake up and end the day scrolling. Many people even charge their phones right next to their beds.
But here the problem is emails, to do lists, social media feeds, games and everything else is just creating a barrage of distractions and ideas that cloud your mind creating no good outcome. For the sake of your mental well-being at least try to minimize technology as you start and end your day.
The reason i don’t understand GOSSIP, Gossiping for attention & telling stories can make you appear smarter and more engaging, it may even help you feel accepted in a social group. But gossiping always backfires in the long run.
Spreading gossip is only a short-term solution to elicit approval and although people may enjoy here and there to gossip, later they tend to dislike those who spread it. It reveals that she/he may be untrustworthy or judgmental after all if you talk about others behind their back, what’s to stop you from gossiping about anyone in your life including the people you gossip to. People are temporary & gossiping is cheap. Learn to learn something new to keep yourself exciting, young & happy.
Once in a while one friend or another asks me this question: “Tap, what you do when you are stressed!!?”.
OK. This one has two solutions for me; 1. Figure out who/what caused stress & kill that reason behind it silently. 2. Lift weights, do some 200 push-ups, look at my imperfect 5-pack abs in mirror, talk to my PhD research associates to figure out who is running ahead of me, login to my amazon seller portal to see how many boxes of whey protein we sold today, then have a pint of my favourite low calorie sugarfree ice cream in sea salt caramel flavour while watching Tom and Jerry.
Two easy ways actually. Most of the time i prefer the 2nd one because murder is still illegal. In case i get the opportunity to kill someone without getting punished, i would love to kill my bestie bitch by leaving her inside a huge bucket in any snowy swedish village during 2070 winter. If you are one of my close friends, you already know i am a simple stupid sober sassy person who is unaware of all emotional melodramas. Nobody is big enough to hurt me or give me stress. The worst things a human can do is; LIE. Every liar falls in line with every negative prediction. And i bet, after a while they seem fun & funny because of their repetitive pattern of lying. Fuck fake goodness. Tappie loves real people with clean intentions & bad will always work if it’s real.
It’s so important to prioritize your well-being and devote time to yourself. People often take advantage of you. Every person’s superpower is intuition. Very few tend to have accurate gut reactions to others and this helps shield them and their loved ones from those who are dishonest and ill intentions.
With that said, all applicable towards people with an empathetic heart. Yet an empath’s intuition can’t protect them from everything. They can still fall prey to deception, narcissism and toxicity. So be mindful of people who try to take advantage of your compassionate empathetic and kind nature.
During my engineering college days I was part of a group with all electronic & rap music enthusiasts. We all planned to form a band together, because that time was all about boy bands or music groups like black eyed peas, linkin park, back street boys, pussycat dolls. There were two lead guitar players in our group, sometimes i still see EMY from electrical engineering branch playing drum, i was good at playing piano/electric keyboard/launchpad, there were two singers with high pitch vocals & it was an amazing combination of 6 young energetic people. The best part is we all failed together in becoming a band. I loved the failure part of it, because we weren’t something unique or better for the same reason. Studying engineering is a tough journey on it’s own, we didn’t put enough time into our music.
Most of the time i see young people peep into an idea which is more like lust towards Money or Fame that they don’t deserve. Today i am talking about something called “Group goals”. I am saying it out of observation & experience. Whenever someone says “I am planning to do something different with friends or in a group, let me assure you that amazing nonsense will never materialize to real world“.
We don’t see the same dream with 5 others. If you aren’t habituated to walk alone towards your GOALS, your GOAL is nothing but a daydream.
LOVE is LOVE when you find someone worth of you & you become worthy of them, just one person is your target. Eyes on the prize and get it.
In relationships, CHEATERS are those who can’t change themselves for the better but they keep on changing their same shitty cycle of relationship from one person to another person without guilt till Karma gets them. I just feel pity over these kinda morons who pick between two/three to enter or exit a relationship. That’s how these triangles, cheating & rest heartbreak bullshits come to play. And there is a big market of HEARTBREAK related nonsense, especially in music industry. No matter what happens to life, stay away from this market.