This is your life. You’re allowed to change your mind. To change your heart. You’re allowed to be a different person. To wake up one day and not want to do the things you’ve been doing all your life. You’re allowed to love who you want. To move on from the people who are not good to you. To let go of anyone without any kind of explanation. Without any kind of regret. You’re allowed to make mistakes. To learn from them. Or not to learn from them and experience everything all over again. You’re allowed to forget your past if you want to. Or to stay in it but you must also understand that this is not how you will grow. You’re allowed to change careers. To dress differently. To chase different dreams. To change locations, even if, at first, you’re terrified to do so. You’re allowed to dislike yourself but also allowed to change those same parts you don’t see eye to eye with. To work on them until you’re completely comfortable with who you are.
This is your life. Make it count. Make your own validation. Your own path. Your own way of life. You are enough. And you are not broken. You’re a lot stronger than you want to believe. Now breathe. (Not my words.)
DON’T COMPARE YOUR actual self to a hypothetical self. Don’t drown in a sea of ‘what if’s. Don’t clutter your mind by imagining other versions of you, in parallel universes, where you made different decisions. The internet age encourages choice and comparison, but don’t do this to yourself. Theodore Roosevelt said; “Comparison is the thief of joy”.
You are you. The past is the past. The only way to make a better life is from inside the present. To focus on regret does nothing but turn that very present into another thing you will wish you did differently.
Accept your own reality. Be human enough to make mistakes. Be human enough not to dread the future. Be human enough to be, well, enough. Accepting where you are in life makes it so much easier to be happy for other people without feeling terrible about yourself. BE YOU.
It’s so easy to beat ourselves up for mistakes we’ve made in the past. Mistakes are part of being human and they are part of being alive. Our mistakes are blessings and opportunities to keep learning and expanding. But even when you learn from your mistakes don’t expect to never make another. You will and that’s okay.
Keep growing and embrace each challenge as a chance to learn something new and you will be amazed by how easy it is to move on. Mistakes are nothing more than opportunities to learn, grow, and better our future.
Being observant is fun, once in a while just enjoy sitting back. Just observing everything around you, crazy pretensious people, the constant postings on social media, the scandals and disrespectful behavior of actors/politicians/government officials, all may split you off because there is more to life. So just take a break, observe everything & keep on reminding yourself that; you must never become something this level of mediocre one day.
We must believe in being a true self, first you be the person you expect to welcome to your life, radiate the energy you want to be around. Learn to be humble and encouraging to all, but don’t put your time and trust if people don’t deserve. I have a simple word for it, KARMA & I do believe in it. So, be observant to not make similar stupid mistakes & create GOOD KARMA.
One can’t be present if they are looking backwards, or for that matter forward. This is a tricky one to explain because it seems to imply that past and future don’t matter, somewhat seeming to contradict our vision for a better tomorrow. But that’s not really true. Let’s look at it like, as humans we often have the tendency to get caught up in thoughts about past achievements & failures. And sometimes, it’s living in our dreams of future that hinder us from seeing the potential of present. We tend to forget that present counts much more than the past or the future. Actually the steps that you take in the present are more important than the memories of the past & dreams of the future.
You need to deal with the past & the future while living in present. Take your sweet time and go back to the past once in a while to collect necessary lesson, then come back and live in your present without reliving those same low points of life. Use lessons from the past and also use dreams of a grand future to drive yourself to take the necessary steps that’s required right right now. We all might have dealt with bad memories and bad experiences in our past, that mustn’t stop us from seeing the light of a beautiful tomorrow. I always say this “TOMORROW IS ALWAYS AN UPGRADE OF TODAY”.