Buy the black car, People will say you should’ve got blue. Start a business, People will say you should’ve got a job. Get married, People will say you picked the wrong partner. Learn a trade, People will say you should’ve done something else.
Everyone has an opinion about everything. You’ll go crazy trying to please everyone. Don’t even try. Listen, smile, agree. And then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway.
When your mental health isn’t in the best state, give yourself a break.
Don’t feel guilty for things you can’t do. Normal things like eating, sleeping or socialising may be difficult, it’s okay to struggle. Rest, recover, be kind to yourself and know the bad times are temporary.
The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will point blank not like you. But it is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. They are your people. You are not for everyone and that’s OK. Talk to the people who can hear you.
Don’t waste your precious time and gifts trying to convince them of your value, they won’t ever want what you’re selling. Don’t convince them to walk alongside you. You’ll be wasting both your time and theirs and will likely inflict unnecessary wounds, which will take precious time to heal. You are not for them and they are not for you; politely wave them on, and continue along your way. Sharing your path with someone is a sacred gift; don’t cheapen this gift by rolling yours in the wrong direction.
Keep facing your true north. YOU ARE NOT FOR EVERYONE.
When your mental health isn’t in the best state, give yourself a break. Don’t feel guilty for things you can’t do. Normal things like eating, sleeping or socialising may be difficult, it’s okay to struggle. Rest, recover, be kind to yourself and know the bad times are temporary.
I know people who graduated college at 21, and didn’t get a salary job until they were 27. I know people who graduated at 25 and already had a salary job. I know people who have children and are single. I know people who are married and had to wait 8-10 years to be parents. I know people who are in a relationship and love someone else. I know people who love each other and aren’t together. There are people waiting to love and be loved. My point is, everything in life happens according to our time, our clock. You may look at your friends and some may seem to be ahead or behind you, but they’re not, they’re living according to the pace of their clock, so be patient.
You’re not falling behind, it’s just not your time. (Not my words.)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I shared it just because i like this one. Very few will understand where this song is heading.)