Buy the black car, People will say you should’ve got blue. Start a business, People will say you should’ve got a job. Get married, People will say you picked the wrong partner. Learn a trade, People will say you should’ve done something else.
Everyone has an opinion about everything. You’ll go crazy trying to please everyone. Don’t even try. Listen, smile, agree. And then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway.
12 Habits you don’t realize are killing you slowly:
1. You skip breakfast/meals all the time. 2. You spend money you don’t have. 3. You are entertaining an unhappy relationship/friendship/marriage. 4. You text while you walk. 5. You skip your exercise/workout routine. 6. You snack when you’re not hungry. 7. You overwork yourself. 8. You bite your nails. 9. Your posture goes unchecked. 10. You have a severe lack of sleep. 11. You skip out on the vitamin D. 12. You load up on the caffeine.
I know people who graduated college at 21, and didn’t get a salary job until they were 27. I know people who graduated at 25 and already had a salary job. I know people who have children and are single. I know people who are married and had to wait 8-10 years to be parents. I know people who are in a relationship and love someone else. I know people who love each other and aren’t together. There are people waiting to love and be loved. My point is, everything in life happens according to our time, our clock. You may look at your friends and some may seem to be ahead or behind you, but they’re not, they’re living according to the pace of their clock, so be patient.
You’re not falling behind, it’s just not your time. (Not my words.)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I shared it just because i like this one. Very few will understand where this song is heading.)
A high school teacher once said; “Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”. I took those words bit too seriously i guess. Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes: Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway: Whatever struggle you are facing in your life, make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love. When you are filled with anger or hate, the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care. Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
“Great things comes to those who wait”. That’s true, but you have to work for it & earn it. My observation says; lazy minds always daydream about achieving great things effortlessly. You are defined by the choices you make. Your life is yours to live and nobody else can save you or live it for you. And unless you were born rich or marry rich, there’s probably not going to be a lot of handouts coming your way. Nobody knows exactly what you think or want except you and nobody will be as upset as you if you don’t achieve your goals. So don’t depend on someone else to build your dreams for you.
Be the creator of your own happiness and take responsibility for your past and present to create the future you want.
If your life has tons of problems and some weed/drug is helping you to get away from those problems, then I pity on that cheap life. If you are using those for a good time, then too I feel pity over you because I feel having fun with all senses active makes more sense. Some people must be thinking what’s my opinion on alcohol?! I would rather say ask yourself. My point is; if your brother is getting married or it’s some friend’s birthday, you got a promotion or you proposed your future boo to take your relationship to next level, please have few sip of wine or whiskey to celebrate that moment. Even I am a fan of some good aged red wine & dirty martini if there is an occasion.
What I wanted to share is: people who use any kind of psychedelics or alcohol to get rid of their reality will never understand the beauty of life.
Definitely YES, can’t say no to my bestie. One big reason I avoid marriages, I just don’t want to intimidate few people around me. & I am not the one who loves wearing formal/suits. So all set this time. My ass will take another big hit because of two more long haul flights. All good, big love.