Toxic people are not new to life. World is filled with narcissists & liars that we can’t sideline. But that situation becomes often if you don’t set limits & establish boundaries. I would rather say, you must do both for every equation in your life. Let me explain why/how;
Set limits: Complainers and negative people are bad news. They wallow in their problems and they want others to join in so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as insensitive or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral. You can avoid this by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Just think of it this way; if the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all day inhaling the second-hand smoke? Probably not, you will distance yourself and you should do the same with every person who’s toxic.
Establish boundaries: This is the area where most people tend to sell themselves short, they feel that because they work or live with someone they have no way to control the chaos. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Once you’ve found your way to rise above a person, you’ll begin to find their behavior more predictable and easier to understand. This will equip you to think rationally about when and where you have to put up with them and when you don’t. If you let things happen naturally, you are bound to find yourself constantly broiled in difficult conversations. But if you set boundaries and decide when and where you’ll engage a person, you can control much of the chaos.
There are liars, cheaters, thieves, criminals, Donald Trump & all sort of other deceptive people, all have one thing in common is their “LIE”. Basically all are different degree of LIARS. On the other hand there is also another set of equally lackluster group of folks known as “INCONSISTENT PEOPLE”. And i swear they are even more worse compared to LIARS. Liars are a turn off, but it takes a little time to catch their lies. But inconsistent people are way more prominent in their part of nonsense, you can catch their INCONSISTENCY very next moment. Another funny part, most LIARS are INCONSISTENT by nature.
My post was to make everyone aware of any INCONSISTENT person around. You don’t need to confront them, just get rid of them. Right people vibe & match your energy, then stick for a long run no matter what’s your taste or status!! Liars will never connect to this school of thought. Truth is trust. Be blunt to block any inconsistent person from life, that’s the best gift you can give yourself before 2020 is over. Still another month away, let’s end it on a good note.
(This paragraph has nothing to do with the post above. We are slowly but surely recovering from this pandemic. I wish/hope everyone is taking care of own health and happiness. Today i am not around family or my same set of friends that i have spent previous few amazing years, i am talking about geographical distance here. This is the time we used to share some warmth, have some nice sugery/greasy yummy food & create few good memories meanwhile. I didn’t host any kinda party this year because of COVID-19, that money was meant to be spent for my people. So many things didn’t go as planned. What breaks my heart is those people whose lives & livelihood got effected. Went to a nearby homeless shelter today asking whether i can donate some sweatshirts/jackets/blankets because it’s almost winter. They replied, there is enough winter clothes available except some winter woolen socks because they always run short. I bought socks for everyone in that homeless shelter & i wasn’t even able to spend the whole thanksgiving dinner money. Only message i wanted to share here; YES we all are going through a tough time. Do your tiny bit towards the needy even if you want to flex/share it in your instagram or YouTube. There is nothing wrong is spreading the right. HAPPY THANKSGIVING.)
Truthful people lift souls, that’s the reason you feel desired around them. On the other hand, every LIAR is a low-key narcissist who works only towards getting some instantaneous petty favor.
Once you spot/catch a liar, next step is a complete disconnection from that piece of shit. I talk about liars a lot, because i have worked my way out from everything/everyone that wasn’t serving my good. You too should do the same. Keep reminding yourself “We live life to vibe & grow”.
Never try to do anything that’s outside of who you are. A forced smile is a sign of what feels wrong in your heart, so recognize it when it happens. Living a LIE will reduce you to one. – Ashly Lorenzana.
There is a reason I always say liars are the insects of a healthy society. Every cheater, thief, murderer, rapist, narcissist, fraudster have one thing in common; “Their string of lies”. Whenever you encounter a liar, make sure you cut that equation clean out of your life. Those who are reading this, remember to gift yourself some ample dose of self-respect every morning. Live a life where there is no second chances, so that you will never entertain a liar or never commit that same mistake.
1. Most approach me with a thought “they can’t tie me down, but taking a chance with Tap is worth it”. That thought is both stupid & dumb from beginning.
2. I buy lies at a price of pence per kilo. The moment you lie, I already know your worth is not more than a quid. I admit/accept all sorts of mess I made & the biggest pride I carry is “I am a TRUE me no matter who/what you are. I don’t mind hurting people to say what I feel. Reason: if I don’t express, it might bug my mood. And in my eyes, I am the most expensive person I ever came across.”
I don’t have some superpowers. Catching someone lie or being uncomfortable is damn easy. Your voice modulation changes when you plan things in your head before answering something. Truth is natural, lie is planned. Don’t be afraid to be yourself.