You glow differently when your confidence is fuelled by belief in yourself instead of validation from others.
Not everyone has access to me because I want peace more than attention.
It’s funny because when you were a child,
you believe you can be anything you want to be, go wherever you want to go.
There’s no limit to what you can dream.
You expect the unexpected,
you believe in magic,
you believe in fairy tales,
and you strongly believe in possibilities.
Then you get older.
That innocence is shattered.
And somewhere along the way the reality of life gets in the way.
You’re hit by the realization that you can’t be all you wanted to be.
You might have to settle for a bit little bit less.
BE THE MOST AUTHENTIC VERSION OF YOURSELF.
BECOME WHAT YOUR HEART PUSHES YOU TO BE.
IN THIS WORLD OF INSTANT GRATIFICATION & UNREAL EXPECTATIONS, YOU BEING A REAL YOU IS THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE TO YOURSELF & THE SOCIETY.
7 Things to live by:
1. Go after dreams, not people.
2. Love yourself and the rest will follow.
3. Never lose your sense of wonder.
4. You are capable of more than you know.
5. No regrets in life. Just lessons learned.
6. Your only limit is you.
7. Life goes by in a blink of an eye. So first live life.
(This article got nothing to do with the post above, you can click on the image to read the entire article. There’s a reason i don’t like apps like TIKTOK or Instagram reels, such apps are limiting our attention span. Our human race is losing focus & we struggle to put attention towards where it’s needed. I know some people who can’t read a page long article because it’s a page long or they can’t watch a 15 minutes video because it’s 15 minutes long.🤣🤣 This is called GOLDFISH SYNDROME, which means 10 second memory of a goldfish.)
4 Habits to make you MENTALLY STRONG:
1: Delay gratification.
The ability to delay gratification can be a big predictor of success.
Mentally strong people have the ability to prioritize the long-term over short-term pleasures.
2: Show up on the toughest days.
Often it’s the days when we don’t feel like showing up that end up being the most important ones.
Proving to yourself that you can show up on tough days builds your resilience and mental strength.
3: Positive Self-Talk.
One of the fastest ways to tear down your mental toughness is by speaking negatively to yourself.
Mentally strong people understand the importance of being your own biggest supporter.
4: Don’t dwell on things.
Allowing a problem or situation to dominate your mind, is another quick way to lose resilience.
Mentally strong people focus on what is within their control, and take action on it as soon as possible.
It’s the little choices that you make daily that will move your towards manifesting your dream life.
You’ve got to ask yourself what you’re living for & who you’re living for.
And if none of those answers begin with you then you’re living your life wrong, you’re living a lie.
Everything you do should revolve around you.
Every person, every place, ever moment should start and end with you.
This is your life and you shouldn’t spend it on dull things, in people who don’t understand the type of love you carry within your bones.
Because you only live once and it’s your job to make it count.
So let every day be yours, own it, remain consistent in your walk of life and never apologize for being who you are.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. In case this entire generation falls behind our journey towards humanity & a healthy civilized society, this app called TIKTOK is the sole reason behind it which gave them taste of instant gratification & memory span of a goldfish.)
3 things to admire:
Humility, Confidence, Commitment.
3 things to maintain:
Friendship, Honesty, Consistency.
3 things to control:
Tongue, Temper, Temptation.
3 things to prevent:
Laziness, Complaining, Doubt.
3 things to watch:
Attitude, Behavior, Language.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I like SNL for good reasons. No matter how hard i try, i struggle to understand how & why there’s a thing called TIKTOK in existence. I mean, how this 15 seconds of entertainment on loop works!! If i want to watch some dance, i will watch a STEP UP movie, for music there’s YouTube. I have a big dislike for such apps like TIKTOK which fuel instant gratification in young generation.)
Our preference for instant gratification reveals an important truth about success: because of how we are wired, most people will spend all day chasing quick hits of satisfaction.
The road less traveled is the road of delayed gratification.
If you’re willing to wait for the rewards, you’ll face less competition and often get a bigger payoff.
As the saying goes; the last mile is always the least crowded.
STAY CONSISTENT & ENJOY THE JOURNEY.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it for fun. Get a tiny insight towards a peaceful life.)
(If you don’t want to read something about my past personal experiences & jump to the heading of the post directly, skip first 3 paragraphs).
“Reject, V-step, Indian step, Reebok, Dougie, Robocop & C-walk”. Before these words start confusing you, let me clear they all are some forms of hip-hop dance moves. Coming to that reason why I mentioned something stupid like this in such a serious topic. To be a unique you, you either need to be better or different in a good way, this paragraph is about how different/impossible I am. I wasn’t a great student in my high-school/engineering college days because I was hella influenced by “how internet works” & step-up movies/hip-hop music. Again i was not a good student but a good scorer, still an amazing A+ (80%+) in entire student life. My interest for making own money got stronger which pushed focus towards freelancing projects related to some software development & little bit related to mechanical engineering tools like CAD/CAM, not gonna discuss all these failures/success related to my teen days. I value education & I am still pursuing my doctorate after master’s in business administration. I will remain a student forever. Writing this post about my teen & early twenty days while I am still in my twenties.
So why I mentioned those dance forms!! Like any young kid, even I wanted three things in common; “GOOD GRADES, GOOD CLOTHES/KICKS, GOOD LOOKS”. GOOD GRADES to make parents happy. GOOD CLOTHES/SNEAKERS to make friends jealous. GOOD LOOKS to woo/wow the hottest girl around. At the end, even when that was falling short my interests/hobbies/skills played a key role to move me towards what I desired. My interests in chess, robotics, dance, music, cooking, coding, piano, gym, boxing, trekking, skateboarding & surfing helped me get everything I wanted because of my PERSISTENCE. To attend an interschool essay/debate, compete at state-level chess, give speech in a seminar/conference, drive 200 kilometres for mountain climbing, walk 9 kilometres for finishing hiking/trekking, build robots to fight in engineering fests, woo that senior grade curly hair fit af light-skin girl with my b-boying dance moves before eating her entire summer vacation nights (during my A levels), all were a time consuming process and I was/am always persistent towards my desires. Everything I mentioned took tons of effort & dedication, that’s the only reason they all are still alive in me which reflects in my personality as well. Agree I am a generous happy happening horny little-arrogant self-invested athletic sober sweet pain in the ass, who is habituated to more than enough good/bad attention since a long long time because of everything I mentioned above about dance or anything else in my student life. I am so me because of all achievements/blunders I made during my teen days. (Another stupid info; It didn’t workout with the girl I mentioned, because she started smoking & doing drugs with her girl’s gang. I just hate smokers.)
Let’s talk a bit about how social media has bummed few of our social coping mechanism. In my engineering days when vine came, I loved few of those skits because they all were original/funny/witty. 6-10 seconds worth-it laughable moments in case you can figure out the humour meanwhile. Still I prefer Mr.bean anyday. But now when Tik-tok started getting popular after changing it’s name from “musically”, I hated the concept of every person lip syncing to the same song establishing that bullshit as a “TREND” for a week. When we talk 80’s or 90’s trend, we talk about a whole decade. The fuck is this current trend of Tik-tok which changes every week. Never downloaded that app in my phone, i saw some clips in YouTube because someone uploaded a collage of few clips. I hated it more than the word “Tik-tok”. Now instagram reels is doing exactly the same. And Instagram is a highlight reel of a person’s life since beginning. My point is; “if someone is happy to see your dance/face/ass for 15 seconds & gets entertainment from that, aren’t you literally selling yourself for a super cheap attention span!!” It’s not just you doing same enactment, there are literally a million others doing the same nonsense. There is nothing called creativity in it. That’s my perspective, anyone can argue & I will not connect to this idea of so-called entertainment in this perspective. That doesn’t mean all influencers should vanish from social media apps or you should stop posing infront of Eiffel tower touching it’s tip over air during your next trip to Paris. Do what you like and what you can allow yourself with a smile on your face, it’s WORTH IT.
Yeah, this post is about INSTANT GRATIFICATION. LET’S GO. Now a days the attention span of everything is decreasing with time. The coming generation is an example of “ready to eat” meal, including us 90’s kids. Whatever you want, you want it instantly. I mean there is no interest in investing yourself into anything, not a content, not a unique skillset, not an article, not reading a book, no interest in studies, not even in building a stable relationship. Everything must happen instantaneously. There is a big example how that reflects in society. You wanna watch a movie, you can watch it right now. You wanna watch a series, you can watch any episode from any season from any time. People skip seasons to binge next seasons. You don’t need to wait because you don’t want to wait for next episode to drop or go to a movie theatre for advance ticket booking. You wanna buy something, click amazon prime it’s arrived same day or next day. You don’t need to wait for anything. You don’t need to be persistent at all. Suppose you wanna go on a date, you don’t even need to be little aware of how to behave on your first date. You don’t need to work on “how to make the other person understand you value them”. You don’t even need to learn or practice that skill/manner to be a man/gentleman or a posh woman/girl (read it as you want). Swipe right, DONE. Zero social coping mechanism at play. Everything you want is instantaneous & it’s instantaneously available as well. Just gave you an Outlook of INSTANT GRATIFICATION.
Now what are those which is not available this easy? Answer: Work which satisfies your soul not just wallet & a strong stable relationship. Let’s say JOB SATISFACTION & TIME TESTED TRUTHFUL TOGETHERNESS, no app or no instantaneous approach will ever work here. These two are slow complex time consuming yet simple process, only if you acknowledge/endorse to be truthful & persistent. Few other things also take investment of time such as, MORAL, MONEY, SKILL, HOBBY, QUALIFICATION, SELF-RESPECT & CHARACTER.
In today’s world nobody is intrested to fetch/earn something amazing. Forget being smart or hard work, there is an existential crisis at play where all are actually dreaming for the minimum. Minimum wage, minimum amount of happiness, minimum timeframe to get fit/slim, minimum time to master a skill, minimum time/effort to get your life partner, most of which are nothing but a fake fuckery. My conclusion; Patience is missing. Desire to be skilled/informed is missing. Suicide/drug overdose deaths/alcohol/smoking/weed on rise. There is an entire generation of “OK” is booming where the idea/ideology of believing in self to become “EXTRAORDINARY/AMAZING” is missing. That’s my view on “INSTANT GRATIFICATION” & how it’s killing our society.