I saw a post today that said, “When you finally learn your place in peoples lives, your feelings won’t get hurt. And loyalty doesn’t mean accepting unlimited amounts of inconsistency & pain from others”.
Whether it’s friends, family or whoever. I swear that’s the truth and one of the most important life lessons you’ll learn.
I’m not perfect and I don’t have to be. When I first realized this I felt an intense relief. This realization allowed me to actually become a better person. It gave me the strength to embrace my flaws and learn from my mistakes. The pressure melted away. I wouldn’t have been able to start examining my mistakes if I felt like I had to be perfect. Once I found out it was okay to be imperfect, everything changed for the better.
Don’t criticize yourself for making mistakes. Just be conscious, make new mistakes & learn from older ones. Remove inconsistency from life. LIFE IS FUN, LET IT BE.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I am a big sucker for every marvel cinematic universe character & yes i liked HAWKEYE. I didn’t know Jeremy Renner has some amazing songs till yesterday. I am kinda into this song. Thanks to my bestie DEMI for the recommendation. Those who fancy my snapchat stories & question since when i play piano, answer is since my grade-6 days.)
I’m a firm believer in leaving this world a better place for future generations. Being an optimistic person has presented me with so many extraordinary opportunities to give back, to volunteer, and to touch so many lives along the way. I’ve had the privilege of advocating for those dealing with bullying, eating disorders, and mental health issues. Everyone has causes close to their hearts, so whatever you’re passionate about, do something to make a difference. Do your part to make this world a better place.
I have been through enough ups & downs in my close to 30 life. I gave myself oppertunity to live/work/study in 4 cities/countries. I graduated engineering & MBA way back. The friends who entered my life those days are still intact, that’s my biggest flex. My address will change again next year. I will not say i enjoy travelling, everyone does. I will say, i relocate every 2-3 years. The more people i came in touch with the more i understood, we live in a world of WEAK MEN & GIRLS BUSY IN TIKTOK. Proper inconsistency at play. Still there’s hope to experience a world focused on growth, happiness & fulfillment. WISHING YOU ALL A PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR 2022. LOVE AND RESPECT.
DON’T LET ANYONE’S IGNORANCE, HATE, INCONSISTENCY, DRAMA OR NEGATIVITY STOP YOU FROM BEING THE BEST PERSON YOU CAN BE.
BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF FOR YOURSELF. (Not my words).
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I want to highlight this sillicon valley strategy of tech entrepreneurs. Steve Ballmer almost ruined entire enterprise market & mobile division of Microsoft, then Microsoft promoted Satya Nadella as CEO to clean up all mess & now Microsoft is profitable. Same happened with Google before Sundar Pichai succeeded as CEO. Now another Indian Parag Agrawal will succeed Jack Dorsey as Twitter CEO. Most of these big tech make big mess with some product or services, then hire an Indian CEO to fix it. Good part is, Yes Indians have the brain to pull it. Bad part is; WHY WAIT SO LONG TO RUIN WHAT’S GOOD!! At the end it’s public or investor’s money. Not sharing this because my blood goes back to India. CEO changed, stocks tanked. Now Elon is praising Indians, I wanna see when he hires an Indian CEO, so that i can buy few more Tesla stocks.)
When I give, it does not come with strings. I’m not keeping track of what you owe me. When I give, I choose to do so without ulterior motives. I give because I’m genuine. I give because I know what it’s like to be without. To long for and be ignored. To speak and not be heard. To care for and have nothing returned. When I give it’s because I get it. It’s because I know the value in what I have in my heart and I refuse to let the world stop me from sharing that. But when things start being taken for granted, When you no longer appreciate my sincerity, I won’t switch, I won’t get angry, and I won’t be spiteful. I’ll just get smart and I’ll change your role in my life. Because when I give, I’m all in. But when I’m done, there’s no looking back.
I stopped sending paragraphs. I stopped telling people how to behave. I stopped entertaining retaliation & inconsistency. I stopped telling people how important is communication. I started walking away from all these crap, blocking, and distancing myself. Life is becoming peaceful. Sometimes being yourself & independent in life is better than being surrounded by halfass people.
(This post is not for those who came & vanished in past. It’s for my future person, in case you experience something is odd in me or missing in me, just say it and keep forgiving me till you experience the best of me.)
We already know that no one is perfect. But knowing that doesn’t keep us from doing things we might feel badly about later. Your mistakes & understanding to own them makes you unique. But when the same mistake is repeated often; that’s a sign of inconsistency in your character, which can later birth numerous bad habits & a peculiar tendency to become a systematic liar. Start from owning your mistakes one by one. I’ve found in times like that it’s best to come clean and own your mistake. People will be so much more forgiving and sympathetic when you are honest about it because they can relate. Even better, you will inspire them to do the same thing by showing them how honest and beautiful you can be without being perfect.
Stay strong. Tell on yourself today about something you feel badly about having done or said in the past. We should regret our mistakes and learn from them, but never carry them forward into the future with us.
Someone told me this about relationships which touched my heart; “When it’s sent by God, it comes with confirmation. But when it isn’t sent by God, it will come with inconsistency, hesitation, frustration, and confusion”. I felt that for real.
I am not a superhuman. I have walked the same life path as many others. Character, Truth, Consistent approach, Loyalty, Decency & Respect are way too expensive 2021. And this world is running on a discount sale right now, result is cheap people. Those who come at you will disappoint you one way or other, period.
Inconsistency was there. Disrespect was there. Misunderstandings were there. Inappropriate behaviour was there. Lies were there. Cheating was there. Unacceptable bullshits were playing catch catch. Heartbreak was there.
Good part is; all were there in past past past, my present has nothing but a beautiful life that people can only dream about. My lesson was: have EXPECTATIONS, but only from yourself. Always be the better person. And make your intentions pure. What and who you are is what will be remembered. Pain is inevitable and it will always exist. But if you focus on understanding what you are and what you are feeling, and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.
The expectations we have often do not correspond with reality, we are disappointed every time this happens. We become disappointed when we expect to be treated as we treat others. When you start to realize that everyone is living at a different stage, thinking differently and making their choices, then you can only accept the fact that people do not share the same mind and heart. When you want to be happy you have to let go of that and start with yourself, be the person you can be proud of, be an example, show respect and understanding. Others may not change, but know that it is not up to you and be proud of how you are. You’ve got so much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. EXPECTATION IS TO BE A BETTER HUMAN FIRST.
Most people think i hate liars because i write about predicative patterns of a person who’s lying. Actually i love liars. The best thing about a liar is; his/her estimation of hiding something to avoid lying about it. And the catch is; “when you lie about something, your voice says you are lying because there’s too much inconsistency. And when you hide about something, your behaviour speaks about it. Again the same reason because there’s too much inconsistency”.
A liar is predictable either ways. I love it because I just want to applaud that effort behind creating so much nonsensical garbage in head. People lose their value & that can never be restored. Once that mojo is lost, it’s just gonna give bitter taste afterwards. Karma has the cure for everyone, you will get served exactly what you offer.
I am yet to reach 30s & i can say one thing from my observation & experience; “People who aren’t successful/happy with their life, always find reasons to justify their lie/cheat/nonsense/inconsistency every single time with the easiest predictable way”.
Now why i focus on these two words “SUCCESS” & “HAPPINESS” in most of my posts? My answer is; A successful person is more focused on his success rather than rest garbage of life. I am saying it for a relationship as well. Even research studies show successful people hardly cheat in a relationship because they have better things to achieve in life.
So what goes wrong here; when you aren’t happy with yourself or when you aren’t successful in your career/finance/your own goals/dreams, even you don’t know what HAPPINESS means to you. You swing every possible way without next thought in search of that happiness to every wrong place. Nobody can bring happiness to your life. We humans are engineered to like predictable things, i mean a predictable tomorrow with what’s gonna happen, what lifestyle we gonna enjoy, what house we gonna live, what will be our next vacation, what will be our next vehicle, all such things. In modern world most dream big, but sadly it’s daydreaming. Big dreams bring sadness when you see them fading away. It’s your responsibility to sort out your own life first.
Find your peace within yourself. Find your happiness within yourself. Find what “SUCCESS” means to you within yourself. A stable YOU is the priority, rest can join later.