Hurting people back will not heal your pain. Learn to react to people constructively, even if that means being alone in silence, to study your emotions. In your response is your destiny. If you do not take conscious control of your reaction, you will give away your power.
Do not engage with someone with lower behavior. You will be dealing with someone who projects, who has ego problems, who is self centered, who lacks empathy, who is emotionally immature, who has unhealed wounds of their own, who has a need to feel superior, who needs to control others, and who ends up hurting just about everyone who crosses their path. Stay away from such people & such behaviour.
Move forward by healing your own hurts. Improve yourself. And forget about inviting other’s toxicity into your space. You are your own responsibility. Make sure you make yourself a better version of yourself with time.
I saw a post today that said, “When you finally learn your place in peoples lives, your feelings won’t get hurt. And loyalty doesn’t mean accepting unlimited amounts of inconsistency & pain from others”.
Whether it’s friends, family or whoever. I swear that’s the truth and one of the most important life lessons you’ll learn.
Don’t let this world make you bitter. Don’t let the actions of other people turn you cold on the inside. Certain things happen that hurt us, people come that leave us, and most of all there are moments when you’re bound to fall. Don’t let those things make you unkind. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be sad. But it’s never okay to do other people wrong just because you were done wrong. We’re human. We break. We make mistakes. But don’t let pain and sadness run your life.
Wake up in the morning and do what you think is right. There are moments in your life where you feel like giving up and you can’t take it anymore. It’s okay. Breathe. Inhale. Exhale. I know you’re weak. But the things that show your weak side are also the same ones that make you stronger in the long run. It’s all about taking whatever life throws at you and learning from it.
You all are grown ass adults now. You’re responsible for your emotional intelligence at this point. It’s no longer about who hurt you or who made you this way. It’s about what YOU can do to fix YOUR problem. Playing the blame game will leave you ugly an stagnant.
When people act shady, allow them. When people betray your trust, allow them. But never, ever sink to their level. Their choices are a direct reflection of who they are, not who you are. No matter how angry, hurt, or disappointed you may be, do not allow them to make you bitter. Be better. React with love. Sometimes that means retaliating with understanding and compassion; other times it means retaliating with acceptance and sheer silence. Whatever it is, make sure it benefits you as a human being instead of lowering you into a position which you would rather not be in.
Normal people dont go around destroying other human beings. Only those who are hurt, lost, and confused cause pain. Don’t be one of them. Just take the lessons and move on gracefully.
Hurting people back will not heal your pain. Learn to react to people constructively, even if that means being alone in silence, to study your emotions. In your response is your DESTINY. If you do not take conscious control of your reaction, you will give away your power.
Just because someone has treated you unkindly doesn’t mean you are unworthy of kindness. Just because someone has made you feel unloved doesn’t mean you don’t deserve love. Remember when someone says hurtful things to you or acts in a way that hurts your heart, they are only showing the hurt they are carrying within themselves. Their action reflects who they are, not what you deserve.
There is so much power in our words, more than we realise. They can do so much good and so much damage. They can create peace or cause people to break out in violence. When we’re hurting the most it’s easy to lash out at other people, but then we become the source of the problem we are personally suffering from. Don’t take your pain out on others or you will just be perpetuating the cycle.
If you’re hurting, do your best to seek outlets that are healthy. Find a friend to talk to, express yourself artistically, write in your journal, or seek professional help.
Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world. -BUDDHA.
Everyone of us has done something wrong in life. We have hurted people. We all regret our wrongdoings.
But, very few of us are BRAVE enough to say SORRY in a meaningful way & ask forgiveness. My respect for such people never falls short, because regret makes no difference if you can’t change your approach for the better.
To choose forgiveness requires that we fight back our human desire for revenge. – Dr. John Perkins.
(Luca my brother, I never hated you & i am not strong enough to hate anyone. This date 21-12-21 & this tiny post is dedicated to you.)
Your body sheds your tired skin every twenty seven days. You were not made to hold your past within you. You were not made to carry it all on your back. You physically let go of every bad thing that has ever touched you, of every pair of foreign hands that unbuttoned your shirt but never your demons; you let go of every regret, of every insecurity. You are always gifted a clean slate.
Remember that your tongue is the strongest muscle in your body. You were made to speak, so speak loudly and communicate honestly about how you feel. Speak about what hurts you, about what has broken you. Speak about your story, share it with the world.
Letting go does not mean you stop caring. It means you stop trying to force others to.
Strength is forgiving people that don’t even feel sorry for their action. Strength is putting a smile on your face when you want to cry a river. Strength is not hurting those who hurt you. Strength is forgiving others.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it for fun, one of my favourites from superwog.)
In LOVE, I have been elated and brokenhearted and felt every emotion in between. As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to embrace the painful parts, because I realize they make me stronger and they are just parts of life. It hurts to power through the rough times but just like a muscle, it must be exercised before it’s able to become stronger.
Think about a specific painful moment in your life, and then think about how that feeling didn’t last forever even though you thought it would. Remember that life will continue to go on and time really does heal all wounds. I’m grateful for all the love and all the heartache I’ve experienced in my life. Both have been equally wonderful.
This is life, and it is what it is. Shit is gonna happen. It’s gonna get complicated. We’re gonna relapse. We’re gonna need time-outs. We’re gonna be weak. We’re gonna be strong. We’re gonna lose our shit and yell for people to get the fuck out of our lives. We’re gonna break down and beg some people to stay in our lives. Some days we’re gonna feel everything all at once. Other days, we’re gonna feel nothing at all. We’re gonna be in some bad spaces. We’re gonna be in some amazing ones. We’re gonna get on our knees crying and hurting and begging for help. We’re gonna get on our knees and pray just to say thank you. We’re gonna have moments when we know exactly what we want, and we’re sure. We’re gonna have moments when we legit have no fucking clue what we want, and we’re confused.
This life shit isn’t a movie, and I think sometimes, we forget that. Life is the way you pursue it.
In this world filled with liars, cheaters & deceptive people, we all encounter trust issues. One easy noticable trait of every untrustworthy person is; they struggle to empathize people. Those who lack empathy are much better at being able to deceive or hurt someone and the ability to empathize with others is something most untrustworthy people lack. An empathetic person would be hesitant to hurt someone else since they can imagine the pain their actions could cause. It acts as a barrier to hurtful behavior. If someone is capable or even comfortable with backstabbing or betraying others, they usually lack empathy. They likely won’t take responsibility for their damaging actions and don’t even know that they lack the ability to empathize.
Untrustworthy people are self-serving, they care only for themselves and can’t see past their own perspectives. Some people are even able to use empathy selectively and only when they stand to gain from it, which can make this trait even harder to spot observing how someone acts toward others, especially those they can’t benefit from will reveal their true nature. A lack of empathy is a red flag when it comes to gauging someone’s trustworthiness.
I don’t know what “LOOKING COOL” means. The coolest guy of my high school works as a car garage mechanic now a days.
No matter how much it hurts, keep pushing yourself towards positive changes. You will heal amazingly & reach places you never been. Learn new things & exit your comfort zone. That’s how you REMAIN COOL & CONFIDENT.
I have a secret diary in this app called “ColorNote”. In case I fuck up something or someone abuses my way of life, I write it down. On this date something was definitely making me restless, I think I hurt someone & that person didn’t accept my SORRY.
I usually talk to whoever listening about my days before hitting the bed for 2 minutes, most of the times it’s talking to myself. I never get a peaceful sleep at night if someone is hurt because of me.
I have the audacity to say & do whatever I feel right for me while being TRUE to everyone I am connecting. Never felt the need to lie or deceive someone, never did that.
If I need/want you in my life, I know I am not strong enough to hurt you. If you feel hurt because of me, most probably I have stopped caring whatever you are & I don’t give a shit what you think of me. My TRUTH always stays intact & unchanged in all circumstances. Don’t count it like my ego, it’s my way of prioritizing myself & those who wanna see me smile.
If it didn’t workout, she doesn’t EXist in my life. No-one is allowed to term me “EX“. The other side’s low self esteem & betrayal made it fall, my efforts & enthusiasm were/is always on point.
I am celebrated among my friends & workers. I strongly believe in KARMA. The people i connect are chosen, No-one will ever say bad shit about me. I still struggle to sleep whenever I think “someone is hurt because of me”.
Being a human I too have enough negative qualities; I am overindulging to challenges, money, attention & intimacy. I accept that always (Some LEO thing). That will never change in me. Maybe my ONE will have enough strength to tame that beast in me someday. Till the time I am single, I enjoy all what I should be enjoying.