When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.
Yet, if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience.
No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. (Not my words.)
Many of us have gotten so used to playing to the expectations of society, of our families, of our friends, and of our minds, that we don’t even allow ourselves to consider who we really are or what we really need. We ignore the calls of our hearts, giving our lives, instead, to the demands of an outside world built on fitting in. We can stop this, right now.
We can choose to listen to ourselves, to heed our deepest callings, whatever they are. We can give ourselves the freedom to be whoever the hell we want to be in this world. Right now, if we choose to. And why wouldn’t we?
CHOOSE TO BE YOU & CHOOSE YOURSELF EVERY POSSIBLE MOMENT.
It’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you. Notice who sticks around and who doesn’t. And be grateful to those who leave you, because they have given you the room to grow in the space they abandoned. And appreciate the people who loved you when you didn’t feel lovable.
Bottom line is to be OK with giving the gift of your absence to those who do not appreciate and respect your presence. Meanwhile, never forget to love & behold those closer to your heart who showed up for you.
Focus on making progress, not perfection. Every good thing takes time. You can’t rush things. Growth is not linear, but a journey; one filled with challenges and opportunities to push to your destination. No one can do it for you, it’s your journey. And there will be days you’ll want to give up, but you can keep going. There are no shortcuts to get there, so you have to embrace the process.
Think progress, not perfection. Allow yourself to grow in the process. Make room for failure too. Just do your daily practice and cultivate a kind heart. Bet on hard work. Abandon impatience. The results will come down when they’re ready. Remember, consistent small steps are way better than just one big step with no further progress.
1. When you are alone, mind your thoughts. 2. When you are with friends, mind your tongue. 3. When you are angry, mind your temper. 4. When you are with a group, mind your behavior. 5. When you are in trouble, mind your emotions. 6. When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.
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