1: Spend time alone. 2: Acknowledge your efforts and accomplishments. 3: Validate your feelings. 4: Speak to yourself with respect. 5: Identify and fulfill your needs. 6: Forgive yourself. 7: Be honest. 8: Accept yourself for who you are. 9: Set and keep boundaries. 10: Stop comparing yourself to others.
Anger is such a powerful emotion, so much so that when we really experience it, it has the tendency to cloud our judgment and our ability to reason. We have to accept our feelings but also know that when we don’t regulate our anger it has the ability to destroy our common sense.
Don’t let your anger get the best of you. Think rationally and be careful of how your emotions affect others. When anger rises, your conscience falls, so be aware of your self-righteousness and try to see it from all points of view.
Your anger? It’s telling you where you feel powerless. Your anxiety? It’s telling you that something in your life is off balance. Your fear? It’s telling you what you care about. Your apathy? It’s telling you where you’re overextended and burnt out.
Your feelings aren’t random, they are messengers. And if you want to get anywhere, you need to be able to let them speak to you, and tell you what you really need.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Adults seeking advice from elementary school kids on how to cope up with life, literally the world is losing it’s sense of balance. Thinking of kids, this is more than cute in my eyes. I asked my friend Frank’s 20 month old nephew what he wants to eat when we were in supermarket. He replied; “EVERYTHING IN THAT” while pointing his finger to the ice cream freezer. Why can’t adults be this simple as kids!! LIFE IS FUN, LET IT BE.)
In a generation of people who want to be heartless, and empty of feelings, then call it SAVAGE, it’ll be hard to be someone who is what a HUMAN should be. Do not become like the world.
Be loyal, be truthful, be consistent, be emotional, and be full of feelings. Be hungry for love, be thirsty for affection, and anything else human beings ought to desire. With time moving up, you will experience people who match your energy, enthusiasm & optimism.
Let others be foolish and cold. Don’t dim your light to become as dark as they are.
(This Instagram post got nothing to do with the post above. My love for G-Shock watches goes back to A-level/high school days. Not a secret i am a huge sneakerhead, but i love watches too. YES I have some 46 watches right now, 7 are Casio G-shock watches. And when my bestie DEMI sees this at evening, she can guess what to gift me during thanksgiving dinner.)😜
1. You commit to and practice observing yourself. 2. You notice a story you’re telling yourself. 3. You set a boundary you may not have set before. 4. You honour a commitment to yourself. 5. You take ownership and accountability when there’s something to own. 6. You can see another perspective outside of your own. 7. You see the pain of others in their reactivity without over personalizing. 8. You move away from changing others and move towards integrating the change you’d like to see for yourself.
GROWTH is often uncomfortable, messy, and full of feelings you weren’t EXPECTING. But it’s necessary.
FEELINGS, the thing about this way that you feel right now is that it’s only temporary. I know that your mind is consumed right now, suffocating; it’s like you can’t find a way to think about anything other than the things that are causing you anxiety. These feelings don’t last. It may not feel like it right now, but this feeling will fade; maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but you will smile again, you will feel like you again, you will feel happy and full of life again. Nothing is permanent. That’s the bittersweet part about life. That’s why it’s so important to appreciate the truly amazing parts and people in your life while also understanding that the bad days won’t last forever. Always be present, always be grateful, always know that you’ll get through this obstacle and the one after that.
You’re so much stronger than you think you are right now. Think about it; you’ve gotten through every tough day in your life so far, and this is no different. Take a big breath and think of all the things you have to be grateful for and breathe out all the bad. You are in control of how you feel. You are in control of this moment. YOU ARE IN CONTROL. PERIOD.