The longer I live the more I realize the impact of attitude to life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstanstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for the day. We can’t change our past. We can’t change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to us is 90% how I react to it. (Not my words.)
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.
Yet, if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience.
No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. (Not my words.)
Don’t hustle yourself into an early grave. Work hard, but rest harder. Take time to laugh with friends and family. Express gratitude for the things you have in this moment while you work to achieve more.
I saw a post today that said, “When you finally learn your place in peoples lives, your feelings won’t get hurt. And loyalty doesn’t mean accepting unlimited amounts of inconsistency & pain from others”.
Whether it’s friends, family or whoever. I swear that’s the truth and one of the most important life lessons you’ll learn.
Life doesn’t end at 25. Life doesn’t end at 30 or 40 either. Life doesn’t end at 65. It doesn’t matter how old you are. It doesn’t matter when you decide to get your high school degree or start a family. It doesn’t matter when you decide to go run a marathon or go travel the world. Life is not made up by numbers, age is just a number, and your age is not all that you are. You got time. Life doesn’t end until it ends.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I am a big fan of entire Marvel Cinematic Universe. MCU phase-4 is amazing so far & Next phase-5 looks amazing. I had to share it.)
More than anything I really believe we are put here on this earth to enjoy the time we have. Life is precious so don’t get hung up or bent out of shape over the small stuff. Enjoy the present moment and have fun, whatever that means to you.
Enjoy free time with family and friends. Enjoy a laugh and make some memories. Enjoy learning & making people feel the goodness of life. Life is fun, let it be.
(This instagram post got nothing to do with the post above. Shared it because i liked it. I am not too much into shopping. Fast fashion brands & discounts in malls/online stores never excite me to purchase anything. I buy something when i am very specific about what i want. Most clothes/sneakers i wear are usually gifted by friends/brands during my birthday/thanksgiving/christmas or any random Monday. But i am a big sucker for watches. Now a days i prefer a good automatic or chronograph watch, but sometimes i still wear G-Shock watches from my high school/engineering college days.)
When you learn how to communicate with others there’s no problem you can’t solve. It doesn’t mean you’ll always agree with other people and it certainly doesn’t mean that they will agree with you. But none of that matters if you possess the maturity and the patience to work through your differences. Think about how much more peace there would be on this planet if people would just talk through a problem instead of using violence & retaliation.
Do you have a friend or family member you have a really hard time getting through to? Maybe now is the time to try again. It never hurts to try.
You have to learn how to communicate if you want to get along in this world.
Everything I have gone through I could not have done without the love, faith, and support of my family. Even though i stay away from home since i was 16, just being around them once in a year or two brings me joy and I forget about any problem or fear I have. They accept me with all of my flaws. And I accept them as well, no matter what.
Soak up the love of your family today & everyday. Be grateful for the goodness you receive. Love them for everything they are and aren’t. Family gives us strength and builds our character. (Not my words.)
Relationships between family, friends, significant others, and colleagues are complicated and full of learning experiences. Nobody comes into this world knowing everything. We all go through different experiences, make mistakes, have successes, and then make more mistakes that we can learn from. The ability to trust and listen to the people in your life is the foundation all healthy relationships are built on.
While talking to friends, make sure you are really listening to what they have to say and aren’t distracted by something else. You owe that to them and you would want the same in return. Trust is a bond between two people that is found only when they are able to listen and understand where the other person is coming from. That to me is the only key to friendships and relationships.
A best friend is someone you can count on wholeheartedly. Someone who you can trust to tell your deepest and darkest secrets to, and not have a worry in the world that a rumor will spread throughout the town. A best friend is someone who supports your every decision even if they may not always agree with it. A best friend is someone who is honest enough to tell you the truth, but loyal enough to remain by your side. A best friend is chosen family. Someone who can get on your nerves, but at the end of the day you know who really has your back and your best interest at heart.
A best friend is knowing that out of all the human beings in the world, you two choose each other.
Next few lines are for my university mates who always question my equation & my snapchat stories with my bestfriend DEMI, just because i am one happy happening sweet gentle naughty TAP. OK little bit grumpy as well sometimes. So, did DEMI ask me to make 2 babies with her for the 958th time when she was little drunk? Answer is; Yes. Did i push her in winter wonderland ice bar right after that question? Answer is; Yes ofcourse. If i get a chance, i will do that again & again every single day. DEMI, SORRY MY BESTIE BITCH. YOU KNOW I HATE YOU FR.😘😜😂
How rare the trust is these days, how small the case looks like a strong bond based on openness and honesty, how small the chance seems to be a bit of loyalty and commitment?!? Even smaller is the chance of a combination of the above, smaller and almost rare.
We all want it, in fact we all call it. We claim to be loyal, to be open, to be honest, but if we are all, how does distrust arise? The disappointment? The abuse of trust and the use of someone else?
Whether it’s love, friendship or family. We all want the same thing. We all want respect, trust, honesty, communication, openness and loyalty consistently. Be aware of your choices, your actions and consequences before you harm a relationship, a relationship that is self-reliant today. If you want them to be true to you, then stay true to yourself first. (Not my words).
There are people who notice you only when you shine, or when you fall into the darkness. Not the average you. Not the mediocre you. But the great you, or the not-so-great you. The people who are worthiest of your care are not those who only notice you at your best and worst but those who are with you at all times. They don’t need an excuse to love you. They don’t need an excuse to talk to you, or to ask you how you’re doing!! They don’t need an excuse to share their happiness with you. They don’t need an explanation. They give you one without you asking for it. They assume the good in you before the bad.
So keep eyes open just so you don’t miss those people. Such equations take long long time & trust to develop. Once you find them, never let them go because those are not just friends but family members. They’re life companions. They are the people who will tell you when you are wrong simply because they’ve allowed themselves to tie their well-being to yours. (Not my words). Vibe with people who are good for you.
TRUST is a bond between two people that is found only when they are able to listen and understand where the other person is coming from. That to me is the key to friendships and relationships.
Relationships between family, friends, significant others, and colleagues are complicated and full of learning experiences. Nobody comes into this world knowing everything. We all go through different experiences, make mistakes, have successes, and then make more mistakes that we can learn from. We all take our own sweet time to trust, evaluate, make a move, prepare and proceed.
When talking to friends or anyone who’s a part of your life, make sure you are really listening to what they have to say and aren’t distracted by something else. Most people just listen to respond, reply, retaliate or react, which is complete nonsense. Listen to understand, COMMUNICATION is the first step to TRUST. You owe that to them and you would want the same in return. The ability to trust and listen to the people in your life is the foundation all healthy relationships are built on. (Not my words).
Everybody has a home team: It’s the people you call when you get a flat tire or when something terrible happens. It’s the people who, near or far, know everything that’s wrong with you and love you anyways. These are the ones who tell you their secrets, who get themselves a glass of water without asking when they’re at your house. These are the ones who truly believe whatever you own partly belongs to them. These are the people who cry when you cry. These are your people, your middle-of-the-night pal, no-matter what other people think. FRIENDS COME AND GO, LIKE THE WAVES OF THE OCEAN, BUT THE TRUE ONES STAY, LIKE AN OCTOPUS ON YOUR FACE.
These few lines are dedicated to my mates who stood by my side & proved there’s something called “TIME-TESTED EQUATIONS”. Frank, Adam, Daria, Lucy, Karo, Chrissi, Emy & DEMI, thanks for wishing your TAP & joining my tiny celebration. I don’t have anything but gratitude & respect to offer you. I started a tiny health supplement business on 17-Sep-17 with a hope to promote healthy living & eating choices. Raised it like my first child & today my baby turned 4 years old. I wanted to celebrate this day little wilder, little more banter, but whatever comes with a smile is accepted. You own a huge chunk of my head & heart, ALWAYS. Everyday is a small step towards a becoming a better human. I am forever grateful. Love outta respect.
I am a good boy since i was 3 years old🤞. Anyone from my family or friends who saw bit too much sass in my snapchat stories, blame my bestie DEMI’s 🍑 & cheap Ryanair flight tickets. SORRY DEMI.🤪
This is for the ones who are struggling right now. This is for the ones who have been having a rough day or week or even year. The ones who feel like this storm will never end. Keep fighting for you. Not for friends, not for your family, but for you. Keep fighting because deep down you hold a tiny voice that knows you were meant for far more than this sadness and pain you are feeling. Keep fighting because the person you will be on the other side of all this is cheering for you so much. Keep fighting because you will get there. And it will be worth it.
Understand that your competition isn’t other people. Your competition is your procrastination. Your ego. The unhealthy food you’re consuming. The knowledge you neglect. The negative behaviour you’re nurturing. And your lack of creativity. Compete against that. You deserve a better you. (Not my words).
Date her who walks you till your car. Date her who dares to steal your hoodie in front of your face. Date her who wants to meet your parents, and is respectful towards them. Date her who respects your siblings and family members. Date her who’s kind to animals, its a reflection of how she’ll treat usual people. Date her who makes you smile. Date her who looks confident with or without makeup. Date her who will listen to your complain or accomplishments. Date her who doesn’t force you to do things you don’t want to. Date her who will come hang out and cuddle just cause she can. Date her who loves you through the good and the bad. Date her who has seen you angry, happy, sad, and still feels for you. Date her who has a hunger for SUCCESS & hunger for more beyond that. Date her who actually utilises her time to the fullest, so that she can value your TIME. Now you know you aren’t entertaining someone boring/sluggish.
Life can easily remain exciting happy happening even in a relationship if you are dealing with a stronger individual, stronger in finance & faith.
Stay away from people with negative vibe & toxic mindset. Here is a HOW TO or WHOM TO;
1. Entertain those who exchange attention & mutual admiration.
2. Stay away from “Dry texters”, these kind of people can figure out a problem in everything that’s soothing to your head or heart. The thing is, they are just not interested in you. The earlier you understand, the better. Read more on this by clicking here. In general, every conversation with a dry texter is a pointless nonsense, it’s going nowhere. If communication sucks, just cut it or back off humbly.
3. Also stay away from those whose screen time in instagram is more than 4 minutes a day. (Most successful people don’t even use such apps in their phone, they have hired agencies to keep fools stuck to create a brand value for their name. And i bet you don’t want a fool in your life).
4. If someone’s social circle is too random, that’s a sign of major inconsistency in their personality.
5. Never believe those who say bullshits like; “MONEY IS NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL, I WOULD RATHER FOCUS ON LOVE OR FAMILY”. These are the double whammy of fickleness & fake ideology. We are living in 2021, a happy LOVE & a happy FAMILY both come with a bill.
Enough said about what not to. Click here to read a previous post on what are the green signals of a healthy humanly equation. Hope you have a good one.
I have outgrown many things. I have outgrown relatives who gladly offer criticism but not support. I have outgrown my need to meet my family’s unrealistic expectations of me. I have outgrown people who wear masks and secretly rejoice at my misfortunes. (Not the corona situation face mask). I have outgrown shrinking myself for those who are intimidated by my intelligence and outspoken nature. I have outgrown friends who cannot celebrate my accomplishments. I have outgrown people who conveniently disappear whenever life gets a little dark. I have outgrown those who take pleasure in gossiping and spreading negativity. I have outgrown dull, meaningless conversations that feel forced. I hate smalltalk. I have outgrown those who don’t take a stand against ignorance and injustice. I have outgrown trying to please everyone. I have outgrown society constantly telling me I’m not beautiful, smart or worthy enough. I have outgrown my tendency to fill my mind with self doubt and insecurity. I have outgrown trying to find reasons not to love myself. I have outgrown anything and anyone that does not enrich the essence of my soul. I have outgrown many things. And I’ve never felt freer. (Not my words).
The goal is to become an upgraded version of my real self & a better HUMAN BEING every next day of this life. And i am connected to everyone who’s a part of that journey. If we have a steady flow of communication, you are celebrated in my books. There’s no WONDER without some WONDERFUL people in life. SOMETIMES LIFE SEEMS UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE YOUR OLD LIFE DOESN’T FIT ON YOU ANYMORE. YOU’VE OUTGROWN THE OLD YOU.
Two major discomforting traits of most people; EXCESSIVE PRIDE & INSECURITY. Let’s talk about both little bit. Purpose is to identify & get rid of these ASAP, i am talking this to both reader & writer.
Excessive pride. Pride isn’t necessarily a terrible thing. It can bring you confidence and self-assurance which are two great qualities that can help you lead a happy life. However pride can also cause destruction through overconfidence and resistance to learning. If your pride is extreme, it can ruin your personal and professional relationships. It’s not uncommon for people to let their pride prevent them from acknowledging their mistakes and to learn from them whether it’s a project at the office or an argument with a friend. It’s essential to keep your pride in check and get rid of any excess that is no longer serving you.
Insecurity. Insecurity has no benefits, it often arises from judgment or criticism of yourself and other people. It causes chronic unhappiness and becomes a burden on your life. As long as you are the most honest and authentic version of yourself, no one has the right to judge you for it and that goes for you too. There is nothing wrong with living your life the way you want to live. If self-doubt is something you picked up along the way and it’s something you can drop whenever you choose. Your friends and family love you for you. When you doubt their respect to faction or acceptance, you are doing a disservice not only to yourself but to your loved ones as well.
Stop taking things personally. We all are collateral damage to somebody else’s bad decision. You can apply it to all scenarios of life related to love, job, money or family. Take a chill. Don’t be too sensitive. No-one is mean to you. You are incredibly amazing as a true you.
Do you know why people try to control someone or behave controling?
Because, they can’t control their own shit and they are not in the right vibration to control their own emotions. That’s why they try to control you. They don’t like your happiness & appreciation you receive. They always try to stop you frequently with different approach. In short, you are dealing a wishy washy real dickhead.
Guard yourself first. Help them understand life has more to offer. When you know you are not going towards a right direction, it’s better to take help or consult friends/family/whom you believe. Life is about sharing goodness & happiness. People who plan dorky things need to find themselves at right place before they vibe right.
“I have seen so much goodness in you that I can’t accept anything bad about you.”
A see off line by a close fella from my high school days. How can’t I be happy when people are pouring affection on me? In case you are connected to me, just keep on reading my last few posts to understand who said this line. Some friends became family to me way way back, I am still finding ways of restitution.