Sometimes it’s better to just let things be. Let people go. Don’t fight for closure. Don’t ask for explanations. Don’t chase answers. Don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from. You got to keep fighting for you because no one got you like you got yourself.
As children, we were daring in our imagination; nothing was impossible to us as young dreamers. We dreamt of experiencing wild and outlandish experiences in far-off lands. We dreamt of becoming victorious heroes, genius inventors, and admired artists. We dreamt of sharing a whimsical love story that left us breathless. We dreamt of having a big home filled with family and friends tucked away in the forest or on top of a city sky rise.
There was nothing that our little minds didn’t imagine. Our imagination was fearless.
However, for many, as life played out, when something didn’t work out the way we planned or envisioned, we took those unmet expectations as the sign to stop believing and give up on imagining the wild. We took it as a token that everyone else was right; our imaginations were lofty. Little by little, many of us trained ourselves not to trust that “anything can happen”. We allowed time, experiences, circumstances, and people’s opinions to jade us.
1. Don’t respond to negativity. 2. Don’t speak poorly about others. 3. Remain consistent in their walk of life. 4. Show up on right time. 5. Give without expectations. 6. Deliberately remain optimistic. 7. Never nitpick or brag. 8. Show gratitude. 9. Have good manners. 10. Make no excuses. 11. Shower random acts of kindness without hidden agenda.
(This video got something to do with the post above. Right when you thought ‘these crypto/NFT punters can’t go more dumb’, now you see you were wrong. These dumbfucks literally launching a ELON-GOAT token & planning to request Elon Musk to launch a fake rocket to space during next spaceX launch. I mean, this can’t get more dumber. Fun part: people still brag about such bullshits & follow/like crypto accounts in social media.)
It’s so easy to beat ourselves up for mistakes we’ve made in the past. Mistakes are part of being human and they are part of being alive. Our mistakes are blessings and opportunities to keep learning and expanding. But even when you learn from your mistakes don’t expect to never make another. You will and that’s okay.
Keep growing and embrace each challenge as a chance to learn something new and you will be amazed by how easy it is to move on. Mistakes are nothing more than opportunities to learn, grow, and better our future.
Trust that some of the best days of your life haven’t even happened yet. There are going to be nights that will stay burned beneath your eyelids, memories that dance underneath your skin. Life is going to exceed your expectations, it is going to astonish you with its timing. Remember you have not felt it all. The world still has so much left for you.
Tomorrow is an upgrade of today. Life is fun. Let it be.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Talking about Indian parents; i am a 6ft tall 78kilo kid to my Indian parents & I have a younger brother, both of us have engineering degrees. After graduating engineering, my first job was a software engineer. Then MBA. Now a data analytics professional since a while. Basically if you are an Indian kid, you don’t have many career options except Engineer or Doctor.)
1. You commit to and practice observing yourself. 2. You notice a story you’re telling yourself. 3. You set a boundary you may not have set before. 4. You honour a commitment to yourself. 5. You take ownership and accountability when there’s something to own. 6. You can see another perspective outside of your own. 7. You see the pain of others in their reactivity without over personalizing. 8. You move away from changing others and move towards integrating the change you’d like to see for yourself.
GROWTH is often uncomfortable, messy, and full of feelings you weren’t EXPECTING. But it’s necessary.
Just always be the better person. And make your intentions pure. What and who you are is what will be remembered. Pain is inevitable and it will always exist, but if you focus on understanding what you are and what you are feeling, and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.
The expectations we have often do not correspond with reality, we are disappointed every time this happens. We become disappointed when we expect to be treated as we treat others. When you start to realize that everyone is living at a different stage, thinking differently and making their choices, then you can only accept the fact that people do not share the same mind and heart. When you want to be happy you have to let go of that and start with yourself, be the person you can be proud of, be an example, show respect and understanding. Others may not change, but know that it is not up to you and be proud of how you are. You’ve got so much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. Be a better you first. Life is fun, let it be.
I am not a superhuman. I have walked the same life path as many others. Character, Truth, Consistent approach, Loyalty, Decency & Respect are way too expensive 2021. And this world is running on a discount sale right now, result is cheap people. Those who come at you will disappoint you one way or other, period.
Inconsistency was there. Disrespect was there. Misunderstandings were there. Inappropriate behaviour was there. Lies were there. Cheating was there. Unacceptable bullshits were playing catch catch. Heartbreak was there.
Good part is; all were there in past past past, my present has nothing but a beautiful life that people can only dream about. My lesson was: have EXPECTATIONS, but only from yourself. Always be the better person. And make your intentions pure. What and who you are is what will be remembered. Pain is inevitable and it will always exist. But if you focus on understanding what you are and what you are feeling, and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.
The expectations we have often do not correspond with reality, we are disappointed every time this happens. We become disappointed when we expect to be treated as we treat others. When you start to realize that everyone is living at a different stage, thinking differently and making their choices, then you can only accept the fact that people do not share the same mind and heart. When you want to be happy you have to let go of that and start with yourself, be the person you can be proud of, be an example, show respect and understanding. Others may not change, but know that it is not up to you and be proud of how you are. You’ve got so much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. EXPECTATION IS TO BE A BETTER HUMAN FIRST.
Don’t break a bird’s wings and then tell it to fly. Don’t break a heart and then tell it to love. Don’t break a soul and then tell it to be happy. Don’t see the worst in a person and expect them to see the best in you. Don’t judge people and expect them to stand by your side. Don’t play with fire and expect to stay perfectly safe.
Life is about giving and taking. You cannot expect to give bad and receive good. You cannot expect to give good and receive bad. Does it happen? Yes, but don’t make that an excuse for you to keep doing what you know is wrong. Don’t blame life for what you do. That is so selfish and ignorant on your behalf. (Not my words)
Society always puts you through this idea of “You need to meet the expectations of your age group”. There are lots of people out there who judge others based on their age. These people tend to think that there are rigid milestones everyone needs to meet or that maturity level should match age appropriately. But the length of time you spent on earth doesn’t determine anything about your life.
There are no rules about where you should be, what you should have done or how you should be living. If you don’t own a house by 40, that’s okay. If you aren’t settled down by 30, that’s okay too. Your age doesn’t determine how to lead your life. But if you feel unsatisfied, you should be honest about why that is.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Just shared it because we all must stay away from such stupid conspiracy theories.)
There is a saying: GOOD-BETTER-BEST is like PAST-PRESENT-FUTURE. I don’t know how people will accept it. I will always suggest one thing “work & always have high expectations from yourself”, tomorrow is always a upgrade of today.
Indecisiveness causes insecurities. Insecurities cause self-doubt. You start expecting the worst, allowing yourself to take every wrong step & sabotage own growth in life.
Find a motive to live. Set a goal. Take decisions: stay stuck to it. If you can’t find reasons behind your actions/words/moves, don’t do it because they are bullshit. Be True to yourself first, everyone will acknowledge with time. Investment in self growth gratifies self-respect and self-esteem. Be a TRUE you.
Love is true when you give it & only give it without expecting anything in return. If you haven’t tried it yet, you are definitely trying to pluck orange from an apple tree.
May GOD help you get rid of your mental sickness.
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