If you want a nice body, workout. If you want to become an engineer or doctor, study your ass off. If you want nice hair, pick a style and get it done. Stop being afraid and motivate yourself. Find yourself. Find your happiness, because it’s out there waiting for you.
This post/story is about basic human decency. Yesterday i came across a horrible person, who misbehaved a small restaurant owner while paying for some eggy bread, pork pie & tea. He was short of some cash even though he came with entire family in a BMW X5. His argument started escalating over Apple pay, that too in a small & new cash only eatery. Later he went to ATM, withdrew some cash & paid for his food. According to his words; if you aren’t accepting Apple pay, you should go back to country side & he was some corporate employee for BAE systems. The words he used against that restaurant owner made me question his upbringing & it also made me realise what an highly educated asshole looks like. We live in a materialistic world where we literally judge someone looking at their clothes/house/car/phone/financial status, the last comes EDUCATION, QUALIFICATION, PERSONALITY & BEHAVIOUR, that too only if we enjoy a healthy interaction. So, Why these so-called few corporate employees belittle street food truck or small restaurant owners in their head!!
Because i mentioned these words “Materialistic world” & “Corporate Employee”, let’s talk about the money part first. Any engineer/banker/software developer/analyst with 3-5 years of job experience makes easy 95-130k salary per annum, no matter it’s Dollars/Euros/Pounds. Social security+Insurance+Tax, combined all are around 38-42% of entire income in most developed countries. Now monthly in hand salary comes close to 5200-6700 Dollars/Euros/Pounds.
Let’s talk about the small scale business owner who runs a food truck or a street food restaurant, here an easy quick meal costs 7-10 Dollars/Euros/Pounds. It can be a Full English breakfast/Tacos/Pastrami Sandwich/Doner kebab or a salad with tea/coffee/any kind of drink. They receive 80-90 such orders during lunch hour, mostly regular customers during a rush hour. And casually another 80-90 orders at evening because that’s the preferable time to cater tourists/students/kids/young people/couples. Total around 170 orders of 7-10 bucks food product, gross 1500 bucks everyday. Sunday everything is closed. So it comes to 1500×26=39000 worth of sales in a month, not the profit amount. If you deduct the raw ingredients+gas+rent+electricity+3-4 employees salary from that 39000, that small scale business owner is still left with easy 9000-12000 Dollars/Euros/Pounds in his hands every month.
Tried to show you an easy estimation in both scenarios. I am saying it from my experience. I know a half Indian brit who lives in Berlin, he started a ghost kichen sourdough pizzeria in Alexanderplatz in the middle of pandemic. Now it’s a small yet busy full blown cafe. His cafe is open only 4 hours every evening, but he makes way more than my salary. Even in terms of money, a small scale business owner enjoys a better financial stability compared to any employee. The good part is, EVERY BUSINESS OWNER IS HIS OWN BOSS. They work their ass off for their family, so that family can enjoy a life worth calling LIFE. I have studied 4 years bachelor’s in engineering, then MBA, now i am a PhD research scholar (still a student), i also have 4+ years of job experience as a data/research analyst & software developer. I bet that person who started a small mediocre petty drama must have studied something like i did. And most of the time people who work at multinational companies imagine they enjoy the best lifestyle compared to rest, which can be true. But does that allow anyone to be a jackass on streets? We can’t cure certain issues by cursing & shouting. Education is not just there for earning a qualification. If education isn’t making you humble, grateful & a better human, then you are simply a waste of time & energy for society.
(Forgot to schedule this post on Sunday. When i mentioned yesterday above, i am talking about an incident from Saturday. The restaurant owner i mentioned is one of my friends from A-level days.)
People never understand “what you want to do” is always connected to “what you need to do”.
Suppose i want to be an engineer, i need to study engineering. Suppose i want to a writer/musician/athlete, i need to learn & practice writing/music/sports. Suppose i want to get fit, i need to workout.
What you want to do doesn’t make any sense till you aren’t following what you need to do first. This is the major reason most people stay unhappy & blame others for their failures. This one tiny mindset change can drastically evolve your life in a year.
NEEDS FIRST, WANTS NEXT.
(This movie trailer got nothing to do with the post above. My first real full-time job was software developer before i switched to data analytics field. I know where we are heading with time, our world isn’t going bad as this trailer shows. But the way technology is advancing, who knows what’s coming after hundred years!! Anyways, there are no boundaries for imagination.)
I don’t know why nobody teaches this in business schools. When you have an entrepreneurial mindset, you must have to be good with your communication skills with almost every kinda people irrespective of their class, qualification, occupation or age. When you are on the right track towards your success & goals, never miss this tiny advice.
YOU HAVE TO BUILD GOOD RELATIONSHIPS WITH: 1. Accountants. 2. Lawyers & Tax Advisors. 3. Product development specialists. 4. Engineers & Architects. 5. Marketing Experts. 6. Graphic Designers & Web Developers. 7. Fitness/Mental Health Coaches.
Your contacts are worth more than real Money. The group of people you hangout with talks a lot about your personality.
So it’s valentine’s day today & even though i don’t believe in such bullshit, i am still writing a tiny post to elaborate my opinion on this nonsense. Have you ever seen a kid who’s super excited for christmas!?! You must have seen, 99% kids are like that. And then there is rest 1% weird type of 4 year old kids who say “SANTA IS FAKE”. The second weird one’s parents already know their kid will definitely become a engineer/doctor/scientist someday. Now i am coming back to topic of valentine’s day. Just like SANTA CLAUS was marketed by rich newyorkers as the face of CHRISTMAS, Valentine’s day is another such gimmick which exists in our society as if it’s a ritual. And yes i don’t believe in it.
What bugs me the most is this question; “TAP, WHAT’S YOUR TYPE!!”. Almost all girls i know in my university have asked this question to me. Some have asked out of curiosity, some asked for romantic reasons. My answer is; I don’t have any type. I don’t have certain set of criterias to pick a girl whom i wanna date. The reason behind it is; i never wanted a girl just because i want a relationship, but I definitely want a relationship if i want someone specific. I am hella slow in such matters. I love taking my sweet time. Still pretty much in love with my bank account. But soon or sooner i definitely want to belong to the one whom i am sold to. Very few of my friends know whom i am mentioning when i say ZK, It’s still a work in progress. A truthful consistent person is the burning desire, that’s all & that’s enough. For those who believe; Happy valentine’s day.
Everybody talks about “turning your hobby/passion into your work is fun”, but nobody talks about these hobbies/passion require a lot lot lot of efforts till you fine-tune them into a career/job. If you want to be a youtuber/influencer/musician/architect/engineer/fashion designer or whatever for that matter, you can be that which is totally fine. But ask yourself whether you want that for the right reasons!?!
Everything is a time consuming long long learning process. If you aren’t ready for the learning process to live your passion, then you aren’t made for it. Everything grows over time. If you want something, pick the one you actually can. Then you have to pour hours and hours of determined effort into it. If that’s fun to you, i hope & wish that turns into your rare real success story.
After a certain age everyone comes to a realisation that they achieved what they could have, this is the time when every human’s mind stops accepting serious inputs. Basically you can’t make a person understand your perspective about something after they cross that peak point of life. You can’t change them. It’s better you let them have their peace & you do you. Now I don’t need to tell you how to be you.
There are tons of nonsensical young rebels now a days who do nothing but fight with their parents, partners or friends in the name of their taste, I find it stupid yet funny. That’s also the only reason i adore independent people who navigate life on their own terms, stepping outside home to explore further is an amazing trait in a person’s personality because they are breaking own comfort zone. Every achiever has an amazing story of hustle which starts beyond this comfort zone.
(This post is for all the enthusiasts, engineers, entrepreneurs, doctors, architects, mostly to those who are away from loved ones & working towards living their dream.) All i wanted to say is; I APPRECIATE & RESPECT YOUR WALK OF LIFE.
OK. Enough of this confusion. When your blood is connected to a land called INDIA; you only get two options for college, either you become a doctor or an engineer. I failed to get good ranks for medicines, so I did engineering & became an ENGINEER. Now don’t ask me why.
After that I did a job with an MNC for a year. Felt like I want something else. I had enthusiasm towards business skills, so desires pushed me for an MBA. Private education is all about money. You can say; I bought myself an MBA degree with adequate amount efforts/studies because I desperately wanted it. Now I am busy with business which is fulfilling my desires & helping me earn more than what I spend. Next step is little bigger than what I am, stop questioning & keep watching me.
I see world/work/life/love/almost everything in 4 words; YES or NO & RIGHT or WRONG. Definitely not fast, but I take calculated decisions.
All because, I am an ENGINEER in terms of education. In terms of work, for sure I am a money minded dickhead or a reckless opportunistic business person. I move quickly towards something when I see value in it. If NO value, you can see me competing at a snail’s pace.🤪😜