Stop running away from negative emotions.
Stop running away from feelings.
Stop pretending like you have it all together.
Start accepting that you feel messed up.
Let yourself breakdown to get ready for a breakthrough.
Sometimes when you are always focusing on being positive, you are avoiding the pain that makes you stronger.
DON’T BE POSITIVE, BE AUTHENTIC.
Tap..✌️
Hurting people back will not heal your pain.
Learn to react to people constructively, even if that means being alone in silence, to study your emotions.
In your response is your destiny.
If you do not take conscious control of your reaction, you will give away your power.
Train your mind to be stronger than your emotions.
Having self-control will get you further than constantly reacting to everything that’s trying to test your patience.
Center yourself and remain calm in difficult or challenging situations.
Do not engage with someone with lower behavior.
You will be dealing with someone who projects,
who has ego problems,
who is self centered,
who lacks empathy,
who is emotionally immature,
who has unhealed wounds of their own,
who has a need to feel superior,
who needs to control others,
and who ends up hurting just about everyone who crosses their path.
Stay away from such people & such behaviour.
Move forward by healing your own hurts.
Improve yourself.
And forget about inviting other’s toxicity into your space.
You are your own responsibility.
Make sure you make yourself a better version of yourself with time.
Tap OUT..✌️
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.
-MARK TWAIN
You have to be willing to leave your comfort zone to grow not only as a human being but to push your own boundaries.
I encourage anyone chasing dreams to be fearless; go into emotional areas that aren’t always comfortable or comprehensible.
Do something out of your comfort zone today.
Sometimes the things that scare us help us grow.
Tap OUT..✌️
Six important guidelines in life:
1. When you are alone, mind your thoughts.
2. When you are with friends, mind your tongue.
3. When you are angry, mind your temper.
4. When you are with a group, mind your behavior.
5. When you are in trouble, mind your emotions.
6. When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.
Tap OUT..✌️
Self-Awareness:
1. Your past experiences are shaping your perception of this present moment.
Ask yourself;
“Am I seeing this situation for what it is, or am I viewing it through the lens of an insecurity?”
2. Other people’s pasts are shaping their perception of you.
If what they’re projecting onto you doesn’t resonate, don’t internalize it.
Their issues aren’t always about you.
3. Sometimes it is about you.
Ask yourself;
“Have multiple people given me similar criticism? What could they be noticing in me that I can’t see?”
4. Remember we all have emotional blindspots, or harmful behaviors that unintentionally hurt the people around us.
Being open to unflattering feedback helps us grow into better versions of ourselves.
5. When you’ve been told you’ve hurt somebody, believe them.
Whether it was intentional on your end or not.
6. Judge your emotions less, reflect on them more.
Understanding where they stem from will allow you to observe your emotions rather than getting absorbed by them.
7. Avoid the temptation to make choices that are familiar but no longer serve you.
Ask yourself;
“Is this really what I want, or is it just what I know?”
8. The more you know somebody the better you can love them.
Same goes with yourself.
Continue to get to know yourself on a deeper level.
Not just who you are today, but who you are becoming.
Tap OUT..✌️
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.
-MARK TWAIN.
You have to be fearless about pursuing your dreams.
You have to be willing to leave your comfort zone to grow not only as a human being but to push your own boundaries.
I encourage anyone chasing dreams to be fearless; go into emotional areas that aren’t always comfortable or comprehensible.
Do something out of your comfort zone today.
Sometimes the things that scare us help us grow.
Tap OUT..✌️
As for honoring emotions, I’ve always said “you need to allow yourself to feel what you feel”.
Don’t push feelings away or tell yourself you’re not allowed to feel sad, happy etc.
You are allowed to feel.
Your emotions are valid.
But you also need to learn how to deal with them.
Try to figure out why you are feeling the way you are and then move forward from there.
When you’re happy, truly let yourself be happy.
When you’re sad, let yourself be sad as well.
But then know when it’s time to heal and move forward.
And I know this can be hard and it’s something I’m still working on.
Value yourself.
Express yourself.
Honour your feelings.
Work on becoming a legit version of who you are.
Be a shameless authentic version of yourself.
Tap OUT..✌️
If you don’t learn how to CONTROL your own emotions, they will learn how to take CONTROL OVER YOU.
You have to train your mind to be STRONGER than your feelings or else you’ll lose every single TIME.
Self-discipline is a form of FREEDOM.
Freedom from laziness and lethargy,
freedom from the expectations and demands of others,
freedom from weakness and fear and doubt.
Self-discipline allows a pitcher to feel his individuality, his inner strength, his talent.
He is master of, rather than a slave to, his thoughts and emotions.
– H.A. Dorfman.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Big fan of SNL. Watch it for some fun, shared it for the same reason.)
Tap OUT..✌️
Mindset.
It’s all about mindset.
From the moment you wake up to the moment you rest your head at night.
Everything is up to you.
Your emotions.
Your thoughts.
Your perceptions.
Your reactions.
Every moment.
Everything is about your mindset.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. If I like some video, I suggest it. Coldfusion is one of my favourite YouTube channels. Watch it for some entertainment & information.)
Tap OUT..✌️
Karma says:
Don’t get emotionally connected with anyone because when they stop talking with you, you will never come out of it.
Remember people wake up with different feelings everyday.
Self-control is strength.
Calmness is mastery.
You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else.
Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life.
Don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.
You all are grown ass adults now.
You’re responsible for your emotional intelligence at this point.
It’s no longer about who hurt you or who made you this way.
It’s about what YOU can do to fix YOUR problem.
Playing the blame game will leave you ugly an stagnant.
The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, no matter what you try, will simply not like you.
But the world is also filled with those who will love you fiercely.
The ones who love you: they are YOUR PEOPLE.
Don’t waste your finite time and heart trying to convince the people who aren’t your people that you have value.
They will miss it completely.
They won’t buy what you are selling.
Don’t try to convince them to walk your path with you because you will only waste your time and your emotional good health.
You are not for them and they are not for you.
You are not their cup of tea and they are not yours.
Politely wave them along and you move away as well.
Seek to share your path with those who recognize and appreciate your gifts, who you are.
Be who you are.
You are not everyone’s cup of tea and that is OK.
Tap OUT..✌️
Self-control is strength.
Calmness is mastery.
You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else.
Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life.
Don’t allow your emotions to empower your intelligence.
Anger is such a powerful emotion, so much so that when we really experience it, it has the tendency to cloud our judgment and our ability to reason.
We have to accept our feelings but also know that when we don’t regulate our anger it has the ability to destroy our common sense.
Don’t let your anger get the best of you.
Think rationally and be careful of how your emotions affect others.
When anger rises, your conscience falls, so be aware of your self-righteousness and try to see it from all points of view.
Tap OUT..✌️
You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you.
True power is sitting back and observing things with logic.
True power is restraint.
If words control you that means everyone else can control you.
Breathe and allow things to pass.
You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you.
True power is sitting back and observing things with logic.
True power is restraint.
If words control you that means everyone else can control you.
Breathe and allow things to pass.
There were times in life when I let myself get completely consumed with jealousy for someone else’s life, their body, their wardrobe, their talent.
It’s a common emotion to experience.
They call it the green eyed monster for a reason.
It’s self-destructive and when it’s in the room, it consumes you.
Be strong and don’t focus on what other people have.
Release any jealousy you have for someone else’s life and allow yourself to feel deep gratitude that you are living your own life.
Don’t torment yourself with jealousy.
It’s a silly illusion that someone’s life is better than yours when the truth is that each one of us is on a different unique beautiful path.
Tap OUT..🤗
I used to run and hide from my feelings especially when I felt something that was upsetting, painful, or uncomfortable.
But over time I’ve learned to accept all of my feelings.
I know that in order for me to work through them, I must first honor and embrace all emotions.
They are a part of me.
Therefore they are meaningful and valid.
Pick a feeling that you’re afraid or ashamed of.
Feeling fear, anger, or sadness is okay as long as you don’t let it define you.
Embrace your emotions and remind yourself how valuable they are.
Don’t invalidate your feelings. Honor them.
Tap OUT..✌️
When we choose to focus on what we have we are instantly happier people.
Gratitude is said to be the emotion that is most connected with happiness.
Even the wealthiest person in the world can think of things they don’t have.
It’s not about accumulating more things; it’s about focusing on the joy and beauty in your life by focusing on what is great in your life.
Don’t decide happiness based on your material possessions, but on the love in your life today.
Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.
If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.
-OPRAH WINFREY.
Tap OUT..✌️
You have to be fearless about pursuing your dreams.
You have to be willing to leave your comfort zone to grow not only as a human being but to push your own boundaries.
I encourage anyone chasing dreams to be fearless;
go into emotional areas that aren’t always comfortable or comprehensible.
Do something out of your comfort zone today.
Sometimes the things that scare us help us grow.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.
(Not my words.)
Tap OUT..💪
Stay away from those who criticize, point fingers or put you down.
Stay away from those who try to tell you who you are, what you do wrong, or how you can or can’t feel.
They are choosing to be emotional bullies and walk the path of negativity.
Let them keep that while you take the high road.
Refuse to be abused, even when it’s with words.
Real people are good with their approach towards you consistently, period.
Of course it’s another story about TAP.
Story goes back to my highschool days. I used to suck at history & geography. But my grades with maths, physics, chemistry & language papers were amazing. I was a 85-90% scoring student. I was a good chess player, i have played state level game 9 times to be exact. Most of my school friends were dead serious about football, that game never excited me. I was not crazy about sports in school, but i was fond of playing basketball or volleyball with my street pals. Because such weird interests, i made some friends outside my school. Most of them were my seniors, nobody cared because of my height & build. I think i look like a beefcake since forever. On top of that I hit puberty little earlier. In my class, i was the only 13 year old with some moustache & beard.
It was summer vacation after my grade-8. Few of my new streetsmart friends suggested to watch “THE MATRIX RELOADED”, of course it’s an amazing movie, but watching the same thing 4 times in 2 weeks smelled like a dumb idea. So we went to a DVD movie rental store to browse any other movie we can watch. Suddenly it started raining. One of my wise friends wanted to rent a X-rated movie. Let me clear, it wasn’t a porno. I agree some scenes were bit too much for our teenage eager brain. One of my friend’s neighbour girl knocked my door that evening and told me that she saw me renting/watching that movie. My “good student” image was really important to me & being an extrovert asshole i was, i cracked a deal within 20-30 minutes. Deal was; she will not say anything about that movie to anyone & we need condoms before locking doors. I lost my cherry that evening. She was 4 years elder to me & she started acting way too much romantic within a week, which was hella confusing. I had to cut everything bluntly because i wanted to focus on my studies, my friends, my chess, my piano lessons, my playstation, my basketball power forward position, my swimming classes & my 16 miles ride to a nearby river.
I am in my late 20s building strong morals & a big bank account, so that i can buy all happiness i desire for myself & my family. My approach to life in general is; “REMAIN TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT, YOU WILL SEE EVERY POSSIBLE SUCCESS COMING YOUR WAY”. That’s all i wanna see in my people. That day & today; whenever i say i like someone, my friends think i am talking about some latina’s fine ass. Never understood how to be romantic. Basically i never wanted someone so bad that i can imagine being in a relationship. I was into someone recently, let’s not name it a relationship. I came in touch with someone who walked the same journey as mine & she is living in my city since 2012, but i got to know her after 6-7 years. It’s amazing to see people who believe in same basic human values as yours. The sad part is; people & their predictable behaviour. Especially their inconsistency, that’s my biggest turn off moment. I have made some rules to lead a simple happy happening life & one rule says; Every liar is inconsistent & every inconsistent person is a liar. Whenever someone acts inconsistent, just cut that equation no matter it’s a friendship, relationship, fling or fuck-buddy. Once a person goes inconsistent, their next step is lying. That’s how every inconsistent person tries to justify their inconsistency.
Moral of the story is;
Never offer half baked emotions/attention/affection, first you have to be sure about yourself whether you are ready!! I am a strong believer of KARMA. I believe if i can do something wrong with someone, some other person can do the same thing with me.
Tap OUT..😘
Having someone understanding your mind, thoughts, emotions or even face expression, is real intimacy to me.
-Janice Price.
When somebody tells you they are changing the world & you are helping them do that, REMEMBER IT’S PURE BULLSHIT.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above.)
How to practice SELF RESPECT?
When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options, help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation. Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do. Because sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you. It’s not pride – it’s self-respect.
Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life. Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Tap OUT..🤗
Bottling up your feelings is never a good idea. While you should always respond rather than react in any given situation, you still need to take the time to process difficult emotions, like anger or sadness. Bottling up your emotions might feel easy now, but it damages your mental health and overall well-being in the long run.
If you notice that something continues to bother you, don’t let it slide, speak up. Holding grudges will always hurt you the most and as the tension and turmoil increases, so does the pressure. Eventually those bottled up emotions explode creating conflict that would have been easier to handle in small doses.
Tap OUT..🤗
Most of the time we humans hold ourselves back from pursuing our dreams because we care about the people who hurt us & moreover we consider their words in a negative emotional way. Let me talk about both and why so!!
How many times you thought “My dreams are impossible!!”. If your goals/dreams are practical/realistic enough to be pursued, never give up on them. It’s only you who knows own strengths & weaknesses. Don’t let someone else’s negative experience stop you from going after what you want. Follow your heart and take risks, don’t stick with the safe and easy choices just because you’re afraid of taking a leap of faith. Your dreams are not impossible and they should be bigger than your fears. Sticking to your vision will eventually beat to progress and yield the results you desire.
Sometimes we do feel “I am stuck with people who hurt me”. Never entertain those who walk over your sanity. Your life is precious and too short not to look out for yourself. Have enough self-respect & self-love to distance yourself from those who constantly mistreat you and bring you down. It may be tough and hurt for a while but everything will be ok, more importantly you’ll be ok. Walking away from a bad situation doesn’t make you weak, it makes you strong. Leaving means acknowledging that it’s not about them seeing your worth, but you realizing your own worth.
Tap OUT..💪
You can not think of two things at the same time. In your quest for improvement, it’s vital that you concentrate on the things that truly matter. Your focus helps you place your attention on those values that will primarily assist you in attaining the heights you seek. Focusing on postive emotions, development & goals will leave you with no time to focus on negative things.
When you find yourself in a not so pleasent circumstance, always look on the brighter side. It might be a difficult thing to do when you form the habit of recognising the lessons in negative events. You will learn from these experiences & get even better. FOCUS on the positive side of life while FOCUSING on one prime meaningful thing at a time.
Tap OUT..👍
Avoiding certain people to protect your emotional & mental health is not a weakness. IT’S WISDOM.
(Not my words.)
I just don’t understand this new hate wave among few old high school/college/University mates. Money is money, there is no emotions behind it. Make it or stay shunned. Peace.
Tap OUT..😘
Do you know why people try to control someone or behave controling?
Answer:
Because, they can’t control their own shit and they are not in the right vibration to control their own emotions. That’s why they try to control you. They don’t like your happiness & appreciation you receive. They always try to stop you frequently with different approach. In short, you are dealing a wishy washy real dickhead.
Cure:
Guard yourself first. Help them understand life has more to offer. When you know you are not going towards a right direction, it’s better to take help or consult friends/family/whom you believe. Life is about sharing goodness & happiness. People who plan dorky things need to find themselves at right place before they vibe right.
Tap OUT..👻
It’s always more important what you give, not what you ask for. We all have spares in our lives, extra clothes, extra shoes, extra money, extra food, extra unused time, extra dullness surrounding own mental health. I mean we always have enough to give away whether it’s a material things or positive/negative emotions. We often have enough LOVE to share with other people.
As hard it may sound, most of our giving is not an act of generosity. What we give are mere excesses/extras. But we glorify it by calling it GENEROSITY. What makes it even more questionable is what we expect in return? It’s natural for us to expect equal reciprocation when we give. Balance is the name of life.
We need to give without expecting any return, when it’s LOVE. Expecting what we give as return means, taking back we gave. People start thinking so much about self respect & inflated ego. In the mix they forget what they really are. Stop measuring what you give & start forgiving before starting to forget. When you give, take nothing except the satisfaction of making someone HAPPY.
Tap OUT.. Blessed..😘
Yes I am emotional & I have lot of love to give. But it should be reciprocated equally from a legit space. I know how to distinguish the difference between logic & emotions, you are allowed to FUCK OFF with respect after my words point it’s a dum dum failure.
Tap OUT..😜
The inability to process emotions is your only mental block. And emotions make you a stronger person. Strive towards positivity. 💪
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