Anything that annoys you is teaching you patience. Anyone who abandons you is teaching you how to stand up on your own two feet. Anything that angers you is teaching you forgiveness and compassion. Anything that has power over you is teaching you how to take your power back. Anything you hate is teaching you unconditional love. Anything you fear is teaching you courage to overcome your fear. Anything you can can’t control is teaching you how to let go.
• Minding own business. • Regulating & controlling own emotions in a healthy way. • Having an open mind. • Upholding own boundaries. • Always seeking to evolve. • Practicing acceptance even when it’s hard. • Finding the courage to do something about the things you usually complain about. • Expressing self-compassion and compassion towards others. • Creating peace for yourself by protecting your energy.
It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand.
Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods.
Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Every single time someone tells me about crypto investment/trading, i know either it’s a dumbfuck or a scammer. There’s no other 3rd category for such fools. Every crypto investor talks about future of finance, web3, blockchain technology. The fun part is; 99.9% of these dumb donkeys don’t even know how to write 2 codes in C/C++. Now that’s the perfect recipe for a disaster. 97% NFT market down, 78% crypto currencies market down & i perfectly saw this coming.)
When people act shady, allow them. When people betray your trust, allow them. But never, ever sink to their level. Their choices are a direct reflection of who they are, not who you are. No matter how angry, hurt, or disappointed you may be, do not allow them to make you bitter. Be better. React with love. Sometimes that means retaliating with understanding and compassion; other times it means retaliating with acceptance and sheer silence. Whatever it is, make sure it benefits you as a human being instead of lowering you into a position which you would rather not be in.
Normal people dont go around destroying other human beings. Only those who are hurt, lost, and confused cause pain. Don’t be one of them. Just take the lessons and move on gracefully.
To me, cool means living for more than the next moment. Cool doesn’t mean having the latest Dior, knowing people, being on the list, and sitting at Lucien. Cool means you are your authentic self. Cool means you walk the walk. Cool means being a good fucking person. Cool means when you are alone, you can stand to be with yourself. Cool means listening when others speak. Cool means holding doors open and smiling. Cool is compassion, understanding, love, and boundaries. Cool is being good.
Fall in love with taking care of yourself. Fall in love with the path of deep healing. Fall in love with becoming the best version of yourself but with patience, with compassion and respect to your own journey.
You don’t just wake up someday and fall in love with yourself. It takes time. It takes patience but more than that it takes self compassion, empathy and kindness from yourself towards your own heart. You have to be brave enough to forgive yourself for all the mistakes you have made and all the chances you didn’t take. Like all the other forms of love, you will learn to love yourself by practicing SELF-LOVE. -Dhiman.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I am a big fan of Key & Peele. Not recent, but this is one of the best.)
We humans do not understand compassion. In each moment of our lives, we betray it. We know of its worth, yet in knowing we then attach to it a value, we guard the giving of it, believing it must be earned. Compassion is priceless in the truest sense of the world. It must be given freely.
It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the superficial beauty of our world. It’s incredible how you can meet someone so physically stunning and when you get to know them, they seem to lack basic kindness, communication skills & compassion for others. The moment someone isn’t kind to others, any physical beauty they might have had disappears. Real beauty comes from kindness, virtue, and compassion. Seeing that kind of beauty requires more than just a casual glance.
Take time to get to know people and then decide how beautiful they are; you will become more beautiful in the process.
Sometimes people are beautiful. Not in looks. Not in what they say. Just in what they are. -MARKUS ZUSAK.
(There are reasons i find my people beautiful beyond looks. If you are included in this “MY PEOPLE”, you are appreciated. And i owe you whole lotta love & respect for life.)
The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being.
The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness. Be you. (Not my words.)
Find someone who loves you well. Someone who never belittles you even in the heat of an argument. Someone who is gentle with you, but does not treat you like you are fragile. Someone who knows what you are capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you. Not someone who is intimidated by your strength. Someone who doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s job to punish you. And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short. No one is perfect do not hold them to this standard.
Find someone who is patient, consistent, forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often. Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic. Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket. Common courtesy is important. Compassion is important. Kindness is important.
Now that i mentioned something about relationships twice in a day, my university friends will again start questioning whether i am seeing someone! Let me answer even before that question pops up. Most of my posts are scheduled a month advance. Typing these two paragraphs today right before the post goes live.
I entertained something inconsistent for a while. Whatever happened, I am not strong enough to blame or hate anyone. Let’s say, that was my fault. I am in the process of becoming single. In Snapchat, if you see my hands resting on some girl’s fine 🍑, high chances it’s either my bestie DEMI or my neighbour girl. Yes, i have a ting towards athletic girls.♌ But I don’t have a TYPE whom i want to date. First i have to be ready, next the connection must vibe positivity & remain consistent, that’s all. The most beautiful part about a girl where my heart goes little weak; when i feel she is grabbing my arms little stronger looking into my eyes with a wide big bright smile, while crossing baby/kid’s clothing section in shopping malls. Everyone knows i adore kids, they are angelic to me. 2023 goal is to become the best A+ dad world has ever seen, and i will settle to be a good B+ boyfriend/husband i guess.😂
1. The kindest people aren’t born that way, they are made. They are the souls that have experienced so much at the hands of life, they are the ones who have dug themselves out of the dark, who have fought to turn every loss into a lesson. The KINDEST people do not just exist, they choose to soften where circumstance has tried to harden them, they choose to believe in goodness, because they have seen firsthand why COMPASSION is so necessary. They have seen firsthand why TENDERNESS is so important in this world.
2. Surround yourself with people who are doing the work to HEAL themselves. Surround yourself with those who want to talk to you about IDEAS rather than other human beings. Surround yourself with people who LOVE and RESPECT themselves, people who are GENTLE and KIND and who ENCOURAGE CONNECTION. Surround yourself with people who genuinely show up in your life, people who don’t just want attention, or praise, or validation from you. Surround yourself with those who want to GROW with you. These people will change your life.
3. Being understood fosters a different kind of INTIMACY that is untouchable. The rarest, most profound kind of connection you are going to experience will not be with the person who instantly gratifies you, but rather, with the kind of human being who sees you clearly. Ask yourself who makes you feel the most you? Who sees you in ways you don’t see yourself? Who pours calm and ease into the heart of you? Those people who came to mind are rare and beautiful gifts. Never take them for granted.
4. Do not just be THANKFUL for the things you deem positive in life. Be thankful for the EMOTIONS you also deem negative, because it is within the darkness that we grow to APPRECIATE the light. The hardest things in life are building you, and reminding you of your capacity to overcome. At the end of the day, nothing you have experienced thus far has defeated you. There is POWER in reminding yourself of that. You are capable of braving the storms, that is what they are there to teach you.
5. Please don’t ever forget that so many human beings you come into contact with are all trying to heal themselves from the things they often do not discuss. Always choose to be KIND. Always choose GRACE.
Here’s the thing about people with good hearts. They give you excuses when you don’t explain yourself. They accept apologies you don’t give. They see the best in you when you don’t need them to. At your worst, they lift you up, even if it means putting their priorities aside. The word “busy” does not exist in their dictionary. They make time, even when you don’t. And you wonder why they’re the most sensitive people. You wonder why they’re the most caring people. You wonder why they are willing to give so much of themselves with no expectation in return. You wonder why their existence is not so essential to your well-being. It’s because they don’t make you work hard for the attention they give you. They accept the love they think they’ve earned, and you accept the love you think you’re entitled to.
Let me tell you something; Fear the day when a good heart gives up on you. Our skies don’t become gray out of nowhere. Our sunshine does not allow the darkness to take over for no reason. A heart does not turn cold unless it’s been treated with coldness for a while. (Not my words)
Some days will always be harder than others. Be patient with yourself; you have won many battles but the war will take time. You can be seventeen or seventy and still make mistakes. Try not to punish yourself too much over them. You will compare yourself to others, everyone does it, but try to remember someone compares themselves to you too.
Be kinder to the thoughts in your head; you are thinking them for a reason. There will always be that person who you gave your whole and it still wasn’t enough. But you will always be enough for yourself. And when all’s said and done, that’s the person who lives your life. That’s the person you have to impress.
Be a friend to yourself, not an enemy. (Not my words)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. See it for the fun. And YES that’s the reason i never buy anything from H&M or Zara).
You don’t have to be religious to be a good person. A lot of people in society believe that, the only way to be a good person is to be religious. And that if you don’t identify with any of the major religions of the world, then clearly you have no values or morals.
While most religions typically have morality at the core of their teachings, morality and spirituality don’t always go hand in hand. You don’t need religion to be a good person. Secular humanists possess ethical values like kindness, compassion and altruism. You don’t need to subscribe to an entire belief system to be morally just.
I never understand preachers or priests. God didn’t send you to this world for just praying & preaching his name or his messages, no matter his name is Jesus, allah or ram. Your life is precious & your faith is your personal affair. There is a purpose behind it. Find your calling & serve your purpose before your chance to breathe on this planet is over. This is purely my thought. Read the next paragraph why I said what I said.
History says just god’s name or religion didn’t help humanity flourish until people came to realisation about their work, skills, knowledge & capabilities. Every religion’s holy book says “We are children of God & your work is your worship/identity”. Just imagine you gave birth to a baby & now that baby is just chanting/talking about his parent’s life all the time to anyone she/he is passing by. Will that make you happy? Your parents don’t want you to praise them, your God wants the same. Do your job, studies, business or work. If you succeed in that, your parents will feel appreciated genuinely. Your God will feel proud of it as well. A successful child is parent’s pride & happiness both. Every father/mother want their kid to become something big. Yes little empathy & compassion in heart is necessary. If you can feed two slice of bread to a homeless or help them with shelter, that’s how you can grab good karma or let’s say goodwill. If you don’t believe in karma, let’s say your God will reserve a nice queen side bed for your afterlife in heaven when you have good deeds which earned some smile doesn’t matter how many times you took a trip to church/temple/mosque.
People who fuck with other’s FEELINGS are unsure about their own FEELINGS. Feel them once, & leave them there till they realize their own game. COMPASSION & COCKBLOCK are two complete different words. First shouldn’t work for next. Enjoy your life.