DON’T COMPARE your actual self to a hypothetical self. Don’t drown in a sea of ‘what if’s. Don’t clutter your mind by imagining other versions of you, in parallel universes, where you made different decisions. The internet age encourages choice and comparison, but don’t do this to yourself. Theodore Roosevelt said; Comparison is the thief of joy. You are The you. Past is the past.
The only way to make a better life is from inside the present. To focus on regret does nothing but turn that very present into another thing you will wish you did differently. Accept your own reality. Be human enough to make mistakes. Be human enough not to dread the future. Be human enough to be, well, enough. Accepting where you are in life makes it so much easier to be happy for other people without feeling terrible about yourself.
You are exactly where you are meant to be right now. Do not compare your journey to anyone else’s; yours is a wildly different journey up an entirely different mountain. If you were meant to be higher up your mountain, you would be. There might be more you need to learn from this spot before you can keep climbing. There might be something you need to see here before you continue forward.
Maybe you are simply meant to rest before the journey ahead. Regardless of where you are on your path, know that the rest of your story will unfold when it is time. Until then, enjoy your beautifully unique climb.
1. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present. 2. What others think of you is none of your business. 3. Time heals almost everything, give it time. 4. Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 5. Stop thinking too much, it’s alright not to know the answers. Answers will come to you when you least expect it. 6. No one is in charge of your happiness, except you. 7. Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world. 8. Understand the difference between WANT & NEED. Follow what you feel.
In this generation it is almost exceptional that we look after each other and stand up for each other. There is competition and power struggles everywhere, but why? We could achieve so much more together if we support, respect and appreciate each other. I don’t compete with anyone, I am myself, I have different goals, norms and values, I am unique, just like you are, and for that we are not competitors but equals.
Jealousy, competition and grudging are therefore hugely misguided, it is impossible to compare yourself to another. The only thing you can do is look at yourself, develop yourself, compete with yourself and become your own ideal image. There is no room for jealousy, grudging and hatred, as this will always negatively affect your self development and self-image.
Focus on your own goals and work on yourself. Respect that you will never be like others and they will never be like you. Don’t change for anyone. Change for yourself. You are your own and only competition.
Recovery is a process no matter what it is you’re overcoming. No one is better or greater for recovering faster. It’s not a race. You need to go at your own pace, even if that is pace is slow. There will be days when you feel like giving up, don’t. There will be days when you’re at risk of relapsing, don’t. So long as you set your own pace and never go backward in your recovery, you’re making tremendous progress and that’s all that matters. So be proud of what you’ve accomplished for yourself.
Don’t compare your recovery process to others. Remember that each of us heals physically, mentally, and emotionally at the pace that’s right for ourselves. Give yourself the time you need and deserve.
Please don’t take shots if you aren’t single and i consider those single who have healed their heart from past mess while raising own standards. It takes few months to work on yourself. Don’t be a desperate moron.
People come with past baggages & bunch of lies. I can unmask you in a minute & you will regret that. My intuition & morals are way stronger compared to your loose trousers, I never mess with TRUTH.
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