While you may not have control over everything that happens in life, you do have control over your mindset and perspective.
You can choose to think that you’re down on your luck, or you decide to see that you are being set-up for something extraordinary.
You can choose to focus on all the chaos happening around you, or you decide to look for the good that is emerging.
You can choose to live in a state of victimhood, or you can decide to live from the stance of a champion.
Make the decision that come what may come, this new year is going to be good and beautiful and something magical, not because the world’s problems finally faded away, but because you chose to start changing your perspective.
ONLY YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR PERSPECTIVE. (Not my words.)
Toxic people are not new to life. World is filled with narcissists & liars that we can’t sideline. But that situation becomes often if you don’t set limits & establish boundaries. I would rather say, you must do both for every equation in your life. Let me explain why/how;
Set limits: Complainers and negative people are bad news. They wallow in their problems and they want others to join in so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as insensitive or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral. You can avoid this by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Just think of it this way; if the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all day inhaling the second-hand smoke? Probably not, you will distance yourself and you should do the same with every person who’s toxic.
Establish boundaries: This is the area where most people tend to sell themselves short, they feel that because they work or live with someone they have no way to control the chaos. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Once you’ve found your way to rise above a person, you’ll begin to find their behavior more predictable and easier to understand. This will equip you to think rationally about when and where you have to put up with them and when you don’t. If you let things happen naturally, you are bound to find yourself constantly broiled in difficult conversations. But if you set boundaries and decide when and where you’ll engage a person, you can control much of the chaos.
Sometimes I look at my parents & see them making it happen so smooth each day without any chaos/conflict unlike others. The thing is they were/are only focused on HOW to make it happen, not whether to make it happen!! Their assurance in each other is that symbol of LOVE & RESPECT everyone should take a lesson out of it.