The real glow up isn’t proving the people from your past wrong. It is finally feeling so content and hopeful about your future that you stop thinking about them entirely. When you want to change your life in order for it to look different, and only that, you are still orbiting around the opinions of people who didn’t love you, and didn’t have any intention to.
A real glow up is authentic. It is lifting off all the cover-up bullshit and addressing the real problems. It is healing. It is changing, for good. It is, for the first time, prioritizing your heart over someone else’s eyes. The real glow up is realizing that you have nobody to prove wrong but yourself. (Not my words.)
There are tons of motivational videos which talk about taking risks & leave that 9 to 5 job to fetch your dreams. Most men see it, start something they wish getting their adrenaline pumped for exact 7 days & then give up whatever they started mourning/regretting what they lost after facing FAILURE. That’s how we lose some real people coming forward with genuine ideas/intrest/breakthrough towards solving problems. When you want something in life, first sit down & have a heart to heart conversation with yourself. Being real is way more important compared to being optimistic or persistent for that matter.
Let me tell you how I roll!! I am not a believer in this risk taking bullshit, bullshit because I have never done anything like this. I know myself & I take a long long time to trust someone/something. When my businesses & career are concerned, I only follow tried & tested methods. I must understand it fully before investing myself into it. That’s the reason I am aware I can/will do something better than others but I am never gonna do/invent something drastically new which isn’t present already. Does that make me an inferior person who isn’t interested to take risks!!? If NO, that’s good. If YES, even better because I have no time to give shit. I see myself growing as a person while feeding my bank account some good dose of benjamins everyday. Most important part is: I am HAPPY with what I do. Still suggestions & positive constructive inputs are welcome but accepting them will always remain my choice.
A bit about this boy/men adrenaline driven mindset I mentioned in first paragraph!! Challenge me to run 5km without stopping, bake a pizza in 20 minutes, design a stupid website like this https://demidum.best within 20 minutes to embarass my bestie bitch because of our previous day fight, do 100 push-ups or 50 pull-ups, skateboarding without wearing helmets or knee pads in southbank skateboard park, all these take bit of balls to pull off. Have I done it all?? My closest friends can answer this. You can challenge me to surf in rain or go deep inside sea till some shark bites my butt, all these adrenaline thumping moves portray a boy/men packs bit badassery because we have designed a society like this around us. Sometimes it’s totally OK to say “I CAN’T DO THIS” & save yourself from being stupid. (This shark biting butt & surfing under rain incidents already happened with me, that too for a challenge of 50 quids with a russie mofo. Ivan, fuck yourself).
We all must take self introspection bit seriously. That helps us in understanding limits of our strength & capabilities.
There are people who think someone will approach for a relationship & life will be all rose pink after that. We are living in the world where one swipe left/right, you meet someone. And next day that person is gone to someone else or better.
My philosophy is; I am building myself. I get along with strong headed or loyal heart people. The one who wants me will get me & not stop fighting till mission accomplished. Life is like 80% work & 20% rest bullshit. That’s how I roll. A romantic relationship is not the goal of anyone’s life. You don’t need LOVE to spoon or fuck. It depends on your morals how you entertain people. Build a TRUE amazing self before asking a stable secure relationship.
Just because I allow, stop asking shit about my past. I was badly madly in LOVE once, just once. I did that mistake. I escaped it after a huge struggle inside my own head/heart. I am the one who ended it just for ending it. It was a toxic vicious cycle. That relationship taught me; I am a way better person being single & my TRUTH is my treasure. By breaking free, I honestly walked towards my happiness. If you know me; I still mourn my dog’s demise, two days after that date I celebrate someone’s death. It made me heartless, tough & rational. I used to take long time trusting people, now I have trust issues.
I hope I answered it truthfully. It will be much better if you stop asking me about something I wanna heal & halt.
Your ego, lying, cheating, manipulation, deceit, tampering, hiding, sidelining & sexual addiction all are DEVIL in a relationship which is there inside you.
Being a human, you have enough knowledge to understand & separate what’s right or what’s wrong!! People who bullshit always get confused between apology or appreciation. Don’t break something that you can’t fix. Don’t do something wrong if you don’t know how to ask forgiveness.
Some relationships look good in Instagram, some work in bed, some work under just certain circumstances with tons of mindfuckery. You definitely know what I am talking about, all those glittery bullshit I mean. I want none. I am just happy to be me. And I want nothing except TRUTH. I will buy the same when I approach LOVE, vice versa.
This is to the one i wanna be with & name LOVE: Trust me I am a real nasty person when my mind loses shit, most of the time it’s work or past memories. I might end up snatching your pizza slice or last bite of cheesecake, more over that I don’t know what harm I can cause you. For me cheating means, Sunday cheat meals. That’s it.
In a relationship if someone is not moving up with time; just move forward with your life towards your goals & success, with or without them. You need a better you tomorrow. If deserving & you both are meant to be together, the other person will step up to catch up.
This one is completely targeted towards my few friends.
People with negative mindset will always figure out someway or another way to ruin their day & drag you in it successfully, learn to retreat from such.
I am more happy sticking to my tiny business, workout & money. Fall in love with yourself first. Be TRUE, your self respect will attract the best person with positive vibration. Learn to handle own shit & focus more on gaining your emotional independence. Be a go-getter when your dreams & goals scream your name. Life is fun, let it remain the same.
Meditation doesn’t mean you have to disconnect from world, clean your mind, go silent or so many more such bullshits. It means; “your shit is yours, deal with it comfortably one by one slowly but surely”.
Now my comfortable part is listening to linkin park songs & scream those lyrics wearing a boxer shorts in my bedroom after taking a shower. I find solutions to all problems during that while.
Stop stalking, start talking. When you know someone is your source of real happiness, hold them close to your heart & soul. That’s what a soul tie means!!
You don’t come to a relationship with a armour of ego, deceit, pride, hidden agenda, half baked reality, lie and tons of obsessive codependent bullshit. You reach your love butt naked with smile on your face, hearts on your sleeve & Truth in your head/heart/mouth. If no, you haven’t loved yet. Time for some heart-to-heart conversation with self. Till the time you are not a TRUE you, you can’t get/give that goodness called LOVE..
Some situations are meant to drain you. You can’t put two different tyres in a motorcycle & run it smoothly. The harder you try, the harsh failure you have to face. Pull back, have a heart to heart with yourself. Make sure you are coming from a place of honesty & integrity, then approach the situation or the other side with your TRUTH. Life is easy & fun, don’t clunk it with negative bullshit.
People may hurt, scold, betray, abuse & break your heart. Stay strong, don’t behave like a pussy. Everything happens for a reason. Your other side is earning their karma by misusing you. At the end someone beautiful is coming to clean all & adore you for what you are. Your Truth & goodness will be rewarded at any cost. Stay positive, vibe right.
Apparently my friends were suggesting to go on a banging spree last time when I told them about breaking up with a person who felt flat on standing on her ground to be a human. I just exited that part because that wasn’t serving me. If a relationship isn’t making you happy; you don’t need to break up from that person, you just need to come out from the bullshit they are trying to sell you. The day they will understand their own value, that person will figure out what’s best for them & you figure out what’s best for you.
In the name of break up, don’t go for stupid rebound sex bullshit. Some even end up in friends with benefits situations which attract more complications. That lowers your standard as a human even further. I make sure there is some standard in a person even when it’s a one night stand. That girl wasn’t even worth it. That was my reason for break up.
Life is like a concert. Don’t go ahead & argue/fight with/for somebody towards any reason good or bad, it’s like you are stopping your own fun by wasting time on someone else who is all about negative vibe.
Since the day you are born till today, all your actions are already written by your almighty. Call it destiny or call it your lifepath.
The only thing you can do is; understand your heart/head’s call & put it under logic to understand the truth, just follow it. You know where to move. Don’t prefer to live under regrets. You deserve happiness & love in your life. Smile..
Don’t try to sell the bullshit of being different to the world. You don’t need to be different to be accepted or appreciated.
Sometimes being generic or being usual is also fun. Usual is not bad. Till the time you don’t have a pull towards someone emotionally, you can’t get hurt. Now where to invest your emotions to get the right yield is your headache. Work on yourself.. 💪