Everyone wants to know how i tolerate my bestfriend DEMI since past 700 years of our friendship because her attitude is bit aggressive?
Let me answer & YES, it’s a long answer: We were attending Lory’s birthday party near Cardiff bay. Party was over & some Justin Bieber song started playing. DEMI walked towards me & said; “Rudey, my pussy is drying up because of this shit song. Let’s leave & let’s drive to Tenby. We will talk about everything after reaching the beach.”
We both laughed & i still remember those exact words. And Yes, DEMI still calls me RUDEY because of my rude/angry/grumpy face. We went through a bad fight before 5 months of that birthday party & i stopped talking to Demi. I decided i must allow her some time to think & respond logically instead of continuing that fight. Only few friends know Tenby is my favourite coastal town in Britain & i prefer afternoon swimming when i think about relaxing. DEMI made the right choice with place & timing. We went swimming & she broke the ice while chilling at beach. We had a long open vivid conversation about everything which went loose. We were able to come back stronger. Years gone & our equation keeps getting better with time. No matter how much i deny, she is the sassiest angel i ever came across. Bestfriends for some good reasons, and i can’t appreciate more.
27-Feb is the date we had a bad fight & we both stopped communication for 5 months. We both still talk about the stupid reason behind it & what we missed in those 5 months. We laugh at each other’s silent treatment. We tease each other about why that was just unnecessary.
We humans always take goodness for granted & our ego stops us from accepting our flaws. We miss opportunities. We disrespect good people. Sometimes we hurt others without even knowing. We make blunders easily.
But there are very few who accept & cross that path to acknowledge own mess. Who says it’s easy!! Very few are ready to talk about what’s wrong in them & why they are ready to change for better instead of farting from mouth “THAT’S HOW I AM”. I admire those who strive to be a better human. It’s easy to go vulnerable towards such people who come with clean intentions. Every equation can be easy, soothing, happening & loving. JUST CHOOSE THOSE WHO CHOOSE YOU.
I’ve seen bad texters respond quickly and write paragraphs.
I’ve seen people who “aren’t ready for a relationship” get ready in few conversations.
I’ve seen a girl proposing me in front of 24 friends to marry her ASAP on my birthday, who used to say “I DON’T NEED A MAN TO BE HAPPY” since 7 years. (Hello Lioness😜).
A healthy adult relationship is one where both people in the relationship give and both receive. There is a safe, equal and open exchange of ideas, communication, feelings, and thoughts and all perspectives are considered and valued. There is also the freedom to respectfully challenge, heal, confront, and strengthen one another.
At the end what matters is a TRUTHFUL CONSISTENT person who gets you, no matter what’s coming. If someone wants you, you won’t have to ask for effort.
Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers, and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from.
And also sometimes it’s the little things. It’s the shoulder/forehead kisses and cooked breakfasts and the “drive safe” texts or a long mail/letter on your birthday/anniversary/celebration milestones. It’s those things that for some reason make you feel more loved than you ever have before. It’s easy to plan elaborate nights out, meetings or small weekend trips, when someone can make you feel so happy just by doing the smallest things. That’s when you know you’ve got something special in someone special. It’s never about finding the right one. A RIGHT PERSON IS RIGHT BECAUSE OF HIS/HER OWN WAYS WITH/WITHOUT YOU.
If your life has tons of problems and some weed/drug is helping you to get away from those problems, then I pity on that cheap life. If you are using those for a good time, then too I feel pity over you because I feel having fun with all senses active makes more sense. Some people must be thinking what’s my opinion on alcohol?! I would rather say ask yourself. My point is; if your brother is getting married or it’s some friend’s birthday, you got a promotion or you proposed your future boo to take your relationship to next level, please have few sip of wine or whiskey to celebrate that moment. Even I am a fan of some good aged red wine & dirty martini if there is an occasion.
What I wanted to share is: people who use any kind of psychedelics or alcohol to get rid of their reality will never understand the beauty of life.
Everybody wants to be unique. But instead of working on it & putting real efforts to be something different, everybody starts pretending being superior compared to others which makes everybody the same piece of nothing.
I love it when a person just tells me “she/he wants nothing but piece of mind, little respect & a sustainable living with the right balance of earning+savings+expenses”. The same I expect from my partner one day; A truthful consistent independent person, that’s all.
(I adore you polish bum. HAPPY BIRTHDAY & you are celebrated in my books, always. Missing all your four cheeks.😈😘)
Thanks to all for the warm wishes & amazing gifts. I wish to meet everyone personally & kiss your cheeks or slap your left ass-cheek soon soon. I will not say “THE BEST BIRTHDAY EVER“. In case you are connected to me in Snapchat, you already saw how sassy it was!! If no, I can assure it was pretty bland in terms of celebration. But I scored few new friends & some old assholes showed up abruptly, something is always good over nothing. I never participated in karaoke, thanks to Farnk I discovered again that “my voice still sounds like a horny lion”.😜
Enjoying new city vibe. Not loving it yet, few old chaps are a help to feed my mood. In love with something new; I mean new lifestyle, new schedule, new people, new diet changes & stupid weather.
Being a LEO, Yes I enjoy all the attention & Love that I don’t deserve. Sometimes they boost confidence, make you feel special, grasp you into a tiny bubble of HAPPINESS & then make you realize that “Some Happiness is scored in arms, not in bed or couch”.
Thanks to everyone who wished me. & Again another huge THANK YOU note will be there who know my real birthday. I adore both, because of gifts & celebrations. I am happy enough to throw party twice & get the best of both worlds in the naughtiest possible way.