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As you mature, the more you realize these 12 things:

1: No one has it all together.
2: Trusting your gut the first time is usually the best option.
3: The world is more gray than black and white.
4: You can’t control other people.
5: Holding grudges is not the best use of your time.
6: Being honest could save you a lot of time.
7: Childhood, although short, was very impactful.
8: Life is too short to stay in unhealthy relationships.
9: People tell you exactly who they are and it’s your job to listen.
10: Winning an argument is not as important as finding a solution.
11: Having a support system improves your mood and quality of life.
12: Everything and everyone is not worth your energy.

(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I have heard enough of LOVE ABOVE MONEY or similar bullshits very often. Most people prefer not talking about MONEY as if it’s a taboo. On the other hand, i love it when someone says “I LOVE MONEY & I LOVE MAKING MONEY. ALL MY DEMANDS ARE FROM MYSELF”. First learn about it, then implement it. Investment is a sexy thing.)

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TEN WAYS TO SHOW LOVE:

1. Give without expecting in return.
2. Trust without wavering.
3. Forgive without punishing.
4. Listen without interrupting.
5. Enjoy without complaint.
6. Answer without arguing.
7. Keep your promises.
8. Speak without accusing.
9. Be patient in all things.
10. Learn to let it go.

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4 Signs you’re MANIPULATIVE without realizing it:

1. Jealousy drives you to do risky things.

You resort to passive-aggressive tactics.
For example, you notice some friends who are not with you.

• You are offended and invite another friend to go out with you.
• You take a ton of pictures and post them on social media for all to see.
• When you feel like you’re losing control of a situation, you create another one that you can control.

Consider picking up a new hobby.
Accept that not everything other people do is related to you.

2. You’re kind of a know-it-all.

• You have the feeling that people should listen to you since you’re the one who knows the most.
• People around you may feel as though they are suffocating due to your actions.
• You may have a persistent desire to put yourself first, which may cause others to perceive you as selfish.

3. You pour attention on someone, then withdraw it if they do something wrong.

• You avoid people after an argument to prove a point.
• The point is that you don’t need them, and if they want to make up, they should go to you first.
• You feel the need to be in control.
• It’s important to remember that no one is perfect, including you.

4. You are adamant about getting your way.

• You are being persuasive.
• In some cases, you may have to go to great lengths to obtain your desired outcome.
• Assume you want candy for everyone, but others wish to have chocolate. So, what do you do? You get rid of all the chocolate, so they don’t have a choice.
• If you ever catch yourself doing these things, stop, take a deep breath, and take a step back.

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Find someone who loves you well.
Someone who never belittles you even in the heat of an argument.
Someone who is gentle with you, but does not treat you like you are fragile.
Someone who knows what you are capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you.
Not someone who is intimidated by your strength.
Someone who doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed.
It is not love’s job to punish you.
And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short.
No one is perfect do not hold them to this standard.

Find someone who is patient, consistent, forgiving, and apologetic.
Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often.
Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic.
Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket.
Common courtesy is important.
Compassion is important.
Kindness is important.

Now that i mentioned something about relationships twice in a day, my university friends will again start questioning whether i am seeing someone! Let me answer even before that question pops up. Most of my posts are scheduled a month advance. Typing these two paragraphs today right before the post goes live.

I entertained something inconsistent for a while. Whatever happened, I am not strong enough to blame or hate anyone. Let’s say, that was my fault. I am in the process of becoming single. In Snapchat, if you see my hands resting on some girl’s fine 🍑, high chances it’s either my bestie DEMI or my neighbour girl. Yes, i have a ting towards athletic girls.♌ But I don’t have a TYPE whom i want to date. First i have to be ready, next the connection must vibe positivity & remain consistent, that’s all. The most beautiful part about a girl where my heart goes little weak; when i feel she is grabbing my arms little stronger looking into my eyes with a wide big bright smile, while crossing baby/kid’s clothing section in shopping malls. Everyone knows i adore kids, they are angelic to me. 2023 goal is to become the best A+ dad world has ever seen, and i will settle to be a good B+ boyfriend/husband i guess.😂

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Everything you do is based on the choices you make.
It’s not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument or your age that is to blame.
You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make, period.

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You will never win an argument with a narcissist. People with narcissistic tendencies are unable or utterly uninterested in resolving a conflict at hand. They simply cannot have a healthy mature conversation. If you’ve ever found yourself arguing with a narcissist, you know that you are always left wondering why you even engage with them in the first place!!

The trouble is when you have a narcissist in life, even a small request for comment can turn into a full-blown argument that goes around and around in circles. And the worst part is that, you feel guilty by the end of it even if nothing is your fault. Well here it’s not you, it’s them. Narcissists are highly skilled in manipulation techniques that are meant to confuse and disorient you. You’re not communicating with a logical mind and that’s why you always feel insane after disagreements. So do what you can to avoid getting into these arguments in the first place, that’s the only way to win.

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In a relationship if someone is not moving up with time; just move forward with your life towards your goals & success, with or without them. You need a better you tomorrow. If deserving & you both are meant to be together, the other person will step up to catch up.

6 Signs you aren’t in LOVE!!

Love means, we constantly improve communication & consistency, practice patience. It also means just leave when things aren’t equal anymore.

6 signs you aren’t in LOVE:

1. You moved things fast with your partner.
Infatuations thrive on speed, while LOVE takes time to develop. Infatuations live in illusion. Love can survive reality. When you quickly jump into a relationship with someone, you base it off your dreams more than whose really in front of you. Common examples are; thinking about a future with them, lusting after some legit emotions or obsessing about them for anything in your head. All of these are done after months and years of knowing them, that you just slipped/skipped.

2. You expect them to be flawless.
And you get angry or upset over them when you see their true colours. Do you believe in soulmates or fate? It sounds good in theory. But we all know infatuations also need perfection to survive. We need our partners to be consistently well dressed, good with their words or impressive with their accomplishments, meantime you are not giving them space to be honest. Love on the other hand is grounded. When you love someone, you accept their imperfections, you work through the bad and enjoy the good together.

3. You are not comfortable enough around them. Who hasn’t felt self-conscious about saying the wrong thing or making bad decisions/impressions? But when you truly fall in love with someone, that’s when you can let loose and stop caring so much. Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging are more open to vulnerability. Whereas those who feel disconnected with their partners consistently build their walls up. When you don’t share your emotions and struggles nor secrets with someone, you haven’t fully loved.

4. You become more distant.
It’s normal for passion to intensify initially only to taper off, which isn’t gonna help you into a steady relationship. But two people in love will still want to be around each other frequently. That’s another reason people in love plan a life together equally over indulging in rest activities. If you find yourself wanting to get away from your partner more and more these days, often because you’d rather go hang out with your friends or family or cat/dog, then something’s up.

5. Your mind is elsewhere.
With mind soon your heart also follows the same route. Partners who are in love tend to maintain a focus on their counterparts. When you notice the little things about them or express concerns when the two of you run into conflict, it shows you care for them. If you avoid those tough conversations or slip away from arguments, you also stop emphasizing their importance in your life.

6. You developed anxiety.
Have you been experiencing digestive problems or have trouble sleeping/over sleeping? Anxiety can show in this bodily disfunction. You might have something you need to get off your chest and dread how to break the news off to your partner. Remember you can only run away from the truth for so long before it catches upto you.

Forcing LOVE when it’s absent will only hurt the two of you. Both of you deserve to find love elsewhere if it can’t be found in your relationship.
Where do you think you stand on your feelings? Dig deeper, learn yourself with little Truth and self evaluation.