1. Be silent if you don’t know the full story. 2. Be silent in the heat of anger. 3. Be silent if your words can offend a person. 4. Be silent if your words can destroy a friendship. 5. Be silent if you can’t talk without yelling. 6. Be silent if your silence can save bonds.
You need to let your anger out. Not by punching people or using bad language. Use your anger to get your dreams to come true. Use your anger to fuel your goals. Don’t hold back because then one day you’re going to explode, burst.
So run five miles. Write a story. Ride your bike as hard as you can. Go on a long drive. Dance till the next day. Be free. Feel free.
Observe yourself when you feel fear or anger. Focus on the feeling, not on what caused it. Not the stimulus, the stimulation. Most strong reactions we feel are reactions to the past, not the present(if it’s hysterical, it’s historical).
We will be more effective when we move beyond unconscious programming and respond from a place of peace. Deal with information, not inflammation. (Not my words.)
1. When you are alone, mind your thoughts. 2. When you are with friends, mind your tongue. 3. When you are angry, mind your temper. 4. When you are with a group, mind your behavior. 5. When you are in trouble, mind your emotions. 6. When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. The small things in life don’t need to be worried and stressed about so much. The alarm can be fixed. The tire can be replaced. The coffee can be refilled. The parking ticket can be paid. The keys can be found. The to-dos can get to-done. You can get sleep. You can get some food. Maybe an ice cream to satisfy.
Your life is great. You just have to allow it to be. People don’t make you angry, you allow the anger to dwell within you. Circumstances don’t upset you, you allow yourself to get upset. You choose to worry, you choose to criticize, you choose to blame, and you choose to complain. No one else decides this for you. Again, your ATTITUDE is what determines your day.
Observe yourself when you feel fear or anger. Focus on the feeling. Don’t focus on what’s caused it. Not the stimulus, the stimulation. Most strong reactions we feel are reactions to the past, not the present. (If it’s hysterical it’s historical).
We will be more effective when we move beyond unconscious programming and respond from a place of peace. We will be at PEACE sooner when we deal with information not inflammation.
You need to let your anger out. Not by punching people or using bad language. Use your anger to get your dreams to come true. Don’t hold back because then one day you’re going to explode, burst. So run five miles. Write a song. Ride your bike as hard as you can. Dance as you won’t have legs the next day. Be free. Feel free. Be you.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Big fan of late night shows. John Oliver talks a lot of sense. Watch this video for fun & little bit knowledge about our world where AI is progressing faster than we thought.)
It’s not healthy to keep ANGER inside for too long. If you’re too upset to speak calmly, you can write a note and put it where the other person will see it.
Here are 3 sentences that may help. First: “My dear, I am suffering, I am angry, and I want you to know it.” The second is: “I am doing my best.” This means you are practicing mindful breathing and walking, and you are refraining from doing or saying anything out of anger. The third is: “Please help me.”
Memorize those 3 sentences on top. Or write them on a small piece of paper, the size of a credit card, and put it in your wallet. Then when you’re angry, you can take it out, and will know exactly what to do. (Not my words.)
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. The small things in life don’t need to be worried and stressed about so much. The alarm can be fixed. The tire can be replaced. The coffee can be refilled. The parking ticket can be paid. The keys can be found. The to-dos can get to-done. You can get sleep. You can get some food. Maybe a Snickers to satisfy.
Your life is great. You just have to allow it to be. People don’t make you angry, you allow the anger to dwell within you. Circumstances don’t upset you, you allow yourself to get upset. You choose to worry, you choose to criticize, you choose to blame, and you choose to complain. No one else decides this for you.
Anger is such a powerful emotion, so much so that when we really experience it, it has the tendency to cloud our judgment and our ability to reason. We have to accept our feelings but also know that when we don’t regulate our anger it has the ability to destroy our common sense.
Don’t let your anger get the best of you. Think rationally and be careful of how your emotions affect others. When anger rises, your conscience falls, so be aware of your self-righteousness and try to see it from all points of view.
Your anger? It’s telling you where you feel powerless. Your anxiety? It’s telling you that something in your life is off balance. Your fear? It’s telling you what you care about. Your apathy? It’s telling you where you’re overextended and burnt out.
Your feelings aren’t random, they are messengers. And if you want to get anywhere, you need to be able to let them speak to you, and tell you what you really need.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Adults seeking advice from elementary school kids on how to cope up with life, literally the world is losing it’s sense of balance. Thinking of kids, this is more than cute in my eyes. I asked my friend Frank’s 20 month old nephew what he wants to eat when we were in supermarket. He replied; “EVERYTHING IN THAT” while pointing his finger to the ice cream freezer. Why can’t adults be this simple as kids!! LIFE IS FUN, LET IT BE.)
Anger and resentment are two of the most toxic emotions we can feel. There are always times when people infuriate us or hurt our feelings but we don’t confront it. Instead we just let these negative feelings grow wild within us. Before we know it, they have taken over us like vines crawling over every cell and organ in our body. We should never let someone else’s problems bring us down in the first place.
(This video has something to do with the post. Amidst war, we are going through something bigger. Watch it with an open mind. Big fan of Trevor Noah & Sadhguru.)
When someone does something that upsets you, don’t hold a grudge; confront them and then do your best to put it behind you.
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger. -BUDDHA.
I used to run and hide from my feelings especially when I felt something that was upsetting, painful, or uncomfortable. But over time I’ve learned to accept all of my feelings. I know that in order for me to work through them, I must first honor and embrace all emotions. They are a part of me. Therefore they are meaningful and valid.
Pick a feeling that you’re afraid or ashamed of. Feeling fear, anger, or sadness is okay as long as you don’t let it define you. Embrace your emotions and remind yourself how valuable they are. Don’t invalidate your feelings. Honor them.
A high school teacher once said; “Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”. I took those words bit too seriously i guess. Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes: Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway: Whatever struggle you are facing in your life, make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love. When you are filled with anger or hate, the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care. Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
The small things in life don’t need to be worried and stressed about so much. The alarm can be fixed. The tire can be replaced. The coffee can be refilled. The parking ticket can be paid. The keys can be found. The to-dos can get to-done. You can get a good sleep. You can get some food, maybe a snickers or an ice cream to satisfy.
People don’t make you angry – you allow the anger to dwell within you. Circumstances don’t upset you – you allow yourself to get upset. You choose to worry, you choose to criticize, you choose to blame, and you choose to complain. No one else decides this for you. Your life is great. You just have to allow it to be.
Bottling up your feelings is never a good idea. While you should always respond rather than react in any given situation, you still need to take the time to process difficult emotions, like anger or sadness. Bottling up your emotions might feel easy now, but it damages your mental health and overall well-being in the long run.
If you notice that something continues to bother you, don’t let it slide, speak up. Holding grudges will always hurt you the most and as the tension and turmoil increases, so does the pressure. Eventually those bottled up emotions explode creating conflict that would have been easier to handle in small doses.
Anger is the worst kind of self-induced negative energy. Learn to remain silent & calm down your nerves with time. Be thoughtful when you are silent and be silent when you are angry. Only positive thought & positive action will yield positive outcome.
Only two times I behave totally impossible; when my doctor uses local anesthesia on me for medical reasons or when someone is messing up with my girls during night outs/trips outside my city for a good time.
It’s not my habit to break pinky fingers. My anger is always in my control till my other sweetheart’s smile is intact. The moment that smile is broken, some bones are also meant to be broken. I am a typical rusty boy, pure impatient & total asshole.
I am motivated, not because of some stupid goals. I have fears, those fears are my competition now. There is a anger in me to crush them. Achievements are not big for me, but the lessons I learnt are priceless.
I never take decisions at one go. If it involves someone else, I always wait till other person comes out of funk & gets my point. Too much of anger/sadness or happiness, all are barriers in decision making process.
In a relationship if someone is not moving up with time; just move forward with your life towards your goals & success, with or without them. You need a better you tomorrow. If deserving & you both are meant to be together, the other person will step up to catch up.
People may hurt, scold, betray, abuse & break your heart. Stay strong, don’t behave like a pussy. Everything happens for a reason. Your other side is earning their karma by misusing you. At the end someone beautiful is coming to clean all & adore you for what you are. Your Truth & goodness will be rewarded at any cost. Stay positive, vibe right.