When people act shady, allow them. When people betray your trust, allow them. But never, ever sink to their level. Their choices are a direct reflection of who they are, not who you are. No matter how angry, hurt, or disappointed you may be, do not allow them to make you bitter. Be better. React with love. Sometimes that means retaliating with understanding and compassion; other times it means retaliating with acceptance and sheer silence. Whatever it is, make sure it benefits you as a human being instead of lowering you into a position which you would rather not be in.
Normal people dont go around destroying other human beings. Only those who are hurt, lost, and confused cause pain. Don’t be one of them. Just take the lessons and move on gracefully.
Don’t allow your life to just be fine. Or just okay. Or even just good.
Make it brilliant, consistent, spectacular, wild, extraordinary. Fill with excitement and adventure, be passionate and fearless, search for freedom and opportunity. You only get one life, so make it count. Make it mean something amazing. Make it yours.
This is your life. You’re allowed to change your mind. To change your heart. You’re allowed to be a different person. To wake up one day and not want to do the things you’ve been doing all your life. You’re allowed to love who you want. To move on from the people who are not good to you. To let go of anyone without any kind of explanation. Without any kind of regret. You’re allowed to make mistakes. To learn from them. Or not to learn from them and experience everything all over again. You’re allowed to forget your past if you want to. Or to stay in it but you must also understand that this is not how you will grow. You’re allowed to change careers. To dress differently. To chase different dreams. To change locations, even if, at first, you’re terrified to do so. You’re allowed to dislike yourself but also allowed to change those same parts you don’t see eye to eye with. To work on them until you’re completely comfortable with who you are.
This is your life. Make it count. Make your own validation. Your own path. Your own way of life. You are enough. And you are not broken. You’re a lot stronger than you want to believe. NOW BREATHE.
If you’re feeling frightened about what comes next, don’t be. Embrace the uncertainty. Allow it to lead you places. Be brave as it challenges you to exercise both your heart and your mind as you create your own path toward happiness; don’t waste time with regret. Spin wildly into your next action. Enjoy the present, each moment, as it comes, because you’ll never get another one quite like it. And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart, where your hope lives. You’ll find your way again.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Lee Evans never fails to crack you up. And this one on Cardiff, watch it coz it’s hilarious. Let’s say 2 minutes hilarious & 2 minutes unreal.)
Don’t settle for allowing your life to simply be okay or fine or even just good. Make it extraordinary. Make it thrilling. Make it spectacular. Fill it with excitement and passion, adventures and opportunities. You only get one beautiful life, make it magical and above all else, make it yours.
Few ways you can express how you feel towards someone;
1. I love you. 2. I need you. 3. I want you. 4. I want to be with you. 5. I don’t want to be without you. 6. I can’t live without you. 7. I miss you.
NEED, needs can be met somewhere else & being needy means being weak as well. LOVE, this word is highly misused by people & especially someone like me needs a year to trust after a year of healing. WANT is my favourite & number-3 is my pick out of all these 7. WANT is that animalistic desire inside. Which means i know i have few suitors/options, but who cares because it’s you and just you that i WANT for myself. In case you love someone, remind them constantly & consistently that YOU WANT THEM.
Last time someone said “I WANT YOU” to me was on my birthday. I haven’t replied that till now. Never rushed towards anyone. Never allowed anyone to rush towards me either. The simple reason is; “If someone is investing their time & energy on me, that person deserves a whole TAP”. I am that kind of a person who hides nothing. My only secrets are my bank account/credit card pin or my email/social media account passwords. And right now, i am still in that phase of healing i mentioned above.
Whenever i say “LIONESS” in my posts, it’s my appreciation to that person who understands where i am coming from & why. Appreciated for picking/dropping me at airport. Appreciated for taking me out to my favourite brunch. Appreciated for buying me a pair of white vans kicks after watching squid games. Appreciated for helping me with carwash. Appreciated for typing my thesis. Very few people come with a clean heart & no stupid outlandish expectations. So LIONESS, Like your favourite alphabet is T, my favourite word is “APPRECIATION”. Rest all are a LEO-LEO thing i guess.😜 Every relationship of your life is a major investment of time & energy. Take your sweet time, that says all about who’s who.
The only constant in life is “CHANGE”. Everything around you including your schedule, surrounding, people, people’s behaviour, your relationships/career/bank balance, your perspective towards seeing life, everything will change with time. You aren’t allowed to give up. Adapt & Advance towards a better tomorrow.
Don’t be afraid. Don’t forget what you are. I used to look upto you when things go up or down. You ruled my world. You was the only reason behind my happiness for a while. We all have a rough patch in our lives which dragged our self-esteem down to zero. Hiding & escaping isn’t a solution. Face it like what you used to be. How can you just give up? Lessons are learnt. Digest it, try to see life for what it is. Don’t be surprised when things get better. Any negativity can’t push you down for long. Open your eyes and allow yourself to see a better you. Experience some good days being a legit self. That 07-Feb is the best day of my life, actually 08-Feb for you. Vibe right. You are my sunshine, doesn’t matter where/what you are.
Indecisiveness causes insecurities. Insecurities cause self-doubt. You start expecting the worst, allowing yourself to take every wrong step & sabotage own growth in life.
Find a motive to live. Set a goal. Take decisions: stay stuck to it. If you can’t find reasons behind your actions/words/moves, don’t do it because they are bullshit. Be True to yourself first, everyone will acknowledge with time. Investment in self growth gratifies self-respect and self-esteem. Be a TRUE you.