If you feel like others aren’t treating you with respect, check your price tag. Maybe you subconsciously marked yourself down. Because it’s YOU who tells others what you’re worth by showing them what you’re willing to accept for your time and attention. Get off the clearance rack!
I saw a post today that said, “When you finally learn your place in peoples lives, your feelings won’t get hurt. And loyalty doesn’t mean accepting unlimited amounts of inconsistency & pain from others”.
Whether it’s friends, family or whoever. I swear that’s the truth and one of the most important life lessons you’ll learn.
If you’re feeling down, ask yourself “what’s wrong with this moment?” Chances are that you’re upset about something that happened in the past or you’re anticipating something that might happen in the future. But is there anything wrong with this exact moment? Probably not. So stop worrying. And if there is something wrong with this exact moment, there’s only 3 things you can do to fix it: REMOVE yourself from the situation, CHANGE something, or ACCEPT it.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I own a health supplement business in Bangalore, i know how making it big in India at current market scenario is way more easier & exciting compared to UK or USA. It’s an developing economy & emerging markets are always choice of investors. Yes INEQUALITY is an issue, but there’s way more beyond to that side of the story.)
DON’T COMPARE YOUR actual self to a hypothetical self. Don’t drown in a sea of ‘what if’s. Don’t clutter your mind by imagining other versions of you, in parallel universes, where you made different decisions. The internet age encourages choice and comparison, but don’t do this to yourself. Theodore Roosevelt said; “Comparison is the thief of joy”.
You are you. The past is the past. The only way to make a better life is from inside the present. To focus on regret does nothing but turn that very present into another thing you will wish you did differently.
Accept your own reality. Be human enough to make mistakes. Be human enough not to dread the future. Be human enough to be, well, enough. Accepting where you are in life makes it so much easier to be happy for other people without feeling terrible about yourself. BE YOU.
To work on yourself is the best thing you can do. Accept that you are not perfect, but you are enough. And then start working on everything that destroys you. Your insecurities, your ego, your dark thoughts. You will see, in the end you’re going to make peace with yourself. And that’s the greatest thing in the world.
You might not love all aspects of yourself right now but you can learn to accept it. Accept your flaws. Accept the positives and negative aspects of your story. Accept the parts of you that are deemed unacceptable by society. Self acceptance is the starting point to attain self love.
It’s the little things in life. It’s the people who don’t just text you, but take the time out of their day to put you in their schedule; no matter how busy they are. It’s the friends that are authentic and don’t fake what they feel. The people who are straight with you and accept you for who you are; down to the raw scars and burns. It’s the pure feeling of happiness while driving your AMG when you’re listening to music with people you love and there is absolutely no where else in the entire world you would rather be. It’s the feeling like we’ll live forever, like we’re young forever. It’s the love that soothes our heart which makes life feel happy to die for. It’s the love that breaks our hearts but knowing the feeling of pain and feeling the pain, but getting through the pain; only to be grateful for the feel of life, the feel of living.
Moments and little things, acts that make every breathe so incredibly amazing. That’s what I live for; these moments that make us feel infinite. Life is fun. Let it be.
You have to chase the things that ignite you. You have to do the things that bring you joy. You have to surround yourself with the people who bring you back home to yourself, with the people who respect you and embrace you in ways that make you feel like you are worthy and accepted and celebrated and loved. You have do the work to heal yourself, even when it hurts especially when it hurts, so that you do not continue to approach your life within the boundary of what is heavy within you. You have to put yourself out there, and you cannot worry about what other people think, you cannot rob yourself of experience or happiness or inspiration because you are scared of how you will be perceived. You have to be unapologetic in the way that you exist here. You have to believe that your ideas, and your hope, and your being, deserve to take up space. You have to believe that you have purpose.
Because our existence is finite. And as hard as that is to understand, as hard as that can be to connect with, from time to time remind yourself that in the most human way we are all living on borrowed time. We live as if we are promised the experiences and the potential we are chasing, we live as if we have control over what happens to us. But we don’t, and that is liberating, because it is pressing there is urgency within the lesson. It is meant to wake you up. Life is meant to be lived. (Not my words).
Mama once said; “We don’t just entertain friends/relationships outta fun, we build them over time, we respect them & we keep them. That’s why never accept or serve discounted garbage”.
I was in my teen days. I was still getting pocket money from parents. I wasn’t able to understand those heavy/right words. I thought my mum was talking about not buying discounted clothes/stuffs or wasting money with friends during weekend trips. Most of my friends know i hate discounted clothes now too. In fact, i don’t have a single piece of clothing from any fast fashion brands.
Coming closer to my 30, now i am understanding that she told me not to hangout with people who have discounted/cheap personality/approach/attitude/mindset, It took me almost 14 years to figure out the real meaning behind those wise words. Being a MAN means progression of understanding, knowledge, acceptance & virtue while developing better habits.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it to understand how your shopping habits are shaping a climate & humanitarian disaster. There’s a reason I never buy clothes from H&M, Zara, TK Maxx or any store/brand with 50% discount board. I buy clothes which cost at least a hundred quid or more, and i wear them for ages. They stay with me because, I know I have spent enough money to buy them. And i fully remember how much I paid, I have a photographic memory. Fun part is, I still have t-shirts, jackets, hoodies & sneakers from my 8th grade & engineering college days which fit perfectly even today. FYI, I am a sneakerhead & my love for watches is something divine.)
If you read my previous post on “Dumb” & commented something that I didn’t approve, it’s because I have two lines to add below it. Saying it here.
There are two kinds of “Dumb people”; one who’s wrong but struggles to accept it, next one who’s wrong and proud of it. The good part is; both are hell lot of fun. Whenever you think a dumb person is talking crap, just enjoy that beautiful conversation coming from another peanut brain. We all need some dose of nonsensical laughter once in a while, such people are always a help when you are going through a horrible day. And I always say this in my posts “Life is fun, let it be”.
I have a secret diary in this app called “ColorNote”. In case I fuck up something or someone abuses my way of life, I write it down. On this date something was definitely making me restless, I think I hurt someone & that person didn’t accept my SORRY.
I usually talk to whoever listening about my days before hitting the bed for 2 minutes, most of the times it’s talking to myself. I never get a peaceful sleep at night if someone is hurt because of me.
TRUTH is like a lifestyle choice. It’s not an option, doesn’t matter you see anything good or bad in you or someone else. Speak & accept it. Embrace it whole heartedly, your whole body-mind-soul will start working towards a better tomorrow without enough efforts.
There is a saying: GOOD-BETTER-BEST is like PAST-PRESENT-FUTURE. I don’t know how people will accept it. I will always suggest one thing “work & always have high expectations from yourself”, tomorrow is always a upgrade of today.
You know who can screw each of my lines easy peasy. Demi, I want to tell you one thing from the bottom of my heart: “sometimes I lose my shit & sometimes I lose my breath, while checking out your ass & attitude.” You are a weirdly ridiculous pain to me & I can’t do anything about that. We always come back to each other where we left. No matter how big of a bitch you are, I adore/appreciate you for being bestie to this asshole named Tap.😘
Don’t try to sell the bullshit of being different to the world. You don’t need to be different to be accepted or appreciated.
Sometimes being generic or being usual is also fun. Usual is not bad. Till the time you don’t have a pull towards someone emotionally, you can’t get hurt. Now where to invest your emotions to get the right yield is your headache. Work on yourself.. 💪
My friends are asking me questions about how I changed this much in past few months!!
Why I suddenly started believing in God, Astrology, Tarot cards, Horoscope & Future predictions?
My answer: Not all is true. I believe in me first. I listen & see everything, take my decision with only logic backing them. But all those things including God, they all matter to me. I apply a tiny thought to it “Take the best, leave the rest”.
COMMUNICATION ➡️ CONNECTION ➡️ RELATIONSHIP ➡️ COMMITMENT ➡️ ENGAGEMENT ➡️ MARRIAGE. (Not Full stop).
OK, recently few of my friends got engaged & got married. Yesterday one got divorced after just one year of marriage. I am saying this to everything who’s planning something like this anywhere close towards taking it to next step.
The first line you saw with arrow emojis pointing one by one. Anytime you feel something is lacking, just take one step back & start from there. LOVE is in you, loving someone is definitely tough/tricky & beautiful. Going towards unknown territories is fun & can be hazardous. Still don’t stop walking. You always have better days coming, stay motivated.
Only COMMUNICATION is the key for everything. When that will fail, nothing else will workout. Not just LOVE but also LIFE. When you enter a relationship, you give the key to your heart & resort of happiness to someone else. No matter how hard you try to avoid or stay busy with something else, they occupy that best biggest space of your mind. That part of mind brings fulfillment, rest will either bring money or temporary happiness with unnecessary traumatic stress.
Stay true to yourself. Express love or gratitude whenever it’s needed, not like a duty but like a PLEASURE which is just meant for you. There is nothing called a perfect relationship. Don’t be a emotional wreck, Emotions can be manipulative, truth will always be true. To begin with all, start from a clean compassionate heart which can lead you to true happiness & a fulfilling togetherness.
1. Always book two one way flights with two different carriers. It will be cheaper over a one round trip ticket. Prefer they are foreign airlines for easy upgrades. The codes Y or B ensures, your economy ticket may a complementary upgrade.
2. Order your In-flight meal in advance looking at the offer during checkout. The same meal will cost you more inside flight. Vegetarian meals will not be a trouble, if you are aware earlier.
3. Remember to register yourself with your airline or star-alliance kind of membership program to gain & redeem air miles/points whenever you fly.
4. Airport lounges: make sure you have the right credit card for a lounge access or buy a priority pass. This tip is applicable only for frequent fliers. Remember this can give access to 750 lounges worldwide.
5. Clear cookies in your browser before booking any tickets. Avoid the cab space in airport. Head to departure zone first, there is always something better cheaper waiting for you.
We people get worried about love & stop living our life. Yes, your heart will break, someone will come to join it each & every time. Don’t worry about that, you are secured by your almighty if you are true. Stay happy & stay sorted. God made you this way to realize your demands, desires & self worth, feel the emotions related to your strength or sorrow.
You need to flush out negativity inside which is resulted due to codependency with someone you love. Cheer up, breathe, put yourself in front of you, evaluate yourself, re-evaluate your situation, commit to yourself towards being a better you.
Love will always find it’s way to Love through love..
Yes I lead a pretty minimalistic life. Don’t go with my watches & sneakers, I go weak with both. My supplement business feeds my needs, I am definitely happy with the outcome. Planning some other aspects to nurture a better future. All steps I take are measured.
You can’t surprise me, I see something good or bad coming in advance. I learnt little bit of astrology & tarot card reading in a week last month. Lost fear, almost nothing seems unknown anymore with important aspects of life. We all are surrounded by positive/negative energies & we all are living under a stimulation. The only thing you can do is, be the best true you & tell the world you deserve to own this life.