“Finding yourself” is not really how it works.
You are not a 10 dollar bill in last winter’s coat pocket.
You are also not lost.
Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other peoples opinions and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are.
“Finding yourself” is actually “Returning to yourself”. It’s an unlearning, an excavation, a remembering of who you were before the world got it’s hands on you. Be you.
(Not my words).